WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY2022
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Katla -
Thinking of you and sending hugs!
Kim in N. California0 -
Oh, Katla. I'm so sorry. I'm praying for strength for you and healing for your hubby. That drive every day isn't going to be pleasant.
I think this might be my first post of July. It has been a wild month, beginning the last week of June. My mother fell -- we're not sure why -- but she didn't break any bones and she didn't have a stroke -- but she can't move any more. Or at least, not well. I mean, she can't even adjust herself in bed to be more comfortable. She was in the hospital for observation for a couple days and then admitted for a couple days, and then moved to a skilled nursing facility. She has started OT/PT, and does it when she is not too tired. We took her off her chemo meds for lung cancer because we think they were not helping her quality of life. It was really a very easy decision.
My latest scans showed everything stable. I don't remember if I posted that or not. I've been spending the week working, and then driving up to spend time with my mom on the weekends. I am exhausted.
Online Privacy:I try to be very careful because I work inside a prison one day a week for much of the year. Those guys already know my name, but I remain very vague with them regarding where exactly I live, and I don't tell them any personal information, like how many children I have, their ages, although they do know I'm married. I had already shut things down pretty tight (changed my username here to something people wouldn't think to associate with me; locked Facebook down and purged my friend list; not on twitter or other social media except Linked In because of work) when one day, one of the inmates told me something about one of my co-workers. Something he shouldn't have known. I asked him how he knew it, and he said his brother googled it for him. So there you go. I did another sweep of everything, and remain very careful in this forum because I did exactly what Machka said, googled my username or a key phrase, and there were my posts. Because of my job, I do have a web presence, so anyone who googled my actual name would find press releases and pictures, and that just is what it is, but I try to keep it all about work.
I respect that many of you aren't worried, and perhaps if I didn't work with murderers and gang members on a weekly basis, I wouldn't worry so much either. But I do. I also worry sometimes about some of you who say unkind things about your family members and use their names. It's your business, of course, and maybe they already know how you feel, but it could be really hurtful if they happen to see what you said. I refrain from ranting about my family, although I have succumbed a few times, for that reason, and I don't believe I've ever used their names. I would be heartbroken if I had said something unkind or insensitive about them and they happen to see it. They all know how to get into my computer and they know about my "old lady fitness board," so if they wanted to, any of them could come in here and see what I say. I keep it pretty scrubbed for that reason because I like them being able to use my computer when they need to. (Like my son using it for Zoom cello lessons during the pandemic.) Anyway, it's just what I do and it doesn't mean that everyone makes the same choices. I might be a little different about it if my work were different.
I need to get to work. It is so terribly stressful right now, and I am weighing how I want to spend my last years of life, and it's not there. Hubby and I have begun seriously talking about my retiring either when I turn 62 (December) or at the conclusion of that academic year (June). I have other things I want to do with my time while I can still do them. The side effects of the drugs I am on are not debilitating yet, but I do have to measure what I do and how much I do. The three hours of kayaking last weekend probably wasn't a fantastic idea, in retrospect. My body is not happy with me.
Think of you all often.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR13 -
Hi Gals,
This is my last post about internet security…. I promise to not bring it up again…
When friends care about each other and one has knowledge that others do not have they share… For example Debbie and I are both avid veggie growers and would share info with you; Machka and I both have some knowledge on internet security and choose to share.
The sharing of gardening info and internet security info is similar you may choose to use the info, choose to ignore the info, choose to care about some but not all. But the reason for sharing is the same we care about you and had some knowledge to share.
I do share certain things here, but there is plenty I do not. There are pre-posts I write in word and then delete instead of posting as I know it is more info than I want out in the world. I crop lots of pictures to make sure they are what I want to share.
What started this was the moving of a business, well it might not matter to the participants, but a local competitor might be able to use this info to undermine the existing business, someone with the “right location” might raise the price. Vacation plans tell me when not to drop in for a cup of tea with Michele but the tell a criminal when TO drop in.
Sending love to all.
Kim in N. California
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Katla - so very sorry to hear about your DH, but it's good he'll be in a skilled nursing facility.
Flea - that had to be scary, prison inmates being able to track people down connected to you. Don't blame you for bending over backwards to keep your identity secure. Retiring sooner than later sounds like a great idea. Sorry to hear about your mom!
I probably have an odd view on folks posting unflattering comments about friends and relatives and neighbors in this group. I believe "there are no accidents". I doubt anyone would be shocked to read what their neighbor/mom/sister really thought of them, if they happened onto this forum. And just maybe it would force a conversation and start some healing that should have been done a long time ago. Addressing family problems is touchy stuff for everyone, but has to start somewhere. I'm no angel and have stepped into my own messes many times.
But everyone generally ended up better for it though it was a stinky steaming pile at the time! 
Sun is finally shining, if rain doesn't show up, I might get to to hop on the mower today and show the zillion dandelions who is the BOSS!!
Lanette
SW WA State
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minicooper452 wrote: »Thank you for being the voice of reason Mary!
PLEASE don't feel uncomfortable about posting pix if you have permission from your/the family or they're your children and you want to. For heaven's sake people! We are adults. Yes, this forum is open, but are people really coming to MFP and to "Women Ages 50+" looking for kids pix?!? Think about it! Let's be rational for a minute. Okay... off my soapbox.
Off to Canton. 12-hour drive ahead of us. Wish us luck. Chat tomorrow... I think, if I'm coherent. LOL
Thanks for all the well-wishes already.
GO VIXEN!!!
Carla, in MN... headed to OH
You don't have to come to this particular thread to find posts and pictures. This is what we are trying to explain. I know it is difficult to understand if you don't have a computer background.
You can open Google and Google someone's user name or a phrase or something and find what people here have posted. You might be looking for something else but a phrase of what you are looking for might be in this thread. It may not matter. But if someone is bored one evening and googling random things like maybe their name ... they might be surprised to discover it mentioned here.
Try it. Copy a phrase you've typed here, something with a couple relatively unique words or word combinations, and paste it into Google.
Meanwhile for Mary etc. I will continue to remind people to be careful what you post.
I post photos of my exercise areas, quite often. I exercise all over the place and don't care who sees those photos. So I am comfortable posting them.
However I will not be posting photos of my grandchildren. I don't feel comfortable with that.
If you are comfortable with what you post, by all means carry on. No one is stopping you.
M in Oz
You also post where you conduct bike rides. Are you not afraid that people will follow you to your bike rides and get information on you?? Also, it's a little condescending of you to suggest that people do not have computer backgrounds. It feels as though you are being very judgmental. We know all about your husband his accidents and where he worked. We know where you live. We also know where you have lived in the past. Everybody here has lived a very long life and has been around long enough to take care of themselves. As well as other people in their lives. This is supposed to be a place to come for support not condemnation. Let's share the love instead of criticism.
💞 Mary from Arizona/Minnesota7 -
One last thing and then I will stop. People share problems they are having at home with other people and this may be the only place that they have to vent. I have been on here since 2014. If you don't want to hear what people have to say just skip the post. But please don't put them down. Or tell them not to do what they feel is necessary at the time. We are supposed to be here to support each other.
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Worked, got dinner ready, then will go in the pool, later I’ll probably go to Aldi since Vince needs tomatoes
Tracey – I guess we shall find out how long it will take them to find an alternate location for ceramics. Might not even be that long since they’re looking for a place right now. Who knows what the future will bring? Lovely butterflys. How did you make the dots? A bit of paint on the tip of the brush? I made Smurfette’s polka dots by putting a bit of paint on the end of a paint brush
Barbara – I can handle the heat but not the humidity. When we moved from PA to NC, one day we were putting things in storage and it was 102 degrees. I thought “oh, we’re going to die”. But honestly it wasn’t bad because there wasn’t the humidity
M – we have no idea where Vince’s family came from. They’ve been in the US since the Civil War (at least). I can tell you that he’s related to Abraham Lincoln. Maybe you can find my mother’s father? I wanted to find out what happened to him for my aunt’s birthday, but try as I might, I couldn’t find any information about him. I could tell you when he came to America, who sponsored him, where he stayed, but after a certain point there is no mention of him. What we THINK happened (remember, this was probably 100 years ago, literally) is that it was payday, someone stole his paycheck and threw him into an open mine. Since Vince has the concealed carry permit, he had to give a fair amount of information, so it’s not surprising that there’s quite a bit of information about us out on the internet. When I got my CPAP I was supposed to connect to the internet, only Vince has our network hidden. Believe it or not, there wasn’t a way to input the network IP number. So he had to make it visible, connect, then make it invisible again.
Lisa – oh no! Does this mean no ice cream or frozen food (not defrosted)?
Anne DE – a hotel with an indoor swimming pool would probably be a good hit for the kids.
Lanette – yes, you’re so right. The ceramics place was “hush, hush” only because they don’t want to start a panic. Like I said, it’ll come out – just not from me. You know something, I have a neighbor who is REALLY into security. Yet, she’ll post a picture on Facebook about how she’s in Florida (or wherever), not that she’s BEEN there. I just find that interesting.
Katla dear – my heart goes out to you. Thank goodness your children are there for you.
Michele NC
who is off to the pool
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On privacy/internet security— I look at it like this and not be paranoid. If someone wants to break into your house or car, they will find a way. Leaving them unlocked just makes it easier. Don’t invite thieves of any kind by locking car doors but leaving a purse, computer, or other “candy” on the seat that can be seen from the window. Translate that to internet or anything you want secure and you realize that nothing is truly safe. So I’m just careful and not paranoid. Lock it and don’t put anything that can invite a thief within easy reach.
Went to therapy yesterday, meds being changed and future sessions to come. I liked this psychiatrist. She’s really nice.
DH for denture fitting shortly so see ya later.
RvRita y’all know where I am! Lol
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I am turning 50 in a few weeks. I was using the Noom App and lost 14 lbs the first 3 months, then used it another 3 months and just maintained. So I discontinued the membership as it costs money. I would like to lost 5 to 10 more lbs. I bought a dress for my daughter's wedding August 27. I cannot gain any weight or it's not going to fit me. It fits now but felt a little snug around the stomach. It's at the seamstress right now getting hemmed. I don't have time to find another dress and don't like any other ones I've found. That is not the reason I joined noom. I had gained weight and felt like I was busting out of all my clothes. I wanted to feel healthier and not so uncomfortable. So I do feel better than I did.
Today I found out that using Garlic Hummus instead of Mayo on my sandwich tasted very good and saved me 70 Calories. I think I will stick with that. I eat turkey and provolone on one slice of 12-Grain Bread like almost every day. I did not like it without the mayo. But the hummus was very good.
How do you comment on people's posts? You just have to mention them in your post?
There was a beautiful baby I saw in someone's post, and nice 4th of July pics in someone elses.
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »
Sun is finally shining, if rain doesn't show up, I might get to to hop on the mower today and show the zillion dandelions who is the BOSS!!
Lanette
SW WA State
All we have is sun here. Please send some rain our way. 😀. I just finished mowing the sprigleys (blue stem grass) down. I feel much better when my pasture is spriggley free. My hubs thinks I’m nuts! He figures if the lawn part is mowed it’s all good. He is wrong! So I mow and do both.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
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okiewoman510 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »
Sun is finally shining, if rain doesn't show up, I might get to to hop on the mower today and show the zillion dandelions who is the BOSS!!
Lanette
SW WA State
All we have is sun here. Please send some rain our way. 😀. I just finished mowing the sprigleys (blue stem grass) down. I feel much better when my pasture is spriggley free. My hubs thinks I’m nuts! He figures if the lawn part is mowed it’s all good. He is wrong! So I mow and do both.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
Okie, I would GLADLY send you rain! I think the Pacific Northwest has had one of the coolest and wettest spring/early summer weather on record. Maybe it's making up for the baking "heat domes" we had last year. We're supposed to see the mid-80's early next week and I'm practicing my "it's too hot!" complaining, lol.
Lanette3 -
SophieRosieMom wrote: »okiewoman510 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »
Okie, I would GLADLY send you rain! I think the Pacific Northwest has had one of the coolest and wettest spring/early summer weather on record. Maybe it's making up for the baking "heat domes" we had last year. We're supposed to see the mid-80's early next week and I'm practicing my "it's too hot!" complaining, lol.
Lanette
Our forecast is for 105 on Saturday and Sunday, 104 Monday!
Okie3 -
Zoomed this pm with my girlfriends. One was late to the party, but we all connected.
Just before, my friend L rang up, a bit upset. I didn't have time to talk, but another of her friends was trying to get through, so I left it. Will catch up soon.
Reading a fascinating book, Left on Tenth Street by Delia Ephron. Memoir of a late love and blood cancer.
I have a lot more energy today. I've done nothing, except a few stretches, but hope for a good day tomorrow.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Lisa--Isn't that the way it usually happens. Hurt until time to go get it checked and if you don't go it will start again rights after. Good luck.
Annie--Good for you standing up to your sister about the extra guests. I do agree to at least one night away just to do whatever you want would be a great gift to yourself.
Tracey-- Beautiful butterflies.
On the subject of privacy. You can be found no matter what if the person wants to bad enough. I decided I am going to live my life and not live in fear of what may or may not happen. I watch my bank and credit card accounts. DH has outside camera's at the house and they are set up if someone comes within 2 feet of the fence ( our yard is fenced all four sides) a voice says {"Hi, you are being recorded". What I like best is packages are now delivered on the porch and not just thrown over the fence. I do not want to live in fear and so I am careful. As for people on this site and I believe what is posted as I feel most of you as my friends and if you are not who you say you are it is your loss and not sure what they would want from us old ladies talking about life. I realize each person has to do what is right for them. I chose to trust people until proven different. At the same time I do not put financal stuff on line. As for posting when we going to be out of town. We have a lady that lives with us and she is there so the house is never empty. Our DGS is also a policeman and he drives by often when he knows we are not home and our block of neighbors are great about watching out for each other rather we are home or not
Speaking of help. Yesterday I was doing some cleaning and was bending over cleaning behind DH's chair and the vacumn tipped over on me and we went down. I got up and was finishing when my fitbit starting buzzing. I looked and it said , see you have fallen, do you need help. It would of called 911 if I wouldn't of answered. Didn't know it did that. but nice to know if I ever do need it.
Katla--Thanks for the update. So glad your children are they with you. Sending lots of hugs and prayers.
Had an interview this morning and she sounds like a good fit. Have one tomorrow afternoon and will go from there. I just want someone who is going to show up and do the job and not create drama.
Blessings, Vicki, GRAND ISLAND, NE 7 -
Katla - My very best wishes for you and your DH. I'm glad you are both being well looked after.
Finished my book. A binge read!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
Broke a piece of a tooth off last night so seeing the dentist this afternoon to have it smoothed down. They will schedule me then for a crown. Not looking forward to the expense of that.
Katla sending healing angels for your DH. Glad the kids are with you.
Happy World Chocolate Day to all!!!
Everyone take care, Sue in WA3 -
How do you comment on people's posts? You just have to mention them in your post?
There was a beautiful baby I saw in someone's post, and nice 4th of July pics in someone elses.
There is a quote button at the bottom of each post. If you click it within the post you want to comment on, then their post appears in the top if your reply, like yours did here. I went within the quote and deleted the things that I was not commenting on.
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 48min 28sec, 75elev, 3.31ap, 99ahr, 162mhr, 6.03mi= 550c
Strava app = 688c
Walk home to gym- 11.15min, .51mi= 58c
Strava app = 59c
Rowing machine- 30min, 34aw, 122ahr, 169mhr, 4168meters= 223c
Walk gym to store then home- 16.33min, .73mi= 77c
Strava app = 84c
Total cal 908
Yesterday I ran my 1st 5k (3.1miles) since I had the tumor removed and with the current broken shoulder. Did under a 10min mile, so I felt good about that. Felt good during the run just hurt (shoulder) a bit after. Today I used the rowing machine for the first time with the messed up shoulder and that hurt during and after. Takes time but I am improving.10 -
PIP ~ Congrats on your run!
Carol in GA2 -
Afternoon all
Brother came and took a few things and hope he is coming back to take a few more things to take up to the cottage..
Went and got Homer outside he seems to be holding his own.. bless his little heart..
Katla-thinking of you and your family.. hope your hubby has a speedy recovery..
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Katla, Oh my gosh, so sorry to hear of your husband's health problems. Glad your children are there and supportive. (((Hugs)))
Karen in Virginia0 -
Katla best wishes for you and DH! Glad to hear your children are with you.
Annie in Delaware0 -
Katla sending hugs and best wishes to you and your dh 0
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DH had a heart attack and spent several days in the hospital. Yesterday he was transferred to a skilled nursing facility in a town twenty plus miles from here. I expect to visit him every day until he can come home.
Our daughter and son are here with me. They are each squeezing in time to be here and I am grateful they are with me.
Katla
So sorry Katla.
I'm glad you have the support of your family there.
M in Oz1 -
Katla: Best wishes for you both and a speedy recovery for your DH. (((Hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻0
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I am turning 50 in a few weeks. I was using the Noom App and lost 14 lbs the first 3 months, then used it another 3 months and just maintained. So I discontinued the membership as it costs money. I would like to lost 5 to 10 more lbs. I bought a dress for my daughter's wedding August 27. I cannot gain any weight or it's not going to fit me. It fits now but felt a little snug around the stomach. It's at the seamstress right now getting hemmed. I don't have time to find another dress and don't like any other ones I've found. That is not the reason I joined noom. I had gained weight and felt like I was busting out of all my clothes. I wanted to feel healthier and not so uncomfortable. So I do feel better than I did.
Today I found out that using Garlic Hummus instead of Mayo on my sandwich tasted very good and saved me 70 Calories. I think I will stick with that. I eat turkey and provolone on one slice of 12-Grain Bread like almost every day. I did not like it without the mayo. But the hummus was very good.
How do you comment on people's posts? You just have to mention them in your post?
There was a beautiful baby I saw in someone's post, and nice 4th of July pics in someone elses.
You can mention them or use the quote button at the bottom of their post.0 -
Hi Gals,
This is my last post about internet security…. I promise to not bring it up again…
When friends care about each other and one has knowledge that others do not have they share… For example Debbie and I are both avid veggie growers and would share info with you; Machka and I both have some knowledge on internet security and choose to share.
The sharing of gardening info and internet security info is similar you may choose to use the info, choose to ignore the info, choose to care about some but not all. But the reason for sharing is the same we care about you and had some knowledge to share.
I do share certain things here, but there is plenty I do not. There are pre-posts I write in word and then delete instead of posting as I know it is more info than I want out in the world. I crop lots of pictures to make sure they are what I want to share.
What started this was the moving of a business, well it might not matter to the participants, but a local competitor might be able to use this info to undermine the existing business, someone with the “right location” might raise the price. Vacation plans tell me when not to drop in for a cup of tea with Michele but the tell a criminal when TO drop in.
Sending love to all.
Kim in N. California
I could explain more about how forums work ... how what we type goes into a database ... how what we see here is just a facade ... but apparently talking about computers and that sort of thing is not welcome.
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