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Things people say when you lose weight
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springlering62 wrote: »Introduced myself to a neighbor’s new girlfriend at a party Saturday night. She looked me up and down, light dawned, and she blurted out in her finest Southern social accent, “Ooooo-hhhh! You’re the one who used to be so fay-at! Everyone’s told me about yew. We talk about yew alll the tiiiime, honey! Everyone says yew are just like a mere-a-cul!”
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I take most things in stride, but this. No.
Sickening!
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Have you been sick..is what i recently got asked10
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I want to get a t-shirt that says, "Don't ask." LOL. That way it just cuts this situation all out.
I've maintained for a good few years now, so I don't get the questions any more, but I LOVE this.
Did have a bit of a back and forth with a colleague over replacing the filtered water in our office kitchen the other day. When he tried demanding that I leave it for him to do, I replied that I lift more than that on a regular basis. 5'4", in my early 40s and fairly small, yes... but probably more capable of safely lifting that than he is!!13 -
I was outside raking leaves and my neighbor was asking which garbage cans to put out. After a few minutes talking she stopped mid sentence and said, "Wait, are you Kat?" I was shocked! She couldn't believe it was me and said she wanted me to come over and explain what I'd done to lose weight. It was pretty weird!13
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Apparently people have been asking my GF if I have cancer because not only have I lost visually a lot of weight, I’m also blessed to be bald.
Not cancer, just running (a lot)and tracking food.
Currently (November 2019)
January 2019
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My fairly recent ex saw a picture posted by a mutual friend and messaged me "damn, you're looking skinny AF you need to eat a burger or some s***". Which made me absolutely giddy because it must mean I'm looking amazing. He's mean and doesn't like people to feel good about themselves, so I know I'm doing great!43
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My fairly recent ex saw a picture posted by a mutual friend and messaged me "damn, you're looking skinny AF you need to eat a burger or some s***". Which made me absolutely giddy because it must mean I'm looking amazing. He's mean and doesn't like people to feel good about themselves, so I know I'm doing great!
That's a great way to respond to his negative energy!11 -
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RelCanonical wrote: »My fairly recent ex saw a picture posted by a mutual friend and messaged me "damn, you're looking skinny AF you need to eat a burger or some s***". Which made me absolutely giddy because it must mean I'm looking amazing. He's mean and doesn't like people to feel good about themselves, so I know I'm doing great!
That's a great way to respond to his negative energy!
Thanks! I learned a while ago to not feed into negativity when there's absolutely no reason for it.HufflepuffGrl9 wrote: »My fairly recent ex saw a picture posted by a mutual friend and messaged me "damn, you're looking skinny AF you need to eat a burger or some s***". Which made me absolutely giddy because it must mean I'm looking amazing. He's mean and doesn't like people to feel good about themselves, so I know I'm doing great!
Wow! He sounds like a total d-bag. I’m glad you’re not with that POS anymore! 😝😝😝
Yes, he was and still is! Classic case of he secretly hates himself so tries to bring everyone down to his level of misery. Leaving was the best choice I've ever made!25 -
Ok I have been fit and fat off and on my whole life.
When I played sports and hit the gym hard I always heard "don't work out too much, girls with muscles ... don't look right, or aren't sexy, or are too manly, or will make it so no guy will ever date you"...that last one came from my mom of all people. I think muscles are sexy and girls can have muscles too!
Then when I am heavy (generally because I gain crazy weight with kids) and start getting fit again I always here "don't lose that *kitten* (as if that is EASY...not for me), you don't need to lose THAT much (I have before and I can again. I make realistic goals I have been able to attain previously ), you're pretty, you're fine! (no I am not I am obese, I don't like that. More to the point you don't know my very complicated medical history which includes spinal damage which weight severely effects).
Then when I have shared my goals I hear things like "that's just too much' (no its not just getting to a healthy BMI), when I told people how much I lost I would have people argue with me.. "no", "no way", "It couldn't of been that much, you weren't THAT big" (I was actually , but hey, way to put down my achievement, and call me a liar even though you really don't know) or worse "how much DID you weigh, wait what do you weigh now?" SERIOUSLY rude *kitten*?
Ugh. People should use their brains more before they speak. I think that would solve a lot of headaches. People open their mouths and crap just flies out.
Some people I think are just sharing their rudeness. If I seriously think someone is sick, especially with something like cancer, (which I have red a lot on here) I sure wouldn't come have a loud, public, nonchalant conversation about it with them in the middle of work.10 -
that is hilarious when I hit post it changed *kitten* to * kitten*... lmao
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Worst comment in the world came from my own mother: “You’ll never be thin”. Bwahaha! Joke’s on you lady. Down 20 lbs. 20 more to go. It’s taken a while but I’m getting there.41
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mamaLBSdown wrote: »Ok I have been fit and fat off and on my whole life.
When I played sports and hit the gym hard I always heard "don't work out too much, girls with muscles ... don't look right, or aren't sexy, or are too manly, or will make it so no guy will ever date you"...that last one came from my mom of all people. I think muscles are sexy and girls can have muscles too!
Then when I am heavy (generally because I gain crazy weight with kids) and start getting fit again I always here "don't lose that *kitten* (as if that is EASY...not for me), you don't need to lose THAT much (I have before and I can again. I make realistic goals I have been able to attain previously ), you're pretty, you're fine! (no I am not I am obese, I don't like that. More to the point you don't know my very complicated medical history which includes spinal damage which weight severely effects).
Then when I have shared my goals I hear things like "that's just too much' (no its not just getting to a healthy BMI), when I told people how much I lost I would have people argue with me.. "no", "no way", "It couldn't of been that much, you weren't THAT big" (I was actually , but hey, way to put down my achievement, and call me a liar even though you really don't know) or worse "how much DID you weigh, wait what do you weigh now?" SERIOUSLY rude *kitten*?
Ugh. People should use their brains more before they speak. I think that would solve a lot of headaches. People open their mouths and crap just flies out.
Some people I think are just sharing their rudeness. If I seriously think someone is sick, especially with something like cancer, (which I have red a lot on here) I sure wouldn't come have a loud, public, nonchalant conversation about it with them in the middle of work.
There's a female weight lifter who i think is one of the sexiest females ever. I'd love to have her figure. After years of over eating fears though, I don't think I could make myself eat enough to build the muscle.15 -
I was at an event where I saw lots of old friends that span the last 20 years. No one had ever seen me this small. I got a lot of really nice compliments. It was a little awkward trying not to garner too much attention (when I said event, it was a memorial service).
But of course there is always the one sore thumb. I was giving an old friend a hug good bye and mentioned we should have lunch and catch up, her response “yes, and you’ll eat a wedge of lettuce because you think you’re better then me”
Ouch. Oh now I remember why we stopped being close. My choices are not a competition with other people.
Ouch.
I have friends and family like that, too, though. Although there's is typically when they'll ask if I want a cookie or want to get ice cream, and I politely decline or suggest other places.
It sucks. Like, can't you just be happy for me?14 -
I totally got a rise out of my uncle when I told him I wanted to lose 20 more pounds, lol. I said it specifically to get s rise out of him because I’m a little *kitten*. He was like “what do doctors know!” when I said my doctor would be happy with me losing 20 more, as that would put me at a BMI of 21 (I’m at 24 right now).9
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“If you stopped losing now youd be fine.” “You look healthy and normal now.”
You might look too thin if you lose too much more.”
🙄 that last one bothers me.
I know people mean well but they don’t understand that just because I appear fine doesn’t mean I’m a healthy weight or that I’m personally happy where I’m at.14 -
I think there’s so much attention paid to eating disorders now, and, tbh, so few people successful at losing large amounts of weight, that the assumption comes with the success. I get that a lot at social events. People see me eating “normal” food and get all sniffy, or worse, act faux-concerned. Sometimes I want to scream at people, “I’m not bulemic!”13
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My colleague protested when I refused snacks saying I needed to lose 2 more pounds. She shrieked in revolt when I informed her that my doctor says I need to lose 12 pounds because of my height 4'11" and the Asian American BMI chart. I assured her I'll be content at 2 more pounds of loss because it will be my high school weight as an athletic cheerleader 30 years ago.5
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So far I’ve had people say:
“Wow, you’re turning into a stick!”
(That’s fake news btw)
“You’ve REALLY lost weight...are you sick?”
“You better stop losing weight or you won’t have anymore curves!”
“You’re not eating enough, I can tell.”
“You’re counting calories?! Are you hungry all the time?”
“What have you been doing? You’ve lost so much weight!”
Not all of them meant to sound as bad as they came out, but I never know how to respond to these comments. Lol. Any tips?9 -
heatherschnitzler wrote: »So far I’ve had people say:
“Wow, you’re turning into a stick!”
(That’s fake news btw)
“You’ve REALLY lost weight...are you sick?”
“You better stop losing weight or you won’t have anymore curves!”
“You’re not eating enough, I can tell.”
“You’re counting calories?! Are you hungry all the time?”
“What have you been doing? You’ve lost so much weight!”
Not all of them meant to sound as bad as they came out, but I never know how to respond to these comments. Lol. Any tips?
How about...
Smile and say, "I am not sure how to take that... umm, thank you???"
Or "Thank you for the encouragement???"
Or "Hmmm... I think I'll take that as a compliment so thank you???"8 -
Haha, yeah @epangili , something like that 😂 I’m always just like “....K, thanks...?”3
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I've been getting more & more of the standard, "OMG what's your secret, I neeeeeed to know!!!...oh, that's all? I could never do that, I love food too much". I just chuckle at how consistent the reaction always is 😂
What surprises me is how often my coworkers comment on my food. Granted, I'm typically eating extra healthy food during the day - lunch is huge amounts of steamed or raw veggies with a lean protein. But you'd think after months of seeing this, they'd be used to it. Several people per day come & look over my shoulder to see what I'm having, then talk amongst themselves about how healthy, fresh, nutritious, etc. it is. It's a little bit like being a zoo animal. I'm not offended, just surprised that it's still a topic of conversation.15 -
Saw a friend yesterday that I hadn't seen in a year, about 15 pounds ago. She said, "Wow, I didn't even recognize you when you walked in! You look amazing!". Which was really nice because I feel like I look exactly the same as I did 15 pounds ago. Not one other person in my life has said anything about my weight.18
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“If you stopped losing now youd be fine.” “You look healthy and normal now.”
You might look too thin if you lose too much more.”
🙄 that last one bothers me.
I know people mean well but they don’t understand that just because I appear fine doesn’t mean I’m a healthy weight or that I’m personally happy where I’m at.
I got these last time from an older lady at work. It was annoying at the time because I was within five kg of entering the normal weight categories and her comments really derailed me.
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I had a good one yesterday. A work colleague who has known me for almost 7 years was talking about his diet. He said very cautiously, "You lost quite a bit when you started here, didn't you?" and I said "Yeah, I've lost like a LOT even before that." I didn't wanna go into great detail. He said, "You are so consistent...that's amazing. You have really stayed on track."
Made me feel awesome about maintaining in a small range.51 -
From my precious aunt "You looked better the last time I saw you, you should not have lost more weight". She was always the one who would point out my weight gain whenever she saw me ( I only visit my family once every few months so changes are pretty noticeable).20
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"Wow, all you eat is rabbit food" - coworker seeing my lunch
"I can't starve myself like you!" - friend after asking what I've been doing
"Stop! You're looking anorexic!" - coworker13 -
My sister in law who has never complimented me touched my waist saying, "You lost weight... I like it!"
My sister who also rarely compliments said "Your legs are so skinny!" And "Your face thinned out, so small!"11 -
My colleague protested when I refused snacks saying I needed to lose 2 more pounds. She shrieked in revolt when I informed her that my doctor says I need to lose 12 pounds because of my height 4'11" and the Asian American BMI chart. I assured her I'll be content at 2 more pounds of loss because it will be my high school weight as an athletic cheerleader 30 years ago.My colleague protested when I refused snacks saying I needed to lose 2 more pounds. She shrieked in revolt when I informed her that my doctor says I need to lose 12 pounds because of my height 4'11" and the Asian American BMI chart. I assured her I'll be content at 2 more pounds of loss because it will be my high school weight as an athletic cheerleader 30 years ago.
Well done on your weight loss so far
To be honest - if I intend to refuse snacks offered I simply say 'No thankyou'. My need to lose a few more pounds is not their concern and gives them an in to discuss my weightloss, my current weight and the old chestnut 'just a few can't hurt'. In my view a simple 'No Thanks' is much harder for them to counter. 21 -
A backhanded comment on my weight was my sister, who has always been smaller than me, said "I've gained so much weight I'm almost your size now!." She is still gaining and now I'm losing. I've been getting the clothes she's purging because she can't fit in them now. Karma..35
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