WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022
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My mother kept my youngest sister's kids for a number of years, and the mutual love between her and that set of grandkids was huge. My sister's oldest has Downs, and youngest was only 25 weeks in the womb, born on my mother's birthday in August and didn't come out of the hospital until November. They are all doing well now, and their Me-Ma was a hugely positive start to their early lives. Hard to argue with that kind of love.
I do try not to bust on you too much Allie, but we all do that out of worry. The fact is, you are doing something I'm not strong enough to do, and you're doing it while waiting on a kidney transplant. I admire your strength, while still worrying about you.
Debbie - Caffeine absorption time and impact is utterly individual. It did me a lot of good to get off of all forms of caffeine for a few weeks, then add them back in slowly. Coffee will still set my gut off, but tea doesn't. I can tolerate two 12 oz cups of PG Tips with caffeine in the early morning and still sleep at night. Note - I steep them for three minutes, no more. One cup of coffee, and I'm up three times during the night. As far as when to stop drinking caffeine, I stop at eight a.m. If you move to decaf for a couple weeks, you can experiment with amounts and times to see what keeps you up at night.
Although my consumption has dropped, even the small amount of caffeine I now take in makes me feel like I'm truly awake, and like my brain is actually functioning. There are worse addictions.
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Im glad im not the only one.. it was never my intention to be the babysitter, thought she had it worked out.. but the good Lord i guess had other plans lol
For right now all is ok..
Im not supposed to have caffeine,so when I have tea it is decaf
Or herbal
And with soda if i buy it i buy caffeine free also..
It could be 7 yrs or so for a kidney so im not holding my breath..
Im just trucking along doing what i have to do..
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Katla - I’m happy for you that your DH will be closer.
Machka - I keep only very special cards. I have one friend that makes beautiful handmade ones and I keep those. I buy calendars with the thought of framing the pictures afterwards. This year my work calendar is outhouses. I was so excited to frame them I’ve already taken some of the pictures out, framed them and have them hanging in my bathroom for artwork.
I choose my favourites not the full 12 months.
It’s a cheap way of changing the artwork in my house.
I kept my Grands on a fairly consistent basis because my daughter worked retail and her husband works shift work. I would have been horrified if they offered to pay me, I did make them buy car seats for my car so I could take them where I wanted to go. I have noticed that I used to get more for birthdays and Christmas from them as a thank you.
I also help buy clothes, back to school supplies whatever I can to help a bit. Last week I bought winter coats, I had agreed to buy one, I found a great sale so my daughter is splitting the cost with me.
Allie - I understand you need to help, but they should have a back up plan in place to give you a break on your tires days.
Debbie - my daughter always has a sleepless night if she has any caffeine after noon. She is quite sensitive to it. I can drink a tea before bed and still sleep.
I fell yesterday morning and am feeling bruised all over today. I went to step down onto our steps off the deck to go to work and unbeknownst to me it was covered in a thin layer of ice. DH came running out of the door. He had just gotten home about an hour earlier and it was raining, he hadn’t realized that the temperature had dropped.
I’m going to my cousins on the weekend, I should really keep that time at home, but I don’t like driving down there in the winter and my next opportunity may have snow on the ground.
Trace in Edmonton
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Katla: I hope your DH goes to the nursing home closer to your daughter soon.
Annie: I am starting a diet as well. Today I made ground turkey with garlic, olive oil, onion and green pepper. It was delicious and I hope to use ground turkey to lose weight.
Grandmallie: What are you are doing for Miles is true love. I envision picking my grandchildren up from school once they are too old for daycare but never picture myself taking care of a pre-schooler! This will be different once he starts walking though! Will you try and keep him in 1 or 2 rooms so he isn't running all over?
SueBDew: I called a women's gym today and may join this. I would like to find a group where the ladies go out to lunch a couple of times a year.
BarbieCat: Such a pretty suit you are wearing in the picture. Love the dog trying to say hello to the cat picture!
DLFLC: 20,000 steps! That is wonderful! I don't sleep through the night either. Of course I should wear my CPAP more. It could be sleep apnea waking me up!
Jean: enjoy your camping trip!
Machka: Seems like this rain has been going on for awhile or am I imagining this. I have a bridge table in my bedroom with a puzzle on it. I haven't touched it in years but have no intention of taking it down. When the time comes, I will do this puzzle! I smile when I see the books beside the bed. With my ADD personality, I would have the books all over the floor!
Heather: Interesting about London. Enjoy your visit with your brother! Would enjoy reading your poetry!
Carol: I hope we get some snow! And I hope it gets a little colder so I can wear some of my sweaters!
Well DH is a sleep for the night and I am too tired to do anything else, so will head to sleep myself!
Rosemarie from Georgia
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »Katla - I’m happy for you that your DH will be closer.
Machka - I keep only very special cards. I have one friend that makes beautiful handmade ones and I keep those. I buy calendars with the thought of framing the pictures afterwards. This year my work calendar is outhouses. I was so excited to frame them I’ve already taken some of the pictures out, framed them and have them hanging in my bathroom for artwork.
I choose my favourites not the full 12 months.
It’s a cheap way of changing the artwork in my house.
I kept my Grands on a fairly consistent basis because my daughter worked retail and her husband works shift work. I would have been horrified if they offered to pay me, I did make them buy car seats for my car so I could take them where I wanted to go. I have noticed that I used to get more for birthdays and Christmas from them as a thank you.
I also help buy clothes, back to school supplies whatever I can to help a bit. Last week I bought winter coats, I had agreed to buy one, I found a great sale so my daughter is splitting the cost with me.
Allie - I understand you need to help, but they should have a back up plan in place to give you a break on your tires days.
Debbie - my daughter always has a sleepless night if she has any caffeine after noon. She is quite sensitive to it. I can drink a tea before bed and still sleep.
I fell yesterday morning and am feeling bruised all over today. I went to step down onto our steps off the deck to go to work and unbeknownst to me it was covered in a thin layer of ice. DH came running out of the door. He had just gotten home about an hour earlier and it was raining, he hadn’t realized that the temperature had dropped.
I’m going to my cousins on the weekend, I should really keep that time at home, but I don’t like driving down there in the winter and my next opportunity may have snow on the ground.
Trace in Edmonton
My husband can have a cup of coffee or energy drink and go right to sleep. Mom used to drink coffee all day and evening and no trouble sleeping(doesn't now because she is on an anti-inflamitory diet so no caffeine, not even decaf
I have always had trouble sleeping too. Take MANY warm showers around 1-2AM in the dark which really does help.
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dlfk202000 wrote: »question about caffeine-
Will exercise help burn it off faster than not exercising?
My wellness coach told me that caffeine can stay in your system for up to 12 hrs so I should try to cut out caffeine 12 hrs before going to bed- If I am trying to go to bed around 10, I would have to stop at 10AM which is when I am just having my first cup of tea.
I try to stop all caffeine by 3PM, thought that was early enough. Trying to stop by noon and see if that helps.
I really need to figure out how to get to sleep and stay asleep better.
A few of my ideas and discoveries: http://machka.net/2019/11/23/sleep/
I also used Valerian for several years but am now trying Melatonin.
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What do you do with pretty cards and calendars?
I'm looking for creative ideas, not "throw them out".
Machka in Oz
Rebecca uses calendars for envelopes. Since you're a gardener, perhaps something like this using tin cans:It's not a craft project, but I got cocktails in them at a concert and thought they'd make good seed starting pots (and they do). Your cards might be nice for something like that.
Origami ornaments, perhaps.
Tina in CA
That's nice.
This article also had some interesting ideas: https://www.diyncrafts.com/29639/repurpose/25-clever-calendar-repurposing-ideas-creative-fun
I was particularly intrigued by the gift bag idea: https://idohaveatalent.wordpress.com/2011/08/17/upcycle-calendar-to-gift-bag/
M in Oz1 -
Well it’s done, traded in the car for a Subaru Outback. It is strong enough to tow the new trailer once we get it. It’s used but that’s ok9
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Machka: Seems like this rain has been going on for awhile or am I imagining this. I have a bridge table in my bedroom with a puzzle on it. I haven't touched it in years but have no intention of taking it down. When the time comes, I will do this puzzle! I smile when I see the books beside the bed. With my ADD personality, I would have the books all over the floor!
Rosemarie from Georgia
It has been raining for a while and will continue ... La Niña. They're now predicting we might see sunshine in February 2023.
Meanwhile there are floods everywhere.
My cat gets in there and selects several books to lie on when I'm in bed reading.
Machka in Oz
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Well it’s done. Old and new car, new to us, it’s a Subaru Outback 2018.11 -
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Machka ~ I kept my two grands the first year of their life out of love. Not only that, but also like Allie, I supplied things they needed like formula, diapers, food, etc. After the first year, they went to day care.
I went for my first bone density test this morning. I had no idea how it was done, but, it was such a simple procedure. Now, I need to schedule a mammogram.
Carol in GA
Ah ... there's a country difference.
In Canada and Australia, parental leave is somewhere between 1 and 2 years depending on a number of factors. It used to be 9 months, I think, but it has been extended.1 -
dlfk202000 wrote: »question about caffeine-
Will exercise help burn it off faster than not exercising?
My wellness coach told me that caffeine can stay in your system for up to 12 hrs so I should try to cut out caffeine 12 hrs before going to bed- If I am trying to go to bed around 10, I would have to stop at 10AM which is when I am just having my first cup of tea.
I try to stop all caffeine by 3PM, thought that was early enough. Trying to stop by noon and see if that helps.
I really need to figure out how to get to sleep and stay asleep better.
A few of my ideas and discoveries: http://machka.net/2019/11/23/sleep/
I also used Valerian for several years but am now trying Melatonin.
M in Oz
I use Hylands biochemic phosphates and it really helps but don't want to take it too often. I like it so much better than melatonin for me- the melatonin worked but took a while and then the next day, I was just dragging most of the day. With the other, they are quick dissolve and start working fast and no drowsy feeling the next day. This is good not only for sleep but to relieve stress/nervousness.
Debbie
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In Canada and Australia, parental leave is somewhere between 1 and 2 years depending on a number of factors. It used to be 9 months, I think, but it has been extended.
When I was having my babies (oldest just turned 37), I could only be off for 3 or 4 months while collecting maternity benefits. I was working blue collar jobs, so perhaps it would have been different if I'd had a gov't or union job. Now that has changed and women are entitled to about 9 mos to a year of maternity benefits. I worked nights and weekends so that we didn't have to pay for childcare, I really didn't want to work just to have someone else raise my baby and I was working because we needed the money. By the time our second son arrived, my parents were living close by and would look after them when dh's and my schedules overlapped, usually just a few hours a few days a week. When both boys were fully in school, I was able to transition to more of a day job, but still worked at least one day on the weekend, and my parents still took them before and after school. My oldest now has two kids of his own and I take our 3 year old gd two days a week and also get our 6 year old gs after school those days. I was bringing them to our place after school last spring, and had just been staying at the school and letting them play for up to 2 hours as the weather was so nice, but that's changing now and I'm not quite sure what I'm going to do with them. DH is suffering from chronic nerve pain and has been for almost a year. We are waiting to hear from a pain clinic to have a nerve conduction test that will hopefully point the direction for the
next step.
I never paid my parents for looking after the kids and I don't get paid for looking after the grands. I like to think of it as building a relationship with them that will hopefully last and that they will look back on with fond memories. I never had that with my grandparents as most of them were gone by the time I came along and my only grandfather lived quite far away.
Sorry, my rant for the day!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island where we are finally getting some rain! (hopefully the creeks will get enough so that the salmon can get up to their spawing grounds soon!)6 -
So it turns out we are staying home for our entire holiday. We have had an incredible amount of rain in the northern part of the state with even more rain coming this week. There has been all sorts of flooding, roads are still closed and more will likely be closed when the rain starts tomorrow. The police are recommending no non-essential travel at all throughout the state.
But that's OK!
Machka in Oz
One of the reasons that it is OK we're staying home is that I have more time to work on my dry stream (if it doesn't get too wet in all the rain) AND I've started working on my home office.
My home office is the smallest bedroom in our house and when I say small, I do mean small. It's also the most cluttered room in the house. It's become the place we put stuff when we don't know what else to do with it. I would like to turn it into something more useful. It's very small, but still ...
Underneath all the clutter are stack and drawers of paper: documents neatly filed in a filing cabinet (buried by stuff), binders full of university notes, boxes full of other mail and whatnot that has made it way in. Ideally, I'd like to toss what I don't need anymore, scan what I do need a copy of (and toss the paper) and file what I need to keep for a decade or whatever.
My home office has also spilled out to the dining room area where my chair and laptop is (and several file boxes of paper) so it will have to be included in this organisational attempt.
I walked into the room and wondered where on earth to start.
So I reached out and touched the first thing ... and the next thing ... and the next thing ...
It's been like a game of pick-up sticks. Pick up something without knocking the whole pile over.
But it has begun.
Machka in OzKetoneKaren wrote: »Machka - My mom died about 20 years ago. She had a lot of belongings, but there was only one truly disorganized area in the house, a small office/breezeway between the house and the added-on garage. Every time I walked into the room, I turned right around and went to find something else to work on. Then my older brother came to pick up some items, and he offered to help with the cluttered room - his method was simple: we started in one corner, he worked counter-clockwise, I worked clockwise, and when we met we were done. It was a particularly good method for clearing out our disorganized, cluttered space. We stayed out of each other's way, consulted when needed, and were both motivated to keep going by the other person's industriousness. If I were doing an office clean out where the goal was to organize rather than clear out the space, I might use another method, but in either case, getting a clear corner or wall space is a psychological boost.
Katla, I, too, am glad your health is being looked after. And I am glad your husband is stable after his procedure. (((Hugs))) to you both.
Karen in Virginia
I've wanted a second person to help me with this for some time, but a second person has not materialised so I'm on my own.
However, my first step was to go through the biggest pile of .... basically ... whatever. Some of it belongs downstairs or elsewhere, some of it needs shredding for mulch, some of it was my cycling stuff. I hadn't realised so much of my cycling stuff was in there.
Now I'm onto the sort things into meaningful piles stage. All my cycling stuff is in one pile. University notes are going into another pile which I'll flip through at some stage (soon) and will shred most of it. Brain injury stuff is going into another pile.
Travel stuff ... I'm torn on this one. I'm a collector of brochures and information pages from places we've been. I probably don't need to keep all that because things change and most of it is available online now. Plus if something is a particularly important memory I can scan or photograph it. But maps ... I have a massive quantity of maps. I love maps. I pour over maps. My initial inclination is to keep all the maps ... but I do have a massive quantity of them and they take up space.
Anyway ... I'm pleased with my progress so far.
Machka in Oz
Machka, Well...I think maps are like books. If you love them and they spark joy, you keep them. The ones you are 'meh' about you can donate or toss. Organizing them into a file box or other place that is easy to keep/access will solve the messy factor and make it easier to lay your hands on the exact one you want to look at. Just a thought.
Karen in Virginia
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My brother and his wife arrived in good time, so we were able to eat all together, apart from DH and I sharing a Scotch egg earlier. Lots of chat.
Apart from all our various holidays, my DSIL shared a wonderful story about how she went up alone in the train to see all the flowers for the Queen. My brother didn't want to go, so she went on her own. On her walkabout near the Thames, she saw something that looked a bit like a queue, so, out of curiosity, she joined it, to see how long it was etc. 7 hours later she was at Westminster Hall to view the Lying in State. It was quite the adventure, meeting many different people, and experiencing a range of emotions as she got nearer. The point at which she felt herself committed to the journey was when she got her green wristband. Security took her expensive hand cream and her talcum powder. But she found herself, quite unexpectedly, crying, as she went up the steps to enter the hall. (She is not a royalist) She also got to be there when they changed the guard.
The whole thing was quite an out of body experience for her. Doing it on her own. A Big Adventure.
I was so taken with this story and the way she told it, that I might write a short story about it. Called, 'Joining the Queue'.
DH is a bit uncomfortable with visitors, but it's all going well. They are awake upstairs, but have not come down yet.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Still skimmin’ only to pg but just had to say
Rebecca that just doesn’t sound right. Hope your MD gets you some help… and
Thanks Allie for that quote about fading away and getting our sparks back . . . and
Debbie I’m surprised your wellness coach didn’t suggest any stress relieving techniques. You’ve been through so much these past through years, cortisol levels must be up through the roof. . . and
Machka those married bears made me snort my water. . . and
((hugs)) to Lisa, Heather, Allie, Michele and all the brave survivors.
Karen and Barbie, yours to Allie. Truth.
Margaret, yours to Lisa. Likewise replacing that evil-hiding-in-the-ordinary image with Lisa’s rapturous wedding pic.
Jean “liquid rocks”? That must be some hard water.
Ah finally caught up.
Anyone heard from Beth lately?
Way late to the Rita’s challenge, but here goes:
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2022: Be still and listen.
October: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
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Feel good challenge.
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Happy Thursday ladies!
My mom looked after my niece and nephew, and they lived next door to each other. I just ran across this photo. I think she loved caring for them, but it did take time out of her day. She wasn't helping Dad farm anymore but still had chores to do.
DH and I didn't want to have kids just to have someone else raise them, and by the time we could afford it, my baby clock had nearly run out and DH was diagnosed with RA. We had moved to the west coast so mom wasn't close by.
Call me nuts, but in my mind's eye I would see a child from time to time as I grew older. I had a likely miscarriage right after we were married and never conceived after that.
Tracey - snow and ice? I'm getting the chills just thinking about it. Hope your bruises heal. Ouch!
Kim - I think of you and your chilly house. My house seems awfully cool without the wood stove going, but it's much cleaner and no smoke. I have maybe a week's worth of firewood tucked back in case we lose power this winter. I'm trying to determine what temp to set the thermostat to keep it bearable, 67 seems good during the day, 63 at night. It's always 2 to 3 degrees colder in the living room than it is in the hall where the thermostat is so I have a little space heater by my chair set to the low wattage setting.
Did I read it right you were posting a large document about trust to the group? If so I must have skimmed by it.
Heather - what's the weather going to be like on your cruise? Are you packing fall clothes or will you get to enjoy some warm summery days?
Lanette
SW WA State
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