WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2021

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  • kizanne2
    kizanne2 Posts: 123 Member
    Awesome Pip
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,905 Member
    <3
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,603 Member
    Michele- She is beautiful and adult. I was thinking along your Disney theme-🤪. Not so this time! She is wonderful.

    Thank you ladies once again for your support. Tracey- my son in law's last day was last Friday(while we were on vacation). As for sister in law, I am trying to think of how I would describe her. I use to just think she was private, but as the years turn, I realize she is self centered, sneaky, lazy, and "victimized ". She is really smart, but doesn't use it. I dont know.....we get along okay, but I wouldn't chose her as a friend. Does that make sense?

    Massage was good. Kiki says I am much too young to be this stressed and tight. Stretching and exercise. I know, just gotta figure out how to put me first.

    My Shark robot vacuum died just before vacay. Less than 2 years old. DH insisted I get a new one, so we went with Robbie the I roomba 7+ He is fast and much louder than Sharkie. We will see if he cleans as well. Sharkie did clean up after two large dogs for a year. DH also got a new upright vacuum for the man cave. His $99 old unit was 15 y/o and not cleaning as well. Expensive night!

    Love the pictures!
    Hugs!

    I can do this thing called LIFE as I have a wonderful group of ladies to help me through it!
    ❤
    Kylia in Ohio back to every day life
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,730 Member
    Michele - I love the mermaid. Did I mention that I'm starting a ceramics class next Thursday evening.
    I recently went to bangs. The Great Clips here charges 5.00 to cut them, but my daughter will too. I wouldn’t cut my own.

    Kylia - I understand what you mean. My SIL is similar, although I used to really enjoy her.

    Tracey

  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Tracy - I am watching the Canadian election news. TV reports are liberals 144 v conservatives 118. I have visited Canada several times, always in British Columbia. I love BC. <3
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,831 Member
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    8kyfjye7wbis.jpegAt inn at cannon beach. Lookin what kirby got me waiting in our room. Awwww

    Very nice!
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,730 Member
    Katla - yes I believe have another minority government. It was just a lot of money wasted for the same result. I am not political and don’t get into it a lot, but truthfully I don’t think any of the leaders were fit to lead, so I guess it’s one of those “devil you know” moments for me.

    Tracey
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,632 Member
    B)
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 2,814 Member
    <3
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    kylia (hugs)

    Katlya all my condolences about your brother in law
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    Ate way too much starch yesterday; the day was a total bust.

    Friday was rather pleasant - met a friend for quite dinner pleasant. Sunday morning too. spoke at length with a friend.
    Very long whinge about exchange with friend on Saturday.
    Saturday I met a friend S, to go to friend V's school's open house. Friend V sometimes asks me when she is looking for new teachers so I told S who really really needs work and is quite qualified but quite specialised, about a job and it worked out really well. What was to be 18 hours sounds like it will be 60 hours or so.
    S and I were both invited to the open house (though V kept losing S's number and asked me to forward the invitation). S and I agreed we would go just for an hour max as it's not really our thing, and then grab a coffee for an hour. S. kept telling me at the event that looked so tired during the thing. (which didn't seem to be an issue for friends seen on Friday and Sunday). When we got to the café I said - I'm not tired anymore I was just bored. (at the open door thing I could feel right away it would be effortful and it was just "making conversation" with the students, and stayed for a respectable hour, as agreed). Though I said I wasn't tired any more she seemed to not believe me and said "you look tired" "your eyes look soooooo tired."

    She can sometimes listen but she can also tend to talk a lot - like call and just go directly into a monologue for 15 or 30 minutes about some issues she's dealing with, without much reciprocity - it's not horrible but that is part of how It is, often enough.
    The previous day she had told about how she was down about another job lead I had given her -job she'd applied for - as the needs the money - that she wasn't keen about - the job and the job offerer wasn't keen about her - she sounded as she was not at all enthusiastic in the interview.
    Upon arriving at the open house she also talked about how she felt down for a while the moment we met.

    Upon arriving at the café then moments after we were sitting, I started to speak of something of my own experience, and then as I was talking about something personal she interrupted right away to talk a bit about the coffee that was really bad, (okay, that can happen) so I stopped talking, and then she asked me to continue and interrupted me again a few sentences later to ask why I never wear make up. I was really annoyed.

    She wears mascara and maybe eyeliner and lipstick, eyebrow pencil. I don't know. Definitely always something like that. I have no problem with people wearing makeup - some people wear it and some don't. I can wear light make up sometimes - when I feel like it. I am very often without. it is true I have been wearing less of the on and off occasional make up since lockdown. One day last winter I put on lipstick for a change but forgot we had mask mandate including outdoors. not really useful!

    I expressed my annoyance and - to illustrate the awkwardness of her question - asked her, why she wears make up. I did say she had asked me a question and then interrupted me 2x in just like 2 or 3 minutes, to speak about totally different subjects.

    She was very angry and suddenly got up and left. I stayed and finished my bubbly water, but I find that quite unpleasant.

    This is compounded by her monologues which I don't want to tell her about - I have found people sometimes get deeply upset if you tell them have a habit of talking too long - if you don't do it with gentle tact finding the right moment. I know it can be done with diplomacy sometimes.

    I do find it unacceptable when people speak day after day repeatedly and at length about themselves and then finally when they ask about me they interrupt me immediately and regularly.

    I can accept listening at length - but not if there is almost no reciprocity.

    I was surprised to hear her say a week or so ago that she is somewhat Aspergers.
    I just googled Asperger's and did find this among the subjects.
    "- Conversations that almost always revolve around themselves or a certain topic, rather than others" and possibly :
    "Not understanding other peoples’ feelings or perspectives"

    But she can sometimes be compassionate and most of the list doesn't seem to correspond to her.

    There was an exchange of sms's - she was quite critical of my response, and defended at length her right to wear make up. I said I also wear make up or not as I feel like doing and that clearly my appearance was not acceptable to her - as seen by her many many comments on my fatigued appearance and lack of make up in one hour. (and now that I think of it no other interest in me other than to tell me that).

    This reminds me of my younger sister. Not the appearance -focus but the self-focus.

    I listen to people quite a bit and often at length and some reciprocity is welcome. My friends of Friday and Sunday were better listeners and the conversation was more back and forth I think.

    With this same friend -
    very early in our friendship we similarly agreed to go together to a show given by a someone in a common circle of friends. Afterwards we got a coffee. She was very short on money so I offered to pay for her coffee. (she sometime offers me one too to reciprocate, that is not an issue.) Then she was looking for her 3 or 4 euros in her bag after having gone to the bathroom, and didn't find it. She suspected me of having stolen it. (Having gone into her bag while she was in the bathroom to steel 3 euros, after having invited her for a coffee for about 3 or 4 euros, after having gone to a show together and having many professional friends and work together for over a year!). I said maybe she had misplaced or misremembered, or that at the show someone had stolen it (which I doubt- going into her bag and wallet and taking 3 euros and leaving all credit cards, etc.). She said she never misplaces, or misremembers because money was so tight. She became very distant after that for quite some time. It was very freaky.

    But that was a a few years ago and we have met and spoken many times since then and sometimes she is listening and caring - maybe 1/3 or 1/4 of the time which is not so bad.

    So maybe that had an effect on my lost day yesterday.

    I hope today is better.
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,483 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: BP, DDS, dogs to powerline
    Bonus: 1.5 hrs line dancing at the RV park
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, call pc guy to schedule tuneup, USE those torture bands/do that BB&B video, call S, fire district: research NFPA, grant NIMS requirements, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, likewise Lee skills/tasks, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart, Do Your Thing, GrandDaddy Long Legs; practice dances: Silver Linings, Dance Monkey, All Night, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, TGIF, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat) One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke,,); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
    September
    20: Enjoy photos from a time with happy memories. Puppy Tumble with Scooter.
    21: Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside. Not just odious but unperceptive.

    Dodged the bullet at the DDS this morning. Tech postponed cleaning and Xrays to next week due sore spot at corner of mouth from Wednesday’s biopsy. Then got surprise text from our former teacher visiting from out of town, inviting us to dance outside at her RV park. It was so good to see everyone and move again!

    Katla condolences for your loss.
    Hugs to Beth, Kylia, Rebecca, Julie and everyone who wants ‘em.
    pip so glad Kirby appreciates you, you deserve it! Lucky Yogi!
    Heather Happy soon-to-be anniversary!

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    September: leaner/stronger/kinder than August.
    daily: sit with Joe:21, weigh/wii: 19/0/0; steps>7222=5273 vits=18.5, log=20, CI<CO=18, CI<250<CO=11, Tumble=16, Shadow=17, mfp=17, outside=21, up hill=18, clean 10=8.
    wkly: Sun: Mon: Tue:LD=1.5, Wed:TC=1, PW=1, Thurs: TC=5mins, Fri:TC=1.33, Sat:PW=2, rX x4=3.
    wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2 8/31:140.0 9/5:140.2 9/12:139.8 9/19:142.2 9/26: 9/30:
    mnthly: board mtg=1, grant=, plan=, waist=42.0
    bonus: AF=10, play= sew=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,058 Member
    edited September 2021
    Morning all. It's bright and beautiful here. I hope your day goes well.

    Michele: <> Your mermaid is very artistic, but I understand that she may scandalise the bible belters. 😂
    Tracey: <> I called it the reward system not bribery. It worked a treat. Not announcing my boredom was something I learned when I was a child. You didn't ever say you were bored! You got far too many things to do.
    Rebecca: <> 😍 The delicate green cups and their plates. (((Hugs))) on the problems of getting maintenance done on your lease property.
    Machka: <> I'm loving all the little graphics that you're posting. They're very thought-provoking.
    Carol: <> 😍 The new hair colour. It suits you. I have been thinking about doing a similar thing myself.
    Heather: <> Sorry to hear about your DSiL's health problems at the moment. I hope she gets it sorted. I sympathise with you feeling that there's too much going on at the moment. I have gotten used to being able to do my own thing, and the rising expectations of others for the renewal of socialising is not altogether welcome. I am glad that I have stepped back from my obligations to organise/lead groups. It will be a joy to be able to pick and choose if and when I want to attend. It's good to see that your editing of your memoirs is moving along nicely.

    I have had a productive morning so far and I'm planning to make it even more productive. I did an HIIT workout first thing, did some writing, stopped for half an hour to have breakfast with DH, then popped on here to catch up with you lovely ladies.

    I'm spending the next couple of hours going through some more of my art/craft equipment/materials and deciding where I will store them in my new setup. I will have a coffee break in there somewhere. ☕️ 😂

    The bedroom is mostly back to normal, and the mountain in my dining room is getting smaller by the day. ☘️ Terri

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 9,684 Member
    Kylia- sounds like my SIL, I guess every family has one ..
    Slept pretty well and got up before 5 this morning and got dressed.. fed Alfie and got him outside. Going to pick Dan up in a few minutes to drop him off to work. Just 2 times this week,his other ride is on Vacation
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Tuesday --

    Long day today and one of the more stressful ones because my husband had yet another specialist assessment in the afternoon. Those are always stressful for both of us although I am starting to get used to hearing, he will never improve, he will never return to work, he will never drive, etc.

    However this morning was interesting. I was a model for a young lady in a hairdressing course! She needed to do a blunt straight cut on someone with long or longish hair for an assessment so ... I offered my hair!

    I got a shampoo, trim and a little bit of a set and her instructor told her it was well done so I think she passed her assessment. :)

    M in Oz

    I'm sorry about your husband's assessment. Though you are used to it, it must not be uplifting to hear. Nice about the haircut!

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