WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2019

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  • coastalgosgal
    coastalgosgal Posts: 2,900 Member
    edited October 2019
    Happy Wednesday to you extraordinary group of ladies!💖
    Sent this message to the Ashland Moms group that I belong to on Facebook. Maybe they can help me out with more suggestions.

    Long Rant!
    So here's the deal (ships name) Moms, I have a great OS sailor, but an awful communicator. My Chief of a husband contacted him last month with a message stating we need to hear from you, have you even gotten the box we sent you, no phone calls since April, this is not how we raised you, kind of message. Of course he gets right back in Messenger stating he's really, really sorry, no excuse for his past behavior. So I sent him a message stating glad he got the box and no reply. He actually hasn't responded to any of my texts since last May. I am thinking that because my son and his father are the same rate there's safeness there. And also because my husband doesn't interject as much emotion into texts its less taxing. I'm Mom so I am a walking, talking, texting emotional interjector!
    This past Sunday night, and Monday was hard. It was a sleepless night, messing with my nails for hours, then silently crying for the rest of the night. I miss him. I am also angry because this is not how I want to feel being a retired person. I just want to know he's fine, and my heart can rest a bit. My other two adult sons are great, and check in with us weekly. I am angry because though he might do a great job as a Sailor, his job as my son is waning. I'm thinking of sending him a padded envelope with cards addressed to home and say MAIL THESE EVERY MONTH. DO your part as my son. Just as you have a job as a Sailor, you also have a job and that's to be my son. Part of that job is checking in. I called last night at 8pm because its noon there, his phone is off. I called him at 1am because it would be 5pm there, his phone is not available at this time. Now, as a retired Chief's wife, I know the dangers of meddling, and making waves, so I would never do anything to embarrass him or get him into trouble. But hells bells I'm frustrated. Thoughts?

    I'll see what comes of it. If anything its nice to release it. Maybe there will be another Mom who's sailor is an OS, and can casually instill the importance of communicating with his Momma.💖👍
    💖Rebecca
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    Rori-
    I feel for you my dear, here in Ct we have something called Connecticut community care for the eldery
    we did an intake with them it was about 2 hrs and went over financials and all.
    and it was a Godsend.. he went to Adult day care 5 days a week, they had rooms with different levels of dementia and had a hot meal daily, shower if needed, and entertainment , I took him the first time, for a couple hours and he loved it, that was transportation included.. had companion 4 hrs a day on ,Saterday and Sunday and meals on wheels(he hated that) and life alert which he hung on his walker.. also Occupational therapy once a week.. it was wonderful.. you could call 211 and see if maybe they have that in your area..
    then Mary contacts me in a panic,because our boss wants us to pay for transportation, hotel and all food while we are in N.Y.C. and he will reimburse us for hotel and transportation... I do not make enough or work enough hours to foot that bill and I told him so, and Mary is harrassing me saying I am going because I promised... Ugh
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,041 Member
    :)
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,303 Member
    The shingles shot I got yesterday made me feel bad. Fever, headache, sleepy, soreness and just plain yucky!

    Read pg . 28.

    Laters Ladies

    RvRita
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    ok, so he will pay for hotel and train tickets but I did the leg work..
    Mary and I are going to visit the Ground Zero Museum,, after conference is over, neither of us has been, and the conference ends at 3 pm
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
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  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,610 Member
    edited October 2019
    Welcome back Cheryl, Cat!
    Dandi “my pillow over his face” LOL! Better indeed!
    Michele “Vince had shooting with the Newcomers” ? Skeet?? Heroin??? Annoying neighbors???
    Irish Terri popcorn, of course! Sounds good, plan to join you this afternoon, with cauliflower pizza and AF beer ;)
    Carol You are not alone! We too enjoy sweet potatoe pie, mince pie and I love fruit cake the kind rich with pecans and red, green and yellow candied fruit. Collins St Bakery in TX is best ;)
    Allie where I used to work, we could have our hotel billed directly to the company, or fill in a travel advance form. They'd give us a check to cover estimated expenses. When we got back, we'd submit receipts with an expense report and either return the unspent balance, or get a small check for whatever overage we had to cover ourselves. Good luck! Just read your update, good for you for standing up for the employees. Well done!

    Surprise, guest not coming 'til the end of the month so no vacuuming today ;) BB&B wiped me out but will drag myself out to dog group this afternoon, Tumble really needs it. BB&B seems to be making a difference, I was showing a buddy one of the excercises I can't do and Boop! I did it for the first time! (Step right foot up onto riser, bring left knee up without touching riser, hold 3 seconds, do a few curls, step left back down to ground. I usually wobble so much, I have to step both feet up, then tremblingly lift the one leg and count to three REAL FAST.)

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for October: get up and do it!
    Steps=3731 vits=8 log=8 CI<CO=6 CI<250<CO=3 Tumble=4 mfp=8 AF=7
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    He is super cheap...he is staying with a friend.. but I told him with my rate of pay and the amount of hours I work I cant afford to put money out for a trip like that..
    Would rather take Amtrak but have to take commuter line to get there in time.
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Greetings.

    Yoga class was a blast and although I had some challenges keeping up I really enjoyed being back on my mat (it was a Power Yoga class). I slept like a baby last night. I found some free, in a park, yoga classes and have scheduled another for October 26th.

    The week has been flying by – it has been crazy busy at work. I made a last-minute decision to take Friday off – although I must be on call for 911s. My teams are great and they usually handle all they can when I am out.

    I also had a great talk with my manager. I will finally be promoted to a Manager! This has been five years in the making. It looks like mentioning I was considering applying for another position within another department worked. The full story is a rather long and winding road.

    Some background: I have been leading two teams. One whose main goal is to ensure our e-catalog data is accurate. The other handles all operational reporting and back end fund claims, incentive claims, and a host of other tasks. My biggest challenge, other than leading two entirely different functional teams, is I have absolutely no authority. So the “work” was my responsibility while leading, training, etc. the teams and ensuring quality work was being produced. So when issues arose, the manager would meet with the employee, come to me get background, get back with the employee and so forth. Try not being the “bad” guy in this type of situation. Everyone on both teams knows the rebuttal information comes from me. Through many discussions, the last one being my thinking of moving to a new department, the e-catalog team is being moved under someone else (the same one who thought team only needs a team lead). I will manage the operational reporting team. This should all happen by the end of this quarter (December or sooner).

    Enough about me. I am going to catch up with everyone and post again soon.
    SuziQ
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,001 Member
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  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Wow, 6 pages of updates since my last “read”.

    Michele – Love the turtle. He is cute. And, yes, his eyes are the best part!

    Heather – The photos really show what a great time the two of you had during the cruise. And, DH’s grin with the dance instructors….I think I now know why he has been so cooperative with you on the dance floor. Glad to hear you are both enjoying the various dance forms and having fun dancing together.

    Machka – I hope those darn glasses are finally in your hands. Wow, what a wait.

    Lisa in AR, Luci in WNC, Rori, and Rho – Thank you for your kind words and affirmations. Honestly, I would not have changed a thing in my childhood – those experiences have made me the woman I am today. I try to share the little bits and pieces with the hope they are inspiring or provide insight. Luci – your lessons were well learned by your children and they were well guided by you.

    Carol – Prayers and positive thoughts being sent.

    Luci – It seems the slight change in diet has made you feel better. Also, great improvements with the BP. And, no worries about our “work” discussions. I really cannot wait until I can forget what a darn flowchart is!! I must work a little longer, 9 years at the minimum, and am just trying to keep sane until retirement.

    RVRita – Big hug to you.

    Kathleen – Wow. You have had a go of it and still continue to be kind. I am looking forward to seeing your book in print whatever the format. I am a Kindle fan. It has taken me years to get there, but I love knowing I can carry 700 books in something weighing under a pound.

    Rebecca – Maybe DH needs to text a few stronger words to him and let him know texting dad is not the same as texting mom.

    Hugs all around.
    SuziQ – FL
  • shamac35153
    shamac35153 Posts: 21 Member
    edited October 2019
    Day 3 Hump day best day so far this week for logging food and being accountable. Hello all.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    Went over on calories...not real real bad. Had mostly veges and then a cookie and a piece of pineapple angel food cake for dessert. Should have stuck to only fruit even tho it's a WW recipe. The guys had rib eye, I had a zucchini cake, mainly because I'm not real big on red meat. Actually, I like the rib eye better from Sam's than this which was from Aldi. Too much fat as far as I am concerned. But they may be good for pork tenderloin which can sometimes be quite dry

    Barbara....lol "shooting". They just shoot guns at a paper target at the local range. We're still involved (somewhat) in Newcomers, just not as heavily and I'm loving it.

    Michele in NC
  • shamac35153
    shamac35153 Posts: 21 Member
    Rebecca,
    Feel the pain. My son finally is on land but for over a year and a half has been on two deployments on to different carriers. When we did get to communicate he was exhausted after working 14 hour days. Etc. so have to give them slack as sons and daughters. I miss him dearly every second he’s done in March but I really wish he would stay in and make a career out of it but......they all have to make their own choices in life. God bless and thank you sons and husband for there service
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,249 Member
    stats for the day;

    bike ride hm 2 gym, chasing kirby- 6.56min, 151mhr, 13.7amph, 1.58mi= 88c
    apple watch- 69c
    LATERAL MACHINE- 33min, resist1-5, 10width, 107ahr, 131mhr, 3.85mi= 215c
    apple watch- 136c
    Floor Exercises- 7.16min, 4sets of 15each, 4 diff exercises, 84ahr, 94mhr= 25c
    Apple watch= 50c
    bike ride gym 2 dome- 5.40min, 140mhr, 15.8amph, 1.49mi= 71c
    apple watch- 60c
    bike ride puy 2 sumn station- 15.20min, 148mhr, 11.9amph, 3.04mi= 169c
    apple watch- 113c
    jog sta 2 wrk- 5.22min, 145mhr, 10.19min mi, .52mi= 71c
    apple watch- 64c
    jog wrk 2 sta- 4.25min, 9.5in mi, 148mhr, .44mi= 64c
    apple watch- 62c
    bike ride dome 2 hm- 15.01min 10.7amph 142mhr, 2.67mi= 201c
    Apple Watch- 128c

    total cal 904
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    edited October 2019
    Hi, all.

    Just logging in to say that I am going to sign my posts differently than I have been. I have started a new part of my job, and I've been doing training over the past week, and they strongly recommend that we keep our social media presence locked down. Because my name is so unique, I am a little afraid someone could find me if they tried hard enough.

    Anyway. From now on, I am

    Flea, the nickname my dad had for me. (He also called me Fleabag, but that has taken on a new connotation which, while I do think is entertaining, I don't think I want to be associated with!)
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    Suzie - the dancers taught line dancing, which DH didn't attend. The ballroom had two old men teaching, but only on the two sea days. They were the 'gentlemen hosts' , who are hired to push old single ladies round the dance floor. DH really didn't get on with one of them! However, we did learn a new sequence from them, which was very useful. I think his improvement was mainly practice, before and after dinner every day, with an audience!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx back on her tablet, which us a lot easier than her phone. :D
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    1948Peachy wrote: »
    Machka ~ Glad you are getting your glasses. I would be blind as a bat without mine.

    Carol in GA

    I was using an older pair that weren't as good ... without glasses, I can read a book fairly close up but nothing else. Without glasses, I couldn't recognise my husband if we were a shopping centre, had gotten separated, and I was looking for him. I could barely walk!

    Happily I have my glasses back ... and the new lenses should arrive next week.


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    1948Peachy wrote: »
    Pumpkin: In my family, we have no desire to eat the beloved pumpkin and can't understand why so many people adore it. Instead, we love sweet potatoes in pie and casseroles. Another strange thing about me is that I love fruit cake and mince meat pie at Christmas.

    Carol in GA
    OregonMother wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    I was just suddenly reminded ... it's Thanksgiving on Monday!!

    If I were really energetic I'd bake a pumpkin pie and take it into work for my coworkers who have likely never had pumpkin pie. :grin:

    Pumpkin is not a "dessert" vegetable here ... it's a ... well, a vegetable.


    Machka in Oz

    I agree. I think it's a vegetable, too. I mean, pie and muffins and lattes are fine, as I sit here right now drinking a Starbucks pumpkin spice latte, but pumpkins are veggies.

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon

    In Canada, I grew up with pumpkin as a thing you'd put in sweet pies and muffins etc. and never really liked it.

    Then I came to Australia, and started eating pumpkin soup, pumpkin in muffins as savoury (pumpkin, feta and spinach muffins -- yummo!), pumpkin ravioli, pumpkin in pies as savoury (pumpkin, feta, spinach and curry pies), and things like that. Now I really like pumpkin!


    Machka in Oz
  • Latestarter2018
    Latestarter2018 Posts: 21 Member
    Hi All - I have just figured out how to post in this thread - I think :-).
    I posted this morning about the lovely breakfast my husband brings me each morning, and realized I had created a whole new discussion topic under the Motivation & Support category!! how embarrassing!!! - a few nice women have put in some sweet replies. I am an IT idiot!.
    Have loved looking and reading all the conversations - I am at the starting post at the moment, with about 26 odd pounds to loose. I have a super busy job and find it hard to carve time out of the day to exercise. I feel so self conscious at the gym as I am out of shape. I think I am going to focus on keeping to my calorie goal each day for a few weeks - then I will feel a bit more confident.
    Its night time over here in New Zealand - so good night all.
    Sarah :-)
  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Hi Sarah.

    Welcome to the group. You successfully posted!

    I am crazy-busy at work too (11 hours a day - prepping, getting to and from, and actual work 9 hours; no lunch). I went from complete couch potato to now actively fitting in some exercise every day. I started with very small baby steps like walking in place during conference calls or commercials, putting away one type of clothing at a time by type, and stepping in place while washing dishes or prepping food. It really helped not thinking about an hour of exercise. Instead, I looked at 10-minute bouts which not only made it a easier to start; it also made it easier to get in at least 30 minutes a day. And, let's face it we all have 10 minutes somewhere. I never really like the gym. I would rather workout at home because it is more efficient.

    Meal planning and prep on my days off has helped me keep on track on the food front. I am a stress eater and work is my number one stress machine. :)

    Wishing you well on your journey!
    SuziQ - FL where it is 5:40 am and it's now time to start getting ready for work.
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Morning, afternoon and evening, all...

    Flea in the Willamette - it's good advice.

    Having a hard time adjusting back to five-day workweeks, after two months of taking every Friday off in order to burn my vacation days. I really enjoyed that, but it's hard to go back, and now the workweek seems to take forever to be finished.

    Loving the fall weather, but am beginning to wonder if it's put everyone around me on tilt. The gym was jam-packed at 5:30 a.m. yesterday, almost as if it were January resolution season. All the crying at work was unusual as well. Weird.

    Got lots to get done... and want to get to the gym earlier today, so I'm off.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR (with what has become a fairly common name, all in all)
  • Latestarter2018
    Latestarter2018 Posts: 21 Member
    Thanks SuziQ - good strategies for me to put in place. I am a stress eater also, eating when I am a bit unsettled or angry/ frustrated is so hardwired into my brain. I know I can change though. I like the idea of 10 min bouts of exercise, and the meal prepping. Thanks for sharing these tips with me!
    Sarah
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    Took a day off from work and it has been quite a day!

    First, my husband and I went to the local rescue helicopter "open day". He has been wanting to do something like that for some time ... to say "thank you" and to help fill the gap in his memory about what happened.

    On March 22, 2018 my husband had a workplace accident on the orchard of which he was a General Manager. The orchard is located on an island off mainland Tasmania. One of his coworkers found him, rang the island ambulance who came and immediately rang the rescue helicopter service to get my husband off the island as quickly as possible. The doctor on the rescue helicopter drilled a burr hole into my husband's head, prepped him, and got him onto the helicopter to be delivered to hospital.

    My husband remembers none of that. He doesn't have much memory of anything 3 or 4 months before the accident and certainly not for a couple months after.

    So, going to see the helicopter and meet the pilot was a big thing for him. It was a good, and emotionally charged event.


    Second, we went to a seminar (kind of a lunch lecture) at Institute for Medical Research and School of Medicine presented by one of my bosses. They have these seminars every Thursday, presented by people in a wide range of medical and medically-related fields. Occasionally they are interesting (to me) and I'll go. When this one was announced, I was interested because it is directly related to what I do. I would have preferred it be on a Thursday that I was at work, but I figured that we were out and about anyway, so we might as well stop by.

    It was interesting ... a good overview of where my work connects into the whole system.


    Third, since we were right in the area, my husband requested that we stop in at the hospital where he "lived" for 2 months. He wanted to try to get a glimpse of the ICU. He's been back to the ED and the Neuro Ward, but not to ICU. So ... we got into the waiting area, and then after a bit of time, managed to get into the entry area of the ICU to take a little peek.

    The nurses were great and a couple there remembered my husband and were so glad to see him upright, walking and talking. He thanked them profusely! That was emotional for him as well, but good, I think.


    Then it was time for lunch! We went to a place I've only been once before. Many cafes around here are a bit disappointing. Rather ordinary food. This place was actually good! They had an excellent chicken pesto in a toastie. And the gluten-free orange-choc cake was lovely.

    And then ... a bunch of errands. I picked up my glasses (Woo-Hoo!). I talked to my podiatrist about my orthotics which are falling apart. And we stopped at "our" hardware store to get a number of things for the garden and a small floor lamp for me.


    Now I'll continue working on my assignment. :) Tomorrow will be assignment day to finish it off!!


    Machka in Oz

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