WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,250 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk/slow jog w/yogi- 1hr 38min, 55elev, 3.51ap, 115ahr, 164mhr, 6.11mi= 633c *stopped by estate sale which slowed down my pace*
    Strava app = 749c
    Zwift home bike trainer- strava stats- 29.24min, 266elev, 128aw, 20.9amph, 40gear, 110amph, 144mhr, 10.21mi= 227c
    Strava app = 216c
    Zwift stats- 29.28min, 269elev, 128aw, 49arpm, 20.77amph, 10.2mi= 216c
    Other- PT therapy exercises, 3sets of 10 each, 3 different exercises 16.57min= 60c

    Total cal 920
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,880 Member
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
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    This is the love seat glider Emerson and I picked up from the auction house this morning. There is a matching chair glider. I love them. They will be great on the porch of our new apartment.

    And the kitchen chairs did arrive at the senior apartment from Wayfair. Fortunately, Stephanie, the practical and helpful assistant manager, intercepted them and put them into our storage unit.

    Karen in Virginia

    Beautiful! Remember the glider I bought a couple years back, repainted, replaced the slats? Most uncomfortable piece of furniture I've ever sat on in my life... :smiley: some things don't work out like you plan... The Stephanies of this world are worth their weight in gold...
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Lisa, well crap on a cracker. you went through a labor of love for that glider just to have it turn out unusable. poo
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,648 Member
    edited October 2022
    1948CWB wrote: »
    Well, I am feeling terrified after reading about all these aging plans. If my husband goes before me, I have never handled things like taxes, property insurance, renters, caring for brother-in-law, selling property, etc. I have always paid a large majority of the every day living expenses, but, I have no head (brain???) for anything else. Never ever lived on my own so feel totally incompetent. Like Karen, I love my son but he is always too busy with his own life and family to take on that responsibility. I just have to trust that the Lord will put someone there to help me!

    Carol in GA

    Carol - do you and your husband have your wills and medical and financial powers of attorney done? Having those documents ready took a LOT of stress off me when DH passed.

    I agree with the other gals - some day when he feels like talking, see if you can get him to write down where the bank accounts are, account numbers, passwords, etc. Does he have a budget?

    Perhaps he's already done that. ;)

    If he does pass first, a lot of people will be glad to help you. Your banker. Your attorney. Accountants can often refer people to bookkeeping services who do your tasks all of the time. Yes, they'll charge you but probably not that much. Area Agency on Aging often has a resource book listing businesses who can give you assistance in all the areas you mentioned. Your county or city might have someone in the public health department that helps seniors navigate all this stuff.

    Please try not to worry about it, maybe start doing some investigating as you have time to see what safety nets are out there so you don't drown. You are a bright and competent woman - these tasks aren't insurmountable.

    And I think you're right - your son is busy with his job and family and probably couldn't take on running another household.

    Anyhow, that's how I'd do it. Since I was the accountant, my DH worried that something would happen to me but I prepared the "death book" - listing bank accounts and numbers, what bills came in and how, everything I could think of that would make it easy for someone to follow my trail. As he became more frail, I knew he could never pick up the job but my friend who also is our executor and has power of attorney knew where this "death book" was kept.

    Karen has given us a lot of information about disposing of antiques and household goods. (Thanks Karen!)

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    (((Allie)))- Good news that you are on the waiting list for a kidney. I hope it will be a good match. ⭐️ ❤️ ⭐️ ❤️
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    Worked, then went to the Salvation Army to make a donation. Of course, I had to go in. Got a yoga/pilates DVD since I don’t have much at the condo. Then we went to Lowe’s Hardware. Made a banana pumpkin bread for this lady we know from Newcomers who is in hospice. Now making a pumpkin gingerbread bread for the guy who broke his hip at bowling last Wednesday. We understand that he’s now in rehab. Got my walk in around the block. Think I’ll watch some TV after this and after the pumpkin gingerbread bread is out of the oven.

    Karen – how wonderful that you made up those bags for Josephine. She’s in my thoughts constantly. Lovely glider

    Allie – how wonderful!!! How I hope the wait for the kidney isn’t too long.

    Michele NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    I can see a gardener in our future, in maybe a few years time. We get cards through the door all the time. At the moment, DH can still mow the grass and trim bushes with relative ease. I do nothing in the garden, apart from fill one pot with bulbs once a year. Bea helped us. :D We have a wildlife garden (!) which looks after itself, apart from those small jobs.
    I would like our driveway repaved. But DH has the pursestrings and we prefer to spend any saved money on cruises! :o The front wall is falling over, but we are pretending we don't notice. :D If I won the lottery I would fix them.

    Machka - Retirement villages of the kind you are talking about cost an absolute fortune around here. I know you have talked about staying at work until you are well past retirement age. Is that the plan?

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    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    The 55+ communities I am talking about don't cost anywhere near that much. :) Especially not in Canada. My parents live in one such community. I'd love to get a place where they are.

    I'd like to retire next year ... but I will probably have to work longer than that. Who knows how long.

    M in Oz

    Maybe I should clarify ...

    I envision our next step as going into a 55+ housing community.

    These housing communities are usually gated communities with individual houses and often a clubhouse for events and things.

    The houses are all one level with accessible toilets etc. ... easy access if a person happens to be in a wheelchair.

    They often have small gardens and gardeners for at least the front areas.

    The houses aren't overly expensive and there's a "condo fee" for the gardener and other features.

    My parents live in such a community and it's lovely. They are in their 80s and are completely independent. I would love to move into their community and I do keep an eye on the places that come up for sale. Yes, sale. Unfortunately we couldn't rent there. A few years ago, I was prepared to buy a place and wanted to rent it till we could move there, but that's not allowed.


    The next step, and my parents are toying with this idea, is to move into the apartment where my grandmother lived or one like it.

    Those are apartment buildings with accessible independent units between studio and 3-bedroom. The main floor has the dining area, some shopping facilities, hair dresser, medical station, meeting rooms and so on. They had laundry facilities and a small library on each floor as well.

    There would be no yardwork, and many of the things you need would be available in the apartment building or nearby.

    And they've got events and things you can participate in if you want. Or you can live there like you would in an ordinary apartment building.

    The apartments are a little bit expensive but not over the top.


    So the process I envision is a gradual, comfortable process to increase care.


    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    1948CWB wrote: »
    Well, I am feeling terrified after reading about all these aging plans. If my husband goes before me, I have never handled things like taxes, property insurance, renters, caring for brother-in-law, selling property, etc. I have always paid a large majority of the every day living expenses, but, I have no head (brain???) for anything else. Never ever lived on my own so feel totally incompetent. Like Karen, I love my son but he is always too busy with his own life and family to take on that responsibility. I just have to trust that the Lord will put someone there to help me!

    Carol in GA

    No time like the present to learn!!
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,250 Member
    UPDATED stats-

    Walk/slow jog w/yogi- 1hr 38min, 55elev, 3.51ap, 115ahr, 164mhr, 6.11mi= 633c *stopped by estate sale which slowed down my pace*
    Strava app = 749c
    Zwift home bike trainer- strava stats- 29.24min, 266elev, 128aw, 20.9amph, 40gear, 110amph, 144mhr, 10.21mi= 227c
    Strava app = 216c
    Zwift stats- 29.28min, 269elev, 128aw, 49arpm, 20.77amph, 10.2mi= 216c
    Other- PT therapy exercises, 3sets of 10 each, 3 different exercises 16.57min= 60c
    Walk to Woodward park- 33.22min, 1.78mi= 195c
    Strava app = 219c

    Total cal 1125
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,041 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,001 Member
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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Allie - Congrats on having your affairs in order. There is still much we have to do to update.

    Carol - I totally know what you mean. I felt/feel terrified, too, but now that I am slowly wading through the tasks at hand, I am finding that taking one step at a time, as several women have modeled here, is the key for me to learn what to do and then follow through. I know this sounds a bit brutal, but I force myself to pick the hardest, most terrifying thing and spend 20 minutes learning about it a few times a week until I find I have transitioned from learning about it to acting on it. After several 20 minute learning sessions, I am no longer immobilized by fear. You are a very smart woman. You absolutely can learn what to do. It will be easier to start learning now than when your husband dies, but if you wait, there are lots of helpers who will see you through. I think you will be amazed at what you can learn and accomplish with your smart brain and some resources.

    Mary - God. I am so sorry about your brother. :'( Heartbreaking. You are an extremely generous soul.

    Karen in Virginia awake in the middle of the night
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,001 Member
    edited October 2022
    Flea: We had DMiL living with us for 6 months when she fell and broke her hip in her early 80s. We thought it was for keeps, but she had other ideas lol. and moved back into her own home as soon as she was mobile again. She was extremely independent, and eventually moved into a Residential Care Home, and then into a nursing home as she deteriorated.
    Lisa said…
    I'm thinking more of retirement apartments and assisted-living communities and care, I guess. They didn't exist where I grew up, and I wouldn't know how to make them part of my future now. Then, there was family, or there was the nursing home, and that was where people went to die. My mother's nightmare was ending up there... something she expressed more than once.

    We’re also thinking along the lines of retirement/assisted living when the time comes. It worked well for my father. He moved into an apartment with optional meals available, then moved over into a studio apartment where there was a resident warden. Eventually he had carers coming in to look after him.

    DMiL always planned to go into care. We didn’t have much say in it 😝 We were very lucky with the two facilities that she chose.

    To rent or buy It’s a personal choice. We were lucky that we bought our home in 1968, in our early 20s. We lived with DMiL/DFiL for about 3 years when we first married, and they encouraged us to save for a deposit for a house by only taking a nominal amount for our keep. It was a wise investment. We moved to our well-situated present home in 1982. It will do us a while longer.

    We paid our mortgage off in the early 1990s.

    Both our houses were bought new, so the fixtures and fittings were our choices. I have got tremendous pleasure out of creating comfortable homes and gardens in both houses. Fortunately, DH is an excellent handyman.

    Allie: Good news about getting onto the transplant list. And well done on getting your affairs in order. Mary: Bless your heart! That’s a very generous offer.

    We also have our ducks in order, and wills/POAs etc in place. We did all the admin when DH’s parents were sorting out their’s many years ago, and have regularly updated them in line with changing legislation here.

    Karen in Virginia: Bravissimo!

    🥳🎉 Cheers to all those celebrating.

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those
    who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    Mary- how very kind of you.. DM me and I can give you info.but if you need blood type im A+
    Alfie the crazy dog has been being crazy in the middle.of the night and waking me up and wanting to play..
    Woke me up at 4:30 this morning... ugh...
    Was wonderful visiting with my friend but sheesh Panera is sooo expensive i got a bagel to bring home,some cream cheese and a hot chai tea and it was 15.90
    Oh and a bagel to have there with the tea..
    Oh well..
    Its not like I go there often
    After that i stopped at the store and picked up a few groceries for Tracy and Miles
    I got some frozen vegetables that would be good finger foods for him
    Some chickpea rotini and sauce.. he has a slight allergy to eggs,and some boneless skinless chicken thighs..
    Oh well im going to see if i can get back to sleep.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    A recent article from My Fitness Pal ...

    What You Need to Know About Urban Hiking
    https://blog.myfitnesspal.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-urban-hiking/

    I do something like this during some lunch breaks. :)


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,596 Member
    From a couple years ago ... might be appropriate for several of us ...
    Make things easier on yourselves by ...

    -- making sure all affairs are in order. 2 names on all accounts, enduring power of attorney, bills, wills, taxes, paperwork, whatever it takes. Make sure you both know everything about your accounts, bills, etc. etc. etc. of all sorts. Make sure everything is up to date and crystal clear. It's easy to say, "I'll remember my password" or "We'll sort that out later" ...
    http://ssandifer.com/MyLoveList2015.pdf... all about organising estates, etc. ... very good information although you will have to check what's what in your particular area.

    Also, from a USA perspective:https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/getting-your-affairs-order

    And from an Australian perspective:https://www.agedcare101.com.au/aged-care/get-set/“putting-your-affairs-order” and https://www.moneysmart.gov.au/life-events-and-you/life-events/money-musts-before-you-die and https://yourlifeassist.com.au/information-assistance/put-your-affairs-in-order/


    -- making sure you're fit and healthy. Being fit and healthy improves the odds. Also could you actually support and lower your partner to the ground, should he/she collapse? Do you know first aid?


    -- making sure your house well set up. Are there stairs? Tight corners? Difficult showers?


    -- having a look at options around you. What would you do for groceries? What if you couldn't drive? If you have never used public transportation, try it now while you're still able. What about things like doctor's offices? Hospitals? All the stuff you use? Is it scattered around and difficult to get to or quite convenient?


    --making sure you've got resources. Do you have people who can offer assistance? Knowledge of who to call if you've got problems with the house? Do you know about services in your area which can help?


    -- creating an Emergency Management Plan for fires, floods, and health issues.
    https://www.redcross.org.au/prepare


    -- starting to downsize. Distribute the family treasures (unless you're using them, of course). Scan then shred paperwork. Reduce things you don't really need. If you were to make the move into a smaller apartment in a senior's complex, would it be a huge undertaking or would it be a fairly smooth transition.
    https://dallas.momcollective.com/most-of-your-stuff-is-worthless-3-things-you-should-be-doing-now-to-reduce-what-you-own


    Machka in Oz

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