nuffer wrote: »
Good call @Beka3695 (I crack myself up)
I started social distancing for alcohol before it was cool for the virus. It still works when needed. When I started going out to be social again when I knew there's be alcohol, I always went with an escape plan. A quick walk around outside was usually enough to quell the cravings. If that didn't work, it was time to head home.
Beka3695 wrote: »
I am a non reader. I have only read maybe 4 books to conclusion since graduating college 20+ years ago.
About 2 years ago I bought This Naked Mind. Today I started reading it. This is only because @feelinfoofoo has been reading ☺️ Peer pressure is not always a bad thing.
I’ve only finished chapter one, but it is already giving me new perspective. Hmmm... reading! Who would have thought!
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
Hi All Thank you for all of your support & congrats messages.
I have been absent here for a bit, lots happening! Back to work, but not my usual, I have 4 clients who have me on hold. So I'm in the process of looking for some part-time work and that took most of last week applying with an employment agency and am in the process of hopefully getting a position that I applied for. Here's hoping!
I got caught up reading on the last couple of pages and great to see new faces and lots of encouraging posts...although I was on pins & needles when I was reading @FeelinFooFoo's consideration of just reading on here & not posting...SO glad you decided to continue posting @FeelinFooFoo because your posts have so much value here.
My journey to being AF was a lengthy process over a number of years, & I finally got so sick & tired of being sick & tired of the stinkin' drinkin' that it was my time to stop it...I had lots of vacillation for quite awhile over the years, starts & stops, before I finally stopped, BUT I was not on this thread laying bare my slips & dips back into drinking like others here are. It takes brutal honesty AND alot of courage to admit a slip-up.
I was ready to stop when I found this thread...actually I was on Less Alcohol and followed Jen here. I think it was Jen who said a page ago (others have also said it too) relapse is part of the process. PLEASE for anyone here who caves to the crave for alcohol, it is telling you something...it is part of the learning curve to one day stay AF...so please do NOT beat yourself up...there is a reason why we turn to alcohol or drugs or food or any other substance. It isn't because we are weak-willed, or don't have self-control etc...cause there are some pretty determined, successful, highly-functioning people in this group who exercise self-control in other areas of life. Alcohol is something that has worked to take the edge off our pain or stress/anxiety etc.
Learning another way to take the edge off takes time & learning to cope differently. Please be kind to yourself...beating ourselves up & allowing guilt & shame to overtake us will only fuel the issue we have in the first place and that is to medicate the guilt & shame away.
LONG post, I'm making up for lost time LOL. I really hope that we all just continue to support each other & to come here when we need support from others....that is the secret & the true value of this group!! Just keepin on keepin on!!
mainelylisa wrote: »
@FeelinFooFoo I'm so glad you're part of this community (and Less Alcohol). You're like sunshine. Or the daughter I never had. Can I adopt you?
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