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  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
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    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
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    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    The only time it might bother me if that if after getting to know one another, it comes out that they've never liked me. Yet, they continued the facade. If that's the case, then depending on the type of interaction with them, I might feel like I've been used or taken advantage of.

    Otherwise, I really don't care if a person doesn't like me or not. As long as we show some level of respect towards one another, don't care. Don't show me respect, I'll still show you some. Yet, don't expect me to do anything with/for you in terms of work, other stuff.

    A true midwesterner at heart ❤️

    I lived there for far too many years...
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
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    cowsfan12 wrote: »
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    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    Same question for the ladies - is this something you fret about more often than not??

    I generally don’t care but it starts to wear me down if it’s people I can’t get away from family/coworkers. I absorb the energy of the people around me and when everyone for the most part has rude/petty vibes my energy turns the same.
  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    To add to your edit...

    Honestly no I don't care what others think about me personally...

    Any problem someone might have with me, usually is more of a problem they have with themselves... And I'm sorry but there is nothing I can do about that...

    People generally have a problem with you because you are too much and it makes them feel less, so they want you to be less to make themselves feel better...

    *kitten* that... If I can inspire you to be more, then that's awesome... But I'm never going to be less...

    That being said, I have learned that it's important to not swing at everything, sometimes you have to give other people a chance to shine, it's part of lifting others up and just being a good person...

    Okay i love this.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.
  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I find I cAre less as I get older - if someone doesn’t like me these days I shrug it off for the most part - I’ll wonder wth I did sometimes cause c’mon what’s not to like 🤷‍♂️ I kid I kid relax ppl - .. but like healthy habits said - you never show that chit

    I'm kinda in this same boat. It's more of an age thing, but I find that I'm less likely to feel like I need to like everybody as well. I mean, I'm not going out of my way to make anyone miserable, but there are a lotta people that I think "welp, not the type of person I want to spend my time with" so I just leave it at that. With that attitude comes understanding that I'm gonna be that guy for a lot of people, too, and that's okay.

    WHY WON’T YOU LOVE ME?
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I find I cAre less as I get older - if someone doesn’t like me these days I shrug it off for the most part - I’ll wonder wth I did sometimes cause c’mon what’s not to like 🤷‍♂️ I kid I kid relax ppl - .. but like healthy habits said - you never show that chit

    I'm kinda in this same boat. It's more of an age thing, but I find that I'm less likely to feel like I need to like everybody as well. I mean, I'm not going out of my way to make anyone miserable, but there are a lotta people that I think "welp, not the type of person I want to spend my time with" so I just leave it at that. With that attitude comes understanding that I'm gonna be that guy for a lot of people, too, and that's okay.

    WHY WON’T YOU LOVE ME?

    But all those times when there was one set of footprints?

    That's when I was carrying you
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I find I cAre less as I get older - if someone doesn’t like me these days I shrug it off for the most part - I’ll wonder wth I did sometimes cause c’mon what’s not to like 🤷‍♂️ I kid I kid relax ppl - .. but like healthy habits said - you never show that chit

    I'm kinda in this same boat. It's more of an age thing, but I find that I'm less likely to feel like I need to like everybody as well. I mean, I'm not going out of my way to make anyone miserable, but there are a lotta people that I think "welp, not the type of person I want to spend my time with" so I just leave it at that. With that attitude comes understanding that I'm gonna be that guy for a lot of people, too, and that's okay.

    WHY WON’T YOU LOVE ME?

    But all those times when there was one set of footprints?

    That's when I was carrying you

    🤣



    😑

    Ugh i love you two 😂
  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
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    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.

    And yet..
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.

    And yet..

    refer back to my post, seemed like you had a pretty good understanding of it. ;)
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.

    And yet..

    I don't think it is a "learned" trait. You can try to think a certain way, but if you are forcing upon yourself, is that how you really feel?

    I don't necessarily consider things like that good or bad, just that some people inherently have different characteristics about them.

    I typically do not feel certain things like empathy, sympathy, and jealousy. There are times when others may feel that I am an a-hole for that, but it is just the way I am, and I don't think that forcing myself to feel a certain way is beneficial at all.
  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.

    And yet..

    refer back to my post, seemed like you had a pretty good understanding of it. ;)

    I’m bad at riddles 😂
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
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    iMago wrote: »
    ladies of mfp-

    "im sorry. r u mad at me??"
    or
    "no. i aint done nothing wrong, you're being ridiculous"

    which one of those would you rather hear from him?

    Neither. He's blocked for consistent poor grammar.

    Aside: @Reckoner69_lmao is...Jesus? 🙏🏿
  • GettinLean19
    GettinLean19 Posts: 452 Member
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    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    spade117 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I truly do not care. For me, my age/experience has not changed this. It has always been that way.

    How do you treat people when you realize they don’t like you?

    As far as I know, no different. I have no idea if someone doesn't like me. I don't ask.

    I suppose if people are around me, they at least tolerate me. And if anyone doesn't, they would not be around me anymore.

    I want to learn how to idgaf like this

    It really isn't that difficult.

    And yet..

    I don't think it is a "learned" trait. You can try to think a certain way, but if you are forcing upon yourself, is that how you really feel?

    I don't necessarily consider things like that good or bad, just that some people inherently have different characteristics about them.

    I typically do not feel certain things like empathy, sympathy, and jealousy. There are times when others may feel that I am an a-hole for that, but it is just the way I am, and I don't think that forcing myself to feel a certain way is beneficial at all.

    Really good point.

    Not sure why I’m in my head about this. Once I figure something out about how i think, I tend to go down a rabbit hole trying to figure out the whys behind it
  • TwitchyMacGee
    TwitchyMacGee Posts: 3,120 Member
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    iMago wrote: »
    ladies of mfp-

    "im sorry. r u mad at me??"
    or
    "no. i aint done nothing wrong, you're being ridiculous"

    which one of those would you rather hear from him?

    Sincere or an iMago-ism?
  • TwitchyMacGee
    TwitchyMacGee Posts: 3,120 Member
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    iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    ladies of mfp-

    "im sorry. r u mad at me??"
    or
    "no. i aint done nothing wrong, you're being ridiculous"

    which one of those would you rather hear from him?

    Sincere or an iMago-ism?

    yes

    “You were right. Totally my fault. Let me make it up to you. Ice cream and dining in sound good?”
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,060 Member
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    cdubks88 wrote: »
    Men-

    Do you truly not care if/when people judge you or don’t like you or is it part of some guy code that you’re not supposed to show it

    Edited for clarity: by “don’t like you” I mean when anyone, man or woman, child or honey badger, dislikes who you are as a human. I don’t mean when they aren’t romantically interested

    I care, but I'm sure to many it will seem as weakness. That's ok. I know why I care.

    Everyone is different man - it’s not a weakness - we are who we are - nothing wrong with that