WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2020

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  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    BETH agree with you. It’s great to get to know everyone and their thoughts and beliefs help to understand them I often learn something new and it can give a different perspective on things.

    Welcome newbies
    I am
    Proud woman
    Wife
    Mother
    Nana
    Sister
    Aunt
    Friend
    Knitter and sewer
    Animal lover except slugs
    Reader
    Exerciser
    Enough already 😀

    Looking at the list and knowing I could add more reminds me of my my main fault (enthusiasms which I adopt for a while then jump to something else and back again) I like to think this helps keep my body and brain active 😀 maybe kidding myself

    I have stuck at my marriage (55 years on Friday) so not all bad

    Shops here reopened yesterday lots of queues, not for me at the moment

    Stay safe

    Kate UK ❤️
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    @Heather, France was not much better than UK in terms of COVID reaction.

    @Machka i did talk to psychiatrist who prescribed it (told her i used it 2 days and results) and she's the one who said it wasn't worth it for me in regards to results. Maybe incorrectly, but what can you do?

    @ChrissyChickie I got invisalign as an adult and it's not bad. I really recommend finding someone word of mouth and an orthodontists. All dentists can do invisalign after a very short training. I think you can find out online if they have done a certain amount of cases (less than 10 per year). It works best for straightening front teeth. Changing the overall arch is very iffy. for example if one has a major overbite it can be worked on a little but not totally like when young, (though some testimonies say the opposite). But straightening out the front teeth is rather quick and there is even a "short version" just for the front teeth. you have to wear a retainer sometimes (or inside wire) for life at night because teeth go back to snaggly little by little.

    I didn't really like it but it was manageable, and i like the results. it was worth it for me.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    @Barbara, you win the prize for maximum number of spoilers in 1 post! 6 spoilers!
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,082 Member
    Contextual identity: I could easily have doubled my list, but was conscious of the ‘....in a few words.’ 😂 (No false modesty in my makeup!!! 😂)
    I think most of us don’t give ourselves credit for all our diverse abilities. It’s good for us to stop and focus on all the things we do without realising how awesome we actually are.

    Keep on being your wonderful self!!!
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited June 2020
    It seems like spoilers are used in many ways.
    -many post cute personal photos and funny stories photos in spoilers, but others post photos in main post
    Some post statistics, (calories, exercise,etc), but others put the statistics in main posts.
    some put sensitive info in spoilers (heart wrenching stories) and others in main posts
    Some put thoughts on covid in spoilers and others in main posts.
    Some put rants and vents in spoilers and others in main posts....
    Some cite their previous posts in spoilers and others in main posts...

    I find covid just part of what we are experiencing. In a few years it'll be something else.

    I get it that some (many?) people feel bored by some posts and disturbed by others and want help from the posters, in avoiding having to read the upsetting or boring.

    It doesn't make any difference to me whether it's in spoilers or not. I figure most readers don't read all, skim and that most who do will read all will read most spoilers. i wonder if the spoiler feature doesn't make it more compelling : "oh something hidden, to discover!" I'm more of the mind that the poster can choose how to use the spoiler or not, (creative tool) but that point of view may not be shared by all.

    I guess if it's become official collective rule it could appear in the DAY 1 first welcoming post.
    Something like in this thread the rule is that we post all covid-related, x, y and z type posts in spoilers.

    That way it's clear for all!
    What do you think?
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,641 Member
    spikeyhair wrote: »
    I have stuck at my marriage (55 years on Friday) so not all bad

    Kate UK ❤️

    Happy Anniversary!

  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited June 2020
    @beth and @Terri that looks very tongue and cheek putting only the word
    COVID
    in a spoiler as part of a sentence! I agree, with those of you who wrote that people are very good at scrolling past.

    I teach students about "how to skim an article". Internet is skimming territory par excellence.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I am a(n)
    friend
    artist
    teacher
    sister
    activist
    city-dweller
    nature-lover
    walking-lover
    sometimes meditater
    plant waterer
    sketcher
    tea-drinker
    sometimes writer


  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,641 Member
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    Contextual identity: I could easily have doubled my list, but was conscious of the ‘....in a few words.’ 😂 (No false modesty in my makeup!!! 😂)
    I think most of us don’t give ourselves credit for all our diverse abilities. It’s good for us to stop and focus on all the things we do without realising how awesome we actually are.

    Keep on being your wonderful self!!!

    Nicely put and definitely something to think about! :) I wonder how many things I could actually list.

    I'm enjoying these long lists. :heart:


    M in Oz
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,082 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    Contextual identity: I could easily have doubled my list, but was conscious of the ‘....in a few words.’ 😂 (No false modesty in my makeup!!! 😂)
    I think most of us don’t give ourselves credit for all our diverse abilities. It’s good for us to stop and focus on all the things we do without realising how awesome we actually are.

    Keep on being your wonderful self!!!

    Nicely put and definitely something to think about! :)I wonder how many things I could actually list.

    I'm enjoying these long lists. :heart:


    M in Oz

    I would imagine that, for most of us, once we started, the list would just keep growing! 😂
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,641 Member
    edited June 2020
    Tuesday - Cold, rainy, windy day. Nice to be at home and not out waiting for a bus.
    • Zoom meeting with my husband's brain injury peer group.
    • Work.
    • Brisk walk on the treadmill with Zwift.
    • And now ... grocery shopping from the comfort of my chair and whatever's next on my list.

    The Zoom meeting was interesting because they arranged to have a nutritionist talk about nutrition for the brain.

    Brisk Walk:
    Distance: 6.36km
    Moving Time: 1:09:38
    Elapsed Time: 1:10:33
    Pace: 10:57/km
    Calories: 214

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    Not sure if I'm working on a kidney stone or two these days. Almost feels like it ...

    Machka in Oz

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    2020 Goals

    It is difficult to make goals because I'm not sure what's going to happen one day to the next. I plan, God laughs ... or something like that. The last couple years have been a lesson in patience and flexibility and giving up a lot of what I would like to do in the interests of what needs to be done.

    However, I do have some goals I'd like to accomplish, if possible ...

    How to Set SMART Goals for 2020
    SMART is an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely.
    https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/smart-goal-setting

    Interestingly, he talks about 7 significant areas ...

    Financial Goals: Start saving for retirement, get out of debt, or use a monthly zero-based budget.
    Spiritual Goals: Pick up a new devotional, start a daily journal, or plug in to a group at your church.
    Fitness Goals: Hit the gym more often, take the stairs, and remember to eat your veggies.
    Educational Goals: Go back to finish your degree, get your MBA, or read a good book every month.
    Family Goals: Plan one-on-one dates with your kids, have a standing date night with your spouse, or make it a point to call your mom and dad on Sunday nights.
    Career Goals: Work toward a promotion or raise, learn something new about your line of work, or polish up and send out resumés if you’re looking for a new career path.
    Social Goals: Say yes when someone invites you out to lunch or a social gathering—or, for some of us, say no more often.

    I've modified this slightly ...

    Organisation/Financial Goals -- Getting our taxes done and other paperwork in order.

    Spiritual Goals -- I'd like to start attending church a bit more regularly. I'll also include relaxation and recreation in here. Down time. I get very little of that at the moment and need more. For me that might be sleep and photography. :)

    Fitness Goals -- Exercise, Eating, Sleeping -- Working up to running 5 km at least a couple times a month. Working up to cycling 50 km at least once a month.

    Educational Goals -- Uni! I would like to finish my Master's degree in 2020.

    Family/Medical Goals -- Husband -- Never-ending stream of medical appointments + projects with 2 or 3 different organisations. And me! A goal is to get me into healthy shape again!

    Career Goals -- One of the main things my area is planning to work on is streamlining the processes a bit. Meanwhile I need to learn a lot more SQL and as much about what 2 different people I work/worked with did. I'm also on the board of two organisations now. Both interest me a lot, but I'm also hoping that taking on leadership roles might help advance my career a little.

    Social Goals -- Cycling Club. I've made a detailed list of what I need to do, which helps.
    -- My Personal Website -- I have started working on this. I'd post it here, but not sure if I can: machka . net This has a social aspect in that we go to Wordpress meetings now and then.



    'Organisation/Financial Goals -- Getting our taxes done and other paperwork in order.'

    "My Love List" ... about getting affairs in order ...
    http://ssandifer.com/MyLoveList2015.pdf

    Also, from a USA perspective: https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/getting-your-affairs-order

    And from an Australian perspective: https://www.agedcare101.com.au/aged-care/get-set/“putting-your-affairs-order” and https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/life-events/money-musts-before-you-die and https://yourlifeassist.com.au/information-assistance/put-your-affairs-in-order/

    Just a little bit of background ... in March 2018 I was suddenly thrown into the position of not knowing if my husband was going to live or die when he had a workplace accident which resulted in a severe traumatic brain injury, and if he lived, not knowing whether he'd ever return to a place where he could recognise what was going on around him and be able to talk, make decisions, etc.

    When I was with my first husband, I handled everything ... but I didn't mind a bit when my current husband handled everything. It was a break for me. Until all of a sudden I didn't know what bills needed to be paid, or how to pay them ... and I discovered I didn't have access to all the accounts ... and that if he died without a will, I could potentially lose half of our money to his previous family ...

    I spent weeks digging through files on his computers and paper files, and going to banks, and ringing banks etc. etc. trying to put it all together.

    I kept thinking ... "they never mention this on TV murder mystery shows when someone dies. Usually the surviving family appears mildly upset and then seems to carry on with their lives. They don't show the surviving wife weeping over a file box because she can't find information and is coming close to having the power turned off or losing the house because the rent isn't paid."

    So, now that my husband can participate again (not 100% but better than expected), we are working on getting things in order. And I worry about what would happen to him if I passed away.

    Make things easier on yourselves by ...

    -- making sure all affairs are in order. 2 names on all accounts, enduring power of attorney, bills, wills, taxes, paperwork, whatever it takes.

    -- making sure you're fit and healthy. Being fit and healthy improves the odds. Also could you actually support and lower your partner to the ground, should he/she collapse? Do you know first aid?

    -- making sure your house well set up. Are there stairs? Tight corners? Difficult showers?

    -- having a look at options around you. What would you do for groceries? What if you couldn't drive? If you have never used public transportation, try it now while you're still able. What about things like doctor's offices? Hospitals? All the stuff you use? Is it scattered around and difficult to get to or quite convenient?

    --making sure you've got resources. Do you have people who can offer assistance? Knowledge of who to call if you've got problems with the house? Do you know about services in your area which can help?

    Also some tips to spring clean your computer!

    https://www.staysmartonline.gov.au/news/time-freshen-your-online-life

    With bushfire season right around the corner, Red Cross has their Preparing for emergencies site:

    https://www.redcross.org.au/prepare
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,669 Member
    Good morning!

    Pip - I wonder if that swarm will move on their own or is that a hollow tree of some type where they can set up housekeeping. What a thrill! Better than the bald faced hornets we have gotten here in past years that make the huge paper nests. I haven't seen any this year - they can be fierce to people but are so good in keeping other nasty insects at bay, so we normally just leave them alone unless they are too close for comfort.

    SuziQ - OK, now I have to put Florida on my bucket list to get a feel for your growing season. Our tomatoes around here might be coming on by July if we get a good run of warmer weather. I bought a bunch of celery a month or so ago, intending to use some and then plant the cut end like Rita does. Well, that little bugger decided to hide in my crisper so when I ran across him, too late.

    That reminds me, one of the nurseries in town has lemongrass plants - need to pick one up.

    Do any of you remember the book "Following Atticus" by Tom Ryan that we talked about in this group a year or so ago? (Briefly - it's a memoir, Tom gets a little mini schnauzer - Atticus - and they take hikes up to many peaks in New Hampshire. I'm re-reading it.) Tom now has a blog if anyone is interested: Tomryan.substack.com. Atticus has since passed. Tom had many health problems - stroke, heart attack to name a few. So he has new dogs and is back walking and has completely changed his diet to vegan and is regaining his health. I really like his writing style.

    Have a great day! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,641 Member
    LisaInAR wrote: »
    Karma pooped on my head this morning, the immediate reaction after I got snarky about son's excuse for not coming down to help. :) My husband keeps our knives razor sharp, and I sliced off part of the pad on my middle finger, (of course!) while I was cleaning the cleaver. :) I wear gloves with most things I do outside anyway... but it's going to be interesting to see how much it stings when my hands start sweating on the elliptical!

    I may have to name my next cat Karma, and then we'll have Karma and Egg. Don't know why that appeals to me, but it does.

    Years and years ago I cut the pad almost entirely off my left index finger while making a salad. We didn't eat that salad ... and I've still got the scar. My fingerprint definitely changed! It also took ages for the feeling to come back to that part of my finger.

    I hope yours heals quickly.

    Karma and Egg does have a certain ring to it.

    On a completely different topic ... but sort of vaguely related ... here in Tassie one of the bays not too far away is called Eggs and Bacon Bay ... :grin:

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    LisaInAR wrote: »
    Machka - hope it's not a kidney stone.

    Me too. About a decade ago I had one large one surgically removed and I've had several small ones since. But I've been having flank pain, particularly on the left side.

    LisaInAR wrote: »
    So the question is out there for everyone that wants to answer... in terms of housework and domestic work in general, what's the one appliance you just can't live without?

    The dishwasher, I think. I didn't get my first dishwasher until 2013. We had just returned from our round the world trip and were house sitting for my supervisor ... and she had a dishwasher. I hadn't realised till then how wonderful they were! We don't use enough dishes to run ours every day ... probably every other day. But it's great to just load the thing and the kitchen looks clean. :)

    I would also have to say vacuum is very important now as we currently have w-w carpeting throughout most of this house. Ideally, I'd have hardwood and the vacuum would be less important.

    I have a washer which is pretty important too, however if it came to it I could use a laundromat. But I don't have a dryer ... I've hung my clothes for years.

    A self-cleaning shower would be nice. :)


    Machka in Oz
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,296 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    Good morning!

    Pip - I wonder if that swarm will move on their own or is that a hollow tree of some type where they can set up housekeeping. What a thrill! Better than the bald faced hornets we have gotten here in past years that make the huge paper nests. I haven't seen any this year - they can be fierce to people but are so good in keeping other nasty insects at bay, so we normally just leave them alone unless they are too close for comfort.



    Have a great day! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State

    they are not in a hollow tree. i can't leave them alone, we're selling the house, gotta have them relocated
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,217 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »

    Do any of you remember the book "Following Atticus" by Tom Ryan that we talked about in this group a year or so ago? (Briefly - it's a memoir, Tom gets a little mini schnauzer - Atticus - and they take hikes up to many peaks in New Hampshire. I'm re-reading it.) Tom now has a blog if anyone is interested: Tomryan.substack.com. Atticus has since passed. Tom had many health problems - stroke, heart attack to name a few. So he has new dogs and is back walking and has completely changed his diet to vegan and is regaining his health. I really like his writing style.

    Have a great day! <3

    Lanette
    SW WA State

    :) Thanks for the update and reminder. I loved that book. I'll go look for his blog.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,641 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :) On another subject, I read a great anecdote about a woman who hired someone to do her housework so she could go to the gym, then drove to the gym where she had her car valet parked.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA

    I'd hire someone to do the housework so that I could do more cycling. :)
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Kate UK: Happy 55th Anniversary! :heart: We had our 50th Anniversary in March this year. We had Thai food for our anniversary dinner. We had many plans for a family celebration that were prevented by the Covid 19 epidemic. We’ll celebrate later. :ohwell:

    SuziQ: I am not a raccoon fan. This winter a very thin and sick looking raccoon tried to get into our complex and was stopped by a gate, thank goodness. I called the sheriff’s office to get the animal removed. I suspect it was rabid. A few years ago we had a raccoon invasion under our house. It was horrible. They tore apart our furnace vents and insulation. We had to have all of the insulation replaced and all of the raccoon poop removed. It was winter time and we had no heat other than our fireplace and an electric fake woodstove in our bedroom. It seems I’m still holding a grudge. :grumble: :ohwell:

    Machka: We’ve had Zoom chats with our daughter and her family. What a blessing!!! It is a great idea for your DH’s brain injury peer group. :star:


    Grocery stores have been open here all along, but shops are just getting there. I found out that my gym is now open again. The classes I care about are yoga classes. They’ll be offered on Monday evenings and Friday mornings. We used to have yoga three days a week plus an evening. Perhaps it will get back to that eventually. I am grateful that I’ll get the chance to go twice a week. :star:

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Hello newcomers join on in !co3o24haze38.png
    Finally budged my calories a little more 1lb away from the big 60lb loss!

    Yesterday went over by 500calorie to budge it today got to watch my budget stay in my 1200cal limit to hold on to it!

    Yesterday McDonald’s chicken type burger 🍔 but was fried with fries 🍟 medium amount.Diet Pepsi y Crystal light teas. Pizza 🍕. A popsicle brand sugarfree fudge pop 40cal. Think some lays potato chip dust broken pieces at the bottom of a bag with a spoon 🥄. My usual heavy exercising even ran in the heat outside playing soccer ⚽️ with JR to walked 3miles to sit-ups etc etc even house work 🧹 🧽 🧺 .

    Today
    Corn 🌽 on cob 1/2 drizzled not smothered in garlic butter.
    Soup a low cal recipe:
    ( carrots 🥕,onion,tomatoes,green beans,chicken stock ,y 2 cans of great value chicken y dumplings 🥟 160cal one makes 6servings)
    2 slices pizza 🍕
    Diet Coke y crystal light tea
    Lettuce with fried onion on top Walden dressing
    40cal popsicle brand Sugarfree fudge pop
    Heavy exercising

    Unless something changes that’s the plan but hubby comes home more with the virus he may walk in with dinner never know it gots us all messed up (who knows when he does this found out JRs asking him when mommy out of earshot/or Daddy using JR as a diet escape goat 🐐 so blaming the “Emilio’s “ in the house 🏡). A 3yr old can change your diet plans he may want my pizza 🍕 I’ll have to pick everything off but the cheese 🧀 give it to him. Will see

    Bought my Dad 2 $3 books off eBay sending to his house from a older bookstore online . Supporting a small town book shop in other words. Owner says they stock the books 📚 in a back area in boxes marked eBay so they don’t accidentally sell them. Usually books they have no way to display with the virus even harder to get customers in their store. I bought 2 books from them for JR last week.

    Hubby I got to remember to find a picture for his Father’s Day picture frame I already gave him early.

    Amber Tx

    Hard to describe myself I’m a lot rolled up into one.

    Wife
    Mom y Mom Role (Since age 15yrs old )
    Daughter
    Aunt Amber (the Adoptive mom role)
    Ex Stepmom
    Caregiver
    Poet y Artist
    Hard worker
    Homeless to home owner (linger the life the more you experienced)
    Cook to maid
    Leader to follower
    Teacher 👩‍🏫 to mentor
    Maintenance to bug exterminator-Right now helping Daughter y her leader figure out what bugs 🐜 is on their ship ant looking big butts 2dots body not 3 ,super small. Searching the web until we match a pic.
    Lots more as women were Always adding more roles or letting one go.
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,342 Member
    I forgot to add animal lover! I felt guilty about not adding that after looking at my 2 pups sleeping around me! ( raccoons are cute as long as they aren’t emptying the park trash cans or digging up my plants!)

    >:)

    RV Rita
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  • evie1958
    evie1958 Posts: 864 Member
    So, I came on here earlier today as it is official wi day, read all the posts to get caught up and totally forgot to log my weight! lol I am down .4 of a pound. Not great, but I will take it. I was getting all kinds of crazy numbers, finally decided to put a fresh battery in the scale and came up with the same number 3 times in a row, so guess I have to accept that that's the right number!
    Barbie, thank you for the comments about what is and isn't acceptable (rant about teenagers next door turning into rant about teens in general) I totally agree. It's should be fine to talk about a particular thing that happened to you or yours, but not fair to lump all people of a certain kind into one large group. After all, there are idiots of all races, creeds, colors and ages! lol
    I also have to agree with the post that stated that putting something in a spoiler made it more interesting! I too am curious about what's hidden! lol
    I have gone for a walk this morning already, felt good! It's a walk that hubby and I have done numerous times, usually takes us and hour. Today, only took me 42 min. Apparently I walk faster than hubby! I already knew that, he's asked me to slow down a few times, his heart just isn't up to the same speed that mine is. These days he's doing more on his exercise bike downstairs, he goes at a slower pace, but will ride for a couple of hours while watching tv. He's hooked his computer up to the tv and has Amazon Prime so will find something on there and away he goes.
    Anyway, must go for now, have to leave for my volunteer thing soon! Hope everyone has a great day!
    Evelyn, Vancouver Island
  • evie1958
    evie1958 Posts: 864 Member
    Rita, cute little trash panda!
    Evelyn
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Katla is a:

    wife
    mother
    grandmother
    mother in law
    volunteer for the city & horse group
    friend
    neighbor
    yoga student
    gardener
    dog lover
    bird watcher

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