WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2021

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    edited August 2021
    Barbara Oregon Coastie- oh that sounds delightful... i so wish i could do that again and im hoping someday i can.
    Very hard at the beach im used to going to and me being out of shape i had to walk down stone steps very carefully and sat on a rock and and i still slipped off and had to crawl to get up again ,fell over a hassock at the cottage and bruised my arm...let me tell ya I was sore...
    I was telling Taliah the stories about when we drove up to the cottage and rolling down the windows to smell the sea air and drving down the road and ehen you come around the bend in the road how excited we were to see the cottage and i could hear her eyes rolling in her head.. but i still have those memories lol
    Thanks for the suggestion about talking to AARP tax preparer about disability taxes,and all,yes want no surprises
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
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  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,733 Member
    Good Monday!
    Kim Happy belated birthday!

    Teenagers/children....When my oldest GD turned 14 her dad warmed me of the attitude. When she presented said attitude to me, I quickly put a stop to it. I told her......I was one once. I raised two. And I wouldn't put up with it. She has been great with me since. I was grumpy granny when they were little. There were rules and consequences. The grands quickly learned when the parents weren't around.

    Saturday was crazy busy at work. I was the reluctant teenager when we got home. I just wanted to sit for 15 minutes to decompress. DH wanted to leave for car show at a Blues festival near us. We took the tbird which was nice (we were only going to look) Met up with friends. I overindulged in beer and pizza, so we stuck around for awhile. Both were good until they weren't! Got the hiccups so bad. My belly got so bloated. Then the sky opened up, so got soaked. I believe that was just too much yeast in under an hour for my tummy to handle.

    Switching to computer so I can share pictures.

    ❤
    Kylia in Ohio
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Happy Birthday Kim!!!
    Yes the weekend was a wash Taliah is a 13 yr old hormonal spoiled didnt want to be with grandma mess..best that I brought her home..
    And i did read the social security paperwork..
    I have been approved for social security disability backdated from September 2020 and will get my first check next month..and a lump sum check that i will sock in the bank .. tax free..
    At least there is that..
    And no I will not let Tom know as he is already to go to an attorney to lower the alimony..
    So shhhhhh.
    Im going to pick up Alfie in a bit and I think just relax, its been a busy couple of days of driving.

    Sorry about that. My niece came to visit me for a week when she was 13 and having major trouble w her mom. She wanted to stay up til 4am and wake at 3pm...we negotiated midday wake ups....at best we could go to 1 thing in afternoon and have dinner. Long ago but even back then it was walkman ezrphones and her book. We did manage to have a few nice moments but it was effortful!! Hopefully shell mature by the time shes 35....some say adolescence is very long these days...
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,733 Member
    Julie- That reminded me of the time I took in a friend's daughter. We were military and they got re-stationed in CA for the last half of her senior year. We offered to let her stay with us under the condition that she followed house rules and did her school work to graduate. Well......she was failing two classes, we found her a tutor. She still didn't do the work necessary and could have graduated if she would take summer school for 6 weeks. She was 17y/o and wanted to sleep all day. My husband worked 3 jobs and I was doing family day care. Phone calls to her family resulted in no changes. I made up a paper that stated she needed to find a job since she wasn't in school. She had until her 18th birthday which was July 7th or I would throw her out. This was around the end of May. Plenty of time. Well, I am mean. On her birthday at 7 am, I woke her up said Happy 18th birthday! Welcome to being an adult! And I started packing up her things and putting them in the yard. FYI, I had mailed a copy of the letter to her parents. This would have been around 1990 and long distance calls were expensive. She was dumbstruck! Her boyfriend came and picked her and her things up. Later that evening, I got a phone call from his parents. They were mad that I threw her out without notice. I invited them over to see the paper. That changed their attitude towards me. It took them 3 phone calls to the parents and threatening to throw her out on the street, before her parents sent her bus money. Yep. She took a bus to CA. The last time I heard anything she got married within a year to a Mennonite man in CA, worked at McDonald's, and had two kids in quick succession. I hope she finally figured out that we were only looking out for her future, but I will never know.....SMH
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Good morning all! Hope everyone got what they needed from the weekend; whether it was catching up with friends, getting projects done, or simply resting! I went half and half this weekend and gave myself one day to relax and one day to get some things done around the house. My to do list, was actually a LOT longer; but it rained all day, yesterday, so the outdoor stuff had to wait.
    I had another "weird weather" moment, yesterday. Remember a couple of weeks ago, when DYS (Colin) and I were on our way home from our daytrip and we got caught in the tornado path? Well, yesterday morning, I was out doing my grocery shopping and was closely watching the sky as I approached the grocery store. Being Sunday morning, the store was nearly empty. Aside from a handful of employees; there was myself and six other people there. Then the tornado sirens went off. Ugh! We all went back into the storage area to shelter. We sat for about 20 minutes chatting and waiting. The store manager gave the okay to finish our shopping. We all went right to the front windows and looked outside. A few branches and things blown about, but no real damage. Listening to the weather, later, their were high winds and circular wind, but no tornado actually formed or touched down. At least not where I was. Moral of the story: Don't go anywhere with me, as the weather seems to be attracted to me. lol
    Well, the Coast Guard Festival ended with a bang (fireworks) on Saturday night. The carnival went on until 1am then packed up and left in the wee hours of the morning. I walked the boardwalk and pier on Sunday morning and it was cool and quiet and clean. No signs of the 1.5 million people who came to town! When I was returning, later that day, from my grocery shopping, there was a line of campers leaving the beach campground. Aaaand...we are back to being a town of 35,000 (50,000 if you count the township).
    Allie - teenagers can be a pill! lol I had to laugh, because the outfit you described, was very similar to the way I dressed as a teen. Plaid miniskirt, fishnet style knee highs, Doc Marten boots, off shoulder tees with tanks under, and safety pins in ears (one time I put a couple of kilt pins in my ears). The next time (if there is a next time) you have time alone with Taliah, bring up Iris Apfel. If Tal knows who she is (and I bet she does), suggest an Iris Apfel inspired makeover day for the both of you. Hit up your closet, dollar stores, salvation army/goodwill type stores. I bet Tal would love doing something like that. Maybe, make each other over in the most over the top fashions and accessories.
    Barbara- Your morning walk sounds wonderful!

    Well, kids arriving. I better get busy! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    Lisa- I should go dark but this week I cant as I take care of our ancient dog during the day a f they are going away overnight which they never do and I will be keeping Homer overnight, things will be alot easier when dear Homer crosses the rainbow bridge i dont wish that for a long time but he is 15 and is mostly blind..
    They love Alfie and I trust that if i have to go away that he is safe and in good hands..
    So yes i should just stay away from everyone for awhile like you say and go dark for my own sanity, but easier said than done..
    I am going to hop in the shower and go get Homer,make a grocery list and try and get some of my place picked up it looks like a bomb went off in here
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,295 Member
    Happy Birthday Kim :flowerforyou:
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Heather -- Your memories resonate with mine. I stayed with my grandmother a few times. She lived in a multistory apartment building in Salem, OR. The building was the Patterson Tower. Grandma had her apartment too hot for my comfort. She had a color TV that she bought at a local department store and called the store for service every time she dusted the TV and messed up the controls. :laugh:


    I spent hours watching TV and knitting the baby blanket yesterday evening. I am almost at the turn around point where each row will be a bit shorter than the one before. The blanket will be done long before we leave home to stay at our son and daughter in law’s house. We plan to stay with them a while before the birth of the new baby. We haven’t seen our grandson in more than a year, and he will need time with us while his mom and dad are both at home. We will be taking care of him while his parents are at the hospital and he will need time to feel comfortable and safe with us while his parents are not home.

    Katla
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,269 Member
    kymarai wrote: »
    Since I had over indulged on Saturday, yesterday was quiet! DH worked outside with his sister. I completed my YD and SIL anniversary present. xw1xz6tb23cf.jpg
    They eloped, then had so many issues, that I had never made them a wedding cross stitch. I couldn't find one that fit them. Well, I finally did! They love it! 19 years and stronger than ever.
    While at festival yesterday, I did support some local vendors (besides the resteraunt-lol)
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    This one is for YD
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    This one for oldest daughter
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    This one for me.
    Like Tracey, I should have then done work work, but did laundry and watched Hallmark movies. Feeling much better today!

    Have a blessed day! Now to finish my training requirements before end of month- grumble.

    <3
    Kylia still in Ohio

    that butterfly is amazing!!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,792 Member
    Back from Portsmouth. It all went well. Train was a bit late, but nothing terrible. Lovely lunch of oysters and scallops. One glass of white wine. I think I helped my friend with some of her troubles, but I didn't say much about her huge problem with her daughter. You have to be ready to hear and I didn't want to sound preachy. I did say that the story she was telling herself might not be true. She did say I had given her a new perspective on some issues. However, I am a friend, not a guru. :p:laugh:
    I enjoyed the journey home, watching downloaded French TV from Netflix. Plus my 'improving ' books. :D
    Happy days.
    Love Heather UK xxxxxx
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    Vicki-Believe me i wont let him know a thing,you are right it is none of bis business
    Every generation thinks the teenagers had a rough time but honestly I think the more the world gets crazier and with all the social media and internet it is tough on the kids today..but its not an excuse to be pissy..
    So the SSI was approved from September of 2020 so September of 2022 i will be eligible for Medicare which will help alot.i will speak with someone from AARP like Vicki said to figure out what i need to have set aside to monthly to be comfortable
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,361 Member
    edited August 2021
    stats for the day-

    Walk w/family- 2hrs 32min 26sec, 115elev, 3.25ap, 81ahr, 106mhr, 8.32mi= 786c
    Strava app = 1007c
    Walk to gym- 11.31min, .52mi= 46c
    Strava app = 64c
    Spin bike at gym- 1hr 12min, 11-15gear, 16.83amph, 126ahr, 159mhr, 20.2mi= 620c
    Walk gym to home- 10.05min, .52mi= 49c
    Strava app = 63c

    Total cal 1501
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,295 Member
    Aliie when you settled withTom you were still working. The settlement was done legally. The burden of proof is on him. You are correct you do not have to say anything to him about your finances. DON"T I would be careful saying too much about it here because this board is not private and he could find what you say here.

    When you turn 62 you may be able to file for Social Securtiy as a ex spouse of Tom's because you were married over 10 years. This does nothing to his benefit. They would base your benefit on what his in at social security retirement age if he took it early they may base it on that. Not sure. They will not base it on what is would be if he takes it at 70. I would check with Social Security or financial planner.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,259 Member
    :) Welcome. Valerie
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,733 Member
    Margaret,
    So true about social security. My mom was able to draw off my father's( they divorced in 1979, he passed in 1996) early on, then switched to hers later when it became more than his. Could have been the other way around, but I do know she partook of both.

    Gotta go fix dinner . Lots of stuffs to do for work. The positive thing about being basically the only one there is i can only depend on myself. I expect help when sis in law is there, and my expectations are RARELY met. Then i just get angry. Oh well, busy and frustrating day, but will get through it.
    🤪❤
    Kylia hungry in Ohio
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    Did a body pump DVD then went for my walk. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Denise Austin Get Fit Fast DVD

    kiz – how do you do a gallbladder cleanse?

    Barbara – When I mention that I go in the pool so much, you probably cringe. I didn’t know that you had had skin cancer. Have no doubt, in summer time I keep Coppertone in business. Actually, I know that using sunscreen doesn’t eliminate the possibility of skin cancer, but it can reduce it. We used to have a member here (remember DeeDee?) who had skin cancer and would always remind me to wear sunscreen.

    M – I really do believe that exercise helps stress. I remember one time we were going to go away and Denise gave us a REAL REAL hard time. I left, went to the Y, and REALLY exercised. When I came home Vince told me that he was physically sick. I just made sure I was close to the bathroom. But when I got home, I felt a lot better. I never did get physically sick. So I do believe exercise helps with stress.

    Kymari – how did you design that crossstitch? So many times I’ve wanted to do that, but I just don’t know how. Do you need a special program for the computer?

    Jess called last night. She’ll be out in Oregon again for two weeks. She wanted to ask Vince if she should drive or fly there. It would be a 27 hour drive from Iowa. I think Vince talked her out of it.

    Allie – I have our grocery list on my phone and each time when I find that I need something I ask Google (we have a Google assist) to add something to the grocery list. This way I never forget what I need.

    jlstevens – welcome! Happy birthday!

    Now to go work on the jigsaw puzzle before bowling. I find that only working on it for an hour at a time works for me. After that, I find that I wind up putting the same pieces in the same places. Coming at it with a new perspective, to me, is good.

    Valerie AZ – welcome! Chatty...you’ll fit right in!!!! If you have any questions at all about MFP, ask away! Someone will definitely help you

    Mahjongg tonight.

    Michele NC
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    Margaret- think I spoke with Social Security already about this. I will be getting Disability and he wont be collecting his until his 70th birthday next August i can only get 1/2 his SS if I took it now which is about what ill be making on disability.. but if God Forbid he passes before me than I can change my Disability to his full benefit since we were married for more than 10 yrs at least I think that is how it was explained to me..
    I know this isnt private,but neither of them are into any of this stuff so I am not worried.
    He keeps sending emails that he is getting from social security about Disability lol..
    Not a word from not a word..
    Had a nice dinner with my ladies upstairs and am now down here with my furry pal snuggled in..
    Will have to rest up tomorrow is a ride to Costco
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,361 Member
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    skuehn48 Posts: 3,074 Member
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