WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2023
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »
About not wanting to go to town - I seem to dread it too. For one thing, I think I'm still rebelling against all the years I HAD to go to town for work. Once I get there, I do enjoy some social interaction, often running into friends at stores and catching up for a few minutes, or even talking with complete strangers.
Then I can escape! But I'm always glad to get home to Rosie and the chickens. I think Terri is right - the pandemic helped make us OK with staying at home, plus for me, I was uncomfortable leaving DH alone for a long period of time because he worried so during his final years. It's still a habit.
Lanette
SW WA State
This is the way I feel about going somewhere. I am great at errands and interacting with people. I just don't want to be bothered with leaving the house and getting in the car. I am happy at home and have plenty to do.
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@Shuleran , welcome! Just remember that disgust with yourself isn't helpful either, so turn that page and let it go if you can. If it seems easier said than done, just stay with us as we move to the October thread late tonight. Barbie will post a new October thread to start a clean slate for all of us to keep talking here, as we do every month. You'll find the link here in the thread. There has already been lots of advice for you on the recovery time - I had a knee replaced a few years back, and there is a lot of non-weight-bearing exercise that is an option. You've still got the vast majority of your body to work with while the knee surgery is healing, the important thing is to keep moving.
Machka - You're looking great - and the honey looks absolutely icky and sticky!
Hope it jars up just wonderfully, I'm sure it will. So pleased your bees left behind that gift, and I hope you are able to get another colony established this year.
Tracey - I was welling up with tears talking here about the coffee talks with Mama. She's been gone almost 25 years now, but the grief can still swamp me. Which would annoy her no end, by the way, she wasn't a big fan of emotional displays.
On me being a big fat dreader, I don't think it reaches the level of agoraphobia, and I'm genuinely not panicky or in distress, I just don't want to go! I love being home and doing what I choose when I choose, and the only trip is walking down the hill to get the mail. It doesn't matter what it is that has to be done - I feel the same way about parties, doctor's appointments, long car trips, shopping in large stores, pretty much anything that isn't here. Don't want to.
If I wasn't perfectly willing to exercise here or do the sweaty work of gardening, etc., I'd think it was laziness, but mostly I'd just rather stay home... As someone else said, when you throw in the pandemic lockdown, my own issues with unexpected bathroom visits, and just generally being sick for a couple years, you really do find out what's important--and it's all here.
Corey's ambition this weekend is to get the brush and trees around the little stable cleared and get it back in the sunshine. He's still drinking coffee in bed, so the temperature will be up into the low 90s before he's ready to get moving. I'm just going to count it as my resistance work for today, as I'll be dragging brush, which means moving cut trees around to get them tied onto the little tractor to get them dragged over to the burn pit. Sweaty work, but I'll be happy when it's clear and not dark in that stable area. I'll take some before pics here in a minute, got to put my rubber boots on, it's SO wet from the morning dew right now.
Not sure why that reminded me - has Joy popped in of late and I missed it? Hope all's well in her world...
Later, y'all,
Love,
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »Allie - what a sweet picture of Miles. That one needs to be printed and framed.
I hope that Carmine can get some help somewhere. Self harm threats are frightening.
Rebecca - my oven needs a good cleaning too. Maybe I’ll do that this week. I have a few extra days off coming up.
Rita - I hope you are able to ignore some calls and texts. It sounds like you need a break.
You shouldn’t be blamed at all!
Lisa - thankful your family is safe, what a stressful event.
Machka - I think doing nothing for me is when I’m sitting watching tv or scrolling on my phone. I do this too often of late.
Barbara and Lisa - I hadn’t thought about my reading and responding on here as a visit, but it’s so true! I love the analogy.
Lisa - I miss those coffee gabs, I was never able to have them with my Mom. We just didn’t have that type of relationship. My MIL though is the reason I started coffee. I still absolutely love her coffee more than anyone’s and all it is is Maxwell House instant. I don’t know if it’s just the memories it brings to mind or her water, either way it is the best.
Now I’m homesick. 😂
Allie - does insurance cover any of that cost?
Margaret- I think you have beautiful words for Allie’s Carmine. I hope she is able to find some peace soon.
Heather - I hope you have a nice visit. My DH always doubts himself and then complains when it’s not perfect (in his eyes, not mine), I hope Johnny isn’t too hard on himself.
Rita - I don’t understand how family can be negative towards another member. My DH’s family is like that sometimes towards our nephew. The mistakes he made over a decade ago and as a teen are how they look at him now as a 32 year old. He’s come a long way, and I think they should be proud of him.
I hope your son continues on this path.
I finished another session today, 95% for a final grade.
The next two weeks is a bit of a break. I’m off Mon, Tues, Wed. Thurs I take Suicide Intervention, Fri - Non-Violent Intervention.
The week after I only have 2 days.
Today we put drywall up in the dining room. We still need to do the hallway. We’re going to try to get most of that done tomorrow before our friends wedding.
I need to decide on a paint colour. I’m thinking white. I want it to be bright.
A decision for another day.
Tracey in Edmonton
Aaack! Come clean mine!😂😂😂 The fact that at the last house while cleaning the oven there, when we were moving out, well I lifted up the bottom heating element. Now in other homes, I did that, no problem, but that home the heating element didn't swivel up so I blew out the connection with a loud pop and spark. I am not sure how this oven operates and I just don't wanna even know about it. It really scared me. I know I need to jump in with both feet sort of thing, but I don't wanna! I will let some random cleaning lady on the island do this task.😁👍🏼💪
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Margaret-I like both songs you will be singing. I have never done a solo but I do enjoy singing.
Rita-good news regarding son. Can't add to advice others have given regarding family.
Rebecca-Interesting food approach right now. I am getting back to more precise tracking-I stop and things go up! Staying in the ball park helps (even if logging is not 100% perfect).
Lisa-good for you fitting in exercise at different time. Right now I am switching walks to after work instead of preferred early morning due to lack of light-we can live through it!
Allie-the cost of that program is a bit ridiculous. Do you get Silver Sneakers or some such program with your insurance? Perhaps one of the local senior facilities has a trainer available you could pay much less for. You know what to do for food from MFP.
Shuleran--welcome. We can use every day to start over-what matters is we keep trying.
Tired after this week-think combination of work, Covid aftermath and a UTI. No big plans for weekend so that is good. I did get my new Apple Watch set up. Giving old one to DIL who has a series 3, sot my 6 will be an upgrade for her. Realize with old one that perhaps I had not been taking advantage of full cellular function. Going to try it out this morning.
Off to get a bit of a gentle workout in. Every movement helps!
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio
Its a weird approach I will admit it. I am even leaving the rice cooker on the counter so I can steam veggies, make rice and whatnot.👍🏼
Rebecca
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How positively beautiful! Its golden! Nature has the best colors.😁💖
Rebecca
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Today’s gratitude: woke up with no shin pain.
Yesterday’s gratitude: Joe made it safely home the long way, Dr. is happy with pressure and Joe doesn’t have to go back for six months.
September average weight 131.0 = less than August’s 131.7 so still creeping in the right direction. Monthly summary tomorrow.
Stumbled on new TV series “Irrational.” Liked it, reminiscent of “Bull” using psychology to defuse hostage situations or get to the truth in criminal investigations.
Machka
not much land here to break the westerly winds either and it’s a long way to Eurasia but ok yes now I get it. There really is a whole bunch of empty ocean west of Taz not much landYes Spider is a flavor of solitaire. I waste too much time watching TV but yesterday I used the time to brush Tumble. Wish Shadow fit on my lap…:laugh:
long way to Asia
ok now I get it
Lisa ((hugs)) ”…missing yesterday's exercise was a mistake - every joint hurt this morning…“ doncha’ just hate that form of motivation? “excep the bathroom part :laugh:
@Joy1580vb has popped into my mind too in recent days. Hope she’s just busy with harvest/end of season activities.
Allie $8-$10K? Yikes!
Margaret thanks for the “The Tools” by Phil Sturtz recommendation. Will look it up after I finish Organized Enough. Struggling with it as I can only read it on my iphone (Hoopla) and I much prefer holding a hardcopy book in my hand. Now if it were available in an audio book. . . then I could listen while actually decluttering :laugh: :noway: :laugh: Wish your solos were available on YouTube or FB or Zoom.
Barbie what you said about following the (healthy) directions consistently. It’s a challenge every day. Today I decided to treat myself with tea the way I used to have it, Lemon Lift with sugar. Ugh. Too bitter even with 6g sugar. Back to the Sweet and Spicy unsweetened.
Rita ((hugs)) vent here that’s what we’re here for. I’m thankful that at least they are physically far away, how much worse it would be if they were always nearby. Whooshing you strong boundaries. Thankful to hear your son got re-hired. Praying he passes the physical. Back to work would be the best thing for all.
Rebecca “squid” :sick: :noway: :laugh: Eating with chopsticks doesn’t slow me down. When I broke my right wrist the first time, forks and spoons were a struggle with my left, but chopsticks, heck, I didn’t even realize I was using my left, just naturally baled it in!
Eli’s smile and Wow, Athena looks so grown up!
Vicki, Heather, Barbie, Rebecca, Tracey, Terri, Lanette, Kylia yours to Rita, Amen, sisters, amen.
Tracey con VERY gratulations on your high grade! You really are doing well.
Welcome @Shuleran ! Can you forgive yourself and be proud of starting over? Do any of the seated / chair exercises appeal to you to help keep the activity habit going? ((hugs)) and whooshing good thoughts for successful surgery and quick, complete recovery.
Ginny yours to Shuleran, truth!
Lanette thanks for the Wellen exercises and snow pea reminder Hopeful ours will produce until/unless we have a snow. I blush to remember the dumb, unnecessary, hurtful things I’ve said. [sigh]
Kylia 12 polyps? Glad they caught them.
Looks to be a few beautiful days so will take advantage of the softened earth to do some weeding before/and/or/after dog group.
Whoops, where does the time go? Tumble just announced that it’s way past TummyTime so get with it Ma’!09/29: Move: 2 sets PT w/D, line dance class, Jeopardy walking. Steps:7903
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=21 CI<CO net=626
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, AF, ptT, ptS, ‘nother load laundry, brushing Tumble and Shadow while listening to TV. Wt:
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
2023: Be of good cheer.
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The "stable" that someone asked me to post a picture of - Lanette? - Big enough to house one not-very-large horse, at best!
A few outside pictures in the beautiful, lush green of the Arkansas River Valley, you can shove a stick in the ground and grow a tree in this fertile soil:What mama used to call "jump lilies," because they show up overnight and jump up to about a foot high. Better known as spider lilies, and they pop up in odd places, we've never planted any here.
Corey's garden, still growing like crazy. Easily loaded with a hundred tomatoes still, quite green, and another hundred blooms, as well. Don't know how many he'll get before the first freeze, but at this rate, we may have to buy more canning jars and lids. His carrots are at bottom left, and he was able to pull a couple reasonably sized ones for his lunch this week.
Same trellis, but looking back toward the house on the other side, his yellow spicy peppers are still producing as well, and lots more tomatoes on this side. He pulled his cucumber plants about a month ago.
My beautiful fig tree - it's about six-feet tall, and the figs are still growing. Hope they come in before the first freeze, as well.
Zoomed in to see the growing fruit. Hope we can get some before the birds do... I love figs.
Okay... Cor's decided, since he really wants my help, to wait until next weekend to do the heavy lifting outside, when it's supposed to be 70 degrees outside. So today, it's off to Sam's Club. After he's had another cup of coffee. I really did not marry a morning person... Ah well, we'd probably just annoy the crap out of each other if we were both morning people.
Later y'all,
Love,
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2023 Self-Care September 2023
Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate books.Meditation: daily. 28/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%,28. Choose to see your mistakes as steps to help you learn. I try to do this, but sometimes it is hard to see the mistake I made first.
93%,100%,100%)
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 23/23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) 1/8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min 2/20
Rita
Stop B12
Switch DHEA to every other day on sept 6
Kev
Add folic acid, once a day
Add magnesium to 3x a day
Up Berberine to 3x a day
Foods to avoid:
Barley
Bell peppers
Chicken
Clam
Egg white
Eggplant
Ginger
Rye
Wheat
Winter squash
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5784, 9858, 8414,6805,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(800%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 213/208—(733%) should be 189 by November 1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)72/94 (800%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4 (500%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 23/23 (681%,100%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 38
/12 (100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 9/12—(900%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (900%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0, 500%)
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—
1. Find time for self-care. It’s not selfish. It’s essential. Making time!
2. Notice the things you do well, however small. I will. Talking to campers, meeting dogs, electronics.
3. Let go of self-criticism and speak to yourself kindly. I will try!
4. Plan a fun or relaxing activity and make time for it. Did this already! Went for a long walk this morning.
5. Forgive yourself when things go wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. This will be hard because I tend to blame myself for everything.
6. Focus on the basics: eat well, exercise, and go to bed on time. Will Do!
7. Give yourself permission to say ‘no’.. I’m doing this more often now.
8. Be willing to share how you feel and and ask for help when needed. I will try to remember to ask for help when I need it rather than struggle and get frustrated.
9. Aim to be good enough, rather than perfect. This needs to be a mind change for me. Whenever I do something, I get upset if it is not perfect. I need to make it a point to accept what the result is while doing my best.
10. When you find things hard, remember it’s ok to not be ok. This is apt for today.
11. Make time to do something you really enjoy. I hope to go ‘window shopping’ today. Did this and colored.
12. Get active outside and give your mind and body a natural boost. Went for a 20 minute walk then the rain started.
13. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a loved one.
14. If you’re busy, allow yourself to pause and take a break.
15. Find a caring calming phrase to use when you feel low. “Breathing in,I am relaxing. Breathing out, I am relaxed.”
16. Leave positive messages for yourself to see regularly. Sticky notes, here I come!
17. No plans day. Make time to slow down and be kind to yourself.
18. Ask a trusted friends to tell you what strengths they see in you. Forgot to do this.
19. Notice what you are feeling without any judgement. Doing that this morning.
20. Enjoy photos from a time with happy memories. This sounds like fun! I do have my pictures rotating on my TV as a screensaver but need to go through those.
21. Don’t compare how you feel inside to how others appear outside.
22. Take your time. Make space to just breathe and be still. AHHH Meditation
23. Let go of other people’s expectations of you. This is hard, but I try.
24. Accept yourself and remember that your are worthy of love. I need to tell myself this often.
25. Avoid saying ‘I should’ and make time to do nothing. I try.
26. Find a new way to use one of your strengths or talents. I’ll have to think about this one.
27. Free up time by canceling any unnecessary plans. Well I only have 1 planned thing, the monthly Friends Group Meeting, so won’t cancel that.
29. Write down 3 things you appreciate about yourself. 1. My patience 2. My tenacity 3. Teacher.
30. Remind yourself you are enough, just as you are. I am enough just as I am!
RVRita in Roswell, NM [/spoiler]https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/home/leaving?allowTrusted=1&target=https://caring-mindfulness.thinkific.com/courses/mindfulness
Mindfulness begins with paying attention on purpose.
Serving size Potassium content % of the Daily Value (DV)
Dried apricots 1/2 cup (190 grams) 1,100 mg 23%
Cooked lentils 1 cup (198 grams) 731 mg 16%
Cooked acorn squash 1 cup (205 grams) 644 mg 14%
Cooked potato 1 medium (167 grams) 610 mg 13%
Canned kidney beans 1 cup (260 grams) 607 mg 13%
Orange juice 1 cup (236 mL) 496 mg 11%
Banana 1 medium (115 grams) 422 mg 9%
Sirloin beef steak 1 ounce (85 grams) 315 mg 7%
Milk (1% fat) 1 cup (236 mL) 366 mg 8%
Natural Greek yogurt 3/4 cup (214 grams) 240 mg 5%
Tomato 1 medium (123 grams) 292 mg 6%
Brewed coffee 1 cup (235 mL) 116 mg 2%
Try this today: Aim to have 2–3 potassium-rich foods each day. For example, a banana for breakfast, 1/2 cup (130 grams) of kidney beans at lunch, and white potatoes on your dinner plate.
Personal freedom is mine for the taking. No matter how close the ties of love and concern that bind me to my family and friends, I must always remember that I am an individual, free to be myself, and live my own life in serenity and joy. From ‘One Day At A Time, ALANON.
“When I know I am free within myself, I will be better able to give loving thoughts to others.”1 -
And another thing about going to town - I'm still vain enough that I want my hair to look half decent (recently washed at least) maybe a little blush and pull on nice cleaner clothes, earrings, the whole she-bang. Unless it's 6 am at Walmart where I could get away with wearing PJ's, most days it's not worth the effort unless I really, really need something
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Lisa, I, too, don't care to leave my house (except to walk in my neighborhood) so you dread resonated with me. Every five weeks I drive my friend to the retina center for macular degeneration treatments. It's an easy drive and I sit in the car and read or nap while she has her treatment. Yesterday at the end of her treatment she told me the date of her next treatment and wondered if I could take her later in the afternoon than usual. I told her that leaving the house was the hardest part for me, it didn't matter whether it was at noon or 4PM. She thought I was very flexible and was grateful for my help.
Barbie
My mother struggles with agoraphobia too.
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/agoraphobia
Agoraphobia develops over time
Agoraphobia usually begins with a stressful event – for example, a person loses a job or a relationship ends. They feel distressed and limit their contact with the outside world (this is called ‘avoidance behaviour’). As time passes, they may consider more and more public places as ‘out of bounds’ until they are eventually confined to their home.
In other cases, a stressful life event triggers a panic attack. Since panic attacks are so unpleasant, the person may avoid any situation or place that they think might trigger another attack until many situations and places are eventually feared and avoided.
For a little while after my husband's accident, there were places I couldn't go without having a panic attack, like the grocery store, which was a bit problematic because I hadn't started ordering groceries online then.
M in Oz
I think my mother has agoraphobia. And I suspect my DH has a bit of this as he never wants to go anywhere but shopping or the park work-shop. Me, I’d love to go everywhere if I had unlimited finances that is. But visiting neighbors doesn’t cost anything. He doesn’t do that. He prefers people come to our campsite.
Thank you also for the wise words. You all don’t know how much you mean to me in my life! I talked to my son yesterday and fear he is not taking his medications. I can tell by how he talks and his mood flips up and down quickly for no apparent reason. I had him on speakerphone as my DH was driving and he even mentioned it. I am letting go. All this ‘cra?” Is getting to me. I don’t need that. It is why I moved where I am. I need to distance myself from all this bickering. It is affecting my physical health as well as my mental health. My DS did say yesterday, “ Don’t call them, let them call you if they want to talk to you (care)” I’ve heard that from many of you here as well as my YDD. It hit home coming from him. Please keep him and me in your thought and prayers.
I am finding the wisdom in the ‘One Day At A Time’ ALANON book is hitting home. I will definitively be reading more of their writings. Thank you all for the recommendations to go to ALANON. I can’t physically go but have found many online references and writings to go over.
RVRita, hoping to change her thinking at 67 and get healthy (especially mentally !)6 -
Guests have left and I've had a half hour nap. I sent them away at 4 pm, and I think they were ready to go. The wife had only come back from a holiday in Turkey a couple of days ago, back to Cornwall, one day at home, and up for the funeral yesterday! She enjoyed her swim in the new pool. She was falling asleep after pizza and ice cream!
Nice to chat and catch up. I got news on my ex's son, that he decided he didn't like uni, gave up after a term, and is now training as a chef.
I've sorted out jewellery, bags, etc for tomorrow, but just realised I will have to pack some lunch to eat in the car. I will make a gluten free sandwich for my son. Wedding breakfast won't be until late afternoon. Luckily my son forgot to register the girls for the cycling competition, (!!!!) so we will be able to leave in good time and not rush.
I hate leaving the house too. I love my daily routine and can't be bothered to go out. Sometimes I don't set foot outside for days! Now I'm not running, I hardly ever get to the seafront. I really have to make a big effort to get out of the door. Especially if it involves clothes and face.
Plus people exhaust me.
Easy left over frittata for dinner. Might heat up a few fries for DH. We shared a pizza.
Rita - (((HUGS.))) Zooming love and strength to you. Sometimes disappointing people is the only way to grow. Nedra Tawwab is very good on all this stuff. Her first book on boundaries, and another one called Drama Free, about families. I listen to her podcast, You Need to Hear This. This week's was about family expectations.
Lisa - Love all the greenery-yallarry!
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I’ll have it in numerical order for tomorrow. Only have half of it right now.
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honey looks so good!!!
We had a couple hives when I was growing up. Only had them a week or so, if I remember right- it was NOT a smart move for dad to have them bring them out as he was deathly allergic to them.
Almost lost him one time when he got stung. Mom drove him into the hospital-should take 15 min to get into town, it took her about 10- they said if it had taken that extra five minutes, he would have been dead. After that, he carried the epi-pen with him in each vehicle and in the house.
I have not been stung so not sure if I am allergic to them or not. My younger sister is but not as bad as dad was.
He loved honey so much and with the 1 acre garden, thought it would be ok if they stayed away from the house. Don't remember exactly what happened but I do remember them taking the hives back.2 -
I am really enjoying a very quiet morning. Son left for work at 5:30, dh was up and ready to go to a Comic-Con with his buddy-supposed to leave at 6:30 but guy was late, like always, left at 7.
The amazing part is, beings he fed all the cats(inside and out), I got to go back to sleep a few times with them not bugging me- each time I woke up, said, oh, 5 more minutes and fell right back to sleep- that doesn't ever happen. Usually, I am up early and the cats all want to be fed. Slept in until 9:45.
I have the whole house to myself- Son won't be home until 2:30 or later and not sure if he will be staying home or going out with his girlfriend. Dh won't be home until around 7 I think.
Planning on clearing the back deck- need to organize a bunch of totes- find the fall decorations.
Need to down size and get rid of stuff out there that I won't use. Stuff is just taking up space
I also need to get to the very back corner of one shed(may not happen today) because that is where I have a huge box of candy molds that I have been wanting to pull out each year and haven't done it. With me having more time off this winter, I really want to use them again and make the Christmas candy boxes extra special, not just lots of fudge, caramel corn and toffee.
It is so nice right now- only sound I hear, is the humming of my computer(desktop)
I picked a small bucket of sauce tomatoes yesterday(they said it was going to rain last night and today- blue skies so far)- going to make a little pot of sauce with some fresh basil and herbs.
Love being able to just stay home and do what ever I want with no interuptions- dh always wants to go shopping some place. I have been telling him no thank you the last few times.
Have a great weekend ladies
Debbie
Napa Valley, CA
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Heehee, its all fish to me. In the miso soup, it all tastes of miso.😂Today’s gratitude: woke up with no shin pain.
Yesterday’s gratitude: Joe made it safely home the long way, Dr. is happy with pressure and Joe doesn’t have to go back for six months.
September average weight 131.0 = less than August’s 131.7 so still creeping in the right direction. Monthly summary tomorrow.
Stumbled on new TV series “Irrational.” Liked it, reminiscent of “Bull” using psychology to defuse hostage situations or get to the truth in criminal investigations.
Machka not much land here to break the westerly winds either and it’s a long way to Eurasia but ok yes now I get it. There really is a whole bunch of empty ocean west of Taz not much landYes Spider is a flavor of solitaire. I waste too much time watching TV but yesterday I used the time to brush Tumble. Wish Shadow fit on my lap…:laugh:
long way to Asia
ok now I get it
Lisa ((hugs)) ”…missing yesterday's exercise was a mistake - every joint hurt this morning…“ doncha’ just hate that form of motivation? “excep the bathroom part :laugh:
@Joy1580vb has popped into my mind too in recent days. Hope she’s just busy with harvest/end of season activities.
Allie $8-$10K? Yikes!
Margaret thanks for the “The Tools” by Phil Sturtz recommendation. Will look it up after I finish Organized Enough. Struggling with it as I can only read it on my iphone (Hoopla) and I much prefer holding a hardcopy book in my hand. Now if it were available in an audio book. . . then I could listen while actually decluttering :laugh: :noway: :laugh: Wish your solos were available on YouTube or FB or Zoom.
Barbie what you said about following the (healthy) directions consistently. It’s a challenge every day. Today I decided to treat myself with tea the way I used to have it, Lemon Lift with sugar. Ugh. Too bitter even with 6g sugar. Back to the Sweet and Spicy unsweetened.
Rita ((hugs)) vent here that’s what we’re here for. I’m thankful that at least they are physically far away, how much worse it would be if they were always nearby. Whooshing you strong boundaries. Thankful to hear your son got re-hired. Praying he passes the physical. Back to work would be the best thing for all.
Rebecca “squid” :sick: :noway: :laugh: Eating with chopsticks doesn’t slow me down. When I broke my right wrist the first time, forks and spoons were a struggle with my left, but chopsticks, heck, I didn’t even realize I was using my left, just naturally baled it in! Eli’s smile and Wow, Athena looks so grown up!
Vicki, Heather, Barbie, Rebecca, Tracey, Terri, Lanette, Kylia yours to Rita, Amen, sisters, amen.
Tracey con VERY gratulations on your high grade! You really are doing well.
Welcome @Shuleran ! Can you forgive yourself and be proud of starting over? Do any of the seated / chair exercises appeal to you to help keep the activity habit going? ((hugs)) and whooshing good thoughts for successful surgery and quick, complete recovery.
Ginny yours to Shuleran, truth!
Lanette thanks for the Wellen exercises and snow pea reminder Hopeful ours will produce until/unless we have a snow. I blush to remember the dumb, unnecessary, hurtful things I’ve said. [sigh]
Kylia 12 polyps? Glad they caught them.
Looks to be a few beautiful days so will take advantage of the softened earth to do some weeding before/and/or/after dog group.
Whoops, where does the time go? Tumble just announced that it’s way past TummyTime so get with it Ma’!09/29: Move: 2 sets PT w/D, line dance class, Jeopardy walking. Steps:7903
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=21 CI<CO net=626
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, AF, ptT, ptS, ‘nother load laundry, brushing Tumble and Shadow while listening to TV. Wt:
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live mindfully with people, dogs, open heart and mind before mouth. Never miss an opportunity to keep the mouth shut!
2023: Be of good cheer.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Well today we went to a frame shop, and the NEX (Navy Exchange) to look for frames for my Scrabble family names thing. Thinking I need to glue the board game onto a colored matted paper, so the board stays open. I mean the tiles are glued on but the fact that the board game can fold makes it not sturdy (well how my brain is working it anyways). The trick is getting a frame thick enough for the game board, and tiles thickness, also have it with plexiglassed. I want to be able to add to the board in the future, if I can. Of course no such luck on any frames there. We will look online.
Then went to Wal-Mart and bought a guest sized heated blanket for our bed. Man there were some fancy app enhanced, voice activated ones for $100, which was silly to buy as we just have the stupid phone. Ended up buying a reasonable priced one with just on/off with 12 settings. We came home and removed our heavy Korean bought mink blanket and affghan throw blankets. It will be nice to not have the weight on me, but still be warm.😁👍🏼
Today I am making a pizza, then this evening just having my miso soup. Yesterday I put all my crab chunks on parchment covered cookie sheet and froze. I now have a container in the freezer of beautiful crab bits for whenever. The jar was Phillips crab meat and was $18 so I do not want it spoiling! Husband rolled his eyes at me on that purchase! I think I just used a bit of back talk, and a smig of classic whining.
We are currently watching sailboat racing "France Sail Grand Prix". Our normal sumo wrestling is over for this latest tournament, so we have to be patient until the next quarter. We are such an Odd Couple.😂
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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It is afternoon here, suppertime on the east coast of the US, bedtime in the UK, and morning in Tasmania so this seems like a good time to post the new thread for October. Here is the link:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10900543/women-ages-50-for-october-2023/p1?new=1
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Hello, ladies. I am finally able to get back on here. Been hectic with garden and harvest but finally done with both. Harvest was finished last week and was actually quite uneventful with DH only needing my assistance a few times. Mostly helping him set up augers and once to pull him out when he got stuck swathing. No breakdowns with equipment which can always be a challenge and stressful. Barley is nice and only had to leave a few spots due to wet conditions so overall a good year.
Done with my garden as pulled up all the potatoes a couple of days ago. Had a small row of carrots that were very nice and our resident bear thought so to. Was just thinking about getting them in when they all disappeared with signs of bear poop along the row.
Have another challenge that DH and I will try to do in a couple of weeks time. Our oak flooring in the living room needs to be sanded and refinished. I tried to get someone out here to do it but was unsuccessful. It's not a big room so probably that is part of the problem. Approximately 320 square feet. Had one quote for $3500 which is ridiculous. I think the guy was just being an idiot. We will rent a floor sander from Home Depot. Going to give them a call tomorrow and see if we can get it mid-October. Not going to stain it....just sand and put on a water based polyurethane...at least I think that is what we are doing. DH said he will be able to sand it for me. I'm hoping I don't have to take too many turns on the machine. I have a feeling it will be up to me to sand along the walls with a hand sander as DH won't be able to be down on his knees too much as he has a hip issues.
Back to reading through the many posts I've missed and certainly enjoy.
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worked for 2 hrs on the back deck- did pull out the fall/Halloween stuff out. Got the totes all labeled and organized against the side of the house and covered with tarps.
A few minutes after I finished, it started raining.
Also got a pot of tomato sauce simmering on the stove. Picked the tomatoes last night and the basil,rosemary, oregano this morning. Don't make sauce very much so hopefully it will be ok- Added half a bunch of spinach that I needed to use up.
Has been a nice quiet day- I am really enjoying it- Son came home at 1:30(hour early) but he is in his room as always- I did make him a quick lunch.
Debbie
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Stat for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 21min 43sec, 86ahr, 102mhr,, 2.90ap, 4mi = 418c
Strava app= 490c
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »And another thing about going to town - I'm still vain enough that I want my hair to look half decent (recently washed at least) maybe a little blush and pull on nice cleaner clothes, earrings, the whole she-bang. Unless it's 6 am at Walmart where I could get away with wearing PJ's, most days it's not worth the effort unless I really, really need something
Lanette
I almost don't go to all that trouble to go to work!
I shower (which includes washing my hair) on the days I go to work.
And I put on clean work-appropriate clothes.
But makeup is usually just a skiff of foundation.
Jewellery is often just earring studs. I have got a collection of birthstone studs for the different colours, but often I'm wearing the blue ones day after day because they work.
On the weekends, I turn up in the shops in whatever I happen to be wearing:
Cycling attire
Dirt-covered gardening cloths
Stretchy relaxing clothes (one step up from PJs)
M in Oz
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Lisa, I, too, don't care to leave my house (except to walk in my neighborhood) so you dread resonated with me. Every five weeks I drive my friend to the retina center for macular degeneration treatments. It's an easy drive and I sit in the car and read or nap while she has her treatment. Yesterday at the end of her treatment she told me the date of her next treatment and wondered if I could take her later in the afternoon than usual. I told her that leaving the house was the hardest part for me, it didn't matter whether it was at noon or 4PM. She thought I was very flexible and was grateful for my help. Barbie
My mother struggles with agoraphobia too.
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/agoraphobia
Agoraphobia develops over time
Agoraphobia usually begins with a stressful event – for example, a person loses a job or a relationship ends. They feel distressed and limit their contact with the outside world (this is called ‘avoidance behaviour’). As time passes, they may consider more and more public places as ‘out of bounds’ until they are eventually confined to their home.
In other cases, a stressful life event triggers a panic attack. Since panic attacks are so unpleasant, the person may avoid any situation or place that they think might trigger another attack until many situations and places are eventually feared and avoided.
For a little while after my husband's accident, there were places I couldn't go without having a panic attack, like the grocery store, which was a bit problematic because I hadn't started ordering groceries online then.
M in Oz
I think my mother has agoraphobia. And I suspect my DH has a bit of this as he never wants to go anywhere but shopping or the park work-shop. Me, I’d love to go everywhere if I had unlimited finances that is. But visiting neighbors doesn’t cost anything. He doesn’t do that. He prefers people come to our campsite.
Thank you also for the wise words. You all don’t know how much you mean to me in my life! I talked to my son yesterday and fear he is not taking his medications. I can tell by how he talks and his mood flips up and down quickly for no apparent reason. I had him on speakerphone as my DH was driving and he even mentioned it. I am letting go. All this ‘cra?” Is getting to me. I don’t need that. It is why I moved where I am. I need to distance myself from all this bickering. It is affecting my physical health as well as my mental health. My DS did say yesterday, “ Don’t call them, let them call you if they want to talk to you (care)” I’ve heard that from many of you here as well as my YDD. It hit home coming from him. Please keep him and me in your thought and prayers.
RVRita, hoping to change her thinking at 67 and get healthy (especially mentally !)
You're calling your family ... and they're saying negative things to you?
Yes, your son is right. Don't contact them.
Don't call them.
Don't email them.
Don't text them.
Snooze them for 30 days on FB.
Take a break.
M in Oz
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Barbara the church The Grove of Woodbury does put our service on Facebook. If you look it up the also stream it live too!
Vicki I love the passage you shared so true for so many things. We never know the struggles someone has in their life. A reminder to met those with kindness and compassion!
(((Rita))) Surrounding you in loving thoughts I am so proud of you for all you are doing to keep yourself as strong as you can. There is nothing wrong in telling your son that you hear he is starting to show signs of his illness. (When someone is starting down that road they lose their perspective.) Remind him you are one who knows him and you want what is best for him. It is those that know him or her to alert them to go see a health professional they trust. He may or may not heed what you say. It might help to remind him what happens to him without help. Remind yourself that you are dealing with an irrational person. Do kind things for yourself and set those strong boundaries to help yourself like you have been doing! 2 -
It is afternoon here, suppertime on the east coast of the US, bedtime in the UK, and morning in Tasmania so this seems like a good time to post the new thread for October. Here is the link:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10900543/women-ages-50-for-october-2023/p1?new=1
Don't forget to come over and join us in October!0
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