WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,592 Member
    Poerava14 wrote: »
    All the photos are so sweet and pretty. Thanks for spreading the happiness. I'm coming off a very tough week of grieving. I have so many little things around my house that spark nostalgic memories of my recently departed BFF, Amy. She gifted me so many items over the years. We visited at least once a year so have many photos. And she was one of my best sounding boards always providing good supportive counsel, and making me laugh. This past weekend I had tickets to Boston where N and I were hoping to have a romantic little getaway in Maine. But I just couldn't. I spend this week cocooning and escaping into books. I spoke with Amy's husband, and we had a good cry together. Her celebration of life will be in the spring, and he has asked me to speak. Deep breaths! I hope to be in a better place emotionally by then.
    Rori
    Colorado Foothills where we are going from 65 degrees today, to snow tonight. 🌨🌨🌨

    Hugs.

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,086 Member
    Rori- Im so sorry to hear about your bestie,it breaks my heart..Annie- remember a day at a time.. have you tried music with your parents? My FIL loved ol blue eyes maybe keep a radio or Alexa on with an oldies station..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,592 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    Expecting a call from my sis this morning. Her son's (my nephew's) estranged wife took her own life on Saturday. They live in Colorado, my sis lives in Indiana and only sees them every few years, so it's been a phone call and "Zoom" relationship. Two children - a boy 14 and girl 8. My sis and her husband were unaware of the extent of the gal's problems - evidently mental illness, substance abuse - and have been getting more info the past couple days. My sis's other son is a therapist and has been lending a lot of support. A sad time for that side of the family.

    Better close. More later.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

    So sorry. :(

  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,040 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,592 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Machka - I was so glad that was funny, because I find Christmas newsletters a lot like Christmas fruitcake. Some people like 'em, some don't! :smiley: I inflicted them on folks for the first few years we were married, but I'm sure lots of the family were glad when I stopped!

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR


    It struck me funny because I figured that's the most effort I would put into a letter these days!!


    I used to inflict the Christmas Letter on people too, but about the time Facebook appeared on the scene, I realised I didn't need to write letters any longer. :) So I haven't done a Christmas letter in at least 15 years ... probably longer, more like 17 or 18 years. And 5 or 6 years ago, I stopped sending cards too.

    I rarely got a reply from anyone, so I figure they were all relieved when I stopped. :smiley:

    And I realised today that I couldn't tell you the addresses of most of my friends. I have a rough idea where they might live, but that's about it.

    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,592 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Tracey - My problem is that I do not have access to John's money, if he were incapacitated. It is a long-burning issue.
    I need to find a way to bring it up again without letting my anger show. I don't mind at all if he prefers to give the POA to his younger daughter. Just someone needs to have access to funds if he needs care. If he doesn't do it the decisions go to Court of Protection, which is a nightmare.

    He has facial recognition on his laptop and a secret stash of passwords in code. :#
    I do know what investments he has, as I made him write them down, and we have both made wills. The problem would be if he had an accident, like Machka's husband, or dementia set in quickly, and he needed care. He is 78.

    Oh well.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    If I were in your position, I would start putting as much money away in savings as I could so that if something happened, I could get groceries and pay some bills during the months (years?) of legal stuff before I might get access to more money.


    M in Oz
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,301 Member
    2023 December Kindness


    Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the Adult Center.


    Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%,100,100,83%
    Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap!

    Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min /23
    Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
    Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
    Balance 5 days 10 min /20

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    3 months SOBER!
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5907,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%-84% 5882-)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 (10,00%) 50%
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 227-208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change, 100%)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)99/96 100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2, 173.4, 173.4 (600%) 100%,100%
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 5/23. (681%,100,100,83)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 49/12
    (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 12/12—(100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0,0
    500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met 81%
    August met—met 99%
    September met——99%
    October met —90.7%
    November met—75%
    December met—


    1.Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others. Sharing with my MFP friends.
    2. Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are doing. Forgot to do this yesterday. Hope to do it today. I did this on Sunday 12/3.
    3. Offer to help someone who is facing difficulties at the moment. Helped my fellow host in learning what to do in 2 separate incidents with campers.
    4. Support a campaign, cause, or charity you really care about.
    5. Give a gift to someone who is homeless or lonely. Did not do this. No chance to.
    6. Leave a positive message for someone else to find. Did this yesterday.
    7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. I will try. A bit down today. Not feeling well.
    8. Do something helpful for a friend or family member. Will do!
    9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead.
    10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.
    11. But an extra item and donate to a food bank.
    12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love or kindness today.
    13. See how many be people you can smile at today.
    14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one.
    15. Say hello to your neighbor and brighten their day.
    16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you meet today.
    17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you.
    18. Ask for help and let someone else know the how of giving.
    19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated.
    20. Help someone by giving away something you don’t need.
    21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you.
    22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
    23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
    24. Bring joy to others. Share something that made you laugh.
    25. Treat everyone with kindness including yourself.
    26. Get outside, pick up litter or do something kind for nature.
    27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat.
    28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
    29. Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.
    30. Let someone know how much you appreciated them and why.
    31. Plan some new acts of kindness for 2024.



    The results of your personality test are in. Here they are:
    Personality type: Logistician (ISTJ-T)
Traits: Introverted – 69%, Observant – 58%, Thinking – 75%, Judging – 56%, Turbulent – 54%
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: Constant Improvement
    Joined MFPL 5/26/2010
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,301 Member
    Today is: These help me start the day with a smile; I hope it does the same for you! Have a brownie!!
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,692 Member
    edited December 2023
    Lovely lights, Margaret! :D Like Barbie, I am thrilled to see other people's hard work, but I've got to the stage where I choose carefully where I spend my energy. This year I have no desire to decorate at all, but that may change. I do like my LED candles in the fire grate. And my red amaryllis. :D That seems quite enough Yule for me.
    I'm debating whether to make an arrangement of large baubles in a big bowl we have in the corner of the dining room and I want to put the felt decs I made up somewhere. Edie was thinking of coming over to finish her felt angel, but she's got a party, her mum said.
    The kids are growing up! Edie was asking if I thought John's 'boobs' she made were too big, or ought to be bigger. She talked about how some people have 'boob jobs' and 'lip jobs' and how she didn't approve. Then she grabbed my phone to look up 'boob jobs'. I was shouting, "No, no, Edie, don't! " I explained to her that I would get an endless amount of adverts ever after, plus she might end up inadvertently on a pornography site. Max said, "Oh then you'd see horrible stuff! Don't do it Edie!" She did stop. Phew! She doesn't have her own phone at the moment, though Max does. I know her insatiable curiosity will lead her down all kinds of avenues. Max is very rule governed, though goodness knows what the boys do at his school.
    I know her parents will talk to them about this stuff, and probably set parental controls, but it was a reminder of what is out there, a click away. I don't want it on my phone!

    Lanette - I made Scotch Eggs once upon a time, for a street party when we lived in London. 1973. It was a massive amount of work, deep frying them. We had various bands playing on a lorry stage, and one girl, a roady, came and took half of my neatly cut up eggs to give to the band. I was extremely annoyed! It turned out afterwards that the band was Pink Floyd. (Nick Mason lived on our street and was a sort of friend so I wasn't impressed at the time)
    My local butcher's ones are locally homemade, and my favourites, from the best butcher in town, are a great treat, when I am passing. I couldn't make anything better. Unfortunately, you can't freeze them, because of the egg in the middle.

    I've been fighting off a cold the last few days and today felt really 'off' and achy. Soooo stiff and very uncomfortable. I've just had a good nap and taken my temperature, which is normal. I did all my exercises this morning and my writing session, so I think it's some random virus. Hope it passes soon.
    Homemade pizza tonight. Green salad. Not really hungry, but will make it, and probably eat it. It's a wholegrain dough, and not large for two people.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Debbie – way to go girl!!!!



    Car passed inspection. Stopped at Ollies and got Colby a game that I needed to get him. Now all the shopping that I need to do is done until the middle of the month when I have to order gifts from Amazon. Wish they’d let you order and specify a delivery date, but, of course, they don’t and I totally understand


    Michele NC

    I wish that too about Amazon- Especially with the Black Friday sales. Sent gifts to former hubby last year for his parents(both in assisted living place near him). He put them in the attic and then forgot about them. Took a while for him to remember and get them to his parents.

  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,184 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Poerava14 wrote: »
    Annie: If you haven't researched this yet, may I recommend you get versed in the art of the therapeutic lie? For our loved ones with dementia, we can only meet them where they are, then using artful fibs, "redirect" their attention or behavior around to where we want it. Adding my hugs and waves of energy to those of everyone else here.

    Rori

    Yes ... I learned pretty quickly that this was a viable method of dealing with various things.

    Unfortunately, people with dementia or brain injuries don't process things the way we do or don't have the same levels of reasoning and logic ... plus they forget a lot.

    I could have explained and explained and explained, but my husband just wasn't going to get it or remember it.

    M in Oz
    Dh needs to do this with his mom instead of trying over and over to explain it-with both getting louder and louder each time. Some things don't need to be explained in detail. Just gets them both frustrated
    Need him to realize and follow it though.

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