WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2018
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November was not a good month for me weight wise. I ate too many foods that I knew would cause me to gain and I did gain at least 4 more lbs. One thing that did not help was me not weighing every morning as soon as I woke. I did not want to see the results so I didn't weigh. So, I have made myself weigh for the last 3 days and will keep up my old routine again. One thing that has made me upset is the fact that for the last 2 or 3 yrs I have stayed at a steady weight and did not gain any more. During the last 6 months several new pounds have crept up and I hate it.
Heather, reading about all the meals and cleaning that must be done this months made me feel anxious. You are to be admired for being able to handle it with grace and aplomb. I could not do it....No Way!
Barbie, thanks for keeping us all going!
Welcome to all the new people!
Carol in GA
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Barbie - I failed to thank you for starting us off. Thank you for being the glue that holds us together.
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For the past few years in December I make it my goal to do simple acts of Kindness. I received a small wooden trough the kind that baby Jesus is depicted sleeping. Along with the small trough I received some hay. For every act in December I place some hay in the trough. The acts on Kindness can be towards other or towards myself. I have found it most effective when I do both. It is easy to get caught up in this season of being so busy you neglect you.
I still say the biggest gift you can give others is being a model for taking care of yourself.
I missed out on the gratitude calendar because I was busy trying to help DS find a home.
The experience taught me the power of having a home and having a meaningful purpose in the world. For these lessons I am grateful.
Since beginning the home search I see a marked improvement in my DS#1. He is the one who lost everything. His home, job, wife, and health. He humbles me in the respect that despite his troubles he keeps on trying. I went into helping him having a home again as an investment in him. I believe in his ability to find the healing he needs.
Margaret 8 -
im gonna try this
Dat 1 Give someone a hug or a complement10 -
I asked my husband last night what was wrong with us, as while we were watching yet another home improvement show, yet another couple said, "We have to rip all this out, because we need to room to entertain." We don't entertain. Pretty much ever. So, I live vicariously through you. And, while I was not a "take your shoes off when you come in" person when we met, my husband the Alaskan was, so now we do that. Alaskan mud rooms are a thing, where there's a form of entryway where you can take off your boots and coats, etc., and it really does keep the house and rugs much cleaner. Since we don't entertain, we also don't go to other people's houses much either, so I have no idea if lots of other people do that. I watch the home remodeling shows, too, and enjoy watching the process but can't imagine needing all the space for entertaining (having three guests for Thanksgiving was the biggest entertaining we did all year). I also can't imagine having someone else choose the furniture and decorative items in my house. Everything I own has its own special story of how and where we got it and if doesn't have a meaningful story, it probably doesn't stay. We tried a plan for taking our shoes off at the door when we bought a new RV and soon realized that it was a lot of trouble for us and didn't keep the floors clean because the dogs brought in so much stuff on their feet. My feet are always cold, so I wear shoes to keep my feet warm, but Jake takes his shoes off. Before we had dogs, I wore Birkenstocks almost year round, but now with having to walk dogs so often, I don't like having to change my shoes every time I take them out where the grass is usually wet. We don't go to other people's homes very often, but there are some who clearly want shoes removed at the door. I am always cold in their homes with my shoes off. Barbie 2
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Good thread!2
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Pip - you are awesome. (((HUG))))
There, I'm done, lol. Compliment and hug finished for the day!!
Actually this is a great idea!! Thank you for posting it!
Lanette
SW WA State3 -
This goes with the kindness calendar.
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Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD. Gas was down to $1.89 here yesterday. Hubby filled both cars.
Janetr OKC0 -
Thanks, Barbi.. Another month here.
November was a learning experience...logging food works if I do it before I let myself have a bite. I walked a minimum of 10,000 steps daily.
My December goals
continue walking at least 10,000 steps daily
log food before I take a bite
log on this site at least once a week. (I read everyday but rarely post.)
And Pip I like your calendar for December. I printed it and plan to carry through with it as many days as possible.
December is my hardest month emotionally. It's the month of the birthday of my son who died in a motorcycle crash many years ago. I miss him. Sometimes my husband asks me when I'll get over it. I tell him I never will. I have moved on. I had many dark years searching for why but finally quit that nonsense and realized I have to concentrate on remembering the laughs we shared and how much love he shared with all his family and friends.He was only 20 when he died.
Good luck everyone in December.
Betsy in NW WA
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Love the Advent chart Pip! I'm going to have a go at that and also send it to my DDIL.
Did some more boxes today and found a whole lot of coats. I took two nice ones I never wear to the charity shop before I weakened. :laugh: I also found the packaged towelling slippers for guests. We filled another box and a half with books for charity. Slowly, slowly.
This morning I did my roots, so I'm a natural blonde again.
Went out this afternoon to the charity shop and also the small supermarket. Found my favourite AF beer. Hooray! :drinker: I used to have to order it in bulk, but now I can buy it bit by bit. I really love it. I also love the name - Nanny State. :bigsmile:
I am stocking up on the homemade falafels from round the corner - vegan and gluten free. A good standby for lunches with hummus. They freeze well.
I also love a particular make of cottage cheese that they sell in the health food shop. So much more flavour than the usual. I'm addicted. My go to snack is half an avocado and some cottage cheese with some peri peri sauce.
Welcome new people! :flowerforyou: Stick with us and you will be hugely helped. I lost 57 lbs on this thread. I have kept it off and recently lost another couple. My secret is lots of activity. Trying to exist on 1200 calories is miserable. I eat 1800 calories a day and enjoy every bite. Take every opportunity to be active.
Much love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Barbie thank you for holding our hands and moving us along. I have learned so much in the 3 1/2 years since finding our group of wonderful ladies. You are truly an inspiration and lead by example. Thank you.
Pip I love your calendar, I'm going to copy and print it out. Thanks for sharing it with us.
We will have our family get together with Jack's side on December 15, which includes his ex-wife. She is recently separated and divorcing the second husband. She is one of the most unhappy people I've ever known. I have chosen one of my favorite ornaments I made, that I had actually decided to keep for myself, to give to her. She needs some beauty and sparkle in her life. I choose not to let her negativity spread over me.
I haven't actually set monthly goals for the last several months. This month my goal is to not gain any weight this month. I'll be happy to maintain.
Love you my friends
Janetr OKC
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Barbie: Thank you for the new thread!
Heather: In our circle of friends we keep our shoes on unless we’ve been walking in mud or fresh grass clippings. It sounds like you’re having a full house and then some. I hope it turns out to be a pleasure for you.
I have to admit to some envy. We won’t be seeing any of our children or grandchildren due to DH’s health and the distance between here and their homes. :sad:
Reneinitaly7: Welcome to a great group. Counting calories is something I understand and have been able to use effectively. The support in this group has been amazingly positive. I never really understood Weight Watchers system. A work acquaintance used it to lose weight. I don’t know whether she kept it off because I retired several years ago and lost touch with her. :flowerforyou:
Machka: I love your photos. You look great!
Penny: The photos are gorgeous. I especially love the top one. How do you deal with the long dark days? I use Vitamin D3 and daylight temperature light bulbs in every ceiling light and lamp in the house—except Christmas llghts. They are what they are.
Carol in GA: I gained a little in November, too. I need to avoid some of the treats I’ve been allowing myself to eat. Evenings are getting to be a problem. I’ve decided to switch to peppermint tea. No caffeine and keeps me out of the icecream.
Pip: I love your Advent of Kindness. Like Lanette, I also think you are awesome. (((HUG)))
Barbie and Lisa: Enjoy your remodeling shows. I’m sure there will be some ideas that you can use or adapt.
Betsy in NW WA: You did a great job setting your December goals. I recommend adding a goal of logging every day whether you visit with us or not.
We have been doing Christmas shopping and have our daughter’s family all planned out. DD and the kids gifts have been ordered and will be shipped. DSIL wants money to buy new shoes. We’re good with that. DS and DDIL haven’t give us any ideas yet. We shared a wonderful facetime chat with our son and grandson this morning.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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I was right; the four pounds I lost was just a fluke. I found them today, but I was still down half a pound from the day before the fluke, so it's still a win. I've never chosen a word for the year, but I've got one in mind.
Thanks ladies, for the ideas of where to send knit hats. I need to make some more, since I need to whittle down my yarn stash.
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Betsy I know of no one who "gets over" the death of a child. The grief can change, lessen, take another form, be sublimated, or be channeled, but it is never "gotten over". Is your husband the father of your son? If so, does he believe he is "over it"? (((Hugs)))3
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KetoneKaren, your understanding made me teary. Thank you.
No my husband isn't the father of Ron. And I am not the really the biological mother but I'm the only mother he knew from the time he was a toddler. I married his father and was stepmother to a beautiful boy and girl. Anyway the marriage was rocky and my husband was a violent man. I left him and took my two stepchildren and the two children of our marriage. The state took legal custody of his children but placed them with me. The courts ordered any visitation be supervised and that was too inconvenient for my ex-husband so we had virtually no contact as the kids grew up.
Jack, my husband now came into my life after Ronny's death and never knew him. I don't think Jack has ever had a loss like losing a child. He brought three adult children to our marriage 25 years. His relationship with his three is good but not close if that makes sense.
Life is good...just sometimes hard.
Betsy in NW WA5 -
Betsy ... I have never lost a child, but sadly have friends who have. This has always resonated with them ...
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Beth: I also appreciate the Rose Kennedy quotation. Thank you!
Pip: I love the Advent of Kindness.
Barbie: “I also can't imagine having someone else choose the furniture and decorative items in my house. Everything I own has its own special story of how and where we got it and if doesn't have a meaningful story, it probably doesn't stay.” I feel much the same way, although I have several pieces that were handed down from my mom when she passed. She charged me with giving them to my kids, who don’t want them. :ohwell: Thanks for "Be Kind, no Exceptions" I wish everyone practiced it, starting with me.
Janet OKC: We haven’t seen gas prices that low in a very long time. Congratulations on your good luck.
bwcetc: I love the Rose Kennedy quotation. Thanks. :flowerforyou:
DH is grumpy and I am the target. I am NOT a happy camper because of this. I really need to let him know it isn’t okay. He's napping. I hope he wakes up in a better mood. I plan to say something, and hopefully make it constructive.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Great-granddaughters, Mia and Kayla off to Visit Santa. The last is totally to bring a smile to your face this afternoon. Mia (still in diapers herself at 20 mos old), is checking Layla's diaper. I about rolled off my chair laughing. And that my dear friends is what makes my life so very rich and sweet!!!
Janetr OKC
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Ah, Janet, they're charming... I remember when Mia was born!2
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Still around. Happy December to all. Thanks for the thread, Barbie.
Felicia
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Betsy, my mom lost a child, toddler age, before I was born. I was 52 when my mom passed and I don't think she ever "got over" losing her. I think she accepted the fact that Beverley was gone, but get over, no. I do love that quote from Rose Kennedy, I think that pretty much sums it up.
Shoes in the house: we take our shoes off in houses, including our own. Once in awhile we will wear the shoes in far enough to get the bags of groceries into the kitchen, but as soon as that's done, the shoes come off. Our friends are the same way. We don't do a lot of entertaining, nor do we go out to be entertained often, but that's how our circle of friends works and how our families have worked. Except in MIL's house, did not take shoes off there, the dogs were not house trained! (Yuck!, by the way!)
Tracy, for the embroidered tablecloth and the plastic that won't lie flat, have you tried ironing it? Yes, I know you can't iron plastic, but you actually can, use a low heat and put a cloth between the iron and the plastic and it should work just fine. A hairdryer may also work, but I think will take longer.
Katla, sorry to hear hubby is grumpy. Could it be that he is a bit sad at not being able to see kids and grandkids over Christmas? Good luck with being constructive, maybe you could try just giving him a big hug and see if that makes a difference...
Penny and Machka more gorgeous pics of your corners of the world! Beautiful!
Janet, oh my, your great granddaughters are just too precious for words! How thoughtful you are to give Jack's ex a lovely ornament! I hope she appreciates the gesture and makes an effort to be less negative for the holiday!
Well, it took me most of today, reading in spurts between customers, but I have finally caught up! Whew! lol Cannot believe it is December already, will have to get some of my Christmas stuff out tonight, I have an advent calendar that I really want to get up before the month is too far gone! It's a felt one with felt ornaments, so no candy or junk there, but it is a nice touch. We put up our outside lights last week, haven't had them turned on yet, but probably will tonight. Also have the outside tree ornament that involves the chicken wire pretty much finished. Will try to remember to post photos soon. I'm not entirely happy with it, it needs something, just not sure what. Not to mention that putting more stuff on it will be a challenge... Oh well, baby steps, maybe hubby will have an idea! LOL (not likely! )
Barbie, thanks for getting us started once again!
Hugs for those needing them, congrats to those celebrating, and welcome to the newbies!
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Hey ladies - we are finished with Christmas decorations outside! Our house is on the left
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Actually, our neighbor across the street's house looks a LOT like the one on the right. I watched him stand on top the stepladder last week to attach icicles to the roof line. Two months after hip surgery
But he did a great job and we love looking at it - brightens up the block.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Lanette Too funny!
Janetr Ditto what Lisa said.
Beth The Rose Kennedy quote tugs at my heart. There are a few women on this thread who have lost children. Thank you for posting that.
Betsy There are lots of women here with the capacity for empathy. We get it. and we are here for you. (((Hugs)))
Barbie I seem to remember that someone here was knitting caps for newborn babies to wear home from the hospital. Do you have any recollection of that? I know Cheri knits for Project Linus (at least I'm pretty sure she does).
/Penny Those photos...
Karen in Virginia2 -
Well, I did lose a pound in November. December goal is simple: weigh less at the end of the month than what I weigh now.
RV Rita4 -
Back to the tradition, a pic of one of our ornaments a day. Don't know if u can tell but it's a light bulb painted in a black lab face2
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