WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2020

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Evening ladies
    Yes i went in with an open mind.. the view is spectacular, but like i said to much rhat i would want done and dont want to spend anymore than i need to.
    Yes I am paid out if trust,and what i do is give them the amount the check is in cash and have them deposit the cash and i then cash the check and stick it in an envelope ,for emergencies ... like Barbie and now Heather I lost a dear friend in Florida..her birthday was the 26th ended up in ICU and passed last night..Tom and I used to hang out in the pool with her and a few others and i used to go to bingo and hang out with her.. she will be missed dearly...
    I am settled with my decision to stay here,its ok and im not upset or angry it just wasnt the right thing for me at this time...
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    sending hugs to all who have lost friends, it is always sad.

    Kim
  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend Allie.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Ooooo
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,535 Member
    Rode the recumbent bike. The plan for tomorrow is to do a body pump video

    Cut up the cake for bowling tomorrow and it’s now back in the freezer. Now I know that it’s so heavy that I should take it out of the freezer at least 2 hours before bowling.

    Looks like it’s going to be a nice day so I’ll probably go in the pool later Update: did go in, it started to rain but now the sun is out

    KJ – I kept my starter in a glass jar first on top of my refrigerator then in my pantry. Nothing. I can’t help wondering if that recipe had too high a hydration. Evidently, it was a 1-1-2 so now I’m trying a 1-1-1. This recipe has the exact amount of starter, flour, and water to add. I’m trying just keeping a paper towel over it. I have to admit, I’m patient but I was getting frustrated. I even tried proofing it yesterday, nothing. I have a proof setting on my oven so I used that, but still absolutely nothing. How old is the oldest kiddo in your daycare?

    They were calling for heavy rain yesterday. Since it didn’t happen, I thought it might happen today. Sun is out. Where is this rain?

    Dr Katie
    – happy anniversary

    Pete is supposed to go to the MD Tuesday. I do hope we are able to go to DE Labor Day weekend. Otherwise, we might not see PJ until next May. That’ll be 2 years since we’ve seen him.

    SuziQ
    – I can’t remember the name of the show, but do you remember a TV show where they had kids doing jail time for computer issues working for the CIA and hacking criminals computers? I thought it was very interesting.

    Rita
    – I never thought of a cell phone holder! Wonder if the one I have that I was about to give away will work? See, I just want to make my starter with flour and water – as natural as possible.

    Allie
    – I think you made the right decision. It does seem like there’s a lot of work (translation: expense) at this place. Might be good for a starter home, but you don’t need a starter home. Sorry to hear about your friend

    Heather
    – so sorry about your friend

    When I’m wearing my mask for extended periods of time (like when I’m at Food Lion), I find that I need something to “wet my whistle” so I’ve started keeping some of these soft mints with me. I’ll go in the break room and pop one in my mouth

    Beth
    – I’ve watched so many uTube videos about sourdough it isn’t even funny. Some tell you never to use metal, others use a metal dish. Go figure! Sorry about your temp. crown falling off. Does the tooth hurt?


    Off to take a shower.

    Michele NC
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,062 Member
    Heather: Sorry to hear about your friend. Life is tenuous.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,062 Member
    Allie: And also your friend Allie. That place wasn’t for you, but something will turn up.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    edited August 2020
    Ugh - rant coming
    So my brother lost his phone...so no way to contact him...and my SIL just told me that my nephew ,my brother and her are going to the lake house next weekend where i am not invited..
    Im supposed to go up to the beach house and twiddle my thumbs,i was going up to spend time with my family and they wont be there and Jean made sure of it.. she is quite the manipulator.
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    Look at those legs! I just want to snuggle her up.💖
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,957 Member
    Margaret - I’m so terribly sorry your Brother is causing you to hurt at a time you don’t need it.
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,827 Member
    {{{Margaret}}}

    Michele ... yes, the tooth is very sensitive... but my appointment will soon be here

    Allie ... sorry to hear of your friend’s passing...

    Beth ...who ate too many soft peanut butter cookies today
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    margaret - ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) some times people are so self centered they are clueless/mean and don't understand. That is never an excuse.

    Kim in N. Cal
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    :)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
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  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,616 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: livestreamed church, zoom klatch with Barb
    Bonus: dug up naked lady bulbs, transplanted species fuschia
    Get to do: BB&B, take pics of car, Pilot tech support 5034447924 to link subscription and fix login, mulch area around fuschia, measure potential greenhouse space and distance to outlet, make experimental almond paste, declutter sideboard, practice new dances (Turning Tables, Nothing but You, Shake it like that, Larger than Life, Here I Go Again/Mama Mia, Real Deal, Get it Right); make garlic almonds for Barb and Dan; prep potato area and raised beds for beets, carrots, parsley root, parsnips, radishes and sow; finish weeding drive, continue weeding flower bed, mulch flowerbed; Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine. Reward: inventory seeds, plan fall cool season garden, order replenishments.
    Altruistic August
    30: do something kind to nature or planet: Recycling Wednesday
    31: share action for happiness with Barb

    Faye “too cold for too long” exactly! Southern Oregon coast’s weather is ideal for us, but the 3+ hour drive inland for medical services… not so much ;{ Does your post mean today is your 70th birthday? If so, felicitations!
    SuziQ Outdoor orchids :love:
    Allie I’m relieved you decided to stay. Thought the lack of yard for Alfie would be a problem in the winter. Please please listen to Lanette and Okie’s advice. Now might be the time to start having self-employment and income tax withheld to avoid trouble later. Don't give Jean another chance to hurt you.
    Rita :love: that poncho. Wow!
    Katla did you ever read any of the Comte St. Germain vampire novels by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro?
    Heather In the midst of life, shocking reminder. ((hugs))
    Kay con VERY gratulations on 49th anniversary. Well done!
    Lisa “Pop ‘em” :lol:
    Rebecca what Happy Birthday news for your Chief! is Athena modeling her French period? She looks so baby Bardot!
    Tracey what are “puck lights”? “ ISO . . . personal trainer” :lol:
    Welcome @amymh41, hope to see you next month.
    Lanette “…had some news about the ole workplace .... I am super glad to be retired.” Amen, sister AMEN!
    Pip Yogi’s pup treats look yummy to me! Hope that isn’t a raisin I see tho’, they can be toxic to our dogs.
    Margaret my heart goes out to you. Brava for your simple, truthful “No. Now is not a good time to come.” Perhaps in the spring when your wounds have scarred over a bit, you can have a calm, honest conversation with him about how he hurt you. . . if he’ll listen. ((hugs))

    Meant to just clear away dead naked lady foliage, ended up digging up the bulbs. They’ve never bloomed, perhaps because they were totally shaded by a rhodie? Before I start digging holes elswere to transplant, can anyone tell me what light and/or amendments they need in order to bloom? Did get the species fuschia I bought TWO years ago into the ground at last. Pics tomorrow.

    Lighter, lovelies!

    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    August: better than July.
    daily: steps>5491=3695 vits=29.5 log=30 CI<CO=20 CI<250<CO=10 Tumble & Shadow 5=19 mfp=22 outside=15 up hill=8
    wkly: T’ai Chi or BB&B x3=4 rx=4 dance=1.25 clean 30 mins=13-2/3
    mnthly: board mtg=1 grant=5 20for20=
    bonus: AF=19 play= sew=
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Allie: I think you’ve made some good choices. I’m sorry about the loss of your friend in Florida. :flowerforyou:

    (((Margaret))): I think going to your son’s church with donations was exceptional. You are an admirable woman. :heart: I agree with Snowflake. I am sorry that your brother is causing you to hurt. :heart:


    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    edited August 2020
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,062 Member
    edited August 2020
    Top o' the morning to y'all. The storms have passed through and we are having a few settled days. Life has acquired a new rhythm and currently, all is well in my life. The day is full of opportunities.

    Margaret: (((hugs))) What a lovely way to honour your son's memory with your close family. So sorry that your brother is being insensitive. I have zero expectations of my brother and he seldom disappoints me. SnL rules the roost, and he is welcome to her. We exchange Christmas cards. I send him birthday greetings but nadah from him.
    Rebecca: 😍Athena!
    Rita: 💖 The poncho. Colours are fab!

    I celebrate your achievements 🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊
    (((Hugs))) to those who are in pain or feeling sorrow 💕💖💕

    Thank you for allowing me to share a small part of your lives. I appreciate it immensely.
    Looking forward to sharing September with you.

    ☘️ Terri
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  • Workoutahloic50
    Workoutahloic50 Posts: 391 Member
    👋👋
    Debby in Va
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Morning ladies
    I am up dressed and having my tea..
    Sean and Shane need to have a discussion and i messaged my SIL and said yes Shane told me whats going on ,but i wanted to spend time with family this weekend. And she hasnt gotten back to me yet...she is going to ignore my question..taking care of Faith today so i will see Jean when she gets home..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    edited August 2020
    Morning ladies
    I am up dressed and having my tea..
    Sean and Shane need to have a discussion and i messaged my SIL and said yes Shane told me whats going on ,but i wanted to spend time with family this weekend. And she hasnt gotten back to me yet...she is going to ignore my question..taking care of Faith today so i will see Jean when she gets home..

    Aren't there restrictions on being with people where you are? Especially if you're a carer of an elderly person.

    https://portal.ct.gov/-/media/Coronavirus/Fact-Sheets/COVID19-High-Risk-Fact-Sheet.pdf

    https://portal.ct.gov/Coronavirus/Pages/Public-Health-Resources/Healthcare-Professionals
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    edited August 2020
    Allie - you seem peaceful about your decision, which makes me glad, and I'm so sorry about your friend.

    Margaret - I'm so sorry your brother is being clueless and awful. Like Terri, I expect nothing of any of my living brothers, and that's pretty much what I get. I'm glad you were able to honor your son's birthday, and donations to his church are a wonderful thing, as well.

    Machka - loved your meme - the one I read this morning said, "It’s 2020 and we’re all likely in a computer simulation run by a sadistic toddler."

    Carol - the fact that you put the mask back on your nose when you see people is much more than most of these people that I'm talking about do. Perhaps one of the mask inserts that someone was talking about yesterday, to keep them off your nose and mouth, would help? My husband's nose completely plugs the moment he puts on a mask as well, including the paper masks.



    Thunder bumbling outside and the rain just set in - supposed to rain for another four hours. Don't think I'll be working outside today unless I want to slop around in the mud.

    Goals accomplishment for August.
    My goals for August were:
    👍Survive without getting cooties.
    So far so good!
    👍Stay within budget.
    Moved to a monthly budget for August, and went $8 over. Pretty pleased with that performance.
    👍Be lighter going out than I am going in.
    On August 1, I was at 208, August 31, I was at 194. Pleased with that.
    Goals for September will be in tomorrow's thread, but basically:

    🚪 Continue to survive the pandemic.
    💲 Stay within budget.
    ⚖ Be lighter going out than I am going in.

    If I don't stop in later (I probably will), I'll see you in the September thread!

    Love,
    Lisa in AR
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Machka- i take care of Jeans mom,and Jean has taken every weekend this whole summer to go up north to either the beach house or lake house.she works in a hospital as a cytotechnologist .and the beach house is big and we do hang out but distance ourselves..
    Labor day weekend was big back in the day as it was my grandmother and my brothers birthday and we used to have big family parties,this would only be my nephew and his girlfriend,my brother Jean and maybe Shanes 1/2 brother
    I would like an answer from Jean why she knows i want to spend time with family and she rips that out from under me ,because she can.. just sad...
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    edited August 2020
    Barbara Not my birthday until Nov. After I turned 69 I have said I am on my 70th trip around the sun. It is confusing like the year 1999 was in the 20th century and the year 2000 is in the 21st century. Yes, the long drive is what discouraged me a few years ago and also no friends there and I only drive on back roads and low traffic areas.

    Margaret I never had a brother but my best friend had to cut off relations with both her brothers for the same kind of actions as you speak. I don't understand how siblings can treat each other with disrespect.

    PIP Love the photo!

    M in Oz That is about it for 2020. A wrongs B so C burns down D's house. E lives in fear wondering what the F is next.

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    I only have one brother,and no other siblings
    Jean had one brother that passed away leaving 2 very young children,the other is real bad news to smart for his own good and has used and abused the family to where they have a restraining order against him..
    Jean is the oldest as am I, but I dont treat people the way she does thats for sure..
    Im over at Toms getting Homer to take up with me..he basically just chills out and sleeps while he is up there.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    Review ... (Distances include cycling + walking + a bit of rowing)
    Mar-15 … 489.8 km (304.3 miles) = 38 hours 4 min
    Apr-15 … 491.94 km (305.6 miles) = 43 hours 6 min
    May-15 … 361.81 km (224.8 miles) = 35 hours 50 min
    Jun-15 … 569.53 km (353.9 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
    Jul-15 … 230.7 km (143.35 miles) = 32 hours 45 min
    Aug-15 … 211.3 km (131.3 miles) = 28 hours 8 min
    Sep-15 … 306.7 km (190.6 miles) = 35 hour 2 min
    Oct-15 … 441.82 km (274.5 miles) = 47 hours 43 min
    Nov-15 … 660.21 km (410.23 miles) = 60 hours 41 min
    Dec-15 … 499.91 km (282.8 miles) = 54 hours 56 min
    Jan-16 … 864.79 km (537.35 miles) = 65 hours 36 min
    Feb-16 … 470.53 km (292.4 miles) = 40 hours 39 min
    Mar-16 … 917.73 km (570.2 miles) = 66 hours 13 min
    Apr-16 … 417.83 km (259.6 miles) = 40 hours 23 min
    May-16 … 267.09 km (165.9 miles) = 36 hours 10 min
    Jun-16 … 552.1 km (343 miles) = 54 hours 48 min
    Jul-16 … 709 km (440.5 miles) = 60 hours 41 minutes
    Aug-16 … 775.9 km (482.1 miles) = 54 hours 52 minutes
    Sep-16 … 371.3 km (230.7 miles) = 32 hours 20 min
    Oct-16 … 649 km (403.3 miles) = 49 hours 46 min
    Nov-16 … 403 km (250.4 miles) = 52 hours 16 min
    Dec-16 … 511.05 km (317.55 miles) = 52 hours 2 min
    Jan-17 … 741.9 km (461.0 miles) = 70 hours 3 min
    Feb-17 … 600.5 km (373.1 miles) = 57 hours 30 min
    Mar-17 … 1113.2 km (691.7 miles) = 78 hours 25 min
    Apr-17 … 1181.9 km (734.4 miles) = 76 hours 45 min
    May-17 … 426.6 km (265.1 miles) = 39 hours 21 min
    Jun-17 … 575.7 km (357.7 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
    Jul-17 … 714 km (443.7 miles) = 52 hours 23 min
    Aug-17 … 475.8 km (295.6 miles) = 38 hours 41 min
    Sep-17 … 455.5 km (283 miles) = 41 hours 25 min
    Oct-17 … 647.1 km (402.1 miles) = 57 hours 19 min
    Nov-17 … 427.0 km (265.3 miles) = 50 hours 4 min
    Dec-17 … 553.5 km (343.9 miles) = 52 hours 12 min
    Jan-18 … 590.2 km (366.7 miles) = 57 hours 49 min
    Feb-18 … 826.9 km (513.8 miles) = 57 hours 35 min
    Mar-18 … 582.01 km (361.6 miles) = 50 hours 11 min
    Apr-18 … 176.23 km (109.5 miles) = 29 hours 47 min
    May -18 … 167.6 km (104.1 miles) = 29 hours 08 min
    June-18 … 349.9 km (217.4 miles) = 36 hours 58 minutes
    July-18 ... 324.2 km (201.5 miles) = 24 hours 26 minutes
    Aug-18 ... 210.1 km (130.6 miles) = 25 hours 59 minutes
    Sep-18 ... 261.7 km (162.6 miles) = 25 hours 11 minutes
    Oct-18 ... 230.8 km (143.4 miles) = 30 hours 15 minutes
    Nov-18 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 30 hours 3 minutes
    Dec-18 ... 285.2 km (177.2 miles) = 37 hours 49 minutes
    Jan-19 ... 241.6 km (150.1 miles) = 27 hours 2 minutes
    Feb-19 ... 175.5 km (109 miles) = 19 hours 8 minutes
    Mar-19 ... 170.3 km (105.8 miles) = 28 hours 21 minutes
    Apr-19 ... 160.3 km (99.6 miles) = 25 hours 4 minutes
    May-19 ... 164.0 km (101.9 miles) = 29 hours 10 minutes
    Jun-19 ... 246.2 km (153 miles) = 25 hours 40 minutes
    Jul-19 ... 217.3 km (135.0 miles) = 33 hours 45 minutes
    Aug-19 ... 162.5 km (100.9 miles) = 28 hours 4 minutes
    Sep-19 ... 136.0 km (84.5 miles) = 23 hours 10 minutes
    Oct-19 ... 196.5 km (122.1 miles) = 31 hours 27 minutes
    Nov-19 ... 155.5 km (96.6 miles) = 25 hours 01 minutes
    Dec-19 ... 203.7 km (126.6 miles) = 26 hours 54 minutes
    Jan-20 ... 304.4 km (189.2 miles) = 32 hours 49 minutes
    Feb-20 ... 248.6 km (154.5 miles) = 34 hours 50 minutes
    Mar-20 ... 148.3 km (92.2 miles) = 30 hours 12 minutes
    Apr-20 ... 171.9 km (106.8 miles) = 19 hours 28 minutes
    May-20 ... 183.7 km (114.1 miles) = 20 hours 49 minutes
    Jun-20 ... 130.9 km (81.3 miles) = 18 hours 50 minutes
    Jul-20 ... 41.8 km (26 miles) = 9 hours 8 minutes
    Saturday, 1 August 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 8.3 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Sunday, 2 August 2020 … 5.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Monday, 3 August 2020 … 3.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 4 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 5 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 5 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 6 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Friday, 7 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs

    Saturday, 8 August 2020 … 4.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Sunday, 9 August 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 12.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Monday, 10 August 2020 … 4.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 11 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 12 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 13 August 2020 … 2.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Friday, 14 August 2020 … 0.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs

    Saturday, 15 August 2020 … 1.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Sunday, 16 August 2020 … 5.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.8 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Monday, 17 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 18 August 2020 … 5.9 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 19 August 2020 … 6.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 20 August 2020 … 2.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Friday, 21 August 2020 … 5.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Saturday, 22 August 2020 … 6.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs

    Sunday, 23 August 2020 … 1.5 km walking + 14.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Monday, 24 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 25 August 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 5 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 26 August 2020 … 3.5 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 27 August 2020 … 2.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 2 flights of stairs
    Friday, 28 August 2020 … 3.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Saturday, 29 August 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 15.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs

    Sunday, 30 August 2020 … 1.5 km walking + 14.2 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Monday, 31 August 2020 … 3.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs

    2020 Monthly August
    Walking Distance (km): 84.6
    Walking Time (min): 994.8
    Cycling Distance (km): 63.5
    Cycling Time (min): 238.0
    Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 82.0
    Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 65.6
    Rowing Distance (km): 0.8
    Rowing Time (min): 5.3

    Totals
    Total Distance (km): 148.9
    Total Distance (miles): 92.5
    Total Time (min): 1303.7
    Total Time (hr): 21:43:39


    Much better than last month!!
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Allie - Sorry, I missed something. Are you banned from going to the house where the rest of the family will be? Why aren’t you going to be with family for Labor Day weekend if it’s safe and that’s what you want to do?

    Margaret - I have 2 brothers, and like other women here, I have no expectations of them. If one of them wanted to visit when he wasn’t welcome, I would make it a very clear “no", because neither of them would get it if I hinted.

    Karen in Virginia

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  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,263 Member
    Karen I agree I also sent message to his wife I think she might get it. If not I will move on and fill my life with those who are more sensitive.