WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2022
I’ve struggled terribly keeping up this month. On the plus side my screen time was down 11% last week.
Kelly - One of the suggestions made for us to raise more money for our non-profit nursing home was to open a daycare and have integrated activities.
Burials- Cremations - My parents had a baby a year before me. My paternal grandparents had already bought burial plots so gave those to my parents so they could be buried with their daughter when it was their time.
When my Dad knew his time was coming he asked us how we felt about cremation. He didn’t feel it was right to put wood in the ground to rot. We agreed as it was his choice. When he passed we couldn’t find an urn that spoke to us that wasn’t wood. We settled on one that was built similar to the jewelry boxes he made my SIL and I. We then buried the urn with our sister. Mom will be cremated and buried their as well.
Dad told us that he didn’t want a funeral or anything, but we discussed it and I finally told him that the funeral is for the living and the loved ones left behind, he could just lay there and we would do everything. He agreed.
His sisters family was completely destroyed after their deaths and part of it, in my opinion, and at least 3 of their six children was that they didn’t come together as a family to reminisce and say good bye. I didn’t want that to happen to our family.
I haven’t given it a lot of thought yet, I do know I don’t want to be worn, or displayed if I decide to be cremated, but so far I’m leaning towards burial. I like the celebration of Life idea. Currently there is a new thing where the person has an end of life party while they’re still here apparently. I’m not sure how I feel about that.
Heather - I was close with my grandparents both sides right up until they passed. My maternal grandmother and I were incredibly close. When used to write letters and talk frequently when I lived away, when I was close we visited 2-3 times a week and talked daily.
My goal in life is to be half the grandmother she was. My husband told me a bit ago that he was sure she is very proud of the grandmother I am. There may have been tears.
Rebecca - I hope you get relief soon. That’s sounds similar to what my husband has been dealing with off and on for 3 years now. He won’t be pushy to find out what’s wrong though.
Katla - I hope your husband gets to join you soon.
Karen - I am speechless! What a mess, you’re brother is so blessed to have you.
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I’ll try again tomorrow
Tracey in Edmonton3
auntiebk Posts: 2,153 Member12802 steps Friday Most since 1/5/21’s record breaking 13655. That visitor walked my butt off! :laugh:
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TMIIf you think your probiotic isn’t really doing much, try being too busy for four days to buy more. :sick:
Thru pg 39 but time to snoooooze.
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2022: Be still and listen.
October: Move more (make that 7400 step goal), fuel better (more protein + veggies, less sugar), live NOW (continue mindful time with Joe, pay more attention to Shadow and Tumble).5
Wednesday -- beautiful day with sea mist in the air.
I was very happy to spend about 3 hours in my garden with bees buzzing round this afternoon. The trench I'm digging is getting closer to being complete. I think the next step will be to fit the "pools".
I'm creating a dry stream.
Then we went for a bicycle ride.
Machka in Oz
Grandmallie: I opened this website and a picture of your dog popped up and then Miles and I such a smile came over me! Really enjoyed the pictures.
Lisa and BarbieCat: As soon as I finish posting, I am going to find the Dan Harris Ted Talk.
Heather: I lose sleep over my son and DIL as well. I hope your son and DIL make the right decision regarding housing. I would hate for them to be house poor and I think you mentioned you don't have a mortgage and they must know this. So think how great it would be if they didn't have one once they retired. My DIL...still in her 20's has grand plans for further schooling and I fear she will get into great debt doing this. I try and stay quiet but I know my son senses my worry.
PipCD34: Hoping the shoulder improves for you with the PT.
DLFK: Praying that this clinical trial helps Destiny.
I have been reading a book for book club that is depressing me. I am almost done and will be relieved when it is finished. I will be caretaking today but am planning a walking/step video for exercise and will cook some ground turkey and put it in cabbage soup to try and lose weight. I started some Christmas shopping yesterday. I have never shopped for a DIL before. I got her a gift certificate to a favorite restaurant and will find 2 more little gifts. If anyone has any ideas I would appreciate them. My son I got a gift certificate to 2 rounds of golf and I need 2 more little gifts for him. Any ideas for him would be appreciated as well. They are in their 20s and live in a small apartment.
KetoneKaren Posts: 6,263 MemberLong rambling boring post ahead, feel free to skip. Nothing momentous.My brother is turning out to be a low maintenance guest. This is going to be OK after all. Whew!
We can use the next 2-3 weeks to get him up to speed on how to do laundry and other chores, get rid of any belongings that no longer suit him, find the rest of the items he'll need, and establish his financial presence. We have decided to call and "bug" the owner of the home on a daily basis. She will answer the phone when he calls, fortunately, and he is very polite but firm with her, so I think this is the best approach for today and tomorrow. I would get pi$$y with her if I called, and she wouldn't answer a call from my phone anyway.
I will get the detective involved if we don't have the birth certificate in our possession by Friday. The birth certificate was mailed on the 12th, so that is adequate time.
This is a challenging time for us, juggling our own transition/downsizing with helping my brother and also holding furniture for my spouse's son, which is getting in the way. Emerson and wife Michelle are very busy with toddler Lilly, Em's graduate classes, Michelle's busy ED career, and pregnancy. So far, they are expecting me to piggy back delivery of the furniture we are giving them onto our move to the new apartment. I'm mulling over whether this will really work for us or not. I'd truly like to be that gracious and organized. We'll see if I can rise to the occasion or not. I do have plan B, which is to tell them I'm not doing that, and they will have to figure out how to get what they want. LOL I already have to figure out how to get my brother's bed, recliner, and small furniture items from our house to his new apartment (if his birth certificate is ever in our hands.) I know I can figure out the logistics for all 3 moves, and since I am a moderate control freak, it may be best to just get on with it.
I have a new "can do" view of moving quantities of furniture and goods since becoming familiar with on-line auctions over the last few weeks. The on-line auction site I follow is a locally owned company with an auction warehouse, and also hosts on-site estate sales on-line, with pick-up at the address of the estate being liquidated.
Cannon Auctions/Gates Estates here in Richmond, VA moves the equivalent of half a small warehouse, plus an estate, every week or two! Goods move right on through, and then they are on to the next auction. It is fascinating. Some of the more interesting items auctioned include Native American pottery, a portable ECT machine, US government ship's clocks, Victrola, Bakelite items, extremely valuable gold coins, antique musical instruments, etc., in addition to the more usual suspects.
I mentioned that I am gifting most of my treasures through Buy Nothing, but there are a few items that are too valuable to give away in good conscience, considering that both of my brothers are paupers. As a seller, I currently have a few pieces of sterling silver and some other items on consignment. That auction ends today, and already the silver is bringing a very good price. The proceeds will be split with my brothers, as will proceeds from some coins that belonged to our father when I can get them ready to go.
As a purchaser, I bought a couple of things for Josephine the Ballerina for $2-3 each, and I have my eye on a set of watercolors in tubes like my brother uses for $3. Some items go for a lot of money, but some sell for far less than I would pay elsewhere. That is, if I would be buying them anyway. My brother will use the paints. On the other hand, I wouldn't necessarily buy the trinkets in a store for Josephine, but for $2-3, I get a lot of enjoyment finding things for her. I am very judicious. I found a jadeite trinket box and other vintage trinket box in one lot for $2. She will love love love them, and I will put a few well-chosen pieces of my mother's costume jewelry in them for her. So much fun!
I also made a decision concerning a very expensive retirement gift I received from my employer of 30 years. I had asked for a donation to RAL (Richmond Animal League) instead of a gift, but they ignored that request, and gave me a useless gift they spent over $500 on. I have decided to sell it on auction with a note stating I will match and donate the proceeds to RAL. I may have already mentioned this. I am going to do this within the next 2 weeks. I'll be lucky if I get $50 for it. So annoying not to have a simple request honored after 30 years. The woman who chose the gifts said she thought I'd like what she chose for me. I replied that she may not have gotten the message that I wanted a RAL donation, but she said she had gotten the message, but "couldn't do that".
I call BS on that.
I'm all wound up this morning, lol. Better than the utter fatigue I slogged through yesterday with.
Karen in Virginia8
Wow Karen so much happening! That is sad that your employer paid $500 for a gift that you can't use rather than make a donation. I am glad your brother is doing well as a guest at your house. I hope that birth certificate comes through soon. Emerson and Michelle sound busy, as would be expected at their age and with a young family. I hope your able to help them move the furniture they want, but it may be too much. Your right....you will find a way to do all this....hopefully without spending a fortune. Getting the paints for your brother is great! I arranged a paint night for my son and DIL and myself and I spent around $75 getting the supplies. It was a fun night....but certainly not something I could do regularly!1
Im over with Miles
Geesh it goes from good to bad at this house.. Miles woke up at 3:30 this morning and Tracy had to get up with Him and he wouldn't go back in his crib.And then Kyle didn't take Carmine to school so Tracy had to take him down to the bus stop. And come back with a very cranky baby.. Miles is stopped up so he is uncomfortable ,so its prunes for him today...
He is sleeping now.4
Telemed appointment with the hematologist this morning regarding my iron issues. At least I don't have to go anywhere. I accessed my results online, and they show a number of issues with iron-related tests, such as hemoglobin. I'm not surprised, and I don't think she will be either. I REALLY don't want to have to get three- to four-hour IV iron infusions, but will, of course, if I must. Here's the other late complication of gastric bypass - half of the women who have the surgery become anemic after menopause. I was anemic before I had the surgery, and have struggled with it ever since.
Rosemarie - I'm listening to that TED talk again right now.
Rebecca - woke up thinking about you. Hope it was a better night last night. Please let us know what the doctor has to say when you can.
Katla - thank you for keeping us posted. You and your DH are ever on my mind and in my heart.
Karen - Box breathing helps me a lot when I'm getting wound up.
I see a nap in my future today...
Lisa in AR3
I listened to the Dan Harris Ted Talk. I have rather an ADD personality and have never had much luck with meditating. However I do try and concentrate on the task I am doing and that can be like meditating. Like when washing the dishes thinking only about the water and the soap and putting the dishes in the washer and nothing else. I love the gesture of putting your hand over your heart to stop a critical voice. I am going to try this today!5
I hope to visit DH today. I am sorry that I was too tired to go with our daughter yesterday.2
Allie - I got a chill when I saw that recent photo of Alfie. He looks so much like our wonderful schnoodle Sophie who passed in February, I got teary eyed. He's a special little guy. As is Miles
Karen - what is it with these retirement gift purchasers? I thought your choice of a donation to the Richmond Animal League was a great idea! Hope DB can get his birth certificate no problem.
Rebecca - sending good thoughts your way on your doc visit today. Hope they can find the problem and it's easily fixed. Sure sounds like they need to do more serious testing and I'm sure they will.
Rosemarie - the "low tire" warning light is on permanently in the Subaru. The tire guys said it needs to be replaced to the tune of something like $300 or more. So I put a cat sticker over it so it wouldn't glare at me, lol. I told the tire guys I have another method of checking for low tires - I look at them before I drive the car! The old fashioned way. I can tell when a front tire is low from the way the car steers. And I've driven cars with sudden blow outs before. A warning light doesn't help me steer when that happens.
Another bad air quality day today. I planned to get a few things done outside before the monsoons start on Friday, but after a few minutes my eyes and nose start to burn. It seems worse in the afternoon.
Yesterday was the bone density scan/DEXA. While waiting to be called, an older gent - true curmudgeon - came in to get something X-rayed. The receptionist told him he had to wear a mask and he said he didn't want to. She pointed him to some on a table. He got one, said it reminded him of toilet paper, and hooked it over his ears and under his nose, lol.
When I was finished, he also was and we stood out in the parking lot and gabbed for a few minutes. He told me he used to work as a service tech on nuclear imaging equipment in hospitals before he retired. As he told about the job, I envisioned him troubleshooting an outlet that didn't work anymore in DH's shop. And changing out a fluorescent lighting fixture... you know, stuff my DH could do easily. Then he mentioned his wife did this or that and burst my bubble.
Anyhow, the x-ray tech remeasured my height. 5' 8 1/2", only down 1/2" from 5'9" height in my 20's. My DH not only lost weight but also lost a few inches in height during his last couple years of life. He started out at 6'2" and we were almost eye to eye as time went on.
Guess it's time to roll.
Make it a wonderful day, ladies!
Foggy, smoggy SW WA State4
Miles slept until 10:15 and I made apple and cinnamon oatmeal for myself,I snuck some to Miles boy did he love that.. I didn't give him to much because he is already stopped up ,dont want to do anymore damage.. he is a happy camper .. had some milk,oatmeal and now is very vocal and be boppin around..1
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