WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2021
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I have a question. When your jounal is full what do you do with it? I do not want my family to find it and read it as things in there I felt at the time, but nothing they need to know. When I was a teenager I had a jounal and when it was full I threw it away. My dad found it and read it. He would tease me about things I had written and got mad about other things. It took me a long time to feel comfortable enough to write in a jounal again, but I still have the fear of someone reading it.
Went after work last evening and bought a new bathroom scale. Just got one a couple weeks ago as the old one gave up and just stopped working. The one DH got had problems. Everytime I stepped on it would run numbers and never stop. I have tired the new one this morning and was even happy with what it said. So hopefully this one will last.
Machka--have you tried wearing gloves when you use the lotion and then can just throw they away and it will not get on your hands.
Heather--I agree with the others I would go planning to pay for yourself and if he does then that will be a nice surprise. I agree when we invite someone to meet us for lunch or dinner we plan to pay, or will say something about each paying for their own. I know I like knowing up front how it is going to work. I pray you have a nice time and enjoy the visit.
Pip--Good Luck on your ride. Thanks for doing this for MS. My sister-in-law has it.
Time to see a bout getting some work done.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND NE
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For those of you who don’t know, this is the ride I will be doing this Saturday check out the video
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hC-A4EFbJ7s
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One of my projects is to organise the bathroom. It is getting out of control. And I've discovered something ...
I have enough lotion to moisturise a crocodile! I laughed out loud with this statement!
So ... if you've got heaps of a product like lotion, what do you do with it?
Machka in Oz
Machka ... I am always being gifted scented lotions and shower gels/soaps. (I wonder what my friends are trying to tell me ...) Scented products give everyone in my family headaches. I also have particularly dry skin on my legs and use unscented only. So, what I do with the lotions is donate to a mission that serves homeless or battered women. They are usually unopened products, but I know others who have given lightly used bottles.
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Machka-You can try donating the lotions to a church. I know that some of them give it to those in need.
Tina in CA
I'm not sure that's encouraged with C19 lurking about.
Did a bit of checking and ...
One of the charities says, "For health and safety reasons we cannot accept used makeup or toiletry items".
Another says, "All products must be new, unopened and in date."
I was able to. It just wasn't advertised so much. But, I also threw a bunch away that I didn't like. I just got tired of having it take up space.
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In Seattle!! Call me crazy but I love this traffic!! Kirby not so much
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Re charitable donations - We have dropped off kitchen items at the Senior Center Thrift Shop earlier this year. Underwear is not accepted but they do accept other clean clothing items. There are a wide array of household items there, along with books and clothing. All clothing items are clean. Thrift store sales help to support meals on wheels in our community. DD bought a couple of luggage items there for her return trip home after her visit here this summer.
Heather – Most of the time when we go to a restaurant for a meal we are just with one another. I invited a friend for lunch last summer and I paid. We both had a lovely time. :flowerforyou:
(((Pip))) – You are amazing. My hugs go to you for your steadfast work for an MS breakthrough or cure. I suspect that I’ve mentioned my gratitude before. I hope you’re getting adequate rest and have a safe trip. I love the video. I can’t express how much this effort helps people with MS-including my husband.
Machka – We are in late summer and headed for fall here. So far it has been a very dry year. :ohwell:
Our beloved doctor retired in order to spend time with her teenaged daughters. She wanted to be a stay at home mom. We have each found a new doctor at the clinic here. DH will be seeing his for the first time today. I will have a second appointment with my new doctor on September 14th. I liked him when I first had an appointment with him.
This is a bright sunshiney day. We’ve been lucky with our weather so far this year.
Katla in sunny NW Oregon
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »The 'host' invited us months back as he is in Brighton on a business/pleasure weekend. We have not been in communication much for years, apart from a Christmas card. He recently sent us a list of expensive restaurants and said he would book Sunday lunch if we liked any of them. These are the kind of places we might perhaps go to for a very special anniversary. To me that says he is paying for all, which was great, (he is quite a high powered business man), and I was surprised when DH said he did not expect that. I would never go to that sort of place for a normal lunch and I would not expect that kind of expenditure without consultation about price range etc. I don't like uncertainty and I would always check that kind of thing beforehand with friends, but I don't really know them.
My main worry is the music. I do not enjoy restaurants where I can hear the music. It is a phobia. I rarely go somewhere I am not familiar with and always ask for the music to be turned down. That is difficult when I am not the host. I am waiting for the replies to a couple of emails to the restaurants.
I suggested to DH that we invite them here, so it would be more relaxing, but he wasn't keen.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
I also hate music playing in restaurants. It is almost always far too loud to have a conversation without screaming across the table at each other.
Is it possible to sit outside? That generally helps with the music situation. I also wouldn't consider it rude to ask them to turn it down regardless of being the host or not. You are a customer too; not just your host.0 -
Donating-Shelters and other organizations want underwear, but only in unopened packages. So, you could buy a multi pack and donate it, but they won't take it otherwise. It's the same with socks and bras here.
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I have a question. When your jounal is full what do you do with it? I do not want my family to find it and read it as things in there I felt at the time, but nothing they need to know. When I was a teenager I had a jounal and when it was full I threw it away. My dad found it and read it. He would tease me about things I had written and got mad about other things. It took me a long time to feel comfortable enough to write in a jounal again, but I still have the fear of someone reading it.
Went after work last evening and bought a new bathroom scale. Just got one a couple weeks ago as the old one gave up and just stopped working. The one DH got had problems. Everytime I stepped on it would run numbers and never stop. I have tired the new one this morning and was even happy with what it said. So hopefully this one will last.
Machka--have you tried wearing gloves when you use the lotion and then can just throw they away and it will not get on your hands.
Heather--I agree with the others I would go planning to pay for yourself and if he does then that will be a nice surprise. I agree when we invite someone to meet us for lunch or dinner we plan to pay, or will say something about each paying for their own. I know I like knowing up front how it is going to work. I pray you have a nice time and enjoy the visit.
Pip--Good Luck on your ride. Thanks for doing this for MS. My sister-in-law has it.
Time to see a bout getting some work done.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND NE
I have taken my journals and shredded them. Really when you think about it, journals are the many coping devices we have at our disposal, but once they're full, they've done their job. Putting stress, or anxiety on paper is a textbook way of releasing stress. Shredding it, is empowering. When I was in therapy, the doctor had me write out some pretty toxic stuff, then we shredded it. It was an ahhhh, moment!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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My DD just sent 4D pictures of the grandson. Oh he is so cute.. she is 23 weeks along today and its amazing what they can do now adays..
Spent 15 mins with attorney and will call him back in a bit, my brother is my alternate executor, and i no longer fwel comfortable with that,I love my son to pieces but dont think he has the mental where with all to deal with all the legalities of a will and estate,but Tracy should have no problems, but Trudy has oked to be my alternate if need be.6 -
Heather,
It definitely changes the scenario if he sent a list of only expensive restaurants. That implies that he will be picking up the tab unless he is an insensitive dolt, which I assume he is not.
Your DH is probably just being cautious and not wanting to assume, but if I had received such an invitation from someone of means who sent a list of expensive restaurants to choose from, I would absolutely assume he intended to treat.
Love, Karen
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Re charitable donations - We have dropped off kitchen items at the Senior Center Thrift Shop earlier this year. Underwear is not accepted but they do accept other clean clothing items. There are a wide array of household items there, along with books and clothing. All clothing items are clean. Thrift store sales help to support meals on wheels in our community. DD bought a couple of luggage items there for her return trip home after her visit here this summer.
Heather – Most of the time when we go to a restaurant for a meal we are just with one another. I invited a friend for lunch last summer and I paid. We both had a lovely time. :flowerforyou:
(((Pip))) – You are amazing. My hugs go to you for your steadfast work for an MS breakthrough or cure. I suspect that I’ve mentioned my gratitude before. I hope you’re getting adequate rest and have a safe trip. I love the video. I can’t express how much this effort helps people with MS-including my husband.
Machka – We are in late summer and headed for fall here. So far it has been a very dry year. :ohwell:
Our beloved doctor retired in order to spend time with her teenaged daughters. She wanted to be a stay at home mom. We have each found a new doctor at the clinic here. DH will be seeing his for the first time today. I will have a second appointment with my new doctor on September 14th. I liked him when I first had an appointment with him.
This is a bright sunshiney day. We’ve been lucky with our weather so far this year.
Katla in sunny NW Oregon
You are the best at pumping me up for this ride thank you all for your support and your kind words, I tear up every time I see that video, I still can’t believe I ride that0 -
Yes, Karen. I'm pretty sure I am right about the situation. From my limited experience, he is a very nice man.
My new tablet and case arrived today. I had a code for the delivery guy. The case I ordered was too small. My mistake. I have ordered another one and will drop off the wrong one at the UPS depot tomorrow. It's not far. The new tablet is charging, but I won't do the transfer tonight. If it goes wrong I won't sleep.
Tomorrow afternoon will be better, after I've dropped off the wrong case. I'm always apprehensive. :sad:
Had Hairy Bikers for dinner, with broccoli. Stuffed! Glass of red AF wine.
DH joined in with the Singing Zoom.
Sound quality was terrible, but we managed to follow some of it. I'm glad he persevered. Once or twice we couldn't find the words to sing, so we just lah-laahed. 
Then I rowed to a German video, and then it was Waitrose delivery. Then the tablet arrived with the wrong case. Phew!
I was tempted to have a Pernod, but resisted.
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DH has a doctor's appointment coming up today. This is a new doctor for him. Our original doctor is no longer working here. We both liked her very much. I hope DH's new doctor is as good. I'm planning to go along today to listen. I have an appointment of my own next week. This will be a second visit with my new doctor. I already like him. 0
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EYEGLASSES GUY I DID say I don't think everyone who's 58 has exactly the same correction. He was saying yeah more or less. When I insisted he said ok we can check one other prescription which I said I thought was better and he said ok we can use that- he didn't do a proper test. And then he was sort of gaslighting. "you seem suspicious" "you seem ill at ease". To listen to him EVERYONE who is 58 has exactly the same correction. When I saw I was getting the run around and there was no hope for serious treatment, I said ok fine just give me the prescription, and I promptly left and made a new appointment for the end of the month. It's a clinic and I don't think any complaint could help other than possibly a googlemaps complaint and even then - not so much. I don't like to complain officially on google map as anyone on earth (employeurs, colleagues) can see your complaints which is not very comely.
BARBARA -sorry about your cold and missing your appointment. a "ready to go" bag is never so bad. good for hurricanes, quick weekend trips, hospital trips... I was in the hospital for 5 days not for an operation - just for watching me - mostly because I went in on Thursday and they didn't seem to discharge or check much on us on weekends - only the interns were there. so I was surely able to wear regular pjs or light clothes and not a hospital thing the whole 5 days.. hospital thing for operations/interventions yes..
ANNIE it sounds like your mom IS losing her independence. It might possibly be less within her capacity than it might seem, whether it's will, memory, motivation, energy or something else. I've seen some situations often enough when us adult children feel like its parents' choice to lose their capacities when in fact it's not so black and white. Though maybe there is some level of choice. A close example, my older sister who is generally very compassionate I'd say was convinced that 1) my mom was pretending to be blind but not really blind 2) falling down intentionally. But my mom had un-operated long term cataracts and had been legally blind for years, and had been very sedentary for years and was very soon confined to a wheel chair for the last 4 years or so of her life. Another friend feels very annoyed with his dad who has parkinson's so is not all there mentally all the time. My friends somehow feels like his 80+ year old dad has some level of choice but I'm pretty sure that's not the case. I think it's hard for my friend to acknowledge that his dad who was once strong and so on, and.a role model of sorts in some way, is now becoming weaker and frailer.
ANNIE sorry you are not feeling it for your outing when they are rare. A 2hr drive is a lot. I went to party that was scooter+ 1h train + 20 min drive - so about 2h all told - to go and the same to get back. Tiring! I wouldn't do it every day. I guess it was good to meet new people. Some are in my field so it was rather good network-wise, even though I went because it was given by the family of the SO of a very close friend, who is not in my field. I can be a bit of a hermit and what with lockdown I've forced myself a bit.
BUT did you see this clip from yesterday. I song of silly excuses if you don't feel like going out to see people.
A silly song with excuses for not going out. THE song part starts at a bout 3minutes and 55 seconds into the clip.
MACHKA good job on tossing things out and clearing the bathroom. When I had long hair I went through shampoo really quickly. I bought tons of soapy-stuff in early lockdown. I was afraid (erroneously) that there would be a run on soap and soaps.1 -
I have a question. When your jounal is full what do you do with it? I do not want my family to find it and read it as things in there I felt at the time, but nothing they need to know. When I was a teenager I had a jounal and when it was full I threw it away. My dad found it and read it. He would tease me about things I had written and got mad about other things. It took me a long time to feel comfortable enough to write in a jounal again, but I still have the fear of someone reading it.
Went after work last evening and bought a new bathroom scale. Just got one a couple weeks ago as the old one gave up and just stopped working. The one DH got had problems. Everytime I stepped on it would run numbers and never stop. I have tired the new one this morning and was even happy with what it said. So hopefully this one will last.
Machka--have you tried wearing gloves when you use the lotion and then can just throw they away and it will not get on your hands.
Heather--I agree with the others I would go planning to pay for yourself and if he does then that will be a nice surprise. I agree when we invite someone to meet us for lunch or dinner we plan to pay, or will say something about each paying for their own. I know I like knowing up front how it is going to work. I pray you have a nice time and enjoy the visit.
Pip--Good Luck on your ride. Thanks for doing this for MS. My sister-in-law has it.
Time to see a bout getting some work done.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND NE
Yes shredding or burning.
If possible I would go through it and write down a few notes -goals, questions etc.
At one point I would take last journal and go through and then write some outstanding questions for next journal. Other times It could be goals.
I have done the crazy thing of cutting out bits and pieces do keep in an envelope but that is rather craft-ish. I have cut out some of the revealing words to leave only the bits and feelings.
also as a playful craft to make a sort of art work - quite some time ago. I do a lot of drawing now, more than writing so I could cut out some of the writing and leave the drawings or most of them.
BETH I also don't like most scented products.
KATLA my lovely doctor retired a few years ago. still miss his excellent compassionate follow up and involvement. I hope you find a good one!
HEATHER I wouldn't expect this other guy to pay either. I didn't really get who he is, but he sounds not close. Sounds like he is either very well off and so wants to have a fancy time, OR wants to splurge for whatever reason - like a holiday, which we've had less of these past years. With my past SO I remember we went to a reasonably fancy place (where we would go maybe 2 or 3 times a year) when he had a couple of close friends coming into town. Both guys are doing fine financially but not incredibly well-off, so it made sense for each couple to pay for themselves. Also it's maybe more balanced power-dynamic wise for each to pay for themselves. That can be an important thing for some guys. My colleague friend had bought us a coffee last time so I was going to buy this round. but he said he really doesn't like it when other people invite him. I don't think he was being flirtatious or showy or anything, I think that's how he is. (I think he's from a very modest background so it might be a sense of being independent to pay for self). Let us know how it is. I like going to a fancy place on very rare occasions. But not a super-expensive place, just a bit upscale. Or if it's REALLY upscale I might just go for tea! 1 -
"but I don't wanna put on my outside clothes..." 2
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HERES A GOOD ONE
I asked a few days ago at my usual normal - not very fancy - corner café - where I've been going for over a decade - if they had organic coffee, - they said it's so expensive to buy. For some odd reason they only have organic decaf but not organic regular. They have a couple of specialty coffee that they charge more for, so I said that they could charge more for it and that you have 25% more chance of getting cancer if you eat non-organic. (apparently, according to studies!) I was totally astonished when the waiter came up this morning to say they had ordered it and will have some tomorrow to try on the menu.☕️ 🌿1 -
Julie Great excuses!
You are right about my mother too. It's hard to deal with her ability changing day to day, but that's not her fault.
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We upgraded our camping spot, our view, isn’t it the best?!
c
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Annie ~ My husband has had to take over the medical appointments for his brother-in-law who is only 3 or 4 yrs older than my DH. At first, the assisted living facility saw that he got to appointments. Then the dr's insisted that my husband accompany him because in his confusion, he was unable to help them with his health problems. I think it will be great for you to help you mom in that manner.
Heather ~ Would it be possible for you to send the brother-in-law a list of restaurants that would not be so expensive that would suit both him and you and your husband. He may think that y'all would be offended if he had chosen places less expensive.
Had to take my old Honda back to the dealership today. The air conditioner has decided to go on the fritz for the 2nd time in two months. Paid a wad of money in July and just hope that the next bill won't be terrible.
I have decided that I need to get an appointment to get a hearing aid. It is really embarrassing when you constantly have to ask people to talk louder.
Carol in GA
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Carol - I hope you get a good result with the hearing aid. Well done for admitting the problem..
DDIL sent this pic. Max at reception and Max now in top Juniors.
How time flies!
I bought Edie's birthday presents today. She chose clothes she liked from a catalogue. Makes life easier.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
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Yogi looking at father after he took a dip4 -
Pip - The campsite is lovely and Yogi is gorgeous! 1
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Did a body pump DVD today then went for a walk. The plan for tomorrow is to do part of a Turbo Jam DVD (a new one)
Tracey – I wouldn’t be in the least surprised if you’re losing because you aren’t buying the fast food. How wonderful of your granddaughter to be helping those kids
Julie – yea for the mammo being clear
barbara – I already have all the popcorn strung for the Christmas trees. I did that probably back in May before I could go in the pool (don’t want to take time away from that!)
M – I’m glad to see that Rody is making sure you do the job right!
Katla – I love going to thrift shops. You never know what you’ll find. Also, thrift stores usually always help a group. Like the Salvation Army, Upscale Retail in FL supports the women’s resource center there, there is another one that supports the church, there is Brevard charities in FL (but for some reason you can’t try on the clothes and you can’t take them home and then return them if they don’t fit) I usually ask myself “would I wear/use the item”. If I wouldn’t, then I don’t donate it.
Cut the grass. There are too many leaves on the ground!!! Boo hoo. Between my walk this morning and cutting the grass, so far I have over 10,000 steps
Allie – I remember when Denise sent us the picture of the baby. I was amazed at how clear it was! I didn’t even have a sonogram with any of the kids...lol
pip – wonderful view!!!
Ran to Aldi then had to go to Food Lion to get chicken (Aldi didn’t have any)
Just came back from Kohl’s where I returned the numbers. I found a pair of pants for Lynette. I’m sick of seeing her in these same gray pants. She takes a 3X shirt so I’m thinking that 3X for pants is right. In the end, they cost me a little over $6 and they are nice heavy material.
Carol GA – how long will you have to leave the car? Hope you get good results with the hearing aids
Michele NC
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I went to DH’s first appointment with his new Doctor, who is a very chatty fellow. I liked him. He sent DH to have blood drawn. I sat in the waiting room and found myself visiting with a former neighbor. I enjoyed catching up. I hadn’t seen him in a couple of years.2
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Heather, Here is my contribution to the discussion about your upcoming restaurant meal. Since the person who invited you is connected to DH, not to you, why don't you just let him deal with how the bill will be paid? You have strong feelings about restaurants so you can help by choosing a suitable place. Don't let the money intrude on having a great evening with good food and little music. Barbie 7
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I usually ask myself “would I wear/use the item”. If I wouldn’t, then I don’t donate it.
Michele NC
Yes!
A lot of the thrift shops here have commented that they get a lot of rubbish they can't sell ... and there was an upsurge in the rubbish when the shutdown ended. Apparently people had spent the shutdown cleaning out their houses and handed over big bags of ... everything!!
If you wouldn't buy it, don't donate it, say charities struggling under piles of junk donations
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-11-01/tasmanian-charities-again-overwhelmed-with-junk/12835094
M in Oz2
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB_Tb9nsAsk
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