WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2021

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Checking in at our next spot
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  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Why am I getting all these friend requests from people who don't have any friends and became members years ago?
    Michele NC

    Me too? WHat's up with that?!
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Rebecca - Your son is a valuable man for rescuing and bringing back a navy helicopter. Congratulations! ❤️

    Yes I thought so too. I am hoping that his command will look at all the good he does, all the weekends when he's off duty, that he comes in on a moments notice, and that they will put some good words in his military file. He so needs to make 1st Class Petty Officer, and you need to have those "extras" listed. There will come a point that he could "rank out" of the Navy, the last thing he wants. The Navy runs well when many sailors are followers, not necessarily leaders. That is what my son is.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    I have been pondering sentimental items, and how to organize them. My task of organizing photos for eldest and youngest sons, seems to be more about me, and my need to put them a certain way. When the time comes, we have passed, the boys will ultimately go thru the albums picking and choosing what photos they want. It won't be a big task. Do they need an individual container listing each house in date order with the addresses? Probably not. I also have thought about what I like to do when writing letters to my pen pals. Do I like to use stamps, not so much, yet I have a box full of wooden stamps from my sister. I am not holding onto items because someone else has expectations about them.
    This Christmas, I have decided to wait until I receive a Christmas card, to send one to them. I have decided to not send the 70-80 cards out that I normally do. Sometimes we do things out of a self imposed obligation, and that alone becomes a self imposed stress.
    My father and mother each have a "pizza box". Its not REALLY a pizza box but a box similar that my husband bought 40 very inexpensive ones for his games. I took my 12x12 pages and they fit perfectly in them. I shut the boxes and tied them with stribg, and that was that. I shall put my big leather looking album that my fathers stuff had been in, and sell it. I do have a really crumbled and cracking roll of paper that was my fathers " crossing the line" when he was in the Navy. There is no way I can ever make is flat again, and its not like my father ever talked about his time in the Navy. It was just something he did. I have a folded flag from his funeral that was on a casket, but he was cremated so when I think of my father, I think of when we all got together at Mercer Lake scattering his ashes by the place he liked to fish. He wasn't overly patriotic, so when I see this flag I don't feel anything. Its not like I want to get a flag box for it. Does that make sense? So I am thinking on contacting the local Boy Scouts to respectfully take care of it. They do some sort of ceremony burning it.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Pip- im enjoying armchair traveling with you Kirby and Yogi !!.
    Went out with my friends on there pontoon boat today was a little choppy and windy ,but we had a real nice time..
    This was a busy weekend for me ,which is unusual ..so I feel bad that I left Alfie home alone alot and that could be another reason he is pooping on the carpet.. i have put a gate up there so he canr get in there
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Morning ladies
    I slept in ,yesterday was a busy day but i must say I did sleep well.
    Katla- i will be flying with handicapped access to Nashville.. like Heather said they take great care,when I went last time wirh my dad,I just kept a pocket full of 5s for tips and it went swimmingly, and a golf cart out to the rental car..
    It should be very doable.. if he is having second thoughts than maybe having his sister come would be a good idea..if not like someone said getting a caregivee to come in to assist might help also..
    Im trying to figure out how im going to woek a boatride at 1 and meeting friends for pizza in a different town at 4 ,we shall see..
    I ordered a new double hung window and patio door that i am hoping to have installed before my trip.. but I have to take all the pictures down ,curtains anything around patio door and window that could get damaged ,so that will keep me busy the next few weeks..
    I have a feeling even though im only going for 5 days im going to need to check a bag for the flight,my Cpap would take up a good chunk of the carry on ,so ill have to figure out packing in the next week or so.. I always like to have things set early...


    When we have flown- dh's CPAP was not counted as part of his carry on- he had it in another bag.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    kizanne2 wrote: »
    Katla - it is a hard position to be caring for someone who hasn't yet accepted they need care or that they impact you in ways they probably don't want to. No one wants to be a burden to their loved ones. I echo the sentiment you may want to look into at least temporary home care while you go see the grandkids

    Bananas - that is just awful. No one deserves to be treated like that. I feel for you. Wanting to accomplish something and do something meaningful should be something everyone can get behind but there is always people like F who don't feel good about themselves if they aren't putting someone or their ideas down. Apparently F might be one of those people. If you decide to quit please make sure to let the group know the exact circumstances so that when he picks out his next target they will have a more watchful eye. Or offer the group a choice either you quit or F is uninvited from such meetings.

    Michele - I know I've gotten a few friend requests as well. I've been a member for years and now is the only time I've really accepted any. I guess it's just people trying to connect. I'm glad your sciatica seems to be improving.

    Heather - great pics

    Pip- Love the travel pics.

    Rebecca - How great. You can be so proud of your son!

    Machka - That's awesome. You did it.



    I'm still working too much. I am managing a little better with not stress eating. I will be working much of today but last week I managed to have only one late nighter.

    But I finished my gallbladder cleanse and the minor pain I was having has disappeared. I really need to try to schedule them 1/month for the next 10 months or so. They say it really takes between 10 -15 to see more permanent results that was like number 6 or 7 but it's been 1.5 years.

    Went shopping Saturday around dinner time. Hubby was hungry so we grabbed some ribs at a place with outdoor seating. I probably went over on calories but I had only had a protein shake that day so maybe not too bad. Back on track today.

    Got baby seahorses out of the tank last night. I didn't have any fresh baby brine so we will see if they survive until I can hatch out some baby brine.

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    love the pictures- thanks for sharing them
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,631 Member
    csofled wrote: »
    exermom wrote: »
    Why am I getting all these friend requests from people who don't have any friends and became members years ago?
    Michele NC

    Me too? WHat's up with that?!

    Delete them.

    Or if you do accept them, keep an eye on their profile pictures.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,535 Member
    As usual, no formal exercise today. But tomorrow since that’s the last day of the prednisone and today I’m 95-98% better, I’ll go to the gym (yea!) and just do upper body work then take a walk. Probably no formal exercise tuesday but I’ll take a walk.

    The bad news is that the battery on my pedometer ran out. But it’s probably good that if it had to die at any time, this was a good time because I know I’m not getting my steps in. I’m probably only getting about 5,000/day.

    M – trust me, the first thing I do is delete those friend requests. But I wonder why I’m even getting them? I’m wondering if it could be some sort of troll who is using that name. I wonder if someone can even do that? Don’t they have to know the person’s password?

    Katla – but how do you feel about a home care nurse like barbara suggested for dh? Update: yeaaaaaa he decided to fly!!!!

    Heather – I didn’t know that they’d help katla’s dh to the bathroom! Guess I never encountered that need.

    Michele NC
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Reunion was fun but next time I need someone else to help with the raffle table. I was stuck there most of the night, only visiting with those who came over to the table or who I ran in if I was grabbing a drink.

    Spent the night at mom's- stayed up way too late- mom and dh talking, me listening mostly. Didnt get much of a chance to talk with mom- dh dominates all conversations. I told mom I will be back up in a few weeks and we can visit then. She came over to the reunion for a little bit to bring some tables over for me and got to visit with my cousin and a few others she knew which she totally enjoyed.

    Raided mom's garden before heading home.The tomatoes will be in the dehydrator tomorrow for more sun dried tomatoes.
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    Debbie
    (resting after a weekend in beautiful
    Alexander Valley, CA)
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,909 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    I have a folded flag from his funeral that was on a casket, but he was cremated so when I think of my father, I think of when we all got together at Mercer Lake scattering his ashes by the place he liked to fish. He wasn't overly patriotic, so when I see this flag I don't feel anything. Its not like I want to get a flag box for it. Does that make sense? So I am thinking on contacting the local Boy Scouts to respectfully take care of it. They do some sort of ceremony burning it.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington

    Rebecca,
    Loved the Athena photos... and wanted to remind you that Girl Scouts also do flag burning. In fact your amazing skills with paper and washi tape would make a great scrapbook badge class for the troop. Well worth reaching out to them. I think you were involved with your son's Boy Scouts troops when they were young? Just a thought.

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Debbie- yes us women usually have a carry on and some sort of purse or large bag with us.
    So your DH probably had that as his plus 1,
    Me ill have the carry on but my larger bag will have a small purse,headphones battery pack ,small power cord, and if I put rhe C pap in it will just over power it so ill call the airlines and see what they suggest if it was a direct flight i wouldn't worry but its not..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,631 Member
    edited September 2021
    exermom wrote: »
    M – trust me, the first thing I do is delete those friend requests. But I wonder why I’m even getting them? I’m wondering if it could be some sort of troll who is using that name. I wonder if someone can even do that? Don’t they have to know the person’s password?

    Michele NC

    Yes ... MFP was hacked a while back.

    To explain a bit further ...

    About 3.5 years ago, MFP was hacked. We were all told to change our passwords, and we did (right?). However, the members who were inactive at that time probably didn't change their passwords.

    The MFP data was put up for sale and who knows who bought it but evidently someone mischievous has.

    First the person created a program which opened several new accounts which started displaying "not suitable for family viewing" profile pictures.

    That was shut down.

    Now the person has created a program which looks for members who have not changed their passwords. The program is able to go in and delete the profile pictures and send friend requests to a collection of current users. Often you'll see that the new friend request has no profile picture ... yet.

    People were deleting those requests, so I suspect that the program has been modified so that it is leaving one old profile picture so as not to raise suspicion.

    At some point, "not suitable for family viewing" profile pictures may start appearing.


    You are not being targeted specifically.
    It's not a troll, it's a hacker having a bit of fun horrifying the people of MFP.


    But if you have not changed your password since you signed up with MFP, know that your details have been sold to this person and who knows who else. You might want to change your password. :)


    M in Oz


  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    B)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Uuuuuu
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,211 Member
    :) Rain today which is good news for the yard, but discouraged me from my afternoon walk so I walked in the house to get to my 10,000 steps.

    <3 Barbie
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Yogi enjoying the music 🎶 w/the parents
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  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,957 Member
    <3
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,631 Member
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  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,049 Member
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  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Kate UK ❤️
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    Nice day yesterday. But Friday irked me and I'm upset today.

    this is not going to be in favour of rehabitating the image of the French !

    To balance- Saturday lovely café with colleague - nice café nice day nice spontaneous lunch etc. good people over all.

    But Friday!
    Meeting with 5 colleagues on an activist work thing - just for a drink 1h as N was passing through town from far away. Then after that, only 3 of us stayed for a very quick simple meal.

    But there is F who has been quite agressive with me. He has often exploded, on the phone. then last April he - due to a problem at work - I don't know what - he decided suddenly to retire - a year early - Almost right after deciding to retire he yelled at me for the 1st time in front of another colleague - an old friend- colleague of his- and then left in anger. It ws the 1st time he lost his cool like that towards me in front of someone else. The other colleague Y's 1st impulse was to defend F. But when I asked Y what he would have done had I acted as F had - he said he would have said that I was hysterical.

    Just after F. sent a few prickly contentious mails (with some mistakes in them) with several people in copy. This was not at all in our practices. I answered as needed to rehabilitate, but abstained from all contact with him and on the very rare times he wrote to me I put another colleague in copy in my answer.

    We all met once for a meal in July with 7 people and it was fine.

    This time I felt him prickly upon arriving but it was not really something I could put my finger on. He was talking a lot, not listening much, cutting me off- but possibly others too, seemed full of himself. Then after two colleagues left and there was only me and another colleague for the quick meal (I should have left) who is also an old friend of F for 30 years F insulted me repeatedly (swears repeatedly) - with no constructive bent. Claiming -at 65- that he has never had any issues with anyone else of the sort. (whereas one year previously when I had questioned him about that he said that it did happen on occasion that he exploded and gave me some examples). he nearly claimed that I was the source of all his problems (at 65 whereas I have only known him for about a yer and a half.) I dont buy it that a guy 65 who behaves badly repeatedly - and I know that he had some issues at his job that led to his retiring a year early with no plan (and his wife is still working 5 more years) according to Y but I don't know what.

    O who was still here, had been warned and said he would keep an eye out for such issues, but he seems crazy about F as a friend and not very objective at all. F left angry again, and then only AFTER F had left was O in agreement that F didn't need to be insulting - but still O was half thinking I was imagining things and defending F.

    BUT today one of the 2 other people who were there in the early part, N, who met us all for the 1st time live wrote to me saying about him that she found him "rough around the edges" "gritty" or "unrefined"

    And then said :

    "He quickly played at trying to get me to collude with him, against you when you didn't understand an expression we were using."

    "I had the impression he had a certain pleasure in seeing you fail ”

    This was at the beginning of the evening a good hour before he was insulting me. he left and then O and i both left.

    I have put much much much personal time into this activist work. if F is there always trying to cause problems, and insult me and get people against me - I have no space for it. I am very clearly the leader and it will likely stop or fail if I am not involved.

    We have a major major meeting next Wednesday. maybe I will go but that may be the end of it.


    one of the biggest problems is that O is an old friends of F and seems mad about F.
    I consider.ed myself a friend of O, but if O is instinctively defending F who is clearly unacceptable and unprofessional in his behaviour, this makes the friendship with O not worth much at all.

    And the whole thing is just too much effort for not much good to come out of it.

    I feel really bad today. Weird. Yesterday was fairly good. and I woke up well this morning with an interesting dream, and then it seemed to turn bad.

    I'm supposed to have a 30 min work meeting with O today. I'll talk to him and see what he says, I'm half ready to quit if he persists in defending vulgar insulting F. I prefer not to decide extremely quickly in regards to something invested in for a year- but these are questions in the air. I work A LOT, mostly with O who seconds me. If O doesn't have my back, and is even the opposite sometimes - then I don't know that it make sense that I continue. We get zero money for this. it's lost time. :s


    Julie,

    The behavior you are describing is not normal. This is not just someone who is cranky and irritable.

    It may not be something he can easily control, especially if he does not recognize it as a condition he needs assessment and treatment for.

    I am fairly certain it has very little to do with you, even though it feels personal. You are just one of his targets.

    You can be sure that you are not the only person that irks him; he has admitted as much. His comment about not having this problem with anyone but you is total BS; it is belied by his previous recitation of other explosions. He has undoubtedly said the same thing to many other people, perhaps even his former boss. It is a form of rationalization, and not uncommon in people who are irrational and irascible. I feel sorry for his wife. She must know something is wrong with him and probably can't convince him to have an assessment.

    There are 2 interesting things I want to point out.

    One is that you and others had a meal with this man in July and there were no problems.

    The second: "This time I felt him prickly upon arriving but it was not really something I could put my finger on. He was talking a lot, not listening much, cutting me off- but possibly others too, seemed full of himself."

    Both of these observations on your part paint a picture of someone who may have manic depression, and the recent encounter during a manic phase. Or any number of other conditions, including some forms of dementia, brain tumor, a personality disorder, and others. The reason I wonder about manic depression is the contrast between July, when there were no problems, and the recent episode when he was cursing, interrupting, talking a lot, and seemed full of himself. That's a perfect description of a person in the manic phase of their illness.

    If you are the leader of the group, a manic person who feels omnipotent and irritable would naturally target the person in charge. That is nearly predictable if I am right about this person.

    I know you did not ask me to analyze this situation, but it just seems crystal clear to me, so I hope you don't mind. I really don't think his behavior has much, if anything, to do with you as a person. He is targeting you, as the leader, probably very similarly to how he may have targeted his boss, which led to losing his job. It's a tragedy, really, because when he is not manic he may be a very nice person. Since many people seem fond of him, I suspect this is the case, and the reason they are defending him.

    I doubt the behavior will change. Only you can decide if you want to continue with this aggravation. Like I said, I really feel sorry for his wife. Can you imagine living with him?

    Karen in Virginia
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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Pip,
    Debbie,

    Beautiful uplifting photos. What a treat! Thanks.

    Karen in Virginia
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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,909 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,725 Member
    edited September 2021
    Finished my third edit. :D
    But I've got to go back and infill some episodes I've missed out. :(
    Sometimes I think I've written something, but I haven't, and other times I've written it twice. ;)
    So, another time going through it .......
    Also pondering how much backstory to include about the family history.

    I've had to be firm and say no to a lunch with my friend G this week. She is in Brighton every day for a political conference. With school pick-up and my brother and wife staying over later this week, I really have to be strict with myself and concentrate on my memoir. I think she understands. :o She was going to use our drive for parking, but we have a petrol shortage here, so she is travelling by train, which has huge delays because of important work on the line.

    Had leftovers for lunch and will, use some of my many eggs for a spinach omelette for dinner. I have plateaued on the weight loss, so need to draw in a little.

    Autumn has arrived overnight. Summer went on longer than usual. Rain and wind this morning.

    Karen - Good analysis.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Morning ladies
    I wake up in the middle of the night to use thr restroom and rhrn cant get back to sleep. Going to see the sleep dr on weds so will aak her about that.. might have something to do with the airflow for the Cpap.of course then i lie there thinking of the stuff i have to do ,they are starting tbis week to put in the new windows but i will be one of the last.. because im on the bottom floor.. but I have to take the curtains down,rods move everything that is near the windows so nothing gets damaged..
    Also I have to make a list of what i need to pack for the trip and call the airline to see how im going to work the luggage..
    So my mind is just swimming ..

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