WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023

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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,645 Member
    Good morning ladies,

    Gina - what a beautiful Christmas village. <3 Thank you for sharing that photo of it. Sounds like yummy appetizers at the church. :) I would have done a lot of sampling myself!

    Tracey - beautiful tree. <3

    Annie - glad the hospice nurse is coming tomorrow and can add good guidance regarding your dad and that chair lift. Hope you can get some horsebacking riding in or at least get in some type of break without too much worry about leaving them alone. You are caught in the middle of a stressful situation. Sending you much strength and again, big ((((HUGS))). <3

    Lisa - interesting story about Kels finding her bio dad and relatives. My DB's adopted daughter did the geneology search and found her bio dad, who lived the next town over and was totally unaware of her birth. He was shocked but was happy - she's his only child. :)

    Heather - has your DH's daughter tried talking to him about a medical POA? I wonder you could use his photograph to bypass the facial recognition on his computer if necessary. I bet a techhie could figure how to get around it and those passwords if needed. I think my DH used to somehow go into the registry and get into computers when he worked in IT at the college, but that was a while ago. They might be harder to crack these days.

    Sue - the Cowlitz river south of me had moderate flooding, over Hwy 12 in some areas. It crested yesterday and the roads should be clearing quickly. I sure hope that's the end of the "atmospheric river" aka "pineapple express" situation for this season.

    I need to get after Christmas cards. When I find nice ones, I tend to buy several boxes of different ones at a time and actually make a note of which ones I sent out each year so there aren't repeats of the same one the following year. Probably shouldn't worry about it, lol. I am ending up with a lot of older unused cards and think I'll drop them off at a nursing home or assisted living place so the residents will have some to give out. If they don't want them I'll run them over to the "free" box outside my dog groomer's. I have more of DH's clothing to drop off anyhow.

    For the first time in a long time, I didn't sleep well last night. Problem solving the chicken run situation and reviewing my nephew's situation kept going through my mind. :(

    Hopefully the rain has let up enough that I can get the hen's soggy run under control before the next big rain moves in this weekend. Pretty sure I can. :p I might need to redo the tarp roof - sunshine is predicted tomorrow, so it might be the best day to remove the old roof, let the sun evaporate that water, then attach a new one later in the afternoon. I'm supposed to join former co-workers for lunch tomorrow, I'm lukewarm about it (lots of times the people I want to see don't show up anyhow) so may just stick around home and get this job done.

    Nephew stuff - thank you all for the prayers and good thoughts going to my sis and her family. Nephew is facing a lot of challenges.

    Make it a good day, ladies. <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    So.....whirlwind week! Monday was freaking rough! DH was being a you know what. I ended up in bed at 715pm! Of course anxiety didn't allow me to sleep long, was out of bed at 2 AM. Tuesday, went to see Mrs Doubtfire with oldest daughter. The leading man was awesome!!!! But late night driving to and from Cincinnati. Yesterday my DH decided we are going away for the weekend. Nothing like last minute at Christmas time. We are heading to one of my favorite places. Of course, that meant that I had to get things done last night, laundry, pack, dinner, clean up, vacuum pack meat that was in fridge, i didn't stop moving until bedtime. I guess that was a plus. Just couldn't find the energy to get the last 800 steps in to hit 10K though. I only had 4k when I got home!
    He packs like we are going to BFE. I have a carry on size suitcase, a winter coat, a rain coat and a pair for winter weather boots. He has two large duffles and two bags for snacks and two coolers. It is crazy. I finished up gathering last minute things this morning, unplugged unnecessary lights, emptied dishwasher, showered, made bed, got ready, put my car away, pulled out truck. Luckily he loaded everything into truck. It will be fun, but last minute get everything ready was a little stressful!

    Now to get work done since I won't be here Friday or Saturday.

    Annie Hugs!!!

    Northwest ladies- Stay safe and as dry as possible.

    I know there was more, but really need to get working.

    <3
    Kylia in Ohio
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    Lanette Hugs for your family. So Sad. Christmas season is so hard mentally!
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    Morning dear friends
    Im staying in today mostly because they are working on the hallway here and I dont want to get in the middle of them laying carpet.
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,789 Member
    VeryVeggieVegan wrote: »
    Annie - re: hospice, trust them to know what to do when. The SNF staff kept telling us that dad was ok and could hang on for months. The hospice nurse was the one who told me to hop on a plane (the fam lives on the east coast). If not for that nurse, I might not have been able to sit with dad as he went through the dying process.

    Thanks for the warm welcome, Debbie!

    Rebecca - I can only imagine the chaos that ensued trying to train a piglet! That’s a great story!

    Lanette - I’m so sorry this is happening to your family. I hope everyone is eventually ok. It’s a super tough thing to go through.

    Pip, Yogi is gorgeous! Tell him congratulations on becoming a star!

    It’s been a long work day and I’m tired 😴 Off to settle in with some dinner. Bed is going to be early tonight!

    Everyone on the rainy west coast, stay dry, safe, and healthy!

    Thank you all - I love reading your posts!

    "Tried" being the operative word.😁🤗. Charlotte was a troubled piglet with issues, and I spooked easy as a child. Her and I just didn't get along. I will respect your vegan ways and not tell you the rest of the story. 💖🤗
    I live on Whidbey island, which is in the Puget Sound in Washington state. Its total area miles is 37 miles long and 10 miles at its widest point. There is a Naval Air Station here, and when we moved here from Oregon, our eldest was stationed here, and was our roommate. Or we were his roommate...anywhoo, we share rent on a big @$$ house here, which coming from a small apartment on the Oregon coast, that's been quite a plus. I think having husband waaay upstairs in his man cave has helped our marriage.😂😂 Its also nice to use the base facilities, as my husband is retired Navy. My middle son is happily married and lives about 5 hours from us in Washington state. They have two kids, I will post the Christmas photo session my daughter in law did. I try to visit a couple times a year, taking the Amtrak train, and husband drops me off, to have a bit of a vacation (from me😁), but I seem to get him up to speed on the drive home after he fetches me. I tend to yammer on and on in car rides. I see it as a talent, and keep him entertained. He uses other descriptive words for my talent!!
    😂
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,789 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    Machka - I don’t know if I could convince DH to go out, but I like the idea. Of course, this year he will be sleeping most of the day anyway.

    Heather - I’ve seen those books I think they are a brilliant idea.
    Your outfit sounds lovely.
    I too would like to have dinnerware like yours, unfortunately I have to allow DH to have some things. 😂

    Lanette - your ladies are very fortunate that they are in your care.
    How tragic for your sister’s family.

    Lisa - It sounds like Kelsey will have some people to meet when she returns from Hawaii. I imagine that there are a few stories like that that come out of DNA tests.

    Allie - I love the table, what a great keepsake to have.

    Beth - it sounds like just getting away without the purchases was nice for you and DH.

    My MFP date was Feb 12, 2012 - in all honesty though I didn’t actually use it for a couple or three years if not more in there. I currently have a 5.84 year streak though.

    Rebecca - I have family history on all sides except my paternal grandmother’s going back centuries. I need to spend some time going through it and organizing it.
    My Dad’s father’s side i know goes back to 1600’s England. I’m 1995 my cousin and I wrote a book on the history following the direct line to us.

    Joy - it’s not often you get service like that! It’s great the delivery went smooth.

    Pip - what a great picture of Yogi, I bet Kirby will love the calendar.

    Lanette - I’ve been trying to convince DH to go back to the gym since he won’t go on antidepressants. I think it would help a lot.

    Allie - my Dad never did a POA but he did a will and they named my brother POA for my Mom for when she needed it about 7 days before he died.
    My grandparents never had one.
    In Canada it is usually the wife or child that makes decisions. It works well as long as the kids get along. My FIL did not have one and my SIL feels that her mother didn’t make the proper decisions for DH’s dad. It’s caused some hard feelings since he never let his wishes be known.

    Rebecca - I chuckled at your comment to Debbie about the tree being decorated to her liking. Last year and this year Michaela and Kaitlyn decorated my tree. This year Kaitlyn mostly handed ornaments to Michaela and Michaela placed them. The top of my tree is a little bare.
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    Michele - love your turtle.

    I went to ceramics tonight. I wanted to get a start on my son in law’s gift. Tomorrow is my regular night. I should be able to get it done by next weeks last night of classes until January.
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    Tomorrow afternoon we are going to Kaitlyn’s, she is going to cut DH’s hair for him.

    Tracey in Edmonton

    Awe, beautiful tree!!!!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,301 Member
    2023 December Kindness


    Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the New Mexico skies.


    Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%,100,100,83%
    Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap!

    Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min /23
    Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
    Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
    Balance 5 days 10 min /20

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    3 months SOBER!
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5907,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%-84% 5882-)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 (10,00%) 50%
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 225-208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change, 100%)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)98/96 100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2, 173.4, 173.4 (600%) 100%,100%
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 0/23. (681%,100,100,83)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 48/12
    (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 11/12—(100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0,0
    500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met 81%
    August met—met 99%
    September met——99%
    October met —90.7%
    November met—75%
    December met—


    1.Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others. Sharing with my MFP friends.
    2. Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are doing. Forgot to do this yesterday. Hope to do it today. I did this on Sunday 12/3.
    3. Offer to help someone who is facing difficulties at the moment. Helped my fellow host in learning what to do in 2 separate incidents with campers.
    4. Support a campaign, cause, or charity you really care about.
    5. Give a gift to someone who is homeless or lonely. Did not do this. No chance to.
    6. Leave a positive message for someone else to find. Did this yesterday.
    7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. I will try. A bit down today. Not feeling well.
    8. Do something helpful for a friend or family member.
    9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead.
    10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.
    11. But an extra item and donate to a food bank.
    12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love or kindness today.
    13. See how many be people you can smile at today.
    14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one.
    15. Say hello to your neighbor and brighten their day.
    16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you meet today.
    17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you.
    18. Ask for help and let someone else know the how of giving.
    19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated.
    20. Help someone by giving away something you don’t need.
    21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you.
    22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
    23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
    24. Bring joy to others. Share something that made you laugh.
    25. Treat everyone with kindness including yourself.
    26. Get outside, pick up litter or do something kind for nature.
    27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat.
    28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
    29. Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.
    30. Let someone know how much you appreciated them and why.
    31. Plan some new acts of kindness for 2024.



    The results of your personality test are in. Here they are:
    Personality type: Logistician (ISTJ-T)
Traits: Introverted – 69%, Observant – 58%, Thinking – 75%, Judging – 56%, Turbulent – 54%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: Constant Improvement
    Joined MFPL 5/26/2010
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,789 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    I decided to write a Christmas letter this year to include all the exciting things that have happened. It has been a very long time since I've written one!!

    Let me know what you think ... is there anything I should add or leave out?? Do you think it is about the right length?
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    Machka in Oz

    That Christmas letter....priceless! I took a screenshot and am sharing it on my Facebook page.💖🤗
    Its perfect!😂
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    I forgot who asked about the plantar facitis splint,but got it on Amazon,basically it pulls the top of your foot towards your calf, so that it keeps the heel taught.
    That,and icing,and cortisone and orthotics helped mine a whole lot.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
    Debbie, great photos of son and girlfriend decorating your tree. That's nice that they did that for you. My sons only decorated the tree when they were young, but once they hit middle, and high school, it just wasn't cool I guess. It became "moms thing". They did like exploring the tree though, looking for specific ornaments etc. So that was cute.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Son and I did it together most years. Yes, there were a few of his teen years he didn't help but then he started again. Then Rovin came into the picture and they do the tree. I miss he and I doing it but love having them doing it together.

    As long as they do it to your liking, its all good right!?😁💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    they do it just like he and I used to- I will go add a few more things and move a couple(because there are a few glass OLD ones at the bottom and the kitten touched it-that is how I noticed where it was)
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    Good morning ladies!

    The hospice nurse will be here tomorrow. I'm hoping I can overcome my fears and discuss the chair lift openly. My family has a huge passive-aggressive tradition. Now it's worse because my dad slips away from conversation or doesn't remember it.

    So he goes off and does his own thing, like putting our data into a Web site for ads for chair lifts, without any discussion. It makes me suspect that he doesn't value my input and advice, even though he says he does. Then I intercepted the incoming phone calls and said we were not interested. It worked, and he seems to have forgotten the issue, but he's still not talking
    about it.

    I have horseback riding today, but it's really cold. And I'm not sure dad can be trusted to stay with mom. I will probably go anyway, part of supporting my mental health by leaving the
    house twice a week. Getting a sitter is another thing I could discuss with Dad. Last time he left mom to go get a prescription. Both of them are in denial.

    Hmm. Family communication. What a tricky thing.

    Annie in Delaware

    Annie- the "lift chair" is that the type that is for the stairs to take her up and down or the type like a recliner that helps her to stand up from sitting down?

    The recliner type would be good for your mom but also for your dad.
    We have one at my MIL's house-bought it from a friend. MIL didn't want it, said we were stupid for buying it, but it was great having it after her fall and still. She uses it almost 24/7. Eats in it , sleeps in it, watches tv, etc. (spends too much time in it but that is up to her)
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,517 Member
    After work went to WalMart. Made the chicken bacon ranch pasta for the ceramic party Sat. (want the flavors to meld). Have to leave in about ½ hr to get my car inspected.

    Guess I’m fortunate that I don’t have to do a lot of geneology. My mother and father are both first generation Americans. Now Vince...his family has been in the US since before the civil war.

    Tracey – the Santa Hot Tub put a big smile on my face.

    Barbie – good that you didn’t have the big ranfalls. We’re in sort-of the same situation. We’re at the foothills of the mountains so when the weather comes from the West (which it usually does), it breaks up so we don’t get as much rain, etc. Then it reforms when it gets further East.

    Annie – despite everything, glad you’re still doing the horseback. You deserve it

    kylia – have a great weekend

    Rebecca – Oh, Athena and Eli. Thanks for sharing

    Off to get the car inspected

    Michele NC
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    Debbie I meant a chair lift that you ride up the stairs. It's too much expense for the month or two that she might use it. Even now, she could easily fall off.

    Excellent that you had a good talk with your mother in law. Sometimes you get to be proud of saying your piece and setting your boundaries, and her response is a bonus. Good for you!

    I had to cancel horse, even though you ladies support it for me. Thank you! It was too cold and wet out. We had a touch of snow this morning.

    Mom got dressed by herself this morning. Yay! She is sleeping now. I am going to get a book out.

    Sue hope you and your animals are okay. I see that goats get hoof rot from standing in the mud.

    Lanette, hope your chickens can get up out of the wet.

    May we all be warm, dry, safe and healthy.

    Annie in Delaware

    I have kept my mouth shut for most of the past 33 yrs. DH always told me to not say anything because it would make it harder on him. Can't get much worse than what she is putting him through now. Someone needs to stand up to her. Got tired of going home with a bloody tongue from biting it so much. After a while I chose to not be over there unless absolutely had to. Didn't help dh but if I couldn't speak up, I didn't want to be around her. Kept son away from her for a few years because of the way she was talking, especially when all she did was talk about killing herself. Couldn't have 12/13 yr old son hearing that when he was already having some depression issues.
    When she fell, I had to be there to help and she actually appreciated the help for a while, then when she was getting better and I stepped back on the amount of help I was giving her so she would continue to get better, the mean person in her came back and she is back to her mean nasty self again.

    Debbie

    Time to go walk the wetlands if it isn't raining/windy too much. If it is, I will sit in the car and wait for Ezie to get out of school. May just do a quick walk to the river.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    Heather- John is a gem he is up for anything with those kids,gotta love it..
    They are putting new carpet out in the hallway..will take a picture once its done.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,191 Member
    :) I just came home from getting my RSV shot. Usually Jake and I go together but we still can't leave Annie alone at home or in the car so we had to separately, Jake in the morning and me this afternoon. One more change to our orderly life.

    :)Lisa I tried acupuncture for six weeks a few years ago. It did cure what aimed me but it was a relaxing experience and if I'd had the money I would have continued

    <3 Barbie in NW WA 💖
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,692 Member
    Rori - So many hugs for you about Amy. My female friends are some of the biggest loves of my life. They are so entwined with us. It's good to take the time to grieve. <3

    Back home now. :) The parents had a really good time.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,246 Member
    Stat for the day-

    Walk w/family- 2hrs 24min 47sec, 2.75ap, 172elev, 88ahr, 104mhr, 6.71mi= 670c
    Strava app = 823c

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