I have been having 5 to 8 beers every night for the past 3 weeks now and really want to stop this BS. Think its because I ex wife and kids moved back into my place she needed help and its killing me a little.
Its great having my kids back in my house but seeing my ex is just not right so at night I don't want to go home so I go to a pub or stay late at work having a couple of drink. I have asked my ex to move you she is killing me slowly but she just tells me where should I go.
So if you have any advice on my stopping drinking that would be great.
That is so stressful to have your ex move back in. Ouch! There are so many layers of pain, anger, sadness... happiness to have the kids around again. An emotional roller coaster, I'm sure.
As for stopping drinking, many of us read books on the subject. I like to go to psychology today.com and read articles about it. What works for one person may not work for everyone. But I do know just for today, stay sober. Take one day, one hour, one minute at a time.
My counselor suggested to me that I can make a hard rule for myself not to drink for one hour after work. For me that is the witching hour right after a hard day, I want to reward myself with alcohol. But I do know that the urge usually fades after an hour.
Good morning all! Last time I posted in December, I was 8 days in again, but I gave up rather quickly around the holidays. However, I'm now at 21 days, which is the longest stretch since my 3 month stint that ended in June. I feel like a switch flipped- as if something changed in me that just said, 'I'm sick of it.' I had a couple thoughts/cravings in the first 2 weeks, but it was easy to dismiss them considering wanting to have another baby. I still think ' Do I really want to make it forever?' but I figure if I hang on long enough, the desire will go away and that thought may become a thing of the past. I'm pleased that I stuck with things despite no rapid weight loss or increase in energy. Hope everyone has a great AF day!
Awesome job! 6:45 am in Vegas another 24 💖 omg I had the worst night of sleep last night,it was awful hope I can get thru work ok
I feel for you. I didn't sleep well at all last night and today I was yawning and so tired. I hope tonight we both sleep better!
Hi Ruby Red . The student( drunk driver ) that killed my cousin is in jail as well....sad, he left a school party drunk and hit my cousin on his motorcycle head on at 2 30 am in the morning.....my cousin Scott was a stage manager for a theatre and was in charge of clean up and putting things away after the event is over...........He had 2 sons and one one on the way when he was killed....A hard working father that loved his wife and children........worked all the time to support his family, only to be killed so tragically
...I think the 17 year old driver was in the 11th grade. Not sure, but I think hes still sitting in prison.........sad. My poor aunt whose son Scott was killed by a drunk driver also had a second son who was t boned in his van by a drunk and killed him too.......she had to bury 2 sons about 8 years apart ..........and the toll its taken of her and the family is indescribable.....I am so thankful that I dont drink..........nothing can make me go back to what Ruby describes, about waking up with a racing heart and feeling horrible,.that is what happened to me when I drank 2 or more glasses of wine...........good luck to all, Ill keep you all in thought...
I'm just rereading your post tonight. It makes me so sad. But it is also important to hear how devastating drunk driving is.
Good morning friends! I did a juice fast for 24 hours. It was fabulous but I was hungry. I told myself "You can do anything for 24 hours." I think the same applies to my alcohol addiction. Like @whitpauly says "another 24". You inspire me Whitpauly.
Because I had a sober weekend I could do a juice fast, eat at a cute breakfast place by 7 a.m. on a Sunday morning, go to coffee without a hangover with my daughter before she heads back to school, read a book, go to the movies and have no anxiety. Good weekend overall.
I decided to peek at my Quit Drinking app and am wishing I would have socked my weekly wine budget away cause I would have saved $3,472.00...I've been AF for 607 days and 18 hours LOL and have saved my liver & other vital organs 2170.5 glasses of vino...Now, that was the conservative guestimate when I set my stats up on this app...so we are looking at an average. Unbelievable to me though...my liver is doing cartwheels at the moment
Lorraine..............My ASGOT, which is my liver enzymes has dropped from a moderate level of 44 down to 24..........awesome, my liver thanks me too.............I was a moderate drinker, not a heavy drinker, but noticed red flags.............waiting to have my 2 - 3 glasses of nightly wine or scheduling things to not interfere with it.............glad its in the past, best wishes to all
I was in the grocery store noticing people buying HUGE amounts of beer and wine, I guess for Super Bowl Parties. We are going to 2 but I'll be bringing sparkling water. I do plan on eating whatever I want though, lol.
Today I have been sober for six months! I'm so proud of myself. This is the longest I've been sober in over twenty years and I can honestly say that I love it. I've rekindled my passion for fitness and healthy eating, I have more energy and sleep better and am completing goals that I've set for myself. It's cool to see this thread pop up today. Congratulations for all those who are living alcohol free for whatever reasons you have. It's a very individual choice. Mine was made because it was either get sober, or end up dead. Life is totally worth living!
@Aporia1983 congrats on your 6 months!
I had the drinking dream last night. It was some kind of Boozy selzer which I didnt realize it had alcohol in it. Then when I found out felt so defeated. Luckily just a dream.
Happy AF weekend to all
I decided to peek at my Quit Drinking app and am wishing I would have socked my weekly wine budget away cause I would have saved $3,472.00...I've been AF for 607 days and 18 hours LOL and have saved my liver & other vital organs 2170.5 glasses of vino...Now, that was the conservative guestimate when I set my stats up on this app...so we are looking at an average. Unbelievable to me though...my liver is doing cartwheels at the moment
Lorraine..............My ASGOT, which is my liver enzymes has dropped from a moderate level of 44 down to 24..........awesome, my liver thanks me too.............I was a moderate drinker, not a heavy drinker, but noticed red flags.............waiting to have my 2 - 3 glasses of nightly wine or scheduling things to not interfere with it.............glad its in the past, best wishes to all
Today I have been sober for six months! I'm so proud of myself. This is the longest I've been sober in over twenty years and I can honestly say that I love it. I've rekindled my passion for fitness and healthy eating, I have more energy and sleep better and am completing goals that I've set for myself. It's cool to see this thread pop up today. Congratulations for all those who are living alcohol free for whatever reasons you have. It's a very individual choice. Mine was made because it was either get sober, or end up dead. Life is totally worth living!
Replies
That is so stressful to have your ex move back in. Ouch! There are so many layers of pain, anger, sadness... happiness to have the kids around again. An emotional roller coaster, I'm sure.
As for stopping drinking, many of us read books on the subject. I like to go to psychology today.com and read articles about it. What works for one person may not work for everyone. But I do know just for today, stay sober. Take one day, one hour, one minute at a time.
My counselor suggested to me that I can make a hard rule for myself not to drink for one hour after work. For me that is the witching hour right after a hard day, I want to reward myself with alcohol. But I do know that the urge usually fades after an hour.
I feel for you. I didn't sleep well at all last night and today I was yawning and so tired. I hope tonight we both sleep better!
I'm just rereading your post tonight. It makes me so sad. But it is also important to hear how devastating drunk driving is.
Because I had a sober weekend I could do a juice fast, eat at a cute breakfast place by 7 a.m. on a Sunday morning, go to coffee without a hangover with my daughter before she heads back to school, read a book, go to the movies and have no anxiety. Good weekend overall.
I decided to peek at my Quit Drinking app and am wishing I would have socked my weekly wine budget away cause I would have saved $3,472.00...I've been AF for 607 days and 18 hours LOL and have saved my liver & other vital organs 2170.5 glasses of vino...Now, that was the conservative guestimate when I set my stats up on this app...so we are looking at an average. Unbelievable to me though...my liver is doing cartwheels at the moment
I had the drinking dream last night. It was some kind of Boozy selzer which I didnt realize it had alcohol in it. Then when I found out felt so defeated. Luckily just a dream.
Happy AF weekend to all
Awesome to see this accomplishment!!
Great going!!
Congratulations!!
Welcome @Aporia1983...you are in a good spot. Happy that you found us!
Hoping everyone who is attending Superbowl functions this weekend have success sticking to your goals.