WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2023
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So he is on the Geo HW Bush out of Norfolk? I don't know why I thought he was stationed out of San Diego.
Sending you strength, Rebecca.
Flea
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Lanette ... chicken story.My neighbors have a little hobby farm going on in their small backyard. It's a maze of movable pens and raised garden beds and what have you. They have turkey, ducks, chickens and goats as far as I can tell. Well, some of the chickens are able to get over the yard's fence and they can often be found pecking away in my yard. They're fun to watch. Last night at dinner we saw one chicken going down our side yard into the back and I flippantly said to my guys, "that one will soon be a pile of feathers" as we have been seeing fox and coyote in the back ... most likely attracted to the hobby farm. My son and husband decided to play a little basketball out front. Not 20 minutes later, they watched a fox run full tilt towards that chicken, grab the chicken by its middle and start running towards them. The chicken, according to my son was screaming in the most pitiful way and that startled my husband and son who then decided to charge the fox! The fox, who up until this point had been solely focused on his prey, got wide-eyed at the sight of two huge men and dropped that chicken like a hot potato and ran off into the brush across the street. The chicken, believe it or not is ok! The owner messaged me last night that while the chicken was shook-up and had a couple of puncture wounds, she was eating and drinking. I think the owner took off work today though ... she was as shook-up as that chicken last night. Keep an eye on those chickies!!
Beth - wow, that's one lucky chickie!! Glad your husband and son chased that fox away. I think crazy cat ladies are being replaced by crazy chicken ladies, I know I'm one too, lol. No foxes or coyotes but we do have hawks and eagles. Mine will be in a covered run for quite a while. Our neighbors across the fence let theirs have the run of the back yard during the day so I'm crossing fingers it will be safe when and if I let them out in the yard.
And related to the HIPPA discussion - many years ago we made sure the doctors and local hospital had copies of our Medical POA's. When DH went into the hospital last spring and the tests found he'd had a heart attack and blockage (among many, many other things), I happened to have a copy of the Medical Power of Attorney with me and gave it to the hospitalist. She said good, they were thinking about sending him off to the "big hospital" for stents!!! I said - I thought the hospital had this on file! I guess no one had thought to look.
His body was shutting down yet "stents" were on their radar.
Along that line, wonder if there's a HIPAA template people could print off and use so if a loved one or child needs emergency care, it is already signed. And a parent or spouse could keep a copy or two handy for cases like this?
This stuff is getting too complicated.
Lanette
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I'm toying with the idea of uninstalling Outlook and reinstalling it but I am hesitating ... M in Oz
Machka - why would you need to?
Annie - I'm sorry the laptop refused to stay fixed. How rude! Hope your dad is OK.
Barbara AHMOD - Empathy is not a good thing when you absorb the pain around you with no way to get a barrier up to protect yourself. I'm sorry, dear heart. Sometimes so many tragedies can just overwhelm.
Heather - Your life seems so busy and happy and full. So much more so now that you're near your family. It's a pleasure to watch you stretch in creative and every other direction.
I did drag up a little bit of energy, took my own advice to "start now" and got back on the elliptical. Six minutes is better than no minutes. I don't think it will make things worse, and who knows, it might make things better. Got my day's chores done - laundry folded and put away, meds set up for the week.
CT scan in the morning--I always dread this stuff far more than is warranted. I just have a massive distaste for strangers touching me. Maybe I'll learn to get over it someday.
But in a more spritely vein, burgers on the grill for dinner tonight. The cold and rain are coming back tomorrow and supposed to keep raining until Friday, so it will be the last chance this week to cook outside. Really looking forward to that.
Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in AR3 -
(((Barbara)))
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OregonMother wrote: »So he is on the Geo HW Bush out of Norfolk? I don't know why I thought he was stationed out of San Diego.
Sending you strength, Rebecca.
Flea
Willamette Valley OR
No he is not with the Geo HW Bush. He is on an LSD transport ship that changed home port from Japan to San Diego.👍🏼 I am not sure if he is presently part of ships crew, as a friend of mines sailor told her that he hadn't seen my sailor in awhile. Just waiting on Command Master Chief to do an official health and welfare check on him. CMC is most likely on leave for a bit. I just have to be patient!
Oh today I received a hug mug, a hug candle, gold teaspoon and key chain that said "life is tough but so are you". It had no info in the box on who sent it, so if it was one of you amazing ladies, I so appreciate it! Made me feel special.
Thanks again!
I also got to video chat with muddle son and Athena.💖
Rebecca
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Barbara - I believe that one reason the kids in my family speak their truth is because they are encouraged to do so. I hope that this helps them in the future. A lot of us were raised to be quiet, not join in adult conversations, not able to make decisions, these children are raised to think about their choices, taught how to have adult conversations and if they disagree are taught to express their thoughts in a respectful manner.
One of the best conversations they were a part of was, to me, what I hope all people soon realize. Lauryn and I were chatting about how homophobia affected a particular young man known to us. His father had disowned him for several years but finally opened his arms to him. Michaela pipes up from the back seat, she was 6 at the time, “you love who you love and that’s all there is to it”.
We weren’t even taught about differences.
Kylia - I’ve often thought we had similarities.
Karen - Your community are all coming together. It’s like learning to live together or joining a new job.
I was surprised at the ceramics shop where I take lessons how many people come to paint their own urns.
My thoughts on cremation -My family and community growing up were traditionally buried. I didn’t know anyone that had been cremated until my dad. He had discussed it with us and we did bury his urn with my sister that was lost at birth the year before I was born. When the time comes we will do the same with my Mom.
I don’t like it. Intellectually, I know, that when you visit a grave the person is not really there, but it feels different visiting dad than my grandparents right beside him.
Rodger’s dad was also cremated and his family all wanted some of the ashes.
Some of them bought necklaces that have ashes in them. DH bought a little urn to come home with and had a ring made. Our youngest daughter did a necklace, it’s a teddy bear, as she collected them when she was young and for the Red Sovine song called Teddy Bear. She wrapped her necklace around a base with a couple flowers from the funeral. Our eldest daughter, bought a music note as her and her grandfather’s shared a love of old country. She did not put ashes in hers but took a little piece of a shirt of my Dad’s in it. She thought it would honour both grandparents.
I don’t feel comfortable with any of this and wonder where you go to “visit” my FIL. What do I do with this little urn of ashes? Do I have to will it? I can’t just throw it in the garbage. I’m torn. I am probably overthinking all of this, but it is a problem I’m sure I’ll have to deal with at some point.
Kelly - your DH made a good joke about the turkey. Sorry it’s going to cost money though.
It’s quite interesting what I have learned, thanks to my daughter, about ADHD in girls. Vast differences and one reason so many young women struggle because they are not diagnosed. Honestly, I was getting tired of hearing about it from her because one trait is they become fixated on something. She has calmed down on the subject now.
Barbie - your life is so calm. I love reading about it.
Lisa - I have a crystal like that. I should put it in my window.
I am purchasing items to get Michaela to make a craft for me. Beads are more expensive than I was expecting.
Terri - so happy you are home, hopefully you will have a speedy recovery now.
Allie - my MIL said her tastes and reactions to food changed significantly after her heart attacks.
Annie - your Dad sure is having a hard time accepting he can’t do everything he used to. It makes it so difficult for you.
Rita - I hope you figure out the water retention issue.
Vicki - I would think you’re exhausted. I don’t know if I could do 50-60 weeks anymore.
Lanette - you mentioned gutters. On the weekend we had a quote for gutters and the screen to go over them. It was over 12K!!!! Of course, we won’t be going with them. We only have 132 feet of gutter to replace.
Beth - that poor chicken, it should be thankful to your hubby and son.
Rebecca - genetics are strong in your family I see your son and Athena resemble you.
I’m responding for two days because I forgot to post last night.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Good evening ladies!
Today I ate 1233 calories, which is a little high for me. But I did my twenty minutes on the bike, an hour of yoga, and thirty minutes of aerobic walking Yay! For a deficit of 350, Yay! A good day overall, especially considering the pollen. It isn't as bad as before my nasal surgery, but it still affects me.
Hugs for you Rebecca!
Annie in Delaware
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Thanks ladies!💖
The mug and candle was from a fellow Navy Mom Strong momma. She said in private chat that she always forgets to include cards. I kind of had a feeling it was her, because we had discussed much over the weekend. I expressed to her that I am kind of anti Navy right now, just couldn't support the group, nor see the posts every day.👍🏼💖. She understands so that was good.
Rebecca
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Allie, You can diagnose your food intolerances even before the official tests. If you are logging your food on MFP, you can easily see what you are eating and notice bad reactions. I gave up beef many years ago when I noticed that I had terrible diarrhea the next morning after eating beef and it didn't happen after eating other food. Same thing happened a few years later with peanuts and cashews. Years ago I got terrible stomach cramps after eating avocado. I don't eat those things any more and I don't have those symptoms (unless I cheat and eat peanut butter LOL). Our neighborhood will have a dumpster this week for residents to get rid of stuff too big for garbage cans. We have the back of the car loaded with stuff we want to get rid of. With a little sweeping, the garage will look infinitely better.
Barbie in NW WA
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Has MFP changed the way you log food or I am just being stupid today? I sat down this morning, using the app on my iPad and logged my food for the day. I logged out to sync my Fitbit. When I came back and clicked on my food diary, none of my food was showing. But, when I went to log it again, my foods that I had searched and thought I entered before were at the top of my foods list. I checked them, clicked add foods, and they seem to be "sticking" now.
I have not logged my food in about a week, so maybe I've just forgotten how. I'm back at it today. I need to be more accountable to myself about how many calories I am consuming, plus it helps to be sure that I've hit my protein goals.
I was way behind on reading posts, too. I skimmed so probably missed a lot.
I have to give two "talks" at a women's retreat this coming weekend, so I have been stressing about that. the one Friday night is supposed to be 15 minutes on the topic "Love in Action Changes the World" and the one Saturday morning is a 5 minute devotion with a social justice emphasis. I'm stressing the most over that one. It's easier to talk for 15 minutes than it is 5. I tried the 15 minute one out on my local church women's group to see what they thought and they liked it. I have yet to write the other one, although I've been pondering it in my head for weeks.9 -
Been in a real funk this last 10 days or so. I am retaining water too for no visible reason, making me depressed as I have been working really hard on losing weight by exercise, logging, meditating, religiously. This past week, once I went up 4 pounds overnight, has been very depressing so of course, and I know its wrong, am eating my emotions and lazy about exercise and meditation. IDK what kicked it off, no major drama around me, just in a mood. Maybe I am fighting off a bug of some kind. Even so, I hope it goes away soon.
Did I tell you ladies that my haunted radio is finally being fixed? Had to drive 2.5 hours to Lubbock TX to the Subaru dealer, leave my car for 10 -14 days so they could fix the radio, and go back once done. At least they gave us a loaner brand new Subaru Ascent which I like the SUV, fully loaded, but the gas mileage is terrible. Funny thing….. radio started acting haunted on this vehicle too! LOL. Their problem, not mine.
RVRita
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Tracey--I love the pillow Michaela made. For her first project she did a great job.
Kim--The poppy pictures were beautiful.
Terri--Glad you are home and getting settled in.
Weekend went by to fast. Life is flying by. I did spend time on Saturday with my DDIL and DGD. Enjoyed that. Rest of weekend did what needed to be done, but just wanted to be home. New work week starting today and I am back to my normal 50 hour week. I just pray they let me hire someone soon.
Rita-- I can relate to being just feeling off. Can't pin anything down. I feel like I am going back to the time where I did not go out of my house for over a year. Spent all day cleaning one end to the other and start over. Started drinking.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE
You are feeling off because you are working too much!
I've done 50 and 60 hour work weeks, but I was a lot younger then and it was for a new project at the place I was working, so it was exciting.
What would they say if you went in and announced you were going to do a 9-day fortnight?
Machka in Oz
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »
It's not behaving itself. I can't send emails with it. It's not syncing. Half the time it indicates it's open, but it's not.
I have several email accounts linked to it, and I am pretty sure if I uninstalled and reinstalled, I could link them all up again and keep my emails but I'm trying to think what I might have to back up just in case.
M in Oz
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »My thoughts on cremation -My family and community growing up were traditionally buried. I didn’t know anyone that had been cremated until my dad. He had discussed it with us and we did bury his urn with my sister that was lost at birth the year before I was born. When the time comes we will do the same with my Mom.
I don’t like it. Intellectually, I know, that when you visit a grave the person is not really there, but it feels different visiting dad than my grandparents right beside him.
Rodger’s dad was also cremated and his family all wanted some of the ashes.
Some of them bought necklaces that have ashes in them. DH bought a little urn to come home with and had a ring made. Our youngest daughter did a necklace, it’s a teddy bear, as she collected them when she was young and for the Red Sovine song called Teddy Bear. She wrapped her necklace around a base with a couple flowers from the funeral. Our eldest daughter, bought a music note as her and her grandfather’s shared a love of old country. She did not put ashes in hers but took a little piece of a shirt of my Dad’s in it. She thought it would honour both grandparents.
I don’t feel comfortable with any of this and wonder where you go to “visit” my FIL. What do I do with this little urn of ashes? Do I have to will it? I can’t just throw it in the garbage. I’m torn. I am probably overthinking all of this, but it is a problem I’m sure I’ll have to deal with at some point.
Tracey in Edmonton
I don't visit my deceased relatives at their graves. The remains of their bodies are there, but they are not.
I visit my grandmother (for example) when I am in the garden doing similar things to what she used to do. I talk to her out there.
In February, a couple visited us from Canada, they knew my grandparents and parents way back when and continued to keep in touch with them over the years. I showed them our garden and I was so pleased when they commented that it was something like what my grandmother did with her garden.
As for cremation ...I look at it as a way to take up less ground space. My grandmother's body was (likely) cremated and the ashes were buried in a cemetery somewhere next to my grandfather (who may have been cremated too). Thinking about it, I don't actually know what happened to their bodies after they died.
I knew someone who worked for a cemetery in the UK, and told me that they are burying people on top of each other because they are running out of room. Cremation helps reduce that problem because the little box of ashes doesn't take up much room.
Personally, I would not want an urn with someone's ashes in my house because there is a social expectation to protect it.
M in Oz2 -
Allie, You can diagnose your food intolerances even before the official tests. If you are logging your food on MFP, you can easily see what you are eating and notice bad reactions. I gave up beef many years ago when I noticed that I had terrible diarrhea the next morning after eating beef and it didn't happen after eating other food. Same thing happened a few years later with peanuts and cashews. Years ago I got terrible stomach cramps after eating avocado. I don't eat those things any more and I don't have those symptoms (unless I cheat and eat peanut butter LOL). Our neighborhood will have a dumpster this week for residents to get rid of stuff too big for garbage cans. We have the back of the car loaded with stuff we want to get rid of. With a little sweeping, the garage will look infinitely better. Barbie in NW WA
I did an elimination test in my mid-20s when I began to suspect that certain foods weren't sitting well with me.
I confirmed that peanuts, peas and related aren't good for me. They leave me horribly bloated and painfully crampy. And I discovered I have to take it easy with citrus fruit because I break out in a bit of a rash on my face.
I had already done a lactose-intolerance test and found I was I am mild-moderately lactose intolerant.
I know that peppers, especially green peppers, leave me feeling blech - horrible heartburn.
Mushrooms make me queasy.
Beef doesn't sit well ... it can make me feel flu-ish.
Nuts (cashews, almonds, etc.) are a sure-fire way to get everything moving! And cashews make me all congested too.
M in Oz
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Tracey - My ashes will be blowing in the wind and water. I was part of the universe of stars and to them I shall return.
The UK was one of the first Western countries to take to cremation. The only people I know who were buried were my ex's parents. My ex has never put up gravestones. (!) All my family, including my grandparents, were cremated. I have no idea what happened to the ashes - scattered in the crematorium grounds I suppose.
My father's ashes are in the grounds of the church of their town. My mother's are in the cupboard in my brother's living room, waiting for him to do something with them. She said she wanted to be next to my father, but neither of us believe that.
Most people over here scatter the ashes somewhere meaningful to the person. Hove beach is good enough for me. I have been happier here than anywhere and I love the sea like a lover.My baby's ashes are somewhere in the grounds of the crematorium, and it has been marked in their records, but I've never looked. We entered a sentence in The Book of Life at the crematorium that says, 'Stillborn, but we knew you and loved you.' I have nothing else of her. Apart from a few poems in my book, Memory Boxes. These days there would be photos and footprints etc. In 1978 I was lucky to be able to hold her before she was taken away.
I love the thought that we are all part of the cycle of life, the energy of the universe. Part of me writing my memoirs is to make a little, tiny, impermanent claim on that energy for a while. I do not want to be sitting in a jar, I'd rather be with the waves.
I'm not having a funeral, just a dinner party. I hope the food is delicious and people say nice things about me. Any life I have left is a bonus, and I hope to make it so.
Much love to you and yours. Isn't it such a blessing to have the fresh energy of our grandchildren in our lives. Edie said on Sunday, "It's really interesting isn't it, that there is such a big difference in our ages, but we get on so well."
Oh, my heart!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx9 -
So glad I've spent today in the garden. 5 -
Nice peaceful bicycle ride after time in the garden ...
Machka in Oz
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Good morning!
Beth I agree about hippa going out the door especially early on. Lots of information being sent out loud.
Carol My DH'S situation is different and complicated. So no, I have to have my own at this point in time.
Cremation I like Heather's thinking. I just don't want to be put in a box and put under ground. I have felt that way for as long as I can remember. No fancy urns and someone better pick up my ashes and scatter them in the wind. I don't want a funeral. I will haunt anyone that "keeps" my ashes on a shelf.
Made fried chicken in air fryer last night. DH asked what I was burning as house was so smokey. It was good, but took an hour to get the smoke out!
One of the disadvantages of being a young parent and young grandparent is not having as much time to spend with grands since still working full time. It doesn't help that they are so busy these days. I miss them,but do enjoy the times with them.
Food sensitivity I know I can't eat too much dairy or pork (neither stays with me long). Recently realized that if I eat cow, I get bloated and miserable. Turkey gives me a migraine. Still trying to figure out the nut thing.....moderation seems to work. Too many cashews give me a migraine.
I cleared out 1000 emails from one account last night. I really should check more often. Still need to do second one. I go through work ones every day....too many! I did this while watching "Rebecca ". It was a really good movie. Took a break from work for the night.
Have a wonderful day!
I hope you get to enjoy some sunshine!
Much ❤️,
Kylia in Ohio2 -
Regarding eating meat ...
Signs That Your Body Might Not Be Properly Digesting Meat
https://www.geelongmedicalgroup.com.au/2018/02/signs-that-your-body-might-not-be-properly-digesting-meat
M in Oz1 -
Betsy in NW WA0 -
Interesting questions arising around these parts.
Food allergies - During these last few years of ongoing batteries of tests to try to get a diagnosis, one of the things they did was check on a number of food allergies and sensitivies. This included celiac disease, wheat allergy, lactose, eggs, beef, chocolate, corn, fish/shellfish, lamb/mutton, milk/cow allergy, peanuts, pork, and soybeans. Tests showed that I have no sensitivities or allergies to specific foods at all. Frustrated the doctors, but there have been no easy answers.
Cremation vs. burying - One of my mother's fears was being buried and still be intact for ages, so she requested that she not be embalmed. She wanted to go back to the earth. Texas law gave us 24 hours to get her in the ground. I, on the other hand, wish to be cremated. The family joke is that I want my ashes put in an urn on the mantel, and stick wiggly eyes on the outside, so I can check out Corey's new girlfriends. In all honesty, I simply don't care, I just don't want to be buried and have people visit me in that spot. Kylia - I've told my family I will haunt them if they bury me, too!
Tracey - everyone has emotional reactions one way or another, and your feelings are valid. For me, I went back to visit my mother's grave once - and there was just no sense on my part of her being there at all. She was gone--and I see her now in the children and grandchildren who loved her. And the mirror. Apparently I look more and more like her every year.
Time to get moving and get in a quick shower... Need to leave in 45 minutes to get to town for the tests. I have to get the contrast and drink it at 8 a.m., and then they'll do the scan at 9.
Love y'all,
Later,
Lisa
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Morning ladies
Here with Miles who is sleeping on my shoulder right now..
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(((Barbara)))0
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Good morning!
I cleared out 1000 emails from one account last night. I really should check more often. Still need to do second one. I go through work ones every day....too many! I did this while watching "Rebecca ". It was a really good movie. Took a break from work for the night.
Have a wonderful day!
I hope you get to enjoy some sunshine!
Much ❤️,
Kylia in Ohio
I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle with my emails!!
I've got to figure out how to reign things in a bit.
I have 5 active accounts (including 2 work accounts) and some days I get 100+ emails a day between them. If I don't do anything with my emails for a couple days because I'm busy with something else, I'm swamped and it takes a couple days to deal with them. But in that time, more have come in ... so I'm always behind.
If I can keep my home Inbox down to about 40 emails which I haven't dealt with, that's good. Tonight, I got it down to 35!!
I also changed the settings on one account that has been sending me at least 2 emails a day. I'm hoping my change might bring it down to maybe 2 emails a week.
I need to go through several of these accounts to get them to slow the flow.
M in Oz
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