WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2023
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My meal was a success!
Miso soup with ramen bits and fresh spinach, rice balls with crab, egg, and spinach and nori wrapped around, a piece of smoked salmon with drizzled honey, and pickled veggies which were cucumbers, beets and asparagus. Just enough!
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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If you catch it on the national news (it already hit the NY Times), it's now over, and my family is all fine. We've been waiting out the last two hours with our daughter, over text and phone, while police searched for an active shooter on Schofield Barracks, Hawaii. Our granddaughter's on-base elementary school was locked down within a very short period of time, but the last knowledge Kelsey had was that he was never closer than two miles from the school.
However, there is now an official update saying there were no known shots fired (the first news reported that a sergeant had been shot three times) and that no one was known to have been shot... but whatever the truth is, what we care about is that our scared little granddaughter will be let out of the school soon (in a "phased release") and in her mama's arms.
I started writing this at the end of my last post but didn't have a happy ending yet, so I figured I'd wait instead of leaving y'all hanging. All is well. Time to head for bed. My daughter will text when she has picked her baby girl up, and I'll see it as soon as I get up.
Long day.
Love y'all,
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Here is the monthly list I use for you to copy if you’d like. Thank you Machka for posting the calendar. I always forget to post it in a format that works on here.
2023 Self-Care September 20231. Find time for self-care. It’s not selfish. It’s essential.
2. Notice the things you do well, however small.
I'm spending quite a bit of time relaxing this weekend. Self-care.
And what do I do well? I don't know ... the usual household things like the laundry I've done this weekend, working on my drystream, cycling, colouring.
3. Let go of self-criticism and speak to yourself kindly.
4. Plan a fun or relaxing activity and make time for it.
I'm not usually overly critical of myself but I will question myself, like "What are you doing?"
And today, I went for a long-ish walk at lunch then did some colouring at home after work.
5. Forgive yourself when things go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes.
And most of the time, mistakes can be fixed.
6. Focus on the basics: eat well, exercise, and go to bed on time.
All good except for the "go to bed on time" thing.
7. Give yourself permission to say ‘no’..
Getting better at that. I'm working my way through emails and unsubscribing!
8. Be willing to share how you feel and and ask for help when needed.
I ask ... but from my experience help is a rare occurrence. Occasionally, however, I'm pleasantly surprised.
One thing I've discovered is that it helps if I am very specific about the help I need.
9. Aim to be good enough, rather than perfect.
It's all about priorities.
A little story: When I have been in university and other programs getting degrees, diplomas and certifications, I discovered something. It was OK not to do all the assignments. I would look over the assignment collection for the course, and focus my attention on the one(s) worth the most marks. If the one worth 5% didn't get done, oh well.
One teacher was horrified with that approach.
I had been really sick for about three or four weeks and was getting done what I could. I handed in an assignment worth 20% and got a decent mark on it like 80% or something. Then along came a quiz worth 10% and I had not studied at all for it ... too much to do on the big assignment and just too sick. I got 40% and when he went through it with me (not pleased that I had failed), I told him it was OK. I got 40%. I was happy with that. Actually I was thrilled I got that high, given the complete lack of studying!
He couldn't understand it.
I explained that for 30% of the total mark, I was sitting at 20/30 with the assignment and quiz. I was still comfortably passing and had more of the class to go where I could potentially get better marks. I had sacrificed the quiz in order to do well on the assignment.
He didn't like that approach one bit as he imagined his students would pour every effort into every assignment.
But I didn't need to be perfect.
10. When you find things hard, remember it’s ok to not be ok.
I usually take it out on the stairs. Something difficult at work ... and I'm out the door climbing stairs.
11. Make time to do something you really enjoy.
Almost every day. Usually colouring.
12. Get active outside and give your mind and body a natural boost.
Almost every day.
13. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a loved one.
I am.
14. If you’re busy, allow yourself to pause and take a break.
Up and down those stairs!!
Walking at lunch
Walking with Rhody
Gardening
Reading
Colouring
Listening to music
15. Find a caring calming phrase to use when you feel low.
Soft kitty
Warm kitty
Little ball of fur
Happy kitty
Sleepy kitty
Purr purr purr.
I sing that to Rhody and he seems to really like it - stretches, curls up, closes his eyes, purrs.
But one day, I caught myself singing it out loud to myself at work while I was working on some difficult code!! And someone heard me!!
16. Leave positive messages for yourself to see regularly.
My memories in Facebook
17. No plans day. Make time to slow down and be kind to yourself.
That would be nice, but ...
This might happen in October.
18. Ask a trusted friends to tell you what strengths they see in you.
Someone today told me I was very good at organising myself and did a great job of presenting a project plan.
19. Notice what you are feeling without any judgement.
Happily, I don't feel much.
20. Enjoy photos from a time with happy memories.
A few happy memories this year.
21. Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside.
I don't feel much. It's good.
22. Take your time. Make space to just breathe and be still.
Tonight. When I close my eyes and fall asleep.
23. Let go of other people’s expectations of you.
Well ... at work people do expect me to do certain things, so I can't really let go of those expectations.
24. Accept yourself and remember that your are worthy of love.
Absolutely!!
25. Avoid saying ‘I should’ and make time to do nothing.
What is "nothing"?
What would doing nothing look like?
The closest I think I come to doing nothing is when I'm falling asleep at night, and when I slowly wake up on weekends.
What about you? What does "doing nothing" look like for you?
26. Find a new way to use one of your strengths or talents.
One of my strengths is organisation, and yes, I've been using that strength in many ways.
27. Free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans.
When faced with a week full of meetings, I'm always happy when people start cancelling them.
28. Choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn.
Mistakes, unsuccessful attempts, and all that sort of thing are learning experiences. We can't always get it right on the first try.
29. Write down 3 things you appreciate about yourself.
Organisation
Tenacity
My love of learning
30. Remind yourself you are enough, just as you are.
But I always like learning more.
Machka in Oz
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sspell1958 wrote: »KetoneKaren wrote: »Lisa,
Pottery is my favorite class here at the crone hotel. Experimenting with different glazes is fun, and I have discovered that I like playing with mud.
I hope you enjoy it!
Karen in Virginia
Sorry I’ve been absent a few says, been hectic with errands, granddaughter and crafts. I hope everyone is doing well. A lot of posts, so I missed a lot!
Well slept horrible last night. Hopefully the coffee will kick in.
Sandy in TN
Did the coffee kick in?
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Rosemarie - funny, I was pondering this "getting back into dating" thing before I read your post this morning. I thought about all I'd accomplished in the past year and I wondered what my life would look a year from now. I had a chance to go to a retirement party for a former co-worker yesterday evening. A lot of us retirees were going to be there, many I knew and liked. I turned it down. Don't like big crowds. For a second I thought - what if someone I really connected with was there and I missed an opportunity? But that passed quickly. If it's meant to be, it will be and I'll run into that person elsewhere. It's still not a priority. DH's finer qualities are still taking up a lot room in my head.
Besides, I had my nose stuck in the Mrs. Pollifax books. Great series by Dorothy Gilman.
I recall our Rori saying that after her husband died, gentlemen would show an interest and she'd kindly put them off with the phrase "too soon." I think that's perfect, and true. Rori - did I remember this right?
Betsy - I just read your post. I know I'll be looking forward to getting back in the social world eventually. Master Gardeners are having free training classes on October 14th, I've pencilled it in. It will be nice to see some old faces. It's a start. And I agree, we are all walking the same path. And walking with all of you makes it easier.
Annie - so glad to hear your mom is able to walk. Is she being moved to rehab for a couple weeks?
Tracey - I gasped when I saw your weather - temps in the teens and 20's. Already! Then I realized that was celsius.
Septic tanks and grease- I wipe out every cooking pan and dish that had any oil or grease in it with paper towels before I wash it. And I've learned that using Dawn or even Palmolive dishsoap does a lot better job of keeping the garbage disposal (that I don't use but sludge does build up) odor free. For a long time I used products that were more environmentally friendly but they didn't help keep the pipes clean and my kitchen smelled like mildew. Same with the laundry. Some folks even use a squirt of Dawn in the laundry tub in addition to regular laundry soap to get the clothes a little cleaner - plus it cleans the washer. I don't have an HE washer so can get away with a lot more.
Antibiotics/Microbiome/Allergies/Food Intolerances Rabbit Hole:
I got a book from the library a few weeks ago - "Gut Feelings" by Alessio Fasano. It's due back at the library on Tuesday and I finally thumbed through it yesterday. He mentions a study that indicates children raised on farm with a diversity of microbiome in their homes have a much lesser risk of developing asthma and atopic diseases (like hay fever), and that antibiotic exposure early in life increases the risk of developing allergies. This a pretty new finding.
I was a farm kid immersed in as much diversity with the garden and farm animals as one can imagine. So why, in my later years, did I then develop fairly severe environmental allergies and some food intolerances?
Perhaps antibiotic use is the missing piece of the puzzle. I started taking tetracycline in the late 1990's for rosacea. I took it for years. And it was after that the allergies started. Hmmmmm.
If that's the case, then will beefing up my microbiome help dampen allergies? I need to go back through all of the articles and websites I've bookmarked about the microbiome. What a perfect time to be seeing Dr. Matt, I am anxious to get his take on it.
No sign of any raccoon, coyote or other varmint this morning. With all the bunnies still hopping around in my yard, I don't think it could be a coyote.
Will probably get rain here within the next half hour so need to head outside.
Have a lovely day!
Lanette
SW WA State
Rosemarie: Leave it to Lanette to get me to jump ahead 14 unread pages to reply to your compelling question. Yes, her recall of my standard reply is correct. "Too soon". "Still healing". " I did eventually begin meditations and Reiki centering on opening my heart. I began feeling joy full, grateful and highly engaged with my cool part-time retirement job. New friendships evolved. Old friendships were rekindled. And though I never expected it, I met a great guy. He lives half a continent away, and spends months at a time traveling in a van golfing around the country. We met on the 4th of July, so it's still a budding friendship, but currently I'm giving it a high score on the Fun-O-meter. Trust your instincts, dear friend. You can do this! Big hugs to you!6 -
cyntdooley wrote: »Hi everyone,
I was scheduled for a mamio aka mammogram screening. I was feeling around and found a pea size lump rt outer quadrant breast. I have knotty breast. This is different. The radiologist tech felt the knot too. I have lost 35lb. I'm hoping that the lump is just related to the same thing. They have to get an order to do the right type of test. Today is Friday so now I have to Monday. So I will stay positive. I have had another biopsy on my left breast negative. Thanks for listening.
I've been thinking about you. How are you?
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Afterwards, went to Hamricks to get Lynette some pants and a top and a jacket/sweater for her Christmas/birthday presents. Will probably also get her a gift card. Just not sure where to yet. I tell ya, it’s hard to find 3X clothing. I’m not sure the pants will fit her.
Michele NC
That's brave!
I don't like attempting to buy pants for myself and I have a reasonable idea of what sizes might fit me. I'd never try to buy them for someone else.
Pants are awful ... about 90% of them don't fit me for one reason or another. Too short. Too tight around the hips. Too tight around the waist and enormous around the hips. Too wide in the legs. Not stretchy enough. Pleats or pockets that gape. OK when I stand but really uncomfortable when I sit. Ride up into areas they don't belong.
I much prefer skirts and leggings.
Although I have built up a small collection of stretchy capris ... at least they're meant to be short.
Machka in Oz
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Barbara: I am a volunteer group leader for U3A, a lifelong learning charity. We organise over 100 different interest groups for older people. Members share their knowledge and expertise free of charge. Each group is self-financing. Members pay a small fee to cover rent of premises and refreshments for each group they belong to. I collect the fees for the 4 groups I lead, and pay the rents each month. We are fortunate that our local council give us a special rate to rent council premises.
☘️ Terri
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Today’s gratitude: calm, gentle, productive chat with Joe about finances and upcoming expenses. We agreed to postpone siding work ‘til next spring/summer due Joe’s need for a vehicle with better gas mileage and my anticipated dental expenses. Channeling my inner Margaret, looked around for what I have instead of just buying more. Found a partial bag of bark mulch, channeled inner Barbiecat and used it around the violas.
Machka wonder if the “roaring 40’s” applies as well to the northern hemisphere here on the coast? Windy forecast this weekend with gusts up to 50mph. "Doing nothing"=spider and freecell, watching TV. Don't count reading as its relaxing and can be productive ;}
Rita ((hugs)) “I know I have no control over this. And I know that living where I do is actually saving my sanity,” hold those thoughts. Of course it still bothers you to be the brunt of everyone’s opinion. Hope you can find some inner armor to shed those opinions like water off a duck’s back. ((hugs))
Lisa emergency joint savings to tide over possible shutdown. WTG Kels! Look forward to seeing pottery class pics. Thinking about affection for Brokenwood characters, in addition to Breen, Mike, Kristin and of course Jared, Mrs. Marlowe and Gina spring to mind. Ray of the Frog and Cheetah, lawyer Buchanan, Frodo and Mike’s boss not so much ;} Terrifying active shooter incident, thankful your family is safe.
Allie Miles is growing so fast! Homer. ((hugs)) and prayers continue for Carmine, Tracy, you and all.
Kylia I TJ’s chicken mini samosas. Dab of sour cream, touch of pepper jelly or peanut sauce. Yum!
Ginny well done on your ‘vacation hours walks’ interspersed into your workday.
Rebecca those are some fancy looking ramen toppings!
Welcome @aallegra14741 in SW PA. So frustrating but not hopeless. Do you weigh your food? It’s a real eye-opener. The portion size in nutrition info can be misleading at best. Like Barbie and Kay have said, progress can be slow. I’ve been happy to average microscopically lighter each month, sometimes only tenths of a pound. ;}
Kay yours to aalegra14741. Well said and well done!
Rori always happy to see your smiling face. Especially thankful for the high Fun-O-Meter score
Terri I’m always impressed by your activities, both volunteer and artistic. Thanks for explaining about the rents.
Joe’s off to Medford for glaucoma pressure check. One website says 199 is open with one way pilot traffic from 1600 to 0800 and 1100 to 1300, another says it is completely closed due to emergency repairs (rock slide?) Praying for safe travel and stable or reduced pressure.09/28: Move: 2 sets PT w/x&a, dogs to powerline, weed and mulch violas. Steps:5421Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=9 CI<CO net=157
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, AF, ptT, ptS. Wt:132.3
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
2023: Be of good cheer.
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Machka wonder if the “roaring 40’s” applies as well to the northern hemisphere here on the coast? Windy forecast this weekend with gusts up to 50mph. "Doing nothing"=spider and freecell, watching TV. Don't count reading as its relaxing and can be productive ;}
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
It does get windier in the spring and autumn in the northern hemisphere because of the warming and cooling thing. And there is some of that going on in the southern hemisphere as well. But down here, along 40°S, there's almost no land to slow the wind. As the article below mentions, it's basically just Tasmania, New Zealand and the southern tip of South America.
So Tasmania regularly gets slammed with wind.
I used to think Manitoba was windy ... until I moved to Tasmania.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roaring_Forties
Hot air rises at the Equator and is pushed towards the poles by cooler air travelling towards the Equator (an atmospheric circulation feature known as the Hadley Cell).[2] At about 30°S, the outward-travelling air sinks to lower altitudes, and continues toward the poles closer to the ground (the Ferrel Cell), then rises up again from about 60°S as the air joins the Polar vortex.[2] This travel in the 30°–60°S zone combines with the rotation of the earth to move the air currents from west to east, creating westerly winds.[2]
The large tracts of open ocean south of 40°S are interrupted only by Tasmania, New Zealand, and the southern part of South America. These relatively small obstructions, which are themselves bordered by large tracts of open water along their southern shores, allow high wind speeds to develop – much higher than near 40°N, where the large continents of Eurasia and North America impede the flow of circum-planetary westerly winds.[2] Similar but stronger wind conditions prevalent closer to the South Pole are referred to as the "Furious Fifties" (50°S to 60°S), and the "Shrieking" or "Screaming Sixties" (below 60°S).[4]
Spider?
Freecell is a computer card game, as I recall. Occasionally I play Mahjong online.
I rarely just sit and watch TV for more than about 30 seconds.
M in Oz
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Not enough sleep after last night's excitement, up after only a few hours, and missing yesterday's exercise was a mistake - every joint hurt this morning! Definitely need to get my workout in today.
Barbara AHMOD - Hope Joe's pressures are where they should be and whooshing much traveling grace thataway for his journey there and home. Thank you so much for the compliment on feeling as if we're sitting, having coffee, watching the world lighten and brighten with the morning sun! It's how I feel about this time with you, too. It's the closest thing I've found to going home to see Mama. Pretty sure it was the reason I started drinking coffee, so I could sit with her for hours after I drove in and catch up on everyone and everything in her world and mine. I would have to back up down the hallway with both of us still chattering, so I could take a few moments to visit the bathroom! I hope my daughter feels the same way with me... OK, not the bathroom part, but the rest. I still hear my mother's voice, "Oh my God, did I tell you about... " and we would be off again.
Wavering between going into town to get the tires put on today and putting it off 'til Monday, but that's just because I'm a big, fat dreader. I dread anything that means I have to leave the house these days, and when I'm tired and ouchy, I dread things even more. I need to get it done, or it's going to land in Corey's lap, and he's got enough going on. Oh, and I forgot to say, his issue for his sick day early in the week was a seriously upset stomach, and though it was gurgly the next day, he said he felt a lot better. Not covid, or even covid-like.
Happy Friday to those who pay attention to such things, welcome to those who are new, we're glad you're here!
Later y'all,
Lisa in AR3 -
Friday ...
Did the longest walk I've done since June 10!
And I've walked 52 km this month.
Plus ... I've done 354 flights of 20 stairs, up and down, plus landings.
Machka in Oz4 -
Betsy in NW WA0 -
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Morning ladies
Slept pretty well, not great but ok..
I had a zoom meeting on what I thought would help with getting me back on track..
Dr Pompa well after an hour and a half of talking to a consultant. Who by the way was very good.. was told it would cost between 8-10 thousand dollars for a 5 month program. Thats when I sort of shut it down.. can't afford that4 -
(((LIsa)))
(((Barbara))) I am fortunate that there is a long needle pine tree in the neighbors yard at my son's house that starts to lose needles this time of year. It is a wonderful mulch for my blueberry bushes and other spots I want mulched for the winter.
Current book I am reading is called The Tools by Phil Stutz it is an interesting follow up to Organized Enough and Stuff Your Face or Stuff Your Face. He does not offer a quick fix. He has some interesting ideas on how to deal with self sabotage, vengeful thinking, obsessive thinking, the shadow self in relation to insecurity, and will power. Some books I do skip around to read what I believe is most pertinent to what I need work on. This book I am reading more slowly and starting at the beginning. He gives examples from his practice on how the tools work. He also goes into the negative side to the instant gratification the internet promotes.
One of his themes is that the meaning of life is found in how we handle the struggles and successes of life. One of his examples was a client who reached in his mind the success he sought. He thought he had it made and no longer had to work so hard. He quickly fell apart and was devastated that his dream was shattered and he fell into the black hole (he had no future). Phil asked him who he had seen and was able to rise after being defeated. His answer was a boxer who everyone thought was out for the count. Some spark inside him made him rise to try again. It took some time and work for his client to accept that what he was really looking for could not be fulfilled by chasing outside fame and fortune but how he nurtured his inside and looked to how he could give back to the world his gifts for the greater good. It was in doing this he found his flow and his true happiness that no one could take from him. Yes the client is still a work in progress. We all are!
Allie I am sending Carmine and her family love balls (pink). Carmine has some hard work to do and does not know where to start. Seeing and feeling how much pain she is in is so hard on a family. What is Carmine grateful for? Try to have her name three things. It can be anything... the sunrise, a good cup of tea, a friend's smile. What is she proud that she was able to overcome? If she has trouble with this one ask who has she seen overcome something and how did she think that person did it? No right or wrong answer. Who loves her unconditionally? Pets are great for that! Is there a way to have a chance to give her a voice through art, gardening, music, writing?
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grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Slept pretty well, not great but ok..
I had a zoom meeting on what I thought would help with getting me back on track..
Dr Pompa well after an hour and a half of talking to a consultant. Who by the way was very good.. was told it would cost between 8-10 thousand dollars for a 5 month program. Thats when I sort of shut it down.. can't afford that
It's probably less expensive to go to the library and read some books on your various health issues, and find suggestions of what to do.
Or these days, find some good studies and sites on the internet to read.
Chances are, the solutions you can do are the same ones we all can do for all our various health issues.
Eat a healthy diet (the Mediterranean diet is highly recommended).
Limit sodium intake.
Exercise regularly, every day.
Sleep well.
Stop smoking, if you do.
Stop drinking alcohol, if you do.
Take steps to improve your mental health (like being social, following a faith, getting into crafts, being out in nature, etc.)
I won't charge you 8-10 thousand dollars for that advice.
M in Oz
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I will be singing The Lord of the Dance and Go Now in Peace this Sunday at my church The Grove Woodbury for the offering 9:10-9:20 CT (Lord of the Dance) and about 9:50-10:00 CT Go Now in Peace. I haven't sung a solo since the Pandemic . I have been practicing the last couple of weeks so I am ready.10
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Lisa -
I went to bed last night not knowing about the lock down, and MFP is the first thing I do in the morning that interacts with the greater world. As soon as I read the post I got on line. So glad to hear he did get caught and it looks like without any one getting injured or killed. Thank goodness. Your daughter and Grands have been through so much! So glad all are physically safe it will take a while for the fear to subside.
Love Kim2 -
Hi all!
I've had a quiet day, preparing mentally for the weekend. I brushed down the front step and porch, ready for our visitors tomorrow. Hoovered the kitchen and living room rug. They are not super fussy, so I'm not over-anxious about it. I decided to keep things super simple, so it's pizza from Pizzaface, around the corner. Excellent wood-fired pizza. I will do a green salad with it. I have some raspberries if anyone is interested.
The wife is going swimming in the morning in the new sea pool at the marina. She is a keen sea swimmer. The man has a bad knee, so will be watching her! He has stage 4 lung cancer, which is being very well contained with immuno therapy. He is a childhood friend of my ex, and I really value that they have kept in touch with me.
After lunch I'm planning for a walk to Marroccos for those who wish, and we can bring back ice-cream for those who don't go.
I'm very proud of myself, because I told her on the phone, that I needed time to deflate after they left, to get my brain in order for the wedding the next day. I said that they would have to leave by 4 pm. She was completely fine with that. I need lots of space between things, always have done. They live in Cornwall, and are staying at her son's, in the north of Brighton. They came up for a friend's son's funeral today. Only 55.
I've also given myself a pedicure and listened to some wonderful podcasts. Oh, and I wrote, or rather, edited, this morning. Oh, and exercised and did my thigh massages. Oh, and shopped for tonight's dinner. And napped. And upset DH by talking about the cupboard door. He feels it as criticism. I hope the man tomorrow can help as he has built three houses. I bought wood glue, Lisa.
Still procrastinating about checking in for the flights and booking the final train journey. Oh dear ......
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Slept pretty well, not great but ok..
I had a zoom meeting on what I thought would help with getting me back on track..
Dr Pompa well after an hour and a half of talking to a consultant. Who by the way was very good.. was told it would cost between 8-10 thousand dollars for a 5 month program. Thats when I sort of shut it down.. can't afford that
It's probably less expensive to go to the library and read some books on your various health issues, and find suggestions of what to do.
Or these days, find some good studies and sites on the internet to read.
Chances are, the solutions you can do are the same ones we all can do for all our various health issues.
Eat a healthy diet (the Mediterranean diet is highly recommended).
Limit sodium intake.
Exercise regularly, every day.
Sleep well.
Stop smoking, if you do.
Stop drinking alcohol, if you do.
Take steps to improve your mental health (like being social, following a faith, getting into crafts, being out in nature, etc.)
I won't charge you 8-10 thousand dollars for that advice.
M in Oz
I want to echo this. Most good ideas are simple. It is following the directions consistently that is the challenge.
Barbie1 -
2023 Self-Care September 2023
Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate my morning walk.Meditation: daily. 28/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%,27. Free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans. Well I only have 1 planned thing, the monthly Friends Group Meeting, so won’t cancel that.
93%,100%,100%)
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 23/23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) 1/8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min 2/20
Rita
Stop B12
Switch DHEA to every other day on sept 6
Kev
Add folic acid, once a day
Add magnesium to 3x a day
Up Berberine to 3x a day
Foods to avoid:
Barley
Bell peppers
Chicken
Clam
Egg white
Eggplant
Ginger
Rye
Wheat
Winter squash
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5784, 9858, 8414,6805,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(800%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 213/208—(733%) should be 189 by November 1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)72/94 (800%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4 (500%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 23/23 (681%,100%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 38
/12 (100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 9/12—(900%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (900%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0, 500%)
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—
1. Find time for self-care. It’s not selfish. It’s essential. Making time!
2. Notice the things you do well, however small. I will. Talking to campers, meeting dogs, electronics.
3. Let go of self-criticism and speak to yourself kindly. I will try!
4. Plan a fun or relaxing activity and make time for it. Did this already! Went for a long walk this morning.
5. Forgive yourself when things go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. This will be hard because I tend to blame myself for everything.
6. Focus on the basics: eat well, exercise, and go to bed on time. Will Do!
7. Give yourself permission to say ‘no’.. I’m doing this more often now.
8. Be willing to share how you feel and and ask for help when needed. I will try to remember to ask for help when I need it rather than struggle and get frustrated.
9. Aim to be good enough, rather than perfect. This needs to be a mind change for me. Whenever I do something, I get upset if it is not perfect. I need to make it a point to accept what the result is while doing my best.
10. When you find things hard, remember it’s ok to not be ok. This is apt for today.
11. Make time to do something you really enjoy. I hope to go ‘window shopping’ today. Did this and colored.
12. Get active outside and give your mind and body a natural boost. Went for a 20 minute walk then the rain started.
13. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a loved one.
14. If you’re busy, allow yourself to pause and take a break.
15. Find a caring calming phrase to use when you feel low. “Breathing in,I am relaxing. Breathing out, I am relaxed.”
16. Leave positive messages for yourself to see regularly. Sticky notes, here I come!
17. No plans day. Make time to slow down and be kind to yourself.
18. Ask a trusted friends to tell you what strengths they see in you. Forgot to do this.
19. Notice what you are feeling without any judgement. Doing that this morning.
20. Enjoy photos from a time with happy memories. This sounds like fun! I do have my pictures rotating on my TV as a screensaver but need to go through those.
21. Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside.
22. Take your time. Make space to just breathe and be still. AHHH Meditation
23. Let go of other people’s expectations of you. This is hard, but I try.
24. Accept yourself and remember that your are worthy of love. I need to tell myself this often.
25. Avoid saying ‘I should’ and make time to do nothing. I try.
26. Find a new way to use one of your strengths or talents. I’ll have to think about this one.
28. Choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn. I try to do this, but sometimes it is hard to see the mistake I made first.
29. Write down 3 things you appreciate about yourself. 1. My patience 2. My tenacity 3. Teacher.30. Remind yourself you are enough, just as you are.
RVRita in Roswell, NMhttps://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/home/leaving?allowTrusted=1&target=https://caring-mindfulness.thinkific.com/courses/mindfulness
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Serving size Potassium content % of the Daily Value (DV)
Dried apricots 1/2 cup (190 grams) 1,100 mg 23%
Cooked lentils 1 cup (198 grams) 731 mg 16%
Cooked acorn squash 1 cup (205 grams) 644 mg 14%
Cooked potato 1 medium (167 grams) 610 mg 13%
Canned kidney beans 1 cup (260 grams) 607 mg 13%
Orange juice 1 cup (236 mL) 496 mg 11%
Banana 1 medium (115 grams) 422 mg 9%
Sirloin beef steak 1 ounce (85 grams) 315 mg 7%
Milk (1% fat) 1 cup (236 mL) 366 mg 8%
Natural Greek yogurt 3/4 cup (214 grams) 240 mg 5%
Tomato 1 medium (123 grams) 292 mg 6%
Brewed coffee 1 cup (235 mL) 116 mg 2%
Try this today: Aim to have 2–3 potassium-rich foods each day. For example, a banana for breakfast, 1/2 cup (130 grams) of kidney beans at lunch, and white potatoes on your dinner plate.
Personal freedom is mine for the taking. No matter how close the ties of love and concern that bind me to my family and friends, I must always remember that I am an individual, free to be myself, and live my own life in serenity and joy. From ‘One Day At A Time, ALANON.
“When I know I am free within myself, I will be better able to give loving thoughts to others.”2 -
Lisa, I, too, don't care to leave my house (except to walk in my neighborhood) so you dread resonated with me. Every five weeks I drive my friend to the retina center for macular degeneration treatments. It's an easy drive and I sit in the car and read or nap while she has her treatment. Yesterday at the end of her treatment she told me the date of her next treatment and wondered if I could take her later in the afternoon than usual. I told her that leaving the house was the hardest part for me, it didn't matter whether it was at noon or 4PM. She thought I was very flexible and was grateful for my help.
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Rita Can't you not listen to all the "stuff " directed at you about your son? How are these negative sentiments getting to you ?
I try Barbara but it does get to me. It’s hard when one is your 15 year younger sister and the other is your mother and its you and your son they are aiming at. This has been an ongoing thing for anything concerning me that these two comment on ‘around’ me, but it always gets back to me and hurts. Part of my depression issues. My therapist hears about it, and its why I am on 3 different medicines for anxiety/depression. I try to avoid telling either one of them anything about my son or ANY health or other problem I am dealing with. They never help, they only come out with ‘well, if you hadn’t moved so far…’ which is not true. They did the same my entire life, no matter if I lived a mile away from them (which I did at one time) or 2,000 miles away. They act the same no matter. Sorry about the vent, but this has been building.
(UPDATE) My son just called and has been re-hired to Electric Boat! He is stoked and I’m really glad for him. I hope that gets the family negativity away from me for a while! He was getting really depressed. This news is the best thing that could of happened to him. He is still recovering and has to go for an x-ray for potential surgery if not healed enough, but EB has a dispensary that he has to be cleared through before his goes back to work. They want him back on Monday. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers. Hopefully this is a turn for the good for him.
RVRita in Roswell with fingers crossed! 🤞9 -
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Today’s gratitude: calm, gentle, productive chat with Joe about finances and upcoming expenses. We agreed to postpone siding work ‘til next spring/summer due Joe’s need for a vehicle with better gas mileage and my anticipated dental expenses. Channeling my inner Margaret, looked around for what I have instead of just buying more. Found a partial bag of bark mulch, channeled inner Barbiecat and used it around the violas.
Machka wonder if the “roaring 40’s” applies as well to the northern hemisphere here on the coast? Windy forecast this weekend with gusts up to 50mph. "Doing nothing"=spider and freecell, watching TV. Don't count reading as its relaxing and can be productive ;}
Rita ((hugs)) “I know I have no control over this. And I know that living where I do is actually saving my sanity,” hold those thoughts. Of course it still bothers you to be the brunt of everyone’s opinion. Hope you can find some inner armor to shed those opinions like water off a duck’s back. ((hugs))
Lisa emergency joint savings to tide over possible shutdown. WTG Kels! Look forward to seeing pottery class pics. Thinking about affection for Brokenwood characters, in addition to Breen, Mike, Kristin and of course Jared, Mrs. Marlowe and Gina spring to mind. Ray of the Frog and Cheetah, lawyer Buchanan, Frodo and Mike’s boss not so much ;} Terrifying active shooter incident, thankful your family is safe.
Allie Miles is growing so fast! Homer. ((hugs)) and prayers continue for Carmine, Tracy, you and all.
Kylia I TJ’s chicken mini samosas. Dab of sour cream, touch of pepper jelly or peanut sauce. Yum!
Ginny well done on your ‘vacation hours walks’ interspersed into your workday.
Rebecca those are some fancy looking ramen toppings!
Welcome @aallegra14741 in SW PA. So frustrating but not hopeless. Do you weigh your food? It’s a real eye-opener. The portion size in nutrition info can be misleading at best. Like Barbie and Kay have said, progress can be slow. I’ve been happy to average microscopically lighter each month, sometimes only tenths of a pound. ;}
Kay yours to aalegra14741. Well said and well done!
Rori always happy to see your smiling face. Especially thankful for the high Fun-O-Meter score
Terri I’m always impressed by your activities, both volunteer and artistic. Thanks for explaining about the rents.
Joe’s off to Medford for glaucoma pressure check. One website says 199 is open with one way pilot traffic from 1600 to 0800 and 1100 to 1300, another says it is completely closed due to emergency repairs (rock slide?) Praying for safe travel and stable or reduced pressure.09/28: Move: 2 sets PT w/x&a, dogs to powerline, weed and mulch violas. Steps:5421Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=9 CI<CO net=157
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, AF, ptT, ptS. Wt:132.3
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
2023: Be of good cheer.
Amazingly, simmering the ramen bits makes them kind of like fresh! There were noodle long things in the miso broth that I can only guess was either the cabbage or it was the squid. But they were tasty! Today I will do the same, but without the egg in the rice. The company is called Ramen Bae for the dehydrated bits. It was $20 but the bag is huge and should last me a long time.👍🏼
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margaretturk wrote: »I will be singing The Lord of the Dance and Go Now in Peace this Sunday at my church The Grove Woodbury for the offering 9:10-9:20 CT (Lord of the Dance) and about 9:50-10:00 CT Go Now in Peace. I haven't sung a solo since the Pandemic . I have been practicing the last couple of weeks so I am ready.
Oh nice! Happy singing! I am happy and proud of you!
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa2
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