WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2019
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NYKaren: Thinking of you and sending light.
Lisa: I got a little shudder up my spine when I read about your grant challenge. Excited and proud of you, but definitely relieved I'm retired from fundraising.
Went over 5k steps yesterday and paying for it today. Also got into some salty and sugary foods out of sheer boredom. Today will have to be a fasting day with lots of rest for the ankles. I've used Reiki on myself, but I'm feeling my energy has tapped out, so going to another practitioner on Friday.
Hope everyone in central U.S. is safe from high waters and nasty storms. Stay well, friends. We can do this.
Rori
trying to SMILE
Colorado Foothills3 -
Jenfra123 & Jessica from TX: Welcome! Stop by often. :flowerforyou:
DBIL & DSIL have been here for a few days and we had fun with them. They’re going back to their daughter’s house in Wilsonville and leaving for home from there in a day or two. I’ve enjoyed their company and look forward to the next time we get to see them.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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We were going to go out to the jazz this evening, but it started to rain even before I set out for my run this pm, so I cancelled the run and spent a happy hour watching 24 hrs in A&E (emergency room) while rowing and biking. 377 bonus calories . DH came back from his walk absolutely soaked, so I was glad I decided not to venture out.
This evening I had no planned food in the house as we were going to go to Fatto a Mano before the music. Quick discussion on what to have instead. I opened an 'emergency' can of Confit de Canard and had it with cannelini beans and frozen leaf spinach. Heaven! A bottle of Syrah got opened as well. Thank goodness I have got 977 calories exercise total under my belt. I have put off weighing myself for a few weeks, so I'm a bit nervous about doing that. Need to grasp the nettle.
DH had an insurance quote for the car today. Every year he questions the quote by phone, has an argument, and gets a reduction,. Today he decided to check quotes from other companies. They were half what he had been paying. So he has cancelled the policy and is taking up the new quote. What total b××××××s. They claim to be brokers who search for the cheapest quote. Sell themselves on their trusted name. Grrrrrrrrrr!
How can these people live with themselves. They are crooks.
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx3 -
Just a quick message to those of you who also know me on Facebook, I'm shutting down both my personal and my professional persona there. No worries, nothing bad has happened, just some messaging today which pushed me toward an edge I've been leaning over and peering into the depths of anyway. Sorry to be vague, and I won't be leaving y'all, but it's genuinely time. I know many of you avoid FB, or use it in very limited fashion, and it's time I took that route. Shutting my websites and blogs down was the first step, and this is the next rational one. More later, just a drive by on way to do something I should have done months ago.
Rori - I've found that this quote from Alice in Wonderland makes me quite happy when working on the grant demands that simply are unfulfillable: "Alice laughed: "There's no use trying," she said; "one can't believe impossible things." "I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was younger, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast."
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR8 -
Lisa~ please dont leave me my friend.... I understand about getting off Facebook though.. I stay as it is a way to connect with my cousins around the country.. and a few out of state friends.1
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the two that I remember from last night are:
"lilo"---an air mattress
"*kitten*-a-hoop"--extremely pleasedHeather, It makes perfect sense that you would have been the one who recommended "The Year of Living Danishly" because you have recommended so many other fabulous books, beginning with "The Happiness Project" several years ago.Lisa, I had good reasons for getting away from Facebook and I'm glad I did it. I hope it brings you the change you seek. 2 -
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Yes! I don't like talking ... I'd much rather write. Thankfully I work in an office where we all put in our ear buds and get to work. We rarely speak to each other. I've gone whole days at work, and only uttered a few sentences or maybe just a few words.
I find it incredibly difficult to "make conversation" with people. When I was in my early 20s, I asked my mother about it. She's also quiet (my whole family is), but I had observed that in social situations, she was able to participate in a conversation. So she gave me some tips ... some questions I could ask to try to keep the conversation going and I've clung to those over the years.
When my husband and I got to know each other, we were living in two different countries, so we emailed each other a lot. That suited me down to the ground. Even now, we email each other to communicate fairly frequently. I'll think of something at work, and fire off an email. Occasionally we'll email each other when we're sitting in the same room! We've been doing that for 15 years now.
So, it was roll-eyes kind of funny when his RTW girl told me that we were going to have to start weaning off the "prompts" -- the calendar of events, the list of emergency numbers, the list of medications, the bus schedules, and the emails letting each other know what's going on.
Aside from the fact that even when my brain is functioning 100%, there's no way I could memorise the bus schedules ... we didn't implement all those things when my husband had his brain injury. That's how we've been communicating for 15 years!
M in Oz8 -
Hi Gals,
Heather – glad for the gold finches we have them here too… they are such a cute little bird.
Lisa – glad you and Corey are above the flooding area
NYKaren - I am so sorry to hear of your work challenges; I worked in that high stress internal politics environment for many years – it is so much additional unneeded stress!
Rori – sending you good thoughts.
Car/house/business insurance – it is a royal pain in the derriere but every 3-4 years I put mine out to all the respected insurance companies and get competitive quotes. It saves me money everytime! But it takes a few hours of work.
It’s been a weird time at the camp job I am working, the winter program is over and all but 2 winter staff leave and go to summer jobs; some will come back in the fall, some will not. It’s both a sad time, and yet a quiet time when cleaning, organizing and planning can get done – summer program will start in 2 weeks. While this is my 3rd year this is the first change over with my current boss, he is amazing. To have the best boss of my life at 60 years old and to have him be 38 years old is not at all what I would have expected. He has included me in the team all year; and that includes this change over time, I’ve been invited to gatherings, my opinion valued and asked for. I love being part of a team. Last year this change over happened and I was not even told; so didn’t get to say goodbye. The previous managers have not considered a 10 hour a week gardener part of the team. And I get that, but all of the staff and kids spend 2-4 hours a week with me, so it is a bit different than most part time staff.
Kim from N. California
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Lisa in AR - the pictures tonight on the national news were horrific. Way worse than what Louisville had last year, and that closed one interstate entrance and exit to/out of town. Prayers for all experiencing severe weather.
Machka - I have cared for several family members post-stroke. Trying to wean from “prompts” is so difficult. My mom is doing OK with me removing some clues, but my mother-in-law by proxy (long story) just can’t manage without constant reminders.
My uncle’s memorial service is this weekend. My cousins arrived from Alabama today. This promises to be and interesting weekend.
Connie in KY3 -
Had to google to find the word that MFP replaced with kitten that was part of the expression that meant extremely pleased. To save anyone else the trouble, it’s that 4 letter word that can mean both rooster and a male body part.
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A friend is facing surgery tomorrow. I’m hoping and praying for successful surgery and a good outcome.
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Machka - I have cared for several family members post-stroke. Trying to wean from “prompts” is so difficult. My mom is doing OK with me removing some clues, but my mother-in-law by proxy (long story) just can’t manage without constant reminders.
Connie in KY
The problem is that I can't manage without the prompts that we use.
List of Emergency Numbers - we've got this on the fridge now and have been told that we should be able to get rid of that soon. Why? I don't want to get rid of that list! I don't want to have to Google a number when I can just look at the list and there it is.
Bus Schedules - evidently we're supposed to stop referring to those soon. So ... how are we to know when the buses will arrive. I can do that with my morning and evening work buses, but the minute I have to take an earlier bus or later bus, or more than one bus for some reason (like Dr appointments), I'm lost. And no sooner do you think you've finally got it, when they change the schedules.
Weekly Calendar of Events - we've been using a weekly calendar of events for 10 years ... since I moved to Australia. For 10 years (9 years pre-accident, 1 year post-accident) we've found that to be a good way to coordinate our schedules and know what's coming up because we're busy people. And now we're super busy with at least one medical appointment each week, often several, plus all the other things going on. But we've been asked to stop using that. I can't keep my schedule in my head and if I can't do it, I wouldn't ask my husband to do it.
Medication List - my husband is on several different medications. The medications and their quantities and times change every so often. Sometimes every two weeks, sometimes every couple months, some gradually increase, some gradually decrease, some have decreased then had to increase again. So I've typed up a list of what he is on and when and how much right now. A typed list like that is easy for me to change when things change. And I'm not only keeping track of his medication, but mine as well. But we're supposed to commit this all to memory.
We're supposed commit all of this to memory.
After I mentioned our ages and some of the things I've mentioned above to her, she dropped the topic ... stopped bothering us about getting rid of the prompts. Thank goodness!
Machka in Oz5 -
Was having a problem with iPad syncing with phone so after switching on and off and checking Bluetooth decided to delete app and reinstall. Now I can't reinstall app on iPad. No problem re. logging but a pain talking to you gals using iPhone. Technology grr should update my iPad but it mostly does what I want. I will be checking in and reading every day but not saying much
Kate UK 5 -
Brain not working yet just realised that I can get to you via website 4
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✔️1. weighed in 59.1 better
X 2. tracked yesterday
✔️3.30 min exercise yest
? 4. five minutes meditation yest
✔️ 5.Spend at least 2h on long term writing project yest
✔️ 6.produce at least 7-finished pages per day average long term yest
X 7. Take care of at least one shorter (1 pagish) writing or administrative task/bill, (union work doesn't count) yest
✔️ 8. At least 15 min cleaning yest
X 9. At least 15 min filing/paperwork yest
X 10.average 1100 calories net yesterday
• Overall Feeling : in-between
• Tracking:not really
• Exercise : little walk yesterday
• 1100 calories net average : I'm sure I went over
• Long term writing 2h yesterday : yes - all day ! arg!
• produce at least 7-finished pages per day average long term writing project yest (from May 25 to June 10, minus Sundays) yesterday : in a way : 14 pages worked on yesterday finished this morning
• Short term writing/admin yesterday :nop
• Bright Spots : got some writing done, weight back down partly
Grateful :
1. very mild SV
2. got some writing done
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Well, Lisa, you called it. While still in my bathrobe, roofer called to let us know crew would arrive "in a minute or two" to finish the job. They arrived while I was in the shower. Another long, loud day of noise and disruption but all the work is done. Crew didn't leave 'til sunset, by then Joe and I were too frazzled to leave for campsite. I'd tried earlier to change reservation or even cancel the second night but nope, within the 48hr window. By then we'd figured out the campground didn't have any electric hookups, dogs weren't allowed on the trails, and were so frustrated with California rules and procedures that we decided to bag it. We'll try driving north tomorrow to see if any space available at Bullards Beach or Humbug mountain and if not, maybe along the Rogue River.
Honestly as I sit here I'm wondering if this won't be our last trip in the camper van. We both get up at night so many times to p, not sure how close the bathrooms are or how my knees are gong to deal with the porta potty.
The work is done, I avoided a re-run of yesterday's wine and even if there's no room at the inn Joe and I have the best conversations while on the road. It'll be good.
Machka Do you need to retain authors' formatting? If not, could you save as text or to paste into Notepad, to convert them to straight text, then past into Word (or open text file from Word) and then use Word to format appropriately? RTW wants your husband to wean off from schedules, lists of rx and emergency #s? The mind boggles. Glad you persuaded her to drop such ridiculous suggestions.
Welcome Jessica from TX. I admire your daily run! Mary from AZ (and Beth?) are proponents of Kettle Bells for quick strength training.
Thanks for the Prime Cut recommendation Barbie!
Rori energy and light right back atcha!
Rebecca OMG that kitten!
Kim so glad your new boss values you as a member of the team.
Connie in KY (hugs)
Off to eat my yoghurt, watch a little BallyKissAngel, take an aspirin and zzzzzz.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
walk one more step 15/31, 60 g protein 25/31, rx/vits 24/31, meditate 1/31, knee exercises 5/31, SWSY 0/9, play with Tumble 14/31, hang up or purge art 0/4 AF 20/31.
Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for May "pause" Thank you Barbie!
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What a day yesterday, had a call at just before 4am, it was mum saying that my dad had had a fall and she needed help to get him back into bed. I woke Paul (my son) and we rushed around to help. Paul managed to pick him up and put him in bed, poor dad had a few scrapes that were bleeding slightly. We called the doctor to check he hadn't done more serious damage to himself. Eventually the doctor arrived and said nothing was broken, thank goodness. We were all in a bit of shock, I stayed with mum and dad for a few hours, had a cuppa, made sure they were both okay and went home. Rested for a few hours then went to the shop and then back to mums, the district nurse had been in the meantime to dress my dads cuts. I went back home and mum called again in panic at 3:30 p.m. saying that somehow my dad had managed to get himself downstairs (how he walked down the stairs I do not know, he can hardly stand!) and she found him sitting at the bottom - Paul and I dashed over again. Paul managed to get his grandad into the chair lift and guide it upstairs where we helped him out and walked him back to bed. Poor dad was exhausted and shaky by the time we got him into bed. I stayed with him a while talking to him, but I was worried about his breathing, but after a while he settled and fell asleep.
A few nights ago a nurse came to stay the night to watch my dad so mum could get some rest because we mentioned that he often wakes in the early hours and goes looking for my mum and wakes her up. I wonder if they will be able to send someone more often now, we'll have to ask the district nurse, I think it was her who arranged the night nurse. At least if someone is with him, they can reassure him he's not alone and tell him mum is asleep in bed.
It's not easy, poor mum isn't in the best health herself and is doing her best, but think I'll have to help/support her more and also see what other help is available for both of them.
Sorry to go on, Thanks for listening.
Still catching up - I'm also a bit of a TV addict, although recently I prefer to watch Netflix.
Love to all
Viv UK10 -
I have problems with one of my thesis correctors.
1 is easygoing quick friendly and communicative.
The other, a friend of my thesis director, is opaque, a bit overbearing, not quick and not communicative. It was a mistake to work with her.
If she were not a friend and colleague of my thesis director I would give her the slip without hesitation.
She says she can't send me anything as she hadn't finished as she had medical issues, but asks me to send her more pages in a rather insistant way. she says there are some issues but doesn't want to tell me what they are.
my thesis director gave me the corrector's number but the corrector refuses to speak on the phone. she wants to do all online. I finally called this morning for first time as there is some confusion, just after an insistant mail from her part. She answered and said she couldn't talk as someone is sleeping next to her.(sounded lame- why answer- she wasn't speaking softly at all) . and said she doesn't like to speak on the phone as it's a waste of time. I found her quite unpleasant and whiny.
she is not expensive and I suppose she is good in her work, but I find her unpleasant and difficult to deal with.
she is retired.
since she is very slow to respond, I told her I was sending part of correction to another, saying not to worry to this one about the financial side of thing that we'll work It out in which ever way she sees fit.
My thesis director said she was going to send me un recommendation to continue an extra year of thesis upon reception of a short document explaining where I am in the thesis. she confirmed reception but hasn't given me the document. Usually she's really quick.
I have had a bad feeling for past months about her. like she was aiming to cause trouble behind my back but be all smily face to face.
it was a big mistake taking her as director. I had another but this other one left the school and region and we had to change or change schools.
she seemed nice enough, but basically she's very schoolish, but not a great thesis director.
she will look paragraph but paragraph but doesn't ever want to discuss the thesis question or thesis plan. F'd up!
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Goals for May
1. Lose at least a kilo (2.2 lbs) at 0.9 today
2. Track all some
3. Average 1100 calories net some days
4. At least 30 min exercise 6 days a week (can by gym, walking, steps or other) most days
5. Five minutes meditation 6 days a week many days
6. Average at least 30 min/day of filing/cleaning most days
7. Make appointment with dentist 1. dentist 2 and acupuncturist not yet
8. Consider doing art or music in evening or in break/downtime instead of going online/tv.
really have not
10. Post things I'm grateful here daily. yes
10.a Spend at least 2h/day on long term writing project average yes
10b.produce at least 2 pages per day average yes
10c. Send 20 pages a week to corrector. almost (74 pages in 4 weeks)
10d. 100 pages by end of month (at present I have 17 pages quite finished plus parts elsewhere to consolidate).still need 26 more pages and there are only today and tomorrow.
11a. Take care of at least one short term (1 pagish) writing or administrative task/bill/day. some
11b. Make a list of short term tasks, etc and prioritise them, and do them. some
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Machka Do you need to retain authors' formatting? If not, could you save as text or to paste into Notepad, to convert them to straight text, then past into Word (or open text file from Word) and then use Word to format appropriately? RTW wants your husband to wean off from schedules, lists of rx and emergency #s? The mind boggles. Glad you persuaded her to drop such ridiculous suggestions.
Yeah, I got the formatting done eventually. It's all supposed to be consistent, but each had approached their sections quite differently so we've got numbers, bullet points and all sorts, but I've made it look like it all belongs.
If we had used labels on cupboards to indicate what is in them, and labels on objects around the house to identify them, and things like that we might want to wean off those as time goes by. But we've never used those kind of prompts because we didn't need to. Or if we had used detailed schedules to prompt him to have a shower, dress, and all sorts of basic "daily living activities", we might want to wean off those. But we've never had to use those either. He's been doing all that for more than a year now ... started doing that on his own in the hospital.
I thought putting our physio appointment next Wednesday and the fact that my assignment is due on Friday, and things like that, on a calendar was "normal" behaviour! But maybe the RTW girl doesn't do that???
Anyway ... speaking of an assignment due on Friday ... I'd better get to work!!
M in Oz
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viv sending hugs and strength, hope things improve for your dad.
NYKAREN2 -
morning ladies~praying hard for all those having issues with family members.. getting old ain't for sissies...
woke up and had my tea ,got a nice breakfast and lunch together , fed the birds and the pup, and will go walk my boys and feed DFIL.. then off to work..3 -
Morning, afternoon, evening all...
Viv - hope you can get the night care your dad needs for your peace of mind, as well... two scares so quickly is rough on everyone.
Allie - sorry for the scare! Not leaving MFP, just Facebook.
Sorry I was vague yesterday, but the announcement was made at all-staff that, to comply with Facebook's terms of service, the dozens of employees who had work-oriented Facebook identities (we used GS as our "middle name" and had a different email address to keep them separate) must drop back to only one persona. Bluntly, Facebook's never enforced it, you simply had to have two different email addresses. But, our communication director was adamant. And then sent out three pages of instructions on how to make sure specific people in your feed saw specific posts. So, rather than try to keep all that straight, I simply deleted the GS persona, and while I was at it, took everyone off my personal feed except my family. I sent messages to a few folks I wanted to stay in contact with, and there weren't that many that I messaged, honestly, which told me a lot. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I've been in that simplification mode for months, from deleting my personal website to all my blogs a few months back (five, I think) and this was just the natural next step. Someday, when I retire, I may start the whole process over again, start a new blog, etc., but it was time to do this. And honestly, I feel I've lost 100 pounds instead of the one physical pound that I lost from yesterday to today. Those communication channels are clearly delineated--MFP for y'all, LinkedIn for professional communication, and Facebook for family pics and news. Clean, simple, and tidy. Ahhhhh...
Do love y'all, and looking forward to seeing you all in the June thread. My goal for May was to be lighter going out than coming in, and with all this shed, I'm 101.8 pounds lighter than I was on May 1!
Only 1.8 is physical, but the mental weight loss is such a joy.
Happy Thursday!
Lisa in AR8 -
I dont feel like I've lost alot until I put my weight in this morning and it showed the graph.. it shows it going down and that's what I like to see.. might be at a slower pace.. but its going down...
DFIL is suprising us and not planning on going anywhere yet lol ,he was on oxygen 24 hrs then just at night and now the past 2 days not having to have it at all...
He is a true miracle... love him dearly...
Only have 2 patients today.. so will have to see what happens with that.. dont want my hours cut anymore..
Right now my job is working... and I can pay the Bill's. I am grateful.2 -
Rori - I was thinking of you yesterday. I swapped out my orthotics into my New Balance walking shoes - with the "toe socks" - everything fits and they feel great. I too hit the snack cupboard several nights ago so yesterday was a fast day. I gathered up sugary and salty snacks and bars and will be dropping them off at the Mission tomorrow. Glad to hear you got plenty of steps but sorry to hear it took a toll on your tootsies.
Beth - are you still getting your CSA boxes? I signed up with a local organic farm, the boxes were to start the end of May - after not hearing anything I contacted the farmer, she said now there might be a delay to the end of June because things were delayed because of weather (understandable) and she didn't want to short produce for her farm stand. Hmm. CSA customers pre-paid so are guaranteed sales, I would think they'd come first. I'm hoping I misunderstood her. I am anxious to meet her and nicely discuss her business model, lol. Anyhow I'm guessing whenever and whatever she comes up with will be too much for me as DH rarely does veggies, so am planning to drop off extras at one of the Senior centers.
Lisa - so happy to hear you are above flood level, what a terrible thing. I hope Dana is safe, seems she wasn't near any waterways.
Facebook is still weaning me, lol. It continues to not want to load, let me open notifications, messages, etc. I "unfollow" and stop notifications of certain groups yet they pop right up. I reckon I'll stay on it just to try to keep tabs on friends and family I don't often talk to but the online time there is now practically zilch and it's fine with me.
NYKaren - sending hugs and hoping everything works out.
Vicki - what a shock about that phone call - I was so glad to hear you are now working "normal" hours.
Have a good day ladies!
Lanette
SW WA State2 -
What a day yesterday, had a call at just before 4am, it was mum saying that my dad had had a fall and she needed help to get him back into bed. I woke Paul (my son) and we rushed around to help. Paul managed to pick him up and put him in bed, poor dad had a few scrapes that were bleeding slightly. We called the doctor to check he hadn't done more serious damage to himself. Eventually the doctor arrived and said nothing was broken, thank goodness. We were all in a bit of shock, I stayed with mum and dad for a few hours, had a cuppa, made sure they were both okay and went home. Rested for a few hours then went to the shop and then back to mums, the district nurse had been in the meantime to dress my dads cuts. I went back home and mum called again in panic at 3:30 p.m. saying that somehow my dad had managed to get himself downstairs (how he walked down the stairs I do not know, he can hardly stand!) and she found him sitting at the bottom - Paul and I dashed over again. Paul managed to get his grandad into the chair lift and guide it upstairs where we helped him out and walked him back to bed. Poor dad was exhausted and shaky by the time we got him into bed. I stayed with him a while talking to him, but I was worried about his breathing, but after a while he settled and fell asleep.
A few nights ago a nurse came to stay the night to watch my dad so mum could get some rest because we mentioned that he often wakes in the early hours and goes looking for my mum and wakes her up. I wonder if they will be able to send someone more often now, we'll have to ask the district nurse, I think it was her who arranged the night nurse. At least if someone is with him, they can reassure him he's not alone and tell him mum is asleep in bed.
It's not easy, poor mum isn't in the best health herself and is doing her best, but think I'll have to help/support her more and also see what other help is available for both of them.
Sorry to go on, Thanks for listening.
Still catching up - I'm also a bit of a TV addict, although recently I prefer to watch Netflix.
Love to all
Viv UK
What do your parents think of the idea of moving into a partially assisted living community?
The one my grandmother was in up till about 6 months before she passed away was a large apartment complex. Each person or couple had their own apartments from studios to 2-bedrooms. The place had a large dining hall for evening meals ... if you wanted. It had a gift shop, hairdresser, small library, and medical facilities including 24-hour nursing staff. You could also arrange to have a home care worker come in to take care of housework, and in my grandmother's case, also to get her up in the morning and settle her at night.
After my parents saw the place, when we all moved my grandmother in, they just about signed up too!!!
If you've got anything like that, it might be time ... sounds like your mother needs a break!
All the best. 1
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