WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2023

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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,037 Member
    edited October 2023
    I have a busy day ahead. Daughters and grandson are coming for lunch, so I need to clear my craft stuff off the dining room table, then prep the lunch.

    🕊️ Have a Blessed Sunday 🕊️

    ☘️ Terri
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,290 Member

    Good morning ladies!

    Heather yes, it's difficult to know whether to address an issue head on or not. I've been suggesting to my dad that his driving days are coming to an end, and doing my best to keep him off the highways. In the last few days though, he has been talking about driving an hour away to have lunch with a friend. Scary.

    Sundays are busier than they used to be. There is Sunday dinner then a nap, then visit Mom, then my buddhist book club. Plenty to do.

    Have a great day, my friends!

    Annie in Delaware
  • CarolGaGal
    CarolGaGal Posts: 103 Member
    Happy Sunday Morning! :)
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,319 Member
    2023 Optimistic October

    Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the change in seasons.

    Today I set an intention to better appreciate what I have, and to strengthen my self confidence.
    Meditation: daily. 27/31 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%)

    Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 20/23
    Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
    Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
    Balance 5 days 10 min /20

    Foods to avoid:
    Barley
    Bell peppers
    Chicken
    Clam
    Egg white
    Eggplant
    Ginger
    Rye
    Wheat
    Winter squash

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%). 75 days SOBER!
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 7819, 7203, 7906,5204, (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (800%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 220/208—(733%) should be 189 by November 1) My mom called me for a change.
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)74/94 (800%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2 (600%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 23/23 (681%,100,100)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 44/12
    (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 10/12—(1000%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (1000%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0
    500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met 81%
    August met—met 99%
    September met——99%
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—

    1.
    Write down three things you can look forward to this month. 1. Another month of sobriety 2. Cooler weather 3. Decorating for Halloween
    2. Find something to be optimistic about (even if it’s a difficult time). I am optimistic about cooler weather.
    3. Take a small step to a goal that really matters to you. I need to call my uncle.
    4. Start the day with the most important thing on your to-do-list. Updating this list and My Fitness Pal.
    5. Be a realistic optimist. See life as it is but focus on what’s good. I usually hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I think this counts!
    6. Remind yourself that things can change for the better. No matter how bad you think it is, it can always get worse. So enjoy life no matter where you are, or what you are doing, or your circumstances.
    7. Look for the good in people around you today. I can do this if I try. This was not difficult to do with visitors. Employees were a different matter!
    8. Make some progress on a project or task you’ve been avoiding. I need to clean the cabinets out. I am planning to start today. Didn’t happen.
    9. Share an important goal with someone you trust. did not do this.
    10. Take time to reflect on what you have accomplished recently. I have accomplished coloring pages, making doctor appointments, calming my nerves by taking some actions I never tried before, and more.
    11. Avoid blaming yourself or others. Find a helpful way forward. This is hard for me.
    12. Look out for positive news and reasons to be cheerful today. With everything going on around me and in me this will be hard, but I will pay attention to good news.
    13. Ask for help to overcome an obstacle you are facing. The obstacles I have cannot be solved by me, but by family members.
    14. Do something constructive to improve a difficult situation. I will have to think on this. I posted pictures of the eclipse that happened here on the Friends Group FB page, and sent some pics to my son and grandson.
    15. Thank yourself for achieving the things you often take for granted. I got up in a thankful mood today so I should be able to do this. The eclipse yesterday couldn’t have gone better.
    16. Put down your to-list and do something fun or uplifting. I will color, walk, and meditate-all things that are fun and uplifting to me.
    17. Take a small step toward a positive change you want to see in society. Teaching adults computer use provides a positive change in my community.
    18. Set hopeful, but realistic goals for the days ahead. My biggest hope for the near future is a holiday without depression and ‘drama’ caused by my family.
    19. Identify one of your positive qualities that will be helpful in the future. I think my tenacity will always be helpful to me and others.
    20. Find joy in tackling a task you’ve put off for some time. This will have to wait as I am not feeling too good today. Fall cold.
    21. Let go of the expectations of others and focus on what matters to you. I have been working on this, so this will be in progress for a while. Because I did this, my mother finally called me to see what was up after 3 weeks of missed calls from me.
    22. Share a hopeful quote, picture, or video with a friend or colleague. Will do here.
    23. Recognize that you have a choice of what to prioritize. I will put myself first for care so I can take care of others and my normal tasks.
    24. Write down three specific things that have gone well recently. Some of my close family contacted me instead of the other way around, 2. Getting appointments with a cardiologist, and a nephrologist. 3. I am over 2 months sober!
    25. You can’t do everything! What are three priorities right now? 1. Better financial management, 2. My eyes and cataract surgery, 3. Researching and getting my name on lists of potential places to retire to in 3-4 years.
    26. Find a new prospective on a problem you face. I need to take a hard look at our budget.
    27. Be kind to yourself today. Remember progress takes time. I hope to go for a walk and to color today.
    28. Ask yourself ‘will this still matter a year from now?’ This helps me to make better decisions when I do this.
    29. Plan a fun or exciting activity to look forward to. I look forward to coloring today.
    30. Identify three things that give you hope for the future.
    31. Set a goal that brings a sense of purpose for the coming month.


    RVRita , Roswell, NM

    “There is no need for me to accept blame for another person’s irrational actions. I will deal with my own shortcomings.” ALANON’s One Day at a Time.
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,319 Member
    I had oatmeal for breakfast this morning aptly as it is National Oatmeal Day! It is also the day some countries Fall Back. I was confused because I didn’t think we changed ours until next week (Nov. 5). Looked it up and I was right, next week the US falls back. See the rest of the list in spoiler.
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    RVRita
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    Good Sunday!
    Wow! You all have been busy! Oh, so have i-LOL! Thank you for the lovely support on review. Lisa I will remember next time to state our policy when leaving comments. TY!

    Banks stuffs and passwords- I need to really get on this. If something happens to me it will just be a mess since everything is done online. I love "Orchestrator" . Such a wonderful phrase/title for getting things done efficiently without offending those needing that assistance. On that same note, I think I am borrowing a note from one of you ladies and making a master shopping list maybe with minimums on it. More on that shortly.

    I love seeing the crafts, food, landscapes, and family pictures (both fur and human)! Keep sharing!

    Rebecca Safe travels home.

    Machka Just wondering based on things I have seen and read lately.....could the rash be shingles and not an allergic reaction? It seems like a long time for clearing up. Just a thought that crossed my mind especially when you said it was painful.

    Michele It is wonderful to find things we have misplaced!

    RIP Mathew Perry

    So.....yesterday was busy at work but I actually managed to complete 95% of my paperwork while at work!!!!!!! WIN!!! Second win is SIL actually stayed at work ALL day!!!!!! It is the little things. After work, we stopped at a small roadside farmer's market and picked up a small pumpkin, tomatoes, a spaghetti squash (have never made one), and some Amish jelly. Then went and saw the progress on the Bronco pin stripping. She looks awesome. The guy that does it is 86 y/o! Cleaned up barn and moved wood to upper barn level. Made white chicken chili for supper. Put out a few Halloween decorations. 🎃 Visited with neighbors for short time. Then went to Lowe's to return an item and buy new "creepers" for the shop. Then DH and I hit the grocery while it wasn't raining. I got ready to check out and the only lines open were self check out. I REFUSE unless I only have a couple of items. I almost left the cart when a manager opened a checkout for me. YAY! I did save $45 (was still over $200). Got it all unloaded before the skies opened up! So what was next.....oh.....cleaning out, wiping down, and organizing the lazy Susan. DH says I throw too much out. If it hasn't been touched in years and is expired why would I keep it! There really wasn't much in my opinion. I told him that his comments is why I normally did this when he was gone for weekends, so get over it. It has been several years (like 2015) since it has been done. Finished evening watching "Ghostbusters 3" with him.

    Slept in this morning! Didn't get up until 830! I continued cleaning out. This time did the spice cabinet and my bathroom cabinet. If it was hard, smelled wrong, or not touched in over 5 years out it went. Lots of trash. Working on freezer now. DH so uncomfortable-lol! I am 😊! Hot tubbed, breakfast, oh, had to throw out toaster. One side not working.

    So I am feeling some peace and accomplishment! Need to finish freezer. Then trash run and Costco run(yuck). Rainy, but relaxing day.

    Lots of love,
    Kylia in rainy Ohio
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,710 Member
    Kylia - Good job! :D I cleaned out the drawer in my bedside cabinet. I've been meaning to do it for ages. Well, this afternoon, it got done. :) Ali the house trash is now in the outside bin. DH puts it on the pavement.

    My DSIL was very understanding about me not feeling like a London meet up. <3 She arrives back from her Brittany holiday today. She went with her daughter, so I'm sure they had a good time together, but they could not have had worse weather.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,528 Member
    edited October 2023
    Did the Kettleworx Chest and Back DVD then one part of the absolute abs DVD, took a walk to Food Lion to get more potatoes for Vince and some donuts that were on sale. See, if I spent another $1.55, I got $2 off my next order. Then went to WalMart.

    Made some more protein waffles in case I need to take some to Jess’ this weekend. Then made tofu manicotti for next week. Only I don’t tell Vince there’s tofu in them. He’s had them before and liked them.

    debbie – I find that when I walk by myself, I seem to think really clearly. Do you feel this way?

    Tracey – Michaela is so adorable, as is her scarecrow

    It was so dark when I left to go to Food Lion that I actually looked at the time on my phone to be sure I didn’t leave an hour earlier. Nope. We change our clocks next Sunday (boo)

    Manicotti just came out of the oven. Want to make some biscuits to have in the freezer for Vince. But first I want to dry the pots etc in the oven

    pip – Jess likes succulents. I found this “glow in the dark” one that I thought was interesting. Hope it survives until I can give it to her next weekend. Which reminds me, I should probably water it

    Rebecca – safe travel

    kylia – I never thought of M’s rash as being shingles, but you are so right. It’s been going on a long time, now. Oh, you don’t know what you missed by never having a spaghetti squash. Just wait till you try it!. Vince is like your dh...he saves and saves. I get rid of things that we haven’t used in a long time. He felt bad getting rid of his crib, Jess didn’t want us to do it (no one would use it because it didn’t meet safety standards of today but she still didn’t want us to get rid of it. But we did anyway.). Great job doing all that cleaning!

    When we go to see Jess this weekend, first I want to stop by this place that says they buy silverplate. I don’t want to go with Jess because she won’t want to sell it. Even if all I get is $5, to me that’s a win
    because otherwise it would just be sitting in the house.

    allie - My CPAP mask is one like this:gclid=Cj0KCQjwhfipBhCqARIsAH9msbk7y5u8jqn_ERTOxwRHQj7gQE0MW87ZK0SP3aehQPlDzcTXv23PjVQaAmGVEALw_wcB. See how there's this short elastic thing in the back? Well, the last one they sent me has a long elastic thing that goes from one side to the other. There aren't the plastic "bars" on the side. I find that with this new one, I'm getting a much more restless sleep because the elastic thing that helps hold it on your head keep slipping to the top of my head. I'm constantly waking up, moving it so that I can sleep. This must happen at least a dozen times a night. It happens whenever I roll over, and I do that a lot.

    While at WalMart in the frozen fruit area I found this fruit called Aloe Vera. Has anyone ever had it? It looks like it's pretty bland (if it is, Vince will probably like it)

    Michele NC
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,658 Member
    Kylia - I was thrilled to hear about your good day yesterday at work and getting things caught up at home. :) Sounds like a wonderful day is on tap for you today.

    Annie - You are getting a plan underway. So many good ideas here among our group. You have a lot of "Orchestrating" to do but you'll do fine.

    I got an email from a friend this morning whose MIL (93) is living in a home across town that he and his wife own. He is always having to run over there and mow, fix things. She is forgetful and refuses to take in a live-in helper. MIL refuses to even think of moving into assisted living because she's got it so good. I thought his email was timely considering aging parents have been the topic here this past week and it was interesting hearing it from a guy's perspective.

    Tracey - Wow, Michaela's scarecrow is so cute. What cute "blind mice!" I plan to watch the videos later this week when the rain returns. I have 2 sunny days here to get outside jobs caught up.

    Lisa - way to go Corey! We'll miss the shirtless photos, lol. >:)

    Rebecca - have a safe drive back. So glad you and Lee were able to stop in and see his mom. She's a sweetie.

    Rosemarie - thanks for popping in here. <3 So glad the dog fostering is going well. Good job getting Shirley back on track. (Cute name!) I'm not a big meat eater anymore but go heavy on eggs for the protein for breakfast, with some beef or pork or chicken now and then, a bit on the side for additional protein. How are you with eating fish? I'm too lazy to cook it most of the time but love canned salmon I can throw on top of a salad.

    10 minute walks - I measured, and three ten minute walks average between 1,000 and 1300 steps, depending on where I'm walking. I'm not wedded to my pedometer, some days forget to put it in my pocket. Barbie has it right, there's more to exercise than just walking. Annie the pup is seeing to that.

    New ladies starting back in exercising - I became a member of this group nearly seven years ago. During that time, I started back jogging (I was 65 then) and then injured my left foot - stone bruise, metatarsalgia, 2 steriod shots - which cut even walking way down for a while. I was making good headway with free weights and ankle weights for a couple years but sidelined when I got a frozen shoulder. Then, I developed a small hernia below my belly button from dragging a heavy bag of potting soil around. :p Surgery and reduced walking plus no lifting for a while. After recovering from that, the Pandemic hit and I was back daily walking with my neighbor until I broke my baby toe/injured my whole foot a little over a year ago (barefoot and kicking a toy for the dog and bonked my foot on the recliner!) which sidelined me for a quite a while and I'm still on the mend from that.

    The reason I mention all of this - do not be discouraged if you get started on an exercise plan but get sidelined because of family, injury or medical reasons. We can get back on the horse - it might take a month or two instead of the week or two recovery period we had in our 20's. Many of us in this group have had to re-adjust our exercise plans but continually find ways to keep active. I am so happy to be able to start walking again and to be active doing outside jobs while the weather is nice. Grateful for what I can do, not longing for what I can't do anymore - I still go there sometimes and have to yank myself back into the present.

    ***Reminder for anyone wanting to be included in the "check-in", please get your info to me today or tomorrow morning.

    Make it a wonderful Sunday!

    Lanette B)
    Sunny SW WA State where it was 24f this morning.



  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    I had oatmeal for breakfast this morning aptly as it is National Oatmeal Day! It is also the day some countries Fall Back. I was confused because I didn’t think we changed ours until next week (Nov. 5). Looked it up and I was right, next week the US falls back. See the rest of the list in spoiler.
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    RVRita

    Cat day and hermit day. :)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    edited October 2023
    kymarai wrote: »
    Machka Just wondering based on things I have seen and read lately.....could the rash be shingles and not an allergic reaction? It seems like a long time for clearing up. Just a thought that crossed my mind especially when you said it was painful.

    Lots of love,
    Kylia in rainy Ohio

    It was painful early on but only for a couple days. Now it's just itchy. It's a whole collection of small itchy lumps which are actually little blisters. But they aren't close together anymore. The ones down both arms are just here and there.

    I've also been immunised for shingles.



    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    While at WalMart in the frozen fruit area I found this fruit called Aloe Vera. Has anyone ever had it? It looks like it's pretty bland (if it is, Vince will probably like it)

    Michele NC

    We grow aloe vera ... young plants look like this:
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    Apparently it does have a very seedy fruit although I've never seen ours produce any.


    What does yours look like?

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    Well, the 5th is the 1/2 marathon day. I think he said our start time is 6:30am. We are going to ride our bikes there again. Kirby has been training a lot more than I have because I’m still biking because of the MS ride. Because we r riding, that means I will be running with a backpack carrying our helmets and bike shoes. I told him to run like the wind and. I’ll just see him at the finish line. I will try to run the whole way but we will see if I can with the extra Wei, it will be an awkward run with a backpack. My brother and his wife will be at the finish line. They will be serving a hot breakfast, ice cream sundae and a live band playing for entertainment. I’ve broken in my new monkey feet, so that’s good.I looked at the weather forecast for that day, 54 degrees at 6am and we should be running for 2 hrs or so, 62 degrees at 9am. Good run day

    Tough run carrying all that!
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,266 Member
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