WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2022

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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,731 Member
    edited December 2022
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    Wishing everyone well as we go into a new year. Especially today thinking of Katla and hoping today brings good news. Kelly thinking of you as you join your family. Such a sad time losing a loved fur baby and without any notice.

    I'm working on my word for 2023 and it hard to narrow it down to one word. I have so many issues that I know I have to work on. I'll make a decision by the end of the day.

    I"m throwing a situation out into a spoiler. Would appreciate any thoughts people have.
    My husband died last March. He was a Methodist and me a Friend (formerly Quaker). His brother and wife converted to Church of Latter Day Saints many years ago. They are wonderful people and I love them. They have often brought up religion over the years and Jack and I firmly and gently let them know we are happy with our beliefs and have no interest in converting. Well now I'm getting phone calls with lots of pressure to give permission for Jack to be converted after death... with baptism and a ceremony sealing our marraige. They say they can do this w/o my permission but would like my permission. Also they say they would still "love" me but our relationship would be different if I don't agree.
    Jack would not be happy with his brother and family. He wouldn't want the babtism or sealing in the temple. I'm sad and I'm feeling pushed. Religion for Jack and myself was very personal. I am sure neither the Methodists or the Friends wouldn't claim either of us.

    Last day of the year..... still working on my word and on what the highlights of my year might have been. I'll be back later today.

    Betsy in NW WA

    Betsy - <3

    I agree with Lisa and Heather and the other gals here - I think it's Ok to say "Jack and I had discussions about this, and he was vehement that it's not what he would have wanted. But thanks for asking. How about this weather?"

    You probably can't stop them if that's what they want to do.

    "Conditional" love isn't love. I feel sorry for anyone involved in a religion that thinks it is.

    Lanette


  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,769 Member
    Betsy I agree with what the others have said. If it was a hard no before death, It is STILL are hard NO even after death. I am SMH had the gall of some people.

    Prayers for All especially Katla and her family.

    Christmas is ready to be taken to the barn. Floors vacuumed. Leaf out of table. I am currently enjoying some empty spaces. I may "forget" where I put some of the items I put away to put out Christmas ;) Husband likes to see lots, I like empty spaces. Not sterile, just not every space covered. I let DH sleep in this morning. He woke up about 830! That is really late for him. By then I had all the light strings back in boxes, power cords in their tote, and a lot of the little stuffs in the totes. Couldn't do the tree as I didn't want to wake him up pulling in the ornament trunk. He helped me with that.

    Have to go to shop today as for some reason my computer is shut down. I need to do work, but can't get logged on. Hopefully that will only take a minute. Onward and upward!

    Kylia in rainy Ohio
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,845 Member
    Betsy ... I echo all of the comments made so far regarding your husband's family ... they are NOT "wonderful people" by the way if they are bullying and using manipulation. Sadly, there is probably nothing you can do to stop them from going through with their plans, but I would certainly not give them your blessing. Hugs to you.

    Katla ... I am praying for you and your husband.

    Carol from Mexico ... Welcome!

    Carla ... I'm in on the January gratitude calendar. Got lost this December and just couldn't keep up with that one.

    Machka ... Happy New Year!

    I'm looking back at 2022 and working on the 2023 goals. I'll post tomorrow.

    Beth near Buffalo
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,682 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Thank you for your kindness for the situation of DH. My daughter will be taking me to the hospital today. Hopefully the hospital is helping him breathe better. I can hardly wait to see him.

    Praying for you and your hubby, Katla. This has been a tough time.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley OR
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    kevrit wrote: »
    “‘What foods cause inflammation?
    There's more bad news: The problem foods are ones that happen to be abundant throughout the typical American diet.

    The five types of foods that cause inflammation include:

    Red meat and processed meats, including bacon, hot dogs, lunch meats and cured meats
    Refined grains, including white bread, white rice, pasta and breakfast cereals
    Snack foods, including chips, cookies, crackers and pastries
    Sodas and other sweetened drinks
    Fried foods

    What these foods all have in common is that they contain added sugars, saturated fats and/or trans fats. With the exception of red meat, these are also all considered processed foods.

    Alcohol can also cause inflammation.

    What's more, alcohol is often combined with the aforementioned inflammation-promoting foods. When combined with refined grains, added sugars or mixed with soda, alcoholic drinks become a double whammy.”

    RVRita in Nm


    Rita - I love this! Great compilation. Where did you find it? I've been making an effort to shift away from most of these foods, only fall off the wagon was the "Snack food" category this past week.

    Lanette

    I did a search online. I also have a list from my doctor. He is a functional health professional and believes in prevention. Hence, I get bloodwork every 3 months that check different vitamin levels, cholesterol, hormones, and other markers including inflammation.

    RVRita
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Hello ladies!

    Katla thinking of you in this troubled time.

    Betsy, I like to think that any large group of people, like a religion, has both good and bad behavior in it. And I agree with the others, this is terrible behavior.

    I had a good morning. My new bookcase is assembled and half full. My floor is more open and I feel better about the whole room. There's lots more to do, but so far so good. There are a lot of books that aren't even mine; they belong downstairs.

    Well time to change out the laundry. I will keep thinking about a keyword.

    Annie in Delaware

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    2023 GOALS
    Word of the year: Appreciate :Definition—Recognize the full worth of.

    cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week.
    Average 7,000 steps a week.
    Update budget every 2 weeks
    Contact close family every week (4x)
    Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)
    Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140.
    Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week.
    Read 12 books at least this year.
    Pay off credit card debt by January 2024
    Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)
    Grateful:
    1 What is something that makes you laugh? My two dogs, Wicket and Brownie every day the do something to make me laugh.
    2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for. The Christmas spirit making people nicer at this time of year.
    3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? My hair. It is white, pretty full with lots of body. Hairdressers always comment on how they like to work with my hair. Growing it out this winter. We will see how long I leave once the heat comes back!
    4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? My children and grandchildren.
    5 What is a book that changed your life? The Blooming of a Lotus by Thich Nhat Hann
    6 Think about something you’re good at. Customer service.
    7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? To forgive myself.
    8 A basic need that has been met. My housing at the campground. Free for hosting
    9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? The blue skies and 300 days of sun!
    10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? Losing my job at the print shop. It allowed me to take early retirement, buy this camper after selling my house and travel!
    11 Something you use every day. My phone. I know I know, but like others, everything is on it!
    12 Something you don’t need anymore. A big house
    13 Refuge – space you love in your home: My bedroom
    14 Item of clothing—The coat I bought last January in TN
    December 15 Taste—sweets!
    December 16 Touch—The loving touches from my fur babies!
    December 17 Smell ——Baking bread
    December 18 Sound—birds singing
    December 19Sight —-Snow on the mountains (but not where I am! Lol)
    December 20 Texture—-The soft skin of a baby
    December 21 Color—Sky blue
    December 22 A song that makes you happy.—-Rock Around the Christmas Tree
    December 23 Type of weather you love. Sunshine and about 75 degrees
    December 24 —Professional who helps you. My therapist
    December 25 . Something you take for granted. The love of my family
    December 26 A TV show that you look forward to watching. The Simpson
    December 27 A movie you watch over and over.—Harry Potter
    December 28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had. To travel in June 2021 to visit families in TN and in New England.
    December 29 A place you love to visit.—The East Coast Ocean. I love to just walk the beaches.
    December 30 A tool you find incredibly useful.—I consider my cell phone a tool as I use it for ‘everything!’
    December 31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated.—Coming to this forum every morning at breakfast!
    Kindness Calendar:
    December 1. “Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others”: Sharing on here and hope it helps someone.
    December 2.:Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are: to be determined. I ended up talking to my uncle and a friend, both who live 2,000 miles away!
    Decembrist 3. Offer to help someone who is having
    difficulty at the moment. - I helped a mom fix her son’s bicycle.
    December 4. Support a charity, cause, or campaign you really care about. - I use Amazon Smile to
    5contribute to St. Jude’s Children Hospital
    every time I buy something, including gifts
    December 5. Leave a positive message for someone
    else to find. Left a note for DH with a
    chocolate kiss!
    December 6.Give a gift to someone who is homeless or feeling lonely. I made a person smile who was having a very bad day trying to get a campsite. I gave them one.
    December 7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. Done! Campers and DH
    December 8. Do something helpful for a friend or family
    member- I made an appointment for DH to get new glasses.
    December 9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead.
    December 10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.
    December 11. Buy an extra item and donate it to a local food bank.
    December 12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love, or kindness today!
    December 13. See how many different people you can smile at today.
    December 14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one
    December 15. Contact an elderly neighbor and brighten up their day.
    December 16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you speak to.
    December 17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you!
    December 18. Ask for help and let someone else discover the joy of giving.
    December 19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated. - Going to cal my Uncle
    December 20. Help others by giving away something that you don’t need
    December 21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you!
    December 22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
    December 23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
    December 24.Bring joy to others. Share something which made you laugh.
    December 25. Treat everyone with kindness today, including yourself!
    December 26. Get outside. Pick up litter or do something kind for nature. We give breadcrumbs to the Southern
    Meadowlarks that come around our RV every winter. And we pick up litter every day!
    December 27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat. (Did this yesterday. Called my uncle and talked to him for over 1.5 hrs)
    December 28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
    December 29.Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.
    December 30. Let someone know how much you appreciate them and why.
    December 31. Plan some new acts of kindness to do in 2023.

    RVRita in NM
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Let's hear your highlights from 2022.

    :):):)

    My DD wedding in TN in January
    My son’s recovery from a mental break
    Starting therapy
    Change in depression medicines and finding one that works for me
    Sinus ablation
    Tooth pulled
    Teaching adults basic computer

    RVRita
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,769 Member
    Carla I am in on the January Calendar too! Already copied and pasted to a Word Doc to keep track.

    Kylia
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,687 Member
    edited December 2022
    Happy Chirstmas Eve to All!

    Carol from Mexico ~ Welcome! You have beautiful blue eyes!

    Betsy ~ Agree with all the others concerning your husband's relatives!

    Katla ~ So sorry to hear that your husband had to be sent back to the hospital. Prayers for you both.

    Rosemarie ~ Glad your son will be with you tonight. Did he go to UGA? My DnL's mother and father did. My husband and I went to the University of North GA in Dahlonega.

    Carol in GA

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    Katla hugs and prayers for you and your husband. Hang in there!

    Carol from Mexico Welcome and come back at the end of the day for the new thread that starts Jan. 1!

    Betsy Ditto everyone’s comments

    And I’m in on the January list.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,292 Member
    :) Betsy, setting aside the eligious affiliations, being a bully is not OK. Be kind and polite and say no thank and goodbye
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,687 Member
    Michelle ~ I don't see how you can do all the baking of sweets and not eat them. I baked a chocolate bundt cake today to carry to my Son's family. The smell of the chocolate makes me feel like pounds are adding on and I haven't even had any. Not even a taste! LOL :)

    Carol in GA
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,832 Member
    I highly recommend the book, 'Leaving The Saints' by Martha Beck.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,292 Member
    :) Since it is 2023 already in Australia and nearly bedtime on New Year's Eve in the UK, I'll be posting the new thread soon. Be watching for the link. I don't want to lose any of you. <3

    :) For me, every day is the best day there ever was, so I don't deal with looking back but I've enjoyed your lists of the highlights or the year. What's fun for other people may not be fun for me, and vice versa.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,292 Member
    :)https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10880701/women-ages-50-for-january-2023/p1?new=1

    Here is the link to the new thread for January 2023. May it be the best of clean slates for all of us.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,215 Member
    Machka: Your nose isn’t n the least scary. It’s healing really well.

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri
    Pg 26
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    DD & I went to see DH at the hospital. I am glad we were there. I hope to see him again soon. ❤️ ⭐️ ❤️
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,292 Member
    :)https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10880701/women-ages-50-for-january-2023/p1?new=1

    Here is the link to the new thread for January 2023. May it be the best of clean slates for all of us.

  • Poerava14
    Poerava14 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Happy New Year, friends. Here's to a great 2023.

    Just to finish off my gratitude list:
    25. Something you take for granted. My car. It always starts and gets me where I need to go

    26. A TV show that you look forward to watching. Emily in Paris. Also The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.

    27. A movie you watch over and over. The Blues Brothers

    28. An opportunity you’re grateful you had. So many! Recently, it would be the backstage access to my favorite basketball team. But upon more reflection I am really grateful for the face to face meetings I have had with some of you here including Lisa, Michelle, Sue K. and Katla.

    29. A place you love to visit. Hawaii

    30. A tool you find incredibly useful. My Samsung flip phone

    31. A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated. Meditation every morning before getting out of bed.

    Last few days have been spent resting and recovering from a cold. Not used to being ill, and it's very humbling.

    Katla: Hope DH is gets better soon, and returns home. ((Hugs))

    Machka: Love the dry stream. Your nose looks to be healing very well.

    Flea: So sorry for the emotional rollercoaster this holiday has triggered. Stay strong, but be gentle with yourself.

    Ginny: Ditto what others have said about post mortem conversion. My mother had a deathbed conversion to Judiasm because she wanted to be buried near my father, and this was a requirement. Gah! Costly transaction, but I am at peace because it was her wish.

    I am working on composing the annual photo calendar I have been doing for past 15+ years. This exercise forces me to look at the photos of the past year, chose the best of the best, and then arrange them artfully into calendar pages via the photo program at Walgreens. I had many great trips, visits with friends and family, and shows and concerts in 2022. It's difficult to chose, but I'm having fun with the process.

    Not sure I'm in the right headspace right now to pick a word for 2023, so will be back. Till then, stay well. We can do this.

    Rori
    Colorado Foothills
    2022 Word = Flow

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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited January 2023
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    Wishing everyone well as we go into a new year. Especially today thinking of Katla and hoping today brings good news. Kelly thinking of you as you join your family. Such a sad time losing a loved fur baby and without any notice.

    I'm working on my word for 2023 and it hard to narrow it down to one word. I have so many issues that I know I have to work on. I'll make a decision by the end of the day.

    I"m throwing a situation out into a spoiler. Would appreciate any thoughts people have.
    My husband died last March. He was a Methodist and me a Friend (formerly Quaker). His brother and wife converted to Church of Latter Day Saints many years ago. They are wonderful people and I love them. They have often brought up religion over the years and Jack and I firmly and gently let them know we are happy with our beliefs and have no interest in converting. Well now I'm getting phone calls with lots of pressure to give permission for Jack to be converted after death... with baptism and a ceremony sealing our marraige. They say they can do this w/o my permission but would like my permission. Also they say they would still "love" me but our relationship would be different if I don't agree.
    Jack would not be happy with his brother and family. He wouldn't want the babtism or sealing in the temple. I'm sad and I'm feeling pushed. Religion for Jack and myself was very personal. I am sure neither the Methodists or the Friends wouldn't claim either of us.

    Last day of the year..... still working on my word and on what the highlights of my year might have been. I'll be back later today.

    Betsy in NW WA


    Betsy, This calls for a succinct reply. Jack didn't want to be "converted", you are not about to give them permission to do so, and in fact, it they do it anyway, it will be expressly against your (and Jack's) wishes. Then try to let go of the outcome, as you have no control over it. Don't allow them to bully you.

    I truly dislike these tactics. And to have it done in the name of religion makes it all the more egregious.


    Karen in Virginia

  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Gratitude
    1 What is something that makes you laugh? Robin Williams movies.

    2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for: Very grateful for the cool fall weather and the lovely rains.

    3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? I am grateful for my hair. It's a pretty color and has body/wave. I never have to fuss with it.

    4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? I am incredibly grateful for the assistant marketing manager Stephanie at our retirement community, who is skillfully navigating us through the portal into our retirement community. Among other things, she tactfully negotiated to return the larger storage space that originally came with our apartment (it had been commandeered, lol), assigned us a prime parking space near the elevator in the parking garage, gave us a grace period before we have to start daily "check ins", took charge of a delivery of large awkward boxes in our absence, delivering them into our apartment with care, spontaneously recruited us to join into a trivia game that was already underway, and numerous other little thoughtful gestures. Plus she is super responsive to emails.

    5 What is a book that changed your life? To Kill a Mockingbird

    6 Think about something you’re good at: I'm good at packing a box with random items (like a puzzle).

    7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? I am still learning this lesson. Do not talk at/overwhelm my younger brother with too much information or too many questions. He is vulnerable and becomes anxious and ultimately angry - because he feels inadequate, which makes him resentful.

    8 A basic need that has been met: Basic needs: food, water, clothing, sleep, and shelter. All have been met with the possible exception of adequate sleep.


    9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? Oh my gosh, there are so many great things about this neck of the woods. However, picking just one: I have a terrific network of friends and access to limitless resources in and around Richmond, VA where I live. So I would have to say "the people who live here".

    10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? I am grateful for being rejected by my friend Liz in graduate school. We started out by ride-sharing to school and quickly became fast friends. Liz rejected my friendship when I betrayed a confidence involving another classmate Susan. I said something to Susan that tipped her off that Liz had revealed to me something personal about Susan that she had told Liz in confidence. Susan felt betrayed by Liz, and Liz felt betrayed by me. It was a life's lesson that I should have learned at a much younger age, but I learned it well and painfully this time, and paid dearly for it by losing Liz as a friend. It was excruciating. I apologized, but the damage had been done.

    11 Something you use every day: I use my hot water kettle every day and I am consciously grateful for it every time I use it. I think, what a great little hot water kettle this is! every day, lol
    

    12 Something you don’t need anymore.: I no longer need my beloved John Deere lawn tractor. Time to dispose of it.

    13 Refuge – space you love in your home: In my new home (apartment), I love my very own room. It has things I love in it and is a calm oasis.

    14 Item of clothing: I have a navy blue with white polka dots dress I love. Sometimes I wear red Danskins with it. And a string of fake pearls.

    15 Taste: Comice pears with brie and Riesling

    16 Touch: Casper the Cat's dense white fur (just a memory now)

    17 Smell: Lily of the Valley

    18 Sound: Snoring doggies

    19 Sight: Nebraska sunrises and sunsets.

    20 Texture: Silk

    21 Color: Coke Bottle Green Sea Glass

    22 A song that makes you happy: Scott Joplin Maple Leaf Rag

    23 Type of weather you love: Summer lighting storms

    24 Professional who helps you: Waiters, especially lately as we transition into our new community.

    25 Something you take for granted: potable water

    26 A TV show that you look forward to watching: CBS Sunday Morning

    27 A movie you watch over and over: The Holiday

    28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had: July 20, 1977 - Harry Chapin at Merriweather Post Pavilion

    29 A place you love to visit: Sanibel

    30 A tool you find incredibly useful: Not sure this is a tool, but my Seal-A-Meal is a godsend. I’m also rather partial to my cordless drill, level, and tape measure. The strawberry huller gadget is pretty awesome, too. And the egg slicer.

    31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated: That’s easy. I check in with my MFP group every day. It’s a lifeline for me.
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,630 Member
    Katla ((hugs)) and prayers for your DH and you. Glad your DD is near and you were able to visit him in hospital. ((hugs)) and prayers.

    31 A “daily-ish” ;) habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated. PT exercises, keep me moving pain free.

    Monthly average weight down 0.3 lb to 137.7 so ending the month and the year a tiny bit lighter. Spending a week in my pjs took a toll on daily step count, over 2K short of goal steps. Don’t want this to be my maintenance weight so have some thinking/changing to do.

    Joe took the dogs and me to Harris Beach campground this morning, hooray! After brunch I would normally nap, (and wanted to!) but instead took Shadow to dog group for the first time in weeks. Good brisk pack walk and exercises. Gorgeous warm(ish) sunshine, so glad I took advantage of the break in the rain.

    Struggling to find a word or motto that resonates for 2023. Want to be cheerful, flexible, active, giving, resilient, even-tempered and present but nothing just says “Yes, that’s it!”

    Happy New Year Machka and Heather!
    Welcome @carolhemma3415 Carol in Mx.
    KJ safe travels. Big hugs held extra long for your sad little family. Always the hardest but last, most loving thing that can be done.
    Ginny con VERY grats for your first smoke-free year. “… didn't actually do any of the things I thought of doing to some people at work…” :laugh:
    Betsy so sorry your in-laws are pressuring you to permit them to do something your husband would not have wanted. In my opinion, saying they will still love you, but your relationship will be different, well, that’s on them. Be true to yourself and your dearly departed.
    Lisa yours to Betsy. In spades. Likewise everyone else’s.
    Pip your highlight from 2022, truth that.
    Margaret what a lot of troubles, first the garage door, then car snowed in, finally thermostat failing. Time for a nap indeed!
    Carla thanks for your tweaked gratitude list.
    Lanette… “but thanks for asking. How about this weather?” rotflmao!
    Carol “The smell of the chocolate makes me feel like pounds are adding on and I haven't even had any. Not even a taste!” I read somewhere that just LOOKING at a picture of fattening food in a magazine stimulates the hormones that store fat. That you can gain weight by just looking. SMH :astonished:
    Rori love the “new body” meme and look forward to seeing some of your calendar pics.

    It’s 8:40 pm here so Happy New Year to those on the East Coast. Our neighbors have been shooting off their guns since mid-afternoon and the dogs respond by barking. Not sure I’ll make it to midnight, so see you in the January 2023 thread.

    Lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    2022: Be still and listen.
    December: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.

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