WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,250 Member
    edited October 2022
    Stats for the day-

    Walk/slow jog w/yogi- 1hr 29min 50sec, 103elev, 4.06ap, 117ahr, 159mhr, 6.05mi= 592c
    Strava app = 741c
    Zwift home bike trainer- strava stats- 15.45min, 154elev, 100aw, 19.5amph, 101ahr, 119mhr, 5.11mi= 100c
    Strava app = 90c
    Zwift stats- 15.50min, 156elev, 99aw, 42arpm, 19.40amph, 5.12mi= 90c

    Total cal 692

    Didn’t go to the gym, after a quick ride, had to make more doggie treats and type out the recipe
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    edited October 2022
    Have any of you had a bone density test?
    At what age did you get it done.
    I asked my doctor about it before and she said I was too young. I asked her today and she said we will do it when I am 65. (I asked because both my parents have/had osteo)
    Have to wait five more years to have it done
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,880 Member
    I can't quite figure out if the difference is simply the individual differences between us all in outlook, or in financial wherewithal, or the urban / rural divide - but I cannot even imagine moving into an apartment where strangers take care of me...

    Please don't get me wrong - I'm not saying I think it's wrong, nor that it is in any way a bad thing--but my daughter has already informed me that she will be caring for me and then her dad as a something she expects to do, and will be proud to do. (Her brother gave away a dog just recently as too much responsibility, so there's that.) Personally, I hope to be able to walk off into the woods and have a panther eat me or something else interesting, but my daughter's outlook on parental care is that of being raised in a very tiny town in Alaska, and it matches my own in many ways, as I grew up in rural Texas.

    While not necessarily traditional, my father's eventual fate may not be for the faint of heart:
    My brother took care of our father until the last few weeks of his life, and had him living in a little house right next to his own... but that was because my sister and I would have cheerfully let the old man die by the side of the road than have him in either of our lives again. In the hospital, a nurse's aide gave him a drink of water after he'd had a minor stroke, he aspirated it into his lungs, developed pneumonia and died. My sis and I went to the funeral to make sure he was dead, mostly. The preacher, having known the family for decades, never spoke his name during the service. The same preacher had given my mother's service five years earlier with tears in his eyes throughout.

    Watching you all struggle through these caring decisions for those you love and for yourselves makes it obvious that some of us don't just want these things, we expect these arrangements for our parents, for ourselves, in ways that I genuinely find absolutely both fascinating and utterly foreign...

    Just musing in Arkansas,
    Love,
    Lisa
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    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,001 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,648 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Have any of you had a bone density test?
    At what age did you get it done.
    I asked my doctor about it before and she said I was too young. I asked her today and she said we will do it when I am 65. (I asked because both my parents have/had osteo)
    Have to wait five more years to have it done

    Debbie- it seems to me I had at least one when I was in my 40's - 50's, then another one at 65. And I have one scheduled this coming Tuesday.

    Are you in menopause? That might make a difference for you. My mom had a broken hip - maybe that's why I was able to get mine done sooner.

    You might want to check with your insurance and see what their rules are, maybe that's the holdup.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    Worked then out to lunch with the Newcomers. Had a grilled chicken sandwich and in place of the french fries I had these mixed vegetables. Only water to drink

    Rebecca – I started MFP in 2009. Yikes! Almost 20 years ago! I’m not that old….lol

    Went for a walk around the block, had dinner, then watered the lawn, then got a donation ready to take to the Salvation Army tomorrow. Hopefully, we can take everything (there’s so much)

    Ginny – so glad to hear that you’re getting better and better

    Karen – looks like a wonderful place you’re moving to

    Debbie – I had my first one many years ago because I fractured my ankle and, to be honest, I think the doctor prescribed it for me just to shut me up, I wanted one and she kept insisting that I was too young. Was she ever shocked when it showed that I had osteoporosis! I KNEW something was wrong.

    Flea – (((HUGS)))

    I’d like to get my BDT every year, but this year I got so much flack, that Medicare only pays once every two years. They have paid every year for the last few year. In the end my MD said he’s fine with me waiting the 2 years. I’m just going to since I know the Prolia is helping.

    Off to take a shower and then probably watch some TV

    Michele NC
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,250 Member
    Ss
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,041 Member
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  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,946 Member
    I have been visiting with you ladies almost daily since April 2018.
    I started reading that month and Machka kept updating on her husband. I kept coming back to see how he was doing.
    I started enjoying others lives too.
    Heather and Johnny were trying to buy a house. Lisa was just starting at Guides. So many others. I ended up going back and reading from January before I commented the first time.
    It was like reading a book with all of these fascinating characters and I could be part of the story.
    I consider you all my friends.

    Debbie - I had my bone density when 1 day after I turned 50. The government wouldn’t pay for it before that. I think it’s one of the baseline things they do here routinely.

    Machka - I craft, watch tv, listen to music, clean/putter as relaxation. I only schedule something one work night a week and usually try to have time on the weekend to just sit and be.

    We have the Grandpup for the weekend. She arrived this evening and will be picked up Sunday. I’ll be just around the house this weekend.

    Tracey in Edmonton
    I’ll have to catch up on the weekend and tell you all my work woes and a funny Michaela conversation.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Have any of you had a bone density test?
    At what age did you get it done.
    I asked my doctor about it before and she said I was too young. I asked her today and she said we will do it when I am 65. (I asked because both my parents have/had osteo)
    Have to wait five more years to have it done

    Debbie- it seems to me I had at least one when I was in my 40's - 50's, then another one at 65. And I have one scheduled this coming Tuesday.

    Are you in menopause? That might make a difference for you. My mom had a broken hip - maybe that's why I was able to get mine done sooner.

    You might want to check with your insurance and see what their rules are, maybe that's the holdup.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

    went through menopause back in my early 40's.
    I will ask the doctor again- my friend that works at Kaiser said I may have to almost demand having one now, instead of asking if I can get one now.
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    Good morning ladies! <3

    From time to time, the topic of FOMO comes up here. Fear of Missing Out.

    This popped onto my FB page this morning:

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    Being a party pooper isn't pathological after all. :p

    Make it a fabulous day! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State where it's still sunny with days in the high 70's and 80's. Rain dance is anticipated to produce results in a week.

    Love it!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    So sorry Machka. For you and your plans, but, of course, for the so many people whose lives have been torn apart by this flooding event. So much misery.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Have any of you had a bone density test?
    At what age did you get it done.
    I asked my doctor about it before and she said I was too young. I asked her today and she said we will do it when I am 65. (I asked because both my parents have/had osteo)
    Have to wait five more years to have it done

    I am 68 and had my first bone density test last year. I don't have the same familyl history you have. My test was normal for age.

    Karen in Virginia
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    Machka - as I was reading your kidney stone experience I was picturing the university and hospital here as I knew you went there. I also pictured that long drive from south of here. Scary.

    Tracey in Edmonton

    Yep!

    I've had a few scary drives on that road, especially in winter! But that one topped the charts for most painful drive!

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    Rosemarie2972 wrote: »
    Murder She Wrote was a favorite show of mine, so I noted Angela Lansbury's passing. Sundays have not been the same for me since the show left that time slot. I think I use to really relax during the show and have not relaxed on Sunday night since. I did walk today and my husband seems to be doing okay.
    Time for sleep as tomorrow is another dayd!

    Murder She Wrote comes on TV here at 5:30 pm on week days. Quite often I'm not home from work till nearly 6 pm, so I don't watch it, but occasionally I get home earlier and will turn it on. Today was one of those days. :)

    I've always liked Murder She Wrote.

    M in Oz



  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    edited October 2022
    Machka9 wrote: »
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    So sorry Machka. For you and your plans, but, of course, for the so many people whose lives have been torn apart by this flooding event. So much misery.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    I'm not that disappointed about our plans. I was already formulating Plan B when I heard this system was moving in.

    I'm now in the process of cancelling the cycling event because it has been confirmed that at least one of the roads we use will be closed for at least a week while the road and the bridge are assessed. And that's just one of many roads.

    But more importantly, there is a lot of destruction and disrupted lives. And a lot of work ahead of so many.

    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Tracey - funny how we don't do the things right next to us, unless we have visitors who want to go. I still, haven't been up the i360. The old tram would be a fun trip for the kids. ???

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    One of the things that has gone hand-in-hand with cycling over the years is that I've been able to visit many of "the things right next to us" by cycling there. It's great to have a destination. :)

    Plan B involves doing day trips to visit places we haven't gone recently, and of course, to bring our bicycles with us. And maybe hiking shoes too.


    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    I can't quite figure out if the difference is simply the individual differences between us all in outlook, or in financial wherewithal, or the urban / rural divide - but I cannot even imagine moving into an apartment where strangers take care of me...

    Just musing in Arkansas,
    Love,
    Lisa

    Whereas, I can hardly wait! Being taken care of sounds wonderful!

    But it would have to be in Canada. Australia's facilities aren't as good as Canada's from the bit I have seen.

    And believe me if my husband starts deteriorating from where he is, as they predict he will, I'll be looking at options as Karen has.

    I'm 55 and my husband is older. If it weren't for the fact that he loves the garden and it gives him something to do, I'd be actively looking for a 55+ housing community to start the process!!

    Unfortunately, as I mentioned, Australia hasn't really grasped the concept as well as Canada has yet. There are 55+ housing communities but, again, from what I've seen, they aren't as nice as I'd like. So fortunately, we are still able to stay where we are for now.

    My grandmother went through the whole process.

    She lived in a large house and took care of my grandfather and great grandmother until they passed away.
    Then she downsized to a 2-bedroom apartment in an adult apartment building -- no children.
    Then she moved into a 1-bedroom independent apartment in an assisted living building. They had medical professionals on staff but only if you needed them. Dinners were provided and could be taken in a dining hall or in your own apartment. Pretty much everything else was up to you.
    Then she moved into a studio apartment in the same building, with a bit of medical attention ... and then with more attention.
    Then she had a fall, and my aunt and uncle took her until she was able to move into complete care in the hospital. The bit from the fall till the end happened fairly quickly.
    She passed away at 97 years old and was quite independent until about 96 years old.

    That process works for me.

    M in Oz

    Works for me, too.

    It's our preference to arrange for our senior care independent of our children. I wouldn't be doing it quite this soon if not for the deterioration of my spouse. I love where we currently live, on a pond in a nice house. I'm a procrastinator. My spouse's disability has served as the catalyst to set me in motion.

    Karen in Virginia


    Yes, I think we (my husband and I) would rather be the ones making the decisions about where we live and the type of care we get, rather than family members who don't know us very well.


    M in Oz
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    edited October 2022
    Karen - My heart goes out to you. <3 I truly dread the inevitable deterioration that comes with age, or accident, or illness. I still have to somehow get DH to do something about POA. I'm finding myself putting off having that discussion again as he was so hurt and upset last time.
    I intend to do all I can to keep myself healthy, but I know a lot of it is a lottery. My dream is to live into my 90s, independent and healthy and then suddenly pop off. That is extremely unlikely to happen, but DH and I exercise and eat every day with that goal in mind.
    I would put him in a home if he substantially deteriorated. I do not have any carer genes. There are a few nursing homes just around the corner, so regular visiting is happily possible. If I deteriorate, I hope to have enough wits left to exit this world before I'm at the stage when I don't have any choice. I definitely do not want to be kept alive. The idea of impotence terrifies me.
    Neither do I want to be with old people. Ugh. :p We consider ourselves bright young things. I really do feel younger than I did in my 40s. I have so many adventures to go on, not least in my writing and developing a bigger profile. Having spent so many years in a mental mess, life is just beginning for me.
    I also believe our grandchildren keep us young. Seeing life through their eyes is a constant adventure.

    I love your apartment, Karen, and fully understand your reasons. I would just resent the financial commitment. Renting has always seemed like wasted money and so insecure. I am open to having help in our home. I just have to get DH to see that one day he may not be in a state to make his own decisions and others, including me, may have to make the best decisions for him.

    I watch a lot of programmes about the health service, and the terrible difficulties old people have in coping at home and accessing services, breaks my heart. They are living lives of quiet desperation. No thank you.

    With all my love and compassion for you wonderful carers out there. I truly appreciate you.

    Heather UK xxxxxxxx

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