WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023

barbiecat

December is upon us with all its stresses. Whether you are dealing with holidays, end of the year projects at work, vacation, weather, traffic and long lines wherever you go, or health, it helps to navigate these challenges in the company of a supportive community that will listen and cheer you on.

The name of the thread is "Women Ages 50+" but all women are welcome.

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Please sign your post with a name or nickname and a location, general or specific so our sharing is more personal.

Barbie in NW WA

The secret to living well and long is: Eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure..." Tibetan proverb

Snowflake1968

Thank you Barbie for a new month!

linder4866

❤️

GodMomKim

Thanks Barbie!

okiewoman510

Thank you for the clean slate Barbie!

Okie in the TX Hill Country

LisaInArkansas

Thank you, Barbie - So pleased to make it to another December!

Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

SophieRosieMom

Thank you Barbie! December already.

Lanette
SW WA State

Johal2021

Hi, I have been on MFP for a few years but haven't figured out the groups yet. But I really need some support and advice and was wondering if I can join this group?
My name is Valerie and I am 71 years old and live in southeastern Arizona. Mostly retired although I do substitute teach from time to time.
I would like to lose 15 pounds to get to what my doctor considers a "healthy weight". I was starting to lose a bit earlier this year but this last month I have gone back to binge eating; my especial weaknesses are sugar and bread. I have also not been exercising as regularly anymore.
So, as December begins, I am committing to following one of the MFP plans that's on my phone, called the immune system plan.
I have a question though, something that I've never quite understood about the Calories section, Goal-Food+Exercise. If I go over on the food calories but I also go over on the exercise calories burned and it shows that I still have calories remaining does that mean I am on track for my weight loss goal or do I need to stick to the Food calories goal? I do try to stick to it but I was wondering if exercising more can cancel out overeating.
Valerie

barbiecat

Valerie, welcome. Posting is all you need to do to be part of this supportive community. Then keep coming back. About the food plus exercise calories---the more active you are, the more fuel you need for your body. If you sit and do nothing all day, your basic 1200 (or whatever you chose) will be enough to nourish you, but if you walk for hours or bike or lift weights or do yardwork or anything strenuous, you'll need more healthy food to keep you going. Most of us don't eat all the exercise calories but since I walk for two hours a day and ride my exercise bike for three to four hours, I need more than my basic 1200 calories. The most important thing is to make those calories nutrition dense. Eggs, lean protein, and veggies give me the most nutrition for the fewest calories and I stay away from desserts and bread.

Barbie in NW WA

bwcetc

Barbie … thank you for the December thread!

Valerie … welcome!

Lisa … we finished on November 1st after a light snow… just in a nick of time! This photo is just a few pieces before he finished!

Beth

bwcetc

Oops

LisaInArkansas

Beth - Outstanding! Timing is everything in home improvement...

exermom

Everyone – thank you for your sentiments about my grandson. Heck, I’ll probably never even get to talk to him!

Tina – glad your hubby got a reprieve. I cut my sourdough bread into pieces and then freeze half of it. By the time we finish half, the other half comes out of the freezer and is like it was just baked. I don’t heat it in the microwave or anything

M – going to see Leo would be nice --- IF I knew where he was living. If it’s on Reunion, do you have any idea how expensive it is to visit? First you have to fly from the US to Paris, then from Paris to Reunion. So that’s two round trip air fairs for each adult (2 adults) That is, IF that’s where he is. It can cost us hundreds of dollars to just see PJ for a few days. What with hotel, all our meals, someone to watch Loki (and it costs extra because of the different medications plus you have to take extra precautions with the chemo), not to mention gas etc. Of course, miscellaneous expenses (like taking PJ out) As it is, we don’t go on the weekends because hotel rates are much higher than during the week.

Lisa – thank you for the test. I think it pretty well hit the nail on the head. I’m a consul


Personality type: Consul (ESFJ-A)
Traits: Extraverted – 63%, Observant – 76%, Feeling – 70%, Judging – 82%, Assertive – 53%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: People Mastery




So you’re a Consul… Now what?
The Consul is a generous and reliable personality type with a clear moral compass and strong desire to serve others. Few things bring Consuls greater joy than sharing a wonderful life with wonderful people. But sometimes all that they give isn’t reciprocated in kind, leaving Consuls feeling unbalanced and frustrated.


Got one of the trees decorated, the small one in the kitchen that doesn’t have any of the special ornaments or lights. Just the mini ornaments. Then wrote out the Christmas cards. It is sad that the list is getting shorter and shorter. I’m thinking that maybe next year I’ll only send cards as people send them to me. Maybe some people send me a card only because I send one to them.

Ginny – you’re right...tiny steps, no matter how small.

Valerie – we’d love to have you. Stop by often so we get to know you better.

Michele NC

OregonMother

INFJ-Advocate -- that sounds about right. In Strength Finders, two of my strengths are empathy and developer. I see my role as an administrator to build my people to be their best selves. Students too, I guess. Which is why I get frustrated with students who aren't interested in learning because that indicates to me that they don't want to grow.

Flea
Willamette Valley OR

Snowflake1968

I’ve had a busy day and have read but didn’t really take notes.
I had ceramics tonight, I painted these pieces for my village. They aren’t done yet, but Kaitlyn and Michaela can put them on tomorrow and then I’ll take them out and finish painting them the first of the week.
The lighter is to show the scale.



Tracey in Edmonton

skuehn48

Barbie - thanks for the new month.

Beth - glad you got that siding done in time.

Lisa - your roof too was timely. It will be nice to have that extra room. I'm sure Egg will love sleeping in the sun patches. Our cats love the sunspots in my sitting room.

Annie - hope you had a wonderful ride today. Horses are amazingly comforting to just be around. Sorry you are having to make such tough decisions.

Went to water exercise this morning and then Walmart. I took one of the paper ornaments off the giving tree to provide presents for a 5 yo boy. His wish list includes Legos and dinosaur things. That should be doable.

Does anyone watch "Unsellable Houses" on HGTV? Lesley and Lindsey live here in Snohomish where DD and I live. In fact their company is who we worked with to buy this place.

Everyone take care, Sue in WA

Machka9

exermom wrote: »

Everyone – thank you for your sentiments about my grandson. Heck, I’ll probably never even get to talk to him!

Tina – glad your hubby got a reprieve. I cut my sourdough bread into pieces and then freeze half of it. By the time we finish half, the other half comes out of the freezer and is like it was just baked. I don’t heat it in the microwave or anything

M – going to see Leo would be nice --- IF I knew where he was living. If it’s on Reunion, do you have any idea how expensive it is to visit? First you have to fly from the US to Paris, then from Paris to Reunion. So that’s two round trip air fairs for each adult (2 adults) That is, IF that’s where he is. It can cost us hundreds of dollars to just see PJ for a few days. What with hotel, all our meals, someone to watch Loki (and it costs extra because of the different medications plus you have to take extra precautions with the chemo), not to mention gas etc. Of course, miscellaneous expenses (like taking PJ out) As it is, we don’t go on the weekends because hotel rates are much higher than during the week.

Lisa – thank you for the test. I think it pretty well hit the nail on the head. I’m a consul


Personality type: Consul (ESFJ-A)
Traits: Extraverted – 63%, Observant – 76%, Feeling – 70%, Judging – 82%, Assertive – 53%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: People Mastery




So you’re a Consul… Now what?
The Consul is a generous and reliable personality type with a clear moral compass and strong desire to serve others. Few things bring Consuls greater joy than sharing a wonderful life with wonderful people. But sometimes all that they give isn’t reciprocated in kind, leaving Consuls feeling unbalanced and frustrated.


Got one of the trees decorated, the small one in the kitchen that doesn’t have any of the special ornaments or lights. Just the mini ornaments. Then wrote out the Christmas cards. It is sad that the list is getting shorter and shorter. I’m thinking that maybe next year I’ll only send cards as people send them to me. Maybe some people send me a card only because I send one to them.

Ginny – you’re right...tiny steps, no matter how small.

Valerie – we’d love to have you. Stop by often so we get to know you better.

Michele NC

What's more important? Money or spending time with your grandchildren?

I have travelled a lot ... including a recent trip to Canada. Yes, it's expensive (I would venture to say very expensive), but it is worth it. 😀

You don't know where Leo is YET. But the doors of communication have opened and that is something to be very thankful for.

As for PJ, you chose to shorten one of your trips to see him, so it was possible to see more of him if you wanted. Try looking into other accommodation options. You don't have to stay in a hotel. Try renting a unit through AIRBNB for a couple weeks.

I have a pretty good idea where 2 of my grandchildren are, but the doors of communication are shut and locked. I have not met them and so far, it doesn't look like I will.


Machka in Oz

grandmallie

Well woke up at 1 am and am awake..
Lisa- could you post the link to that test again .it just wouldn't load for me...
I watch Unsellable houses all the time.they are the highest selling real estate agents in the pacific north west
Barbie- thank you for taking us through another year..Bless you !!
Rita- tell me about kidney issues..if I didn't have one thing or another wrong with me I wouldn't know what was going on lol
Well im going to try and get a bit more sleep,at least here is hoping.
And about Carmine? Will get her a gift card to Cumberland farms or Amazon and send it in a card..she isn't talking to me but don't want her thinking I don't love her.

auntiebk

Gratitudes
Today: Barbie for the fresh start and all the wise, smart, funny, caring, strong women on this thread.
Thursday’s gratitude: Got a text that the igniter/burner has shipped and will be here by 9pm Monday. Halelujah!
November summary and stats tomorrow.
Ginny ((hugs)) While that’s a scary long list of foot issues, alien implant sounds about right. Sorry today’s doc was no help, remind me when you see the foot specialist? Brava for passing the fitness tests!
Annie ((hugs)) what Ginny said and hooray for hot tea, vitamin c and horseback riding. ((hugs))
KJ “letting go of some of those things” is definitely ok, and the better part…
Allie thanks for the warm salt water reminder.
Barbie love your flexibility/resilience, seeing the morning time variances was hard for your friend, finding the evening alternative with the bonus of holiday lights. Well done!
Beth WOW! Sure glad you got the siding project done when you did
Thanks Lanette that’s great results from barely more than a month of after meal circuits carrying weights. The Dr. Langer story of the gal who felt like a failure’s change of perspective resulting in losing weight “without trying” fits right in with what I’m reading about how kaizen/tiny questions bypass the amygdala’s fight/flight reaction and sneaks in to the puzzle-solving cortex. Hopeful stuff!
Michele ((hugs held extra long )) but never say never. Thought you’d never hear from Bryan and was thankful to be wrong.
Lisa thanks for the personalities test link, will take later. Loved the description of Egg burbling… that’s just the sound! And Corey’s jalapeno honey jam sounds yummy!
Heather glad your MDMD group meeting was full of camaraderie and laughter. Sorry about the liqueur filled chocolates, possible to find elsewhere?
Rebecca when you describe the meaning of each gem on that tree, please make a map or key and share with us. The hints of the stories you’ve already shared were fascinating but I couldn’t tell which was which…
Flea ((gentle hugs held extra long)) From monthly to quarterly and possibly to semi-annually sounds pretty good to me. ((hugs))
Tina bread freezes well… then a quick reheat in the oven-not-microwave restores that wonderful chewy crust…
That’s it for November, time to snooze.
Welcome @Johan2021 Valerie from AZ! Good question and have no simple answer. Some say Calories in less than calories out results in weight loss, but others say you can’t out-exercise a poor diet. Every body is different. What works for one won’t for another. Start where you are, take baby steps, cultivate a spirit of exploration. Good luck, we’re here for you!
Sue yes I watch unsellable houses. In one recent episode they actually lost $$ due to the market, while I was sorry for them I was gratified by their honesty.

11/30: Move: 1 set PT w/d, dogs to powerline, Steps:4132
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=-2 CI<CO net=-50 vits=0.5.
Live: Joe, readings, BP, ptT, ptS, reconciled checking/savings, changed TRowePrice mailing address back to PO box, filing, zoom with financial advisor. Wt:129.4
Corrected 11/29: Move: 1 set PT w/d, line dance class, dogs to powerline.

Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
November: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings, start meditating. Open heart and mind before mouth.
2023: Be of good cheer.

Machka9

Tis the season to be thinking about summer holidays!



Machka in Oz

Anniesquats100

Good morning ladies!

Barbie thank you for the thread!

Mom's discharge hasn't happened yet. I guess we get a consult with hospice first.

My sister flies back to Tennessee today. I will miss her helpful ways. My cousins from California want to visit in January. I'm not sure whether that's a good plan. Today mom can hold a conversation that makes a visit worthwhile. But this path leads downhill. Her dementia is getting worse. If her tumor gets painful, and we add painkillers to the mix, confusion will reign. I guess I will explain that and let them decide.

I'm still wrapping my mind around the whole hospice approach. I'm sure it's the compassionate way.

Anyway, have a great day, ladies! And thank you for the hugs. They feel wonderful.

Annie in Delaware