WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2020
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Machka - loved your imaging into the meditation!
Debbie - with a very furry dog, my place could use a vacuum everyday, if DH wants to come here to vacuum I'm fine with that!
Kim in N. California0 -
Been really busy here! Had opening day at the park October 1, which went well. But getting back into the work habit is difficult after 7 months closed!
We had to bring our Wicket (Shi-Tuz) to get on Monday. She became very lethargic and her eyes were all yucky. She wouldn’t eat or drink either. Turns out is was just allergies and a tooth infection. The vet gave us meds for allergies and an anti inflammatory for the tooth, which will be pulled next Wednesday.
Been walking 10,000 steps and over every day for the last 9 days in a row! That is amazing for me! I feel good bow that my body has adjusted to the walking!
Here is a pic of me in my park gear!
RV Rita
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dlfk202000 wrote: »cityjaneLondon wrote: »I have to ask, why do you stay with these men? I would say to them, "Shape up, or ship out!"
I am baffled. Why would you let anyone else dictate what happens in your personal space?
We, DH and me, are not perfect, but we respect each other's privacy and choices. No one overrides my space. Especially audible.
It's so easy these days to each have your own audible space with headphones etc. If they are annoying you, say so. Why would you let anyone take away your liberty?
Truly baffled, but said in love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
For me, I stay because I don't want to start over AGAIN- too old to do that so I put up with it. I was very close to leaving 5 yrs ago when hubby #1 came back into my life but before I was totally sure that is what I wanted he decided he didn't want to split up my marriage so went online and met/got engaged and married someone else-still loves me but thought that was the best. We love each other and are best friends- just can't be together
Things could be a lot worse. I don't have to worry about financial issues, I know he won't physically hurt me(both were issues with #1 before he got some help). I have told #2 that I can't sleep with his tv so loud, close the door but it doesn't change.
I plan on spending a lot more time away, up at my parents soon. I want to totally retire. He wants me to keep doing the daycare for the writeoffs- I don't think it is enough to make it worth working- with one kid- she is my last one and starts school in less than a year. My parents need help on their farm and I need to be up there for me.
Debbie
Just me, but I would prefer to be alone than with someone who seems to have zero respect for me and/or takes me for granted. I do understand why some stay. I just wouldn't.
Tina in CA5 -
Katla, yes my middle son, wife and Athena live in Vancouver WA. There are so many factors for this to happen it will make your head spin!😁. There's daughter in-laws job in the medical field. Nursing assistant I believe, and both her and him work at Home Depot. Both attend college mostly online. There's eldest son wishes to stay on Whidbey, but his idea of wanting to fix scooters to me doesn't seem practical. He wants to go to college too for small engine repair. Then there's youngest son. I don't know when he would be in the mix. I know husband is frustrated with the transplant doctors up here. After his August 28th yearly doctors visit, we got a call that he needed his regular liver biopsy done in November. They said his numbers were up. But the fact that his numbers are better than last year, and they never told him he needed a biopsy then, has us questioning their service. The fact that they never look at his monthly blood work from the Naval clinic says they just don't care much. I know they're focused on the patients that are waiting for a liver transplant. But we do miss OHSU's level of care. I mean they're vested in us.💖. So we were thinking of Long Beach WA, just because its convenient to Oregon. I do miss the sound of the ocean.👍. These musings are a long ways off, but its nice to think of.💖
💖Rebecca
Whidbey
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Machka - loved your imaging into the meditation!
Debbie - with a very furry dog, my place could use a vacuum everyday, if DH wants to come here to vacuum I'm fine with that!
Kim in N. California
we have one large furry dog and seven cats so I understand vacuuming every day but not as often as he does. He has done this even when we had one dog and one or two cats. He can't walk past the vacuum without using it-
I don't mind that he vacuums but would be nice for him to not do it when I get on the phone to my mom.
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Did 30 Minutes to Fitness Plateau Buster DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do Joyce Vidral’s Fat Burning Upper and Lower Body DVD
Kim – So glad for your mother. Thanks for the update on Lisa. Next time you’re talking to her, please tell her that I’m thinking of her and know that she’s getting A LOT of help, not only from Cory but Egg.
Fae – you’re bad (TV remote)
Well, this isn’t really about personal space. But I remember when I went to help MIL because FIL wasn’t doing well, I remember how (to me) she tip-toed around FIL. I swore I would never do that. Unfortunately, I find that more and more I’m doing this. However, I’m more independent. Like this landscaping stuff – I want it done so I got a part time job.
Speaking of the landscaping: the guy came here to plug and seed the front lawn. I don’t know why, but there are these BIG bushes in front of the house and for some reason Vince is very very adamant about not removing them. I asked him why he felt so strongly about it and he said it was the cost. I told him that I’d get the money for it. Even knowing that, he still got upset today when the guy was here, I had to talk to the guy, Vince wants nothing to do with it. To me, these bushes are so overgrown, they’re actually a safety hazard (or at least to me). I wonder if part of it is that Vince tends to like things BIG. Like he had to get an even bigger TV and put the 60” one on the porch. To me, this looks like overkill. But it’s really not something worth disagreeing about. We’re going to have a handrail installed in the front of the house and by the pool. The guys are here now, but they don’t think they’ll finish. That’s OK, as long as it gets done.
Vince loves Ice Road Truckers. I occasionally watch it and find it interesting
Vince is in a-fib right now so I’m not going to leave the house.
Michele NC
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Really enjoyed not cooking tonight. We got a funghi (mushroom) pizza tonight and shared it. I made a dressed green salad. Heaven!
Even I get fed up with cooking every night. This was a real treat. Glass of red wine.
Painter getting on well. The undercoat for the satin is on. Looking good so far.
Had my Zoom with my friends. Reminiscing about old times at school. How lucky we are!
5k run.
Good day.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Katla - understandable about cancelling the chair order. Every couple months I get excited about getting rid of the "dog chairs", then realize that with an old dog here, as long as the chairs are serviceable, better save the $$ and get by. One of these days, DH or I might need a "lift" recliner - so will make the move then and in the meantime, clean these as best I can.
Debbie - I understand your frustration. Perhaps you've mentioned - with your DH's vacuuming zeal, could this be an OCD type condition rather than just being insensitive? Any possibility of counseling? If not for the both of you, then at least you to help deal with the situation?
The gals on this list have helped me save my sanity at times by their illustrations of how they have "flipped" their reaction to things.... instead of "have to", flip it toward "get to", etc. Finding silver linings. Make sure to take care of yourself and get plenty of sleep. Time away helping your folks sounds good.
I think I'm a lot older than you - I'm 69, my DH is 74. It's taken a long time, but we have let go of resentment and hard feelings and try to put each other's needs in the forefront.
With the TV, my DH has ultra sensitive hearing, so he keeps the volume way down. My hearing isn't good, so all I hear is noise and cannot make out conversations, lip-read as best I can. I watch video's on the tablet with my earbuds in and/or close captioned so we can still spend time together. I know that's what several of us in this group do.
It's OK if he doesn't want to watch "my shows" lol. He LOVES Ice Road Trucker and all of those wilderness type programs. I do too.
Michele - keep us posted on Vince! Is he on meds for the a-fib?
Lanette
SW WA State where the fog has finally lifted and the sun is out. Once the tomato vines dry a bit, I'll go on the attack.
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Rebecca Long Beach, Wa is a cool place. I was there for a softball tournament way back when.
Michele "I'm bad"... Hahaha! The remote trick is me being supportive and motivational.
Tina If old age changes brought about disrespect and disregard as I see in some old men, then they would be moving out quick and in a hurry.
Rita Looking good and official in that park outfit. It is tough going back to work after so much time off, but at least you are close to your job. I took a park ranger job out of high school and my first assignment was cleaning the restrooms where someone had thrown poo all over the walls. I quit. That was my shortest job ever. They asked in the interview if I could clean toilets, not poop smeared walls and overflowed (intentionally) toilets. I couldn't believe any human could do such a thing.
Fae in Or.
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My CA plate came in! Now just gotta wait til we get our drivers license then we will be officially CA residents6 -
Lanette: We are still planning on getting new chairs in the future, but not the elaborate ones we were looking at the local store. DH has decided he wants to go to another furniture store to look before we buy. Scan Design is one that comes to my mind. It is located in Beaverton, and we’re still avoiding that place because of Covid 19. Nothing is going to happen in the furniture category until the pandemic eases away and we trust our luck going to an area that currently has more worrisome Covid 19 cases than the situation here.
Tracey: You are lucky to have family nearby. We have an adult niece in the general area but haven't been lucky enough to spend time with her since the Covid 19 epidemic came along. She works in a hospital in another county near Portland. :flowerforyou:
Cheri: Family dynamics can lead to peace or friction. You seem to have found the ideal way to avoid friction and enjoy your lives. WTG!!! :bigsmile:
Faetta: I agree that our firefighter/paramedics are excellent. They have saved DH at least three times within the past few years, including yesterday. On the subject of TV shows, I like to watch Ice Road Truckers because I love to see the problem solving they do to rescue those who are in need.
RVRita: I love the photo of you in your park uniform. Nice mask! :flowerforyou:
Rebecca: Long Beach, WA is certainly closer to your son and grandson in Vancouver. Is OHSU available to people who live out of state? They worked miracles for your DH in the past. I’m confident that you’ll end up making good decisions.
(((Michele))): Sending good thoughts for Vince. I hope things work out well. :flowerforyou:
I am hoping for a total lack of worry and drama for at least a little while. I need a rest and maybe a good sized dollop of fun.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
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Lanette I didn't know you were 69 with bad hearing also. I will be 70 in a few weeks and deaf in one ear and about 50% in the other with times of hyperacusis.1
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Faye ~ I also have bad hearing. Hoping to get up the courage to get hearing aids at some point.
Katla ~ We bought two new recliners about a year or so ago. Our others had gotten to the point that the reclining part was in permanent out position. Now they sit in the basement waiting for Got Junk at some point. The new ones are OK for DH but because I am so short do not work for me. The tufted pillow section on the back is just uncomfortable for me. So, I am using an older one that I had bought many years ago and use a foot stool with it. They are all leather which we like.
Noise by the TV ~ I am also one of those who wants a back ground noise all the time. It really bothers my DH but I just don't even notice what is being said on the TV.
Carol in GA1 -
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Debby in Va4 -
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Lanette
SW WA State where the fog has finally lifted and the sun is out. Once the tomato vines dry a bit, I'll go on the attack.
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Thank you!! I know I need to speak up, which I have never ever been good at- I say I am like Rex in Toy Story- I don't like confrontation. He is content with the way things are. If I don't speak up, he is happy to just keep going like we have been. I need to also focus on the good and not dwell on the bad(just some days it is very hard to find the good). I have learned to lower my expectations so not disappointed as badly that way.
Debbie
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Evening ladies
All this talk about men.. you remember all the conversations i had about Tom..well glad we can be friends and living on my own with a dog is the best.. i no longer have to cook nightly,mow the lawn,hand over a whole paycheck and get treated like cra-.
And I will say no I will never get married again much much happier the way i am..
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so happy for you Allie!
Kim0 -
Having one or two connection problems, so will try again in the morning. I have been able to read posts but not comment.
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