WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2020
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Milk - we use long life milk. I hardly ever use it ... maybe a dab on my cereal, but my husband likes it in his coffee.
Fruit & Veg - we have some delivered, but quite a bit is coming from our garden. I can't keep up with the apples.
Meat - we rarely use it. We have several packages of chicken mince in the freezer if we do want some.
Scorpions - they're out and about here. Saw a large one in the garden, then Rhody was chasing a small one last night. I'm more or less OK with spiders (although I think it was a spider that bit me during the summer), but I'm not at all fond of scorpions. Now I'm not sure what to do. If Rhody wasn't here, I'd be spraying everything with bug spray, but I don't like to do that when he's here.
Wisteria - I hoped the vines over our patio area would be wisteria when we moved in, but they're grape vines which have, once, produce a whole lot of small and slightly sour grapes. If they produce again next summer, I might look at what to do with them. Nothing alcoholic, of course, but maybe some sort of jam.
@KJLaMore ... well done with all the kids! I admire what you do with them and your tenacity with getting the qualifications, etc.
@bertiebassett127 ... you can bookmark a page by clicking the faint, clear star above the magnifying glass ... it will turn yellow when you click it.
I have a question at this point where it seems most places in the US and in some other locations are beginning to open up at some level from very little to a bunch, What have you learned from this experience that surprised you?
Not really a surprise, but a realisation ... I am so ready for retirement. Unfortunately, I probably have another 17 years to go before that happens. And that's why I'm working so hard to get my Master's degree finished. My hope is that when we move off the island (which probably won't happen for some time now), I might have enough skills to get a decently paying job 3 or 4 days a week instead of a full 5 days. I'm also toying with the idea of going to a 9 day fortnight at my current job or maybe 4 days a week ... after I get my degree. I'll have to look into what effect that might have on things like holiday time and pension.
The second part to this is that I could quite happily move to a house some distance away from people and disconnect from most people. It seemed to me that quite a number of people I'm associated with through organisations etc. were all bored and figured this was a good time to schedule zoom meetings and long lists of things we could do to fill the time. I'm not bored. I have heaps to do and can entertain myself, by myself quite well. So in a time I hoped would be a nice break, I ended up absolutely swamped.
One thing I found a little bit surprising and very interesting was how easy it was to move to working from home and doing university from home. For years I've been told that those things would be so incredibly difficult to do ... almost impossible. And yet it took about a week.
Which brings me to this ...
Normal? - I sincerely hope we don't return to the way things were. I hope that this is enough to shake the world up and make people think about better, healthier ways to do things.
Regarding offices ...
I envision the offices of the future to be as follows:
A central office space with a large boardroom/lecture hall for big meetings, seminars, conferences, etc., and several smaller meeting rooms for smaller meetings. These rooms would have the necessary equipment so that office workers could come in with their laptops to meet, learn, and collaborate.
There could also be a small collection of cubicles for workers who would like to come into the office to work in quiet.
The office could have an area with photocopy/print equipment and other office equipment as well for those times when employees need to come in, hook up their laptops and print several copies of whatever for the next meeting, seminar or conference.
Otherwise, people would work from home or wherever.
Regarding universities ...
I envision the universities of the future to be as follows:
A few large lecture halls which would be used for seminars and conferences ... and could be hired out to businesses for similar things.
A small collection of studios for instructors to record quality lectures.
Labs - high quality, clean, well-spaced-out places for hands-on work.
Libraries - for getting physical materials if necessary. But no gathering spaces.
Classrooms - a few, roomy, airy, clean classrooms with the necessary equipment so that students or staff could come in with their laptops to meet, learn, and collaborate.
Otherwise, students and staff would work from home or wherever.
And a much greater focus on human-powered transportation ... being active, getting out in the fresh air, getting healthy.
I could go on ... I have quite the dream for the new world.
Machka in Oz8 -
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Kylia, deepest sympathy to you and your dear hubby and family on the passing of your mother-in-law.1
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Barbie, My deepest thanks, as always, for starting our new thread this and every month!
Irish Terry, thanks for your very insightful post yesterday. Once I hit goal weight, it became easier to maintain because I’d been faithful about tracking food for a year and a half. I love that MFP allows me (on Premium, which I treat myself to!) to set individual goals for each of my five “meals” a day, one of which is my meds and supplements. Yes, most meds are listed, and yes, I’m compulsive about it, but giving in to the better of my compulsions has gotten me where I am.
I’ve had RNY Bypass surgery when I was 75. I’m now 77, and have gotten my health back, thank goodness.
OW - 262.2
SW - 234.3 1/2/19
GW - 145
CW - 136.6
I’d like to regain about 5 lbs, I’m 5’5” tall and am now looking too thin.
Janet OKC, Lovely, lovely picture of little Lydia! Isn’t it amazing to think of being great-grandparents? For me it’s a bit like when I turned 75. The prevailing thought is kind of “How the heck did that happen without me noticing?”
Oh, Rebecca! I’m enchanted by your image of our happily nudist organs no longer hampered by their overcoats and mufflers of fat! Delightful thought!
Karen, what very good news about Josephine! And if I had a pink wig, it would be my favorite too!
Kylia and husband, my thoughts and prayers go with you on this journey. Rest often, stay well, and turn to others as you need.
Machka, do take the extra sleep you need. I tend to be a long sleeper, so 9 hrs a night is frequent. Some nights I sleep 10-11 with a brief wake-up and then dozing with kitties. And then there are the days I take nap after nap and actually sleep a total of 13 hrs or more. Our bodies know.
I too am feeling VERY touch deprived. Living alone in this time is difficult, but I prefer it in more normal times when I can be with people IF I CHOOSE. Often I don’t. I do quite well with shorter times alone. I am happy now that my daughter, who’s also a neighbor and well socially-distanced, will come and watch Outlander with me! That’s the only time I’m around a person.
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Kylia so sorry for your loss
Machka you have a lot on your plate right now, do take time to rest when you can. Sorry that the specialists think that your hubby should never return to work, 30% injured sounds as if that was higher than you were expecting, even though you knew he would never fully recover. You are very resourceful and I'm sure you will do everything possible to make the situation as good as it can be. Sending hugs, take time to digest this new information.
Amber JR is adorable. My niece's boy is big for his age, he's 6 in a few weeks, and towers over the rest of the 6 year olds at his school. I'll have to check what size clothes he's into so I can send him a little gift for his birthday. Loved your hair cut too, I'd make a mess of mine if I tried to cut it myself
Love to all
Viv UK 6 -
Dr. Katie
Nah, I'm good with the math. My logic DID fail me - I erroneously was thinking there would be 101 numbers; 50 pairs of 101 plus one leftover (50): 50 x 101 + 50. Instead, of course, there are an even number of numbers (1 through 100); 50 pairs of 101 = 50 x 101. No lonely number 50 in the middle. The 49th pair would be 49 + 52, and the 50th pair would be 50 +51. It was just a logic flaw.
I just really badly wanted to put 49 and 51 neatly together at the end, leaving 50 standing, but that wasn't right. It was neat, but not right It was interesting to me to figure out where I went wrong - it was because my emotions got in the way when I was thinking about what happens at the end of the puzzle. It made me feel all warm and fuzzy to put 49 and 51 together, so I did it. LOL!!!! 
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Karen in Virginia. 2 down, 1 to go. Working 9-7 EST.
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And one more spectacular shot from Nebraska Through the Lens FB group:
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Machka you have a lot on your plate right now, do take time to rest when you can. Sorry that the specialists think that your hubby should never return to work, 30% injured sounds as if that was higher than you were expecting, even though you knew he would never fully recover. You are very resourceful and I'm sure you will do everything possible to make the situation as good as it can be. Sending hugs, take time to digest this new information.
Love to all
Viv UK
It's actually good that the specialists think that my husband should never return to work ... a relief that they've stated it! I've known, pretty much since the accident, that his chances of returning to work were really, really low and hated how he was being pushed to do something he just couldn't do. It was stressing him out so much, which was having a detrimental effect on everything. His memory, his aphasia, his cognitive skills, his physical skills and his emotions all deteriorate when he's stressed ... which upsets and stresses me ...
I thought he might be somewhere between 15 and 18% ... so 30% was a bit of a surprise. His cognitive skills have been significantly affected, not to mention his fatigue and issues with his limbs.
Now we just need to get the insurance company to acknowledge it all, and that's not easy. I'm working on it. Maybe ... maybe not.
Meanwhile, this shutdown has been wonderful! No one is bothering him, he's so much more relaxed and happy ... and slowly plugging away at different projects mainly in the garden.
Machka in Oz
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Hello everyone.
A quick goal update. Since December 31st I am down 8 pounds and am fluctuating around a pound up and down. Very good sign. As mentioned earlier I am toying with dropping another 5 pounds or so. I am taking the month of May to decide.
And, not that I was in competition with my younger self (or maybe I am) but have proven we can lose weight like we did back “then”. I am so very grateful I have no health issues other than typical not so young things. Here is my “chart”. Note WW = Weight Watchers. After week 35 I did not keep my WW trackers and did not have enough foresight to keep a running Excel tracker. During post WW week 35 I would record in pocket calendars and toss after recording year end weights. Silly me! When I was 47 I had given up the ghost on myself and was caring for Greg and his addiction issues.
Those 40 pounds were a real burden and my body is so much happier with them gone. My knees do not hurt as much and I am able to be active without stopping every 10 minutes or so to catch my breath. I am looking forward to continuing to walk on the healthier side of life and all of the amazing things yet to come.
Thank you all for your continuing support, stories, adventures, challenges, and friendship. I am so thankful I found this group!
SuziQ – SFL
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And just one more of the Champion Mill in Champion, Nebraska, population 103; taken by my once best friend Jeanette recently and posted to FaceBook. My paternal grandfather once ran this mill:
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Paternal Great-Grandfather, rather. Milton Yaw.2
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Loving the photos Karen.
Machka - I am very glad to see you back posting. I was really worried that something had happened to you or your husband. Yes, you really must take all the time you need to rest, sleep, have downtime. Can you relinquish one of your responsibilities for a few months? Completely understandable burnout can be quite dangerous and could result in something more lasting if you aren't careful.
I too am relieved you have finally got the diagnosis and can file a permanent claim. The collapse of that stress may be why your body is finally acknowledging the strain. Please look after yourself.
Here us Max with his new robot puppy. I took a screenshot of the video so it won't work!
This is his gratitude journal.
This is Edie's. I'm very impressed with her drawing of the table and chairs in our garden.
The table top is just like that.
We are very, very lucky that my DDIL takes the time to send us all these videos and photos. It makes a huge difference to us. I thanked her this morning on WhatsApp.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
PS I am not normally a hugger, and, of course, I do have DH, but I do miss Edie's hugs. I think her circling of the smiley face, and not the very happy one, means that she feels a little bit sad that she can't hug us.7 -
Heather Your post totally warmed my heart. Max's "Granny and Jhonny". Edie's "Skipping", and her smiley face not quite the happiest. Their drawings of the puppy and the chairs & table. What dear, dear children. Your daughter-in-law is very thoughtful.
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Oh, Sunday how I love thee. I love the prospect of a day of reflection. Today I will be in the garden and soaking up its healing and soothing vibes. I provides so much to us and for that I am thankful.
Machka – I am glad you are getting the rest you need and are taking the time to catch up with your other interests. I so remember the feeling of that last semester exhaustion yet elation the light was shining every so brightly at the end of the tunnel. And, also a little sadness it was ending. If I had my way and could be comfortable living on the edge I would be one of those kids that never graduated with a degree and just continued being a college student for the rest of my life. It’s one of the reasons I plan on searching for just the right place outside of a college town where I can live a little in the country while taking free/reduced college courses. I hope you now have the ammunition needed to go back to the darn worker’s compensation (forgot the NZ term) board and get permanent disability for DH. It will probably still be an uphill battle but know I am in your court and sending strength and good thoughts for a positive outcome.
Heather – I am so happy you and DH enjoyed the safe distance picnic. It was probably both heartwarming and a struggle. I imagine you just wanted to reach out and hug the grands. I love your garden space – so nice to have some green while living in town. Just perfect! Oh, and Max and Edie’s gratitude journals brought tears to my eyes. Good ones, of course.
Michelle – The manufacturers are the ones who make the decisions on what goes on sale and/or are BOGOs (unless the store is overstocked because the store made an inventory mistake). Since the manufacturers have no idea when production will return to normal. There are a ton of stresses here including closing of plants, limited transportation space, trying to balance supplies coming in, and supply and demand it is in the manufacturer’s best interest to tell the stores not to offer rain checks. At this point both the manufacturers and the stores have no idea when supply will return to normal and a rain check counts as a liability on their books. And, no business big or small wants an increase in its liabilities. Nor do we….it does not bode well with stock valuations and portfolios. Economics is a very complex and interesting topic and it requires us to look at both the micro and the macro sides of the situation. So when we say why no rain checks, reduced/no inventory, less coupons we literally have to trace back to the source….so for flour we have to go all the way back to the seeds. And, now that I have bored over 50% of the group I will stop here. Again, just the flour situation would probably result in a 10-page synopsis with over 200 pages of text and references.
Terri – As you can tell I just love the topic! And, I am so thankful to my Micro/Macro professor. He was a lovely man and I knew I would love him the first day when he held up the textbook and said, “Do not waste your money, I will teach you everything you need to know and it will not be from this book.”
Karen – What hours! It sounds great to be able to work a week in three days, but I know I would not be up for that type of schedule. I hope you are able to enjoy some downtime.
Amber – Great haircut – we can do anything we set our minds to do.
Carol – I cannot wait for the Blue Angels to make their way down here. Watching them brings me back to my childhood.
Kim – Such a complex question for me. What have I learned from this experience that surprised me? The very short is I am perfectly fine being by myself and keeping sane. I am more adaptable to change than I thought I was and have been able to shift my energies very quickly.
Glenda – I do partake in libations but if I am not in the mood or am not partaking I just say I am not drinking today or during this time period. And, if they are persistent I state please stop pestering me, it is my choice not to drink, if it makes you feel uncomfortable what is that saying about you?. I do use softer words and it does depend upon the situation. When you are firm in your decision and voice it with power your true friends will accept your decisions.
Penny – Thank you for the bread making tips. I have yet to attempt yet. I will eventually run out of things on my to do list and will get there. Keeping your tidbits in my back pocket for that time. Thank you for sharing the pictures.
Barbie – Love the cat meme……it’s exactly why I would want to be a spoiled house cat if I were not human.
Dr. Katie – I would be quite nervous if I started to find out those in my distant circle were starting to test positive.
Oh, the sun is now up and I want to get started in the garden before it gets a little too warm. I am going to enjoy these last days of milder temperatures and low humidity.
Hugs to all.
SuziQ – SFL
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Betsy - Just wanted to say, your son's comment is fabulous. Good teaching. Learning to say No is one if the very best things we can do for ourselves, and others as it happens. Having firm boundaries is one of the biggest keys to happiness.
KIM - I have learnt how much I am a 'homebody'. It has surprised me how much stress was released when I no longer had FOMO and social expectations. I've always been a little bit agrophobic and hate travelling in cars, plus having to journey to see people. What a nice rest I've had!
It was great yesterday having the 'picnic' because I didn't have to get worked up providing perfection in the food and drink. They brought their own. Could you do more of that after the lockdown?
One of my group of Ros's friends (who died last year of cancer) just asked on WhatsApp for a donation for a girls school she actively supports, and visits regularly, in the slums of India. I was happy to help just a little as the suffering over there is terrible with no one able to work for their hand to mouth existence. We all said how glad we are that Ros didn't have to suffer all this virus business. She almost had too many visitors at the hospice and had to call a halt to it as she was worn out! Sad for those who are not surrounded by love.
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Machka - I am very glad to see you back posting. I was really worried that something had happened to you or your husband. Yes, you really must take all the time you need to rest, sleep, have downtime. Can you relinquish one of your responsibilities for a few months? Completely understandable burnout can be quite dangerous and could result in something more lasting if you aren't careful.
I should finish my degree in October ... just have to hang in there till then.
And I will get a bit of a break in June/July ... semester break and nose surgery.Machka – I am glad you are getting the rest you need and are taking the time to catch up with your other interests. I so remember the feeling of that last semester exhaustion yet elation the light was shining every so brightly at the end of the tunnel. And, also a little sadness it was ending. If I had my way and could be comfortable living on the edge I would be one of those kids that never graduated with a degree and just continued being a college student for the rest of my life. It’s one of the reasons I plan on searching for just the right place outside of a college town where I can live a little in the country while taking free/reduced college courses.
Me too!!
Probably why I've been in school just about every year since I was 5.
cityjaneLondon wrote: »I too am relieved you have finally got the diagnosis and can file a permanent claim.I hope you now have the ammunition needed to go back to the darn worker’s compensation (forgot the NZ term) board and get permanent disability for DH. It will probably still be an uphill battle but know I am in your court and sending strength and good thoughts for a positive outcome.
Hugs to all.
SuziQ – SFL
It's a bit more complicated (and expensive) than that ... many steps involving insurance and worker's compensation (Australia), with the insurance company holding the bulk of the power. Yes ... long uphill battle ahead with the main goal of attaining our freedom, but fortunately I should have more time starting in October. Meanwhile, the insurance company is still paying him a percentage of what he was getting so that's better than nothing.
And thanks!
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Morning, afternoon and evening, and a hope for a peaceful Sunday for us all,
Machka - so glad you checked in. Terribly sorry about the percentage rating for your husband, that had to be a blow of no small proportions. With the assessment done, will this finally push the return-to-work chirpy budgie off her perch?
JanetR - your beautiful little great-granddaughter! What a lovely photo.
Kim - Your explanation of the question you asked was interesting. I've found video calls stress this introvert out just as much as in-person interactions with groups of people. That was unexpected... I used them for years when I worked for Cisco - but WebEx is very different than Zoom or Teams. I need to get over it, though.
Here's an article that gives a few techniques to help with the touch starvation you're going through, and a set of techniques from another article. I wish I knew whether they were legit, I don't. Wish I could hug you!The Best Helping Strategies- Deep breathing- we forget to breathe when experiencing trauma, check this often. Hold your belly with the flat of your hand when doing the exercise.
- Help others- acts of kindness express love in a way that we don’t have to put words onto.
- Open windows and doors talk to neighbours. Sing if you can-, Play music if you can!
- Body brush- this is a really good technique for getting back into the body, it triggers the sense of a hug. To Body brush-when in the shower you take a facecloth or soft washing brush and gently brush the body starting from feet up.
- We are all using hand cream from the extra handwashing, as you do this extend the movement along your forearm and be mindful of how you feel in the moment. Don’t worry if the feeling is sadness, this is an appropriate feeling now.
- Use your words - tell loved ones how you feel, say the words I love you and I wish I could hug you. Give yourself a hug when greeting and saying goodbye on a video or telephone call. It works!
Glenda - you're getting great advice from a lot of people, but one last one--use the phrase "I'm not a drinker anymore," rather than "I don't/won't drink." It's harder to argue with someone's identification than someone's actions.
Girding my loins for a trip to Walmart. They did have 6 a.m. to 7 a.m. for seniors, but changed that to just an hour on Tuesdays, and I need to get some fresh stuff for my husband's lunches for the week. Hopefully it won't be as insane as the last time I stopped there. I feel like I'm in a Hitchcock movie--I hug one side of the aisle so I only have to look in three directions instead of all four, and people pay ZERO attention to those one way arrows.
Honestly, back to Kim's question, what was unexpected to me was how few steps we are from being able to genuinely isolate, as long as the electric kept running. So, in the months to come, my husband and I will be working toward getting solar going as soon as we can, and the moment I retire, a few chickens and a few other animals that make sense to us, raise a calf and either rabbits or goats. It will require some investment and some fencing, but it's very accomplishable from here.
I also have no doubt that even if this wave dies down, another will be on it's way in the fall, before a vaccine can be created. And bluntly, with our record on things like thalidomide and other horrible blunders, I'm not sure I would trust a vaccine until three or four years out, after we know for sure that two years after we have it, we won't turn blue or have our ears fall off, or develop something awful from the vaccine. The chance of unexpected side effects if it's a genuinely new substance, with zero extended testing time are high. I'd rather take my chances getting a virus with a 96.6% recovery rate than risk a complete unknown. Better the devil you know, I guess.
And on that depressing note,
Love y'all,
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SuziQ Congrats, you are doing so well with your goals! I am on my third day of long shifts, but this will be the last time I work a 10-hour shift. I signed up for the long shifts because the short shifts were virtually disappearing before my eyes. It's a free-for-all for independent contractors. The online Telemedicine company I am contracted with sends out an email, and an hour later all the shifts have been claimed!!! Fortunately, I have been in the right place at the right time since then, and have been able to schedule 3-hour shifts for many days in May, which suits me MUCH better. When I am an employed, rather than a contracted, consultant, I will be able to make monthly schedule requests in advance, and my requests will have priority over independent contractors' requests. The last 2 days have not been nearly as bad as I thought they'd be, though. The patients are so nice, and so grateful, and I've been getting really great feedback at the end of each shift. Just have a tired butt.
I ordered BOGO Tervis Stainless Steel Tumblers! Such a deal. 2 insulated stainless steel 20-oz tumblers with hammer lids, $27 for both including shipping/tax. They will last the rest of my life.
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Dr. Katie What Suzi said.
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Barbie That disgruntled kitty...
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Glenda Alcoholism and alcohol abuse are medical/social afflictions that cause chronic drinkers to seek co-dependent conspirators to validate and enable them. You have to make a choice whether you will enable your friend by giving in to her emotional blackmail, or whether you can spend time with her, whether she is drinking or not, without compromising yourself. It isn't easy when you love your friend. You could be Machiavellian by bringing an alcohol-free beer or wine for yourself, and let her think you are drinking with her. Or you could find a way to say, "no, I don't want to drink with you, but I love you and still want to spend time with you". Or you could walk away from her.
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Kim
I learned that I was ready to be done with my brick & mortar urgent care location and ready to morph into a virtual provider. Fairly profound dawning. I am not sad about leaving my employer of 30 years. That seems unfathomable to me. Maybe I will feel sad later. The patients have been told for a year I was leaving. It's not like they are being left high and dry, so I don't feel guilty. There are a few I will miss.
And I verified that I desperately love my grandchildren and can't survive very well without seeing them. It's killing me. We are seriously considering watching Lilliana for a few hours next week. Taking all precautions, of course. She is more likely to make us sick than the other way around, now that I am working from home. Trying to figure out if we are being totally stupid. I want to get the antibody test soon. If I have antibodies, it would be such a relief.
Our hair dresser contacted us - they have figured out a rigorous system for seeing customers that will put us at far less risk than going to the grocery store. So we are making appointments for later in May, if we don't chicken out.
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Machka I agree with Heather - the exhaustion is likely coming from being able to finally quit 'holding your breath' over your husband's prognosis and work-readiness.
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Missing all who are not posting.
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Now I really have to skedaddle to get ready for work at 9.
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Karen in Virginia
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And, for all the baby lovers, my grandson Levi, and daughter Kelsey holding him. He will be four months old on Tuesday... very happy baby.
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Hi everyone, I am pretty new to the forums but seen this thread and hopefully its okay that I join you all A bit about me... I have not read through all the posts yet but will definitely get through them all
I'm 51, married and have a 15 year old daughter. I am originally from Canada but live in the UK. I have had trouble with my weight my entire life and have tried every diet which always ends badly with gaining the weight back and more. I have been on MFP for awhile but had left for years and now I am back. My starting weight back was 427lbs and I am currently (weigh in today) 361.8lbs I am very happy with my weight loss so far but think it would be great to meet new friends on here and hopefully inspire each other. I know I have A LOT of weight to lose but just trying to do it with small goals.
I am classed as morbidly obese and that title makes me feel ill. I have always hated it but had done nothing about it. I have type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea. I have very low mobility, not only because of my weight but it certainly makes it so difficult. I have had a knee replacement a few years ago and am in need of another on my other leg but have been trying to hold off getting it done as I am not really that happy with the replacement I have had. The knee is bone on bone now so wont be able to put it off much longer.
To make things worse I just lost my Dad 3 days before my birthday and while in lock down. he has been battling cancer for quite along time but things were starting to get worse. I started crash dieting trying to lose some weight to get on the plane to fly home. (flying at my weight is so difficult) We had just come back from Canada in August 2019. Once the cancer had gone to his brain we all knew there was not time left and then I was unable to fly due to the corona virus lock-down. This was the strongest, bravest man I have ever met and it just destroyed me. I still find it hard to talk about without completely breaking down but I am determined to lose this weight that has held me back for years. I only wish he could have been around to see me do it.
So sorry for the long post. In short, I have a lot of weight to lose and could use all the support I can get.8 -
Lisa OMG Levi!!!
Heather If you tell me how to donate, I will send a small contribution to your friend's charity in India.
BeUncommon Welcome!
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Thank you Karen x
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Good morning all! Happy Sunday! I slept better last night, than I have all week. Could be getting some yard work done, yesterday, allowed me to put a mental check by some of the things that have been on my to do list and possibly keeping me awake? Anyway, I have a little more yard work to do today. Yesterday I mowed the front yard and cleaned out the shed. (Found a dead vole; that was yucky) Today I will mow the back yard, pull some weeds, set up my playhouse, turtle sandbox, and picnic table, and probably need to help my son with the tree limb cutting (he needs to finish this chore) for firewood. It feels really nice to be outside. I have started walking by myself on weekends. Although I enjoy my walks with the kids and with Tim, I really need that time alone to get my head sorted and get some "good energy".
One of my childcare families has asked if there is anything that they can do to help me with activities, curriculum, etc. I asked, if I sent them photos and information about things, if they could make them into 5x7 cards (photo on front, info on back) and laminate them. They have agreed. I am going to hole punch them and put them on a ring/caribiner clip and set them up near my window as a science area, with kid sized binoculars, magnifying glasses, id papers, etc. I want to make a set for to take on our walks, as well; so we can keep the learning going and the little ones can keep learning and recognizing the many plants and objects that we have learned about. So far, some of the things that the kids can identify are: acorns, pinecones, dandelions, white pine trees, daffodils, sassafrass, blackberry bushes, mullein, poison ivy, blue spruce, woodpecker evidence, woodpeckers, cardinals, bluebirds, chickadees, bluejays, eagles, hummingbirds, milkweed, monarch eggs/caterpillars/butterflies, myrtle, wild violets, wild mustard, wild onion/chives (which have become a favorite walking snack; ewww, the breath on these kids!), ramps, trout lilies, purple dead nettle... the list goes on, but I am really so proud of these little people! Their brains and retention are just astounding! I am really very excited to take my childcare to a new level!
Kylia- Hugs and love to you! Sending prayers for strength, peace, and comfort to you and your family!
Karen VA- The "out my window" photos are just magnificent! Thank you for sharing! Also thank you for the Josephine updates! Sending her love and strength!
Machka- I have been "sleeping" or needing about 9-10 hours of sleep each night, the past two weeks. I think the stress of the past few weeks have caught up and it is manifesting itself in needing more sleep (since I can't just shut down and take time off). I am so happy that your hubby's evaluation shows that he is unable to return to work. That sounds like a weird thing to say, but I know you have known this for so long and to finally get someone in an "official" post recognize this, is huge! Babysteps. I am sure your country/state health officials will see this and agree, eventually.
Penny- I just love your posts! The pic of the mountain at 10pm, looks like it was taken about 6pm! The land of the midnight sun.
Heather- I LOVE your picnic with the grands! Looks like everyone enjoyed it! And Max and Edie's notebooks are fantastic! Max's robo-puppy drawing is spot on, as is Edie's picnic setting. It is wonderful that you and Johnny are their "people who brought me joy"!
Glenda- So sorry you broke down; I got a giggle envisioning how you stayed hydrated on the side of the road with a Smirnoff's! (That would be me). I am also a stress eater. Glad you were able to recognize the emotional eating and put a stop to it! You've got this!
I better scoot. I want to walk this morning and then I need to get busy. Love to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)4 -
Morning, afternoon and evening, and a hope for a peaceful Sunday for us all,
Machka - so glad you checked in. Terribly sorry about the percentage rating for your husband, that had to be a blow of no small proportions. With the assessment done, will this finally push the return-to-work chirpy budgie off her perch?
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
Nope. Unless the insurance company decides they'll acknowledges the assessments, everything is the same. And one of the assessments was theirs done several months ago. I'm hoping we'll have a positive move toward our freedom by the end of this year, but it could potentially be years yet ... just depends on the insurance company.
I'm just thankful we're in a global shutdown!!Machka- I have been "sleeping" or needing about 9-10 hours of sleep each night, the past two weeks. I think the stress of the past few weeks have caught up and it is manifesting itself in needing more sleep (since I can't just shut down and take time off). I am so happy that your hubby's evaluation shows that he is unable to return to work. That sounds like a weird thing to say, but I know you have known this for so long and to finally get someone in an "official" post recognize this, is huge! Babysteps. I am sure your country/state health officials will see this and agree, eventually.
KJ (Kelly)
I think part of it for me was that I was planning to take about 10 days off over Easter to go up north (northern Tas) but of course that couldn't happen. Being home is great, but when I'm home there is always something to do so I end up spending all my evenings doing something ... trying to catch up ... and no time resting.
And as above, it's up to the insurance company.
M in Oz2 -
Lisa- Levi!
BeUncommon- Welcome and remember to bookmark this page (click on the empty star on the title line; it will turn yellow) So sorry to hear of the loss of your father! Cancer sucks BIG TIME! It sounds as if you are making good progress on your weight loss/healthier lifestyle journey! This is a great group for support, and we are very chatty; but we are chatty about life. We all know how much "life" influences our choices and our health. Come often, comment when you feel the urge or just sit back and read and soak up the knowledge and advice. Do you have another name you would like to be called? A lot of the ladies use a name then a location (be as general or vague as you wish). If not, BeUncommon is great! Sending thoughts/prayers/vibes of strength, peace, and love to you! KJ4 -
It's on just giving.
Covid19 emergency appeal for Bright Sparks families.
Her name is Marion Rose.
Having been to India several times and loved it, I know how hard the poor people work, just to have something, anything to eat, let alone provide schooling for girls.
The charity is doing a great job with small resources.
Welcome BeUncommon. :flowerforyou: Do you have an easier name to sign off with? You have done so well to lose that weight. Join in here regularly for support. I am in the UK. Do you belong to any groups near you, or see a therapist? Of course, you may have been doing so for years. I am a child sexual abuse survivor and have had oodles of therapy. Now my therapy is writing my memoir.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
Rhody ... trying on my husband's shoes for size.
This evening I walked to the waves. The sun was setting the moon was rising and the 2.5 metre swell meant waves were crashing against the cliffs.
And me last Thursday when I found out about my upcoming nose surgery.
M in Oz6 -
Lisa- Levi!
BeUncommon- Welcome and remember to bookmark this page (click on the empty star on the title line; it will turn yellow) So sorry to hear of the loss of your father! Cancer sucks BIG TIME! It sounds as if you are making good progress on your weight loss/healthier lifestyle journey! This is a great group for support, and we are very chatty; but we are chatty about life. We all know how much "life" influences our choices and our health. Come often, comment when you feel the urge or just sit back and read and soak up the knowledge and advice. Do you have another name you would like to be called? A lot of the ladies use a name then a location (be as general or vague as you wish). If not, BeUncommon is great! Sending thoughts/prayers/vibes of strength, peace, and love to you! KJ
Thank you very much KJ ... Yes my name is Tonya, I have bookmarked so I can dive in. Using the message board on there is pretty new to me as you can tell from my post number but look forward to coming around here
Welcome BeUncommon. :flowerforyou: Do you have an easier name to sign off with? You have done so well to lose that weight. Join in here regularly for support. I am in the UK. Do you belong to any groups near you, or see a therapist? Of course, you may have been doing so for years. I am a child sexual abuse survivor and have had oodles of therapy. Now my therapy is writing my memoir.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx [/quote]
Thank you Heather, yes it is Tonya No i do not belong to any groups or see a therapist although maybe at times I feel I should. My mobility is not that great and with my weight it makes it twice as hard. Do go to a book club once a month but now with Covid that has been cancelled until further notice. I am in Ilkeston.
Thank you for the welcome Ladies x
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Jan-19 ... 241.6 km (150.1 miles) = 27 hours 2 minutesReview ... (Distances include cycling + walking + a bit of rowing)
Mar-15 … 489.8 km (304.3 miles) = 38 hours 4 min
Apr-15 … 491.94 km (305.6 miles) = 43 hours 6 min
May-15 … 361.81 km (224.8 miles) = 35 hours 50 min
Jun-15 … 569.53 km (353.9 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-15 … 230.7 km (143.35 miles) = 32 hours 45 min
Aug-15 … 211.3 km (131.3 miles) = 28 hours 8 min
Sep-15 … 306.7 km (190.6 miles) = 35 hour 2 min
Oct-15 … 441.82 km (274.5 miles) = 47 hours 43 min
Nov-15 … 660.21 km (410.23 miles) = 60 hours 41 min
Dec-15 … 499.91 km (282.8 miles) = 54 hours 56 min
Jan-16 … 864.79 km (537.35 miles) = 65 hours 36 min
Feb-16 … 470.53 km (292.4 miles) = 40 hours 39 min
Mar-16 … 917.73 km (570.2 miles) = 66 hours 13 min
Apr-16 … 417.83 km (259.6 miles) = 40 hours 23 min
May-16 … 267.09 km (165.9 miles) = 36 hours 10 min
Jun-16 … 552.1 km (343 miles) = 54 hours 48 min
Jul-16 … 709 km (440.5 miles) = 60 hours 41 minutes
Aug-16 … 775.9 km (482.1 miles) = 54 hours 52 minutes
Sep-16 … 371.3 km (230.7 miles) = 32 hours 20 min
Oct-16 … 649 km (403.3 miles) = 49 hours 46 min
Nov-16 … 403 km (250.4 miles) = 52 hours 16 min
Dec-16 … 511.05 km (317.55 miles) = 52 hours 2 min
Jan-17 … 741.9 km (461.0 miles) = 70 hours 3 min
Feb-17 … 600.5 km (373.1 miles) = 57 hours 30 min
Mar-17 … 1113.2 km (691.7 miles) = 78 hours 25 min
Apr-17 … 1181.9 km (734.4 miles) = 76 hours 45 min
May-17 … 426.6 km (265.1 miles) = 39 hours 21 min
Jun-17 … 575.7 km (357.7 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-17 … 714 km (443.7 miles) = 52 hours 23 min
Aug-17 … 475.8 km (295.6 miles) = 38 hours 41 min
Sep-17 … 455.5 km (283 miles) = 41 hours 25 min
Oct-17 … 647.1 km (402.1 miles) = 57 hours 19 min
Nov-17 … 427.0 km (265.3 miles) = 50 hours 4 min
Dec-17 … 553.5 km (343.9 miles) = 52 hours 12 min
Jan-18 … 590.2 km (366.7 miles) = 57 hours 49 min
Feb-18 … 826.9 km (513.8 miles) = 57 hours 35 min
Mar-18 … 582.01 km (361.6 miles) = 50 hours 11 min
Apr-18 … 176.23 km (109.5 miles) = 29 hours 47 min
May -18 … 167.6 km (104.1 miles) = 29 hours 08 min
June-18 … 349.9 km (217.4 miles) = 36 hours 58 minutes
July-18 ... 324.2 km (201.5 miles) = 24 hours 26 minutes
Aug-18 ... 210.1 km (130.6 miles) = 25 hours 59 minutes
Sep-18 ... 261.7 km (162.6 miles) = 25 hours 11 minutes
Oct-18 ... 230.8 km (143.4 miles) = 30 hours 15 minutes
Nov-18 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 30 hours 3 minutes
Dec-18 ... 285.2 km (177.2 miles) = 37 hours 49 minutes
Feb-19 ... 175.5 km (109 miles) = 19 hours 8 minutes
Mar-19 ... 170.3 km (105.8 miles) = 28 hours 21 minutes
Apr-19 ... 160.3 km (99.6 miles) = 25 hours 4 minutes
May-19 ... 164.0 km (101.9 miles) = 29 hours 10 minutes
Jun-19 ... 246.2 km (153 miles) = 25 hours 40 minutes
Jul-19 ... 217.3 km (135.0 miles) = 33 hours 45 minutes
Aug-19 ... 162.5 km (100.9 miles) = 28 hours 4 minutes
Sep-19 ... 136.0 km (84.5 miles) = 23 hours 10 minutes
Oct-19 ... 196.5 km (122.1 miles) = 31 hours 27 minutes
Nov-19 ... 155.5 km (96.6 miles) = 25 hours 01 minutes
Dec-19 ... 203.7 km (126.6 miles) = 26 hours 54 minutes
Jan-20 ... 304.4 km (189.2 miles) = 32 hours 49 minutes
Feb-20 ... 248.6 km (154.5 miles) = 34 hours 50 minutes
Mar-20 ... 148.3 km (92.2 miles) = 30 hours 12 minutes
Apr-20 ... 171.9 km (106.8 miles) = 19 hours 28 minutes
Friday, 1 May 2020 … 5.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 2 May 2020 … 5.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 3 May 2020 … 3.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
2020 Monthly May
Walking Distance (km): 14.5
Walking Time (min): 153.0
Cycling Distance (km): 0.0
Cycling Time (min): 0.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 0.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 0.0
Rowing Distance (km): 0.0
Rowing Time (min): 0.0
Other Distance: 0.0
Other Time: 0.0
Totals
Total Distance (km): 14.5
Total Distance (miles): 9.0
Total Time (min): 153.0
Total Time (hr): 2:33:00
Lots of walking and thinking.1
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