WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »[
Debbie - hope your little chit-chat with MIL starts a new chapter in freeing up your DH from her psychological grip. I see the mama bear growing stronger in you and I like it.
Keep growling, lol.
Well, I've yammered on enough for now. Happy Friday or whatever day it is where you are.
Lanette
SW WA State
Thank you . This is really in a big way selfish on my part. I don't know how much more I can put up with his attitude when he comes home. Something hast to change somewhere. He will end up having a stroke or driving off a cliff(his words) if things don't change and, on her own, she will not change. She has been mean all his life and at 87 after getting away with it all this time, she doesn't think she is doing anything wrong. She loves to pick fights and gets mad if he just sits and doesn't say anything but gets in big fights if he does. Her husband couldn't wait to die to get away from her, her favorite son who still lived with her at almost 50 drove off a cliff. Listed as an accident and we thought it was and still could be but after dh being over with her so much, we are starting to have a bit of doubt. He had just been disabled and would be there all the time instead of at work most of the time.
Barbie- Love the picture of the tree with tinsil. I remember we put some on our tree but grandma put a LOT on hers. None here anymore- with 9 cats in the house, can't have any.
So far only one of the cats(the 5-6 month old) has touched the tree but it has been up only 2 days.None touched it last year.
Dh got a call from work- they need him to go in and redo the cheese table- it went down yesterday so everything go pulled out. He needs to do a reset. He will go do that after he takes care of his mom so, I get the morning to myself. Have a little baking to do before heading over to walk while waiting for Ezie to get out of school. Didn't walk yesterday. It was rainy and windy and COLD and I just didn't feel like getting out in it for an hour. Sat in my car. Kept turning it on to warm up the car while I waited. Parking is terrible so have to get there an hour and a half early. That is when I usually walk. I will layer up and walk today- cold but no rain today.
Want to make candied walnuts, mango rice crispy squares and date bars today to go with the Christmas nougat and Payday bars I made last night for the ladies luncheon tomorrow morning and for the Christmas gifts for former hubby, friends and zumba group-(15 in that group so far. hoping to have them done and hand out on Monday) Want to get the boxes that need to ship out on Wed. Will hand deliver the other ones next weekend if the people will be home. One family won't- I will be pet/house sitting for them for a week while they are in Vegas for their daughter's graduation. Most are right in town. Will have to see when one friend is available. She is traveling a lot- Charlotte (Ms. Beadle from Little House on the Prarie) has been doing a lot of guest appearances the past few months. She is the sweetest lady. Her and her husband love the candies I bring them.
Already have five kinds of fudge(need a few more but not for tomorrow-will work on them tomorrow afternoon or Sunday)caramel corn, cracker toffee done.
Debbie
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Barbie ... I see bubble lights on your former tree! I've been following a group on FaceBook that is into vintage Christmas decorations from the 40's through 60's. I am astounded by what people will pay for some things.
My mom had a rough day with confusion yesterday. Sigh. I'm afraid her slide is picking up speed ...
Today I am mailing the Christmas Cards, meeting with the pastor to go over what he's looking for in my Children's Sermon for Christmas Eve, running to Walmart for some things, and then figuring out what to bake for a Cookie Exchange I got sucked into for tomorrow.
Have a great day!
Beth near Buffalo where the sun is shining for the moment.
I loved bubble lights when I was a kid. Many years ago when I was working and living on base, I bought two sets. I don't know if you can put them on fake trees so they are still in the boxes. I did try to put them on one year(one pack) but was worried about them so they stay in the box. Maybe next year I will have son help me put them on. He has never seen them. They are my favorite.
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Beth, I'm sorry to hear about your mom's confusion. It can make things difficult.
Annie in Delaware4 -
Pip-Have you ever visited Sensorio in Paso? https://sensoriopaso.com/. Congrats to Yogi for becoming a calendar boy. Sorry about your brother!
Today, the mister is going away for the weekend. It's nice to have the house to myself for a short time. It'll be a lot of quiet and reading time.
He was also informed last week that he'll lose his job next month. His current colleague already got another offer. The challenge is finding a place that will let him work part-time.
Off to pack up the cooler. Have a great day and weekend!
Tina in CA
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Lanette – Jerry is still sleeping in the tent. As far as I know, nothing is being done about him finding alternate housing. I once asked him if his sister is looking but he said that no one would rent to him because he drank. To me, that sounds like something his sister just said. I don’t know. I’m not quite sure why BK keeps him on. I suspect he might have some sort of relationship with one of the hourly managers. But since he has emotional issues, perhaps they get a tax break...I just don’t know. He hasn’t come to work drunk in a long time. I do know that he hasn’t given up drinking, tho
Kylia – I’ve done the same thing...fall asleep while typing.
I love that I can come here, type what’s on my mind, get different perspectives. Helps so much.
Beth – we have bubble lights on our main tree. They do sell them today.
I have to try on my elf costume. Honestly, I’m almost afraid to. It’s been years since I wore it (pre-Covid) and my figure has changed (and not for the good). Vince is going to wear his Santa outfit to the ceramics christmas party tomorrow and I’m going to wear the elf costume. Now to get the courage up to put it on
Margaret “look good at night and during the day”. This is why inflatables just don’t appeal to me. I really like blowmolds. The disadvantage is that they take up so much space to store them whereas inflatables don’t take up as much room. But during the day when they are deflated, looks sad to me
Vince went to Statesville (probably about 20 minutes away) to get this Old English sheepdog blow mold. It means a lot because when we were first married, we had an OES. It's soooo cute. He saw one at the Home Depot here, but it was sold so he went to Statesville for it. The bad part is that it doesn't have a light bulb inside it, but he thinks he can put one in.
Annie – I’m the same way, if I read and don’t answer right away, it goes completely out of my mind
Anne DE – I bet you’re also getting good at “accidentally on purpose forgetting to mention something or do something”
barbie – that tinsel on your tree sure brought back memories
Debbie – our bubble lights do get very hot. We just bought replacements and saw that they are selling the lights, but they do get hot. I do have to be careful not to have any ornaments very near them
Tina – I’m so sorry to hear about your dh. And right before the holidays, too!
Well, off to try on the elf costume. Wish me luck
Michele NC
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Still feeling awful. I didn’t eat the pizza, though I managed to make it. I felt sick and very achy. I've put my half in the fridge for lunch tomorrow. John always believes I'm sick when I go off my food. A very rare occurrence!
Tomorrow is another day.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
Michele good luck with your elf costume!
I try to do what I say I will, but some things do get put off indefinitely. It happens.
Annie in Delaware3 -
To those of you I have sent Christmas cards to, don't feel obligated to send one back if that's not your thing. I like to send out cards, but I don't do it to get cards. Hugs from Whidbey!
Rebecca4 -
Kylia - hope you have a great weekend and hope you can get rested up. You are one of the most high-energy people I know, I think you can do the jobs of three women simultaneously. "When you want something to get done, give it to a busy person."
Debbie - I can smell all of your delicious baking all the way up here! You are so sweet to make things for neighbors and friends. My "cookie" neighbor posted pictures of her tables and counters full of cookies and candy - she bakes for weeks and freezes as she goes then assembles plates and drops them off around the neighborhood.
Machka - Nice tree! Once it was decorated, I had to look twice to see that it wasn't an evergreen.
Michele - you as an elf and Vince as Santa will be the hit of the party!
Pip -sorry to hear about your brother's health problems. Hopefully your mom will ease up on him.
Heather - sorry you are under the weather.
When I made scotch eggs, I baked them in the oven on a rack. They probably aren't "authentic" but I thought they were yummy. I need to dig out the recipe.
I skipped the Christmas lunch get-together and spent most of the day working on the chicken run. Hopefully my fixes won't detach and blow away - there's not supposed to be a lot of wind with the rain this weekend. I'll keep an eye on it. The girls should stay fairly dry.
Lanette
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Tina – I’m so sorry to hear about your dh. And right before the holidays, too!
Well, off to try on the elf costume. Wish me luck
Michele NC
There are nearly always massive layoffs in this city just before the end of the year, so it wasn't unexpected for us. So many of the companies here (biotech/pharma) are public and need to look as if they have more cash at the end of the year. His company simply ran out of funding. He knew it was coming.
Hope the elf costume fitting was successful!
Tina in CA
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Pip-Have you ever visited Sensorio in Paso? https://sensoriopaso.com/. Congrats to Yogi for becoming a calendar boy. Sorry about your brother!
Today, the mister is going away for the weekend. It's nice to have the house to myself for a short time. It'll be a lot of quiet and reading time.
He was also informed last week that he'll lose his job next month. His current colleague already got another offer. The challenge is finding a place that will let him work part-time.
Off to pack up the cooler. Have a great day and weekend!
Tina in CA
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Pip-Have you ever visited Sensorio in Paso? https://sensoriopaso.com/. Congrats to Yogi for becoming a calendar boy. Sorry about your brother!
Tina in CA
No I haven’t,
It's a nice display. I think it runs through the end of the year up in Paso.
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Kylia - hope you have a great weekend and hope you can get rested up. You are one of the most high-energy people I know, I think you can do the jobs of three women simultaneously. "When you want something to get done, give it to a busy person."
Debbie - I can smell all of your delicious baking all the way up here! You are so sweet to make things for neighbors and friends. My "cookie" neighbor posted pictures of her tables and counters full of cookies and candy - she bakes for weeks and freezes as she goes then assembles plates and drops them off around the neighborhood.
Machka - Nice tree! Once it was decorated, I had to look twice to see that it wasn't an evergreen.
Michele - you as an elf and Vince as Santa will be the hit of the party!
Pip -sorry to hear about your brother's health problems. Hopefully your mom will ease up on him.
Heather - sorry you are under the weather. When I made scotch eggs, I baked them in the oven on a rack. They probably aren't "authentic" but I thought they were yummy. I need to dig out the recipe.
I skipped the Christmas lunch get-together and spent most of the day working on the chicken run. Hopefully my fixes won't detach and blow away - there's not supposed to be a lot of wind with the rain this weekend. I'll keep an eye on it. The girls should stay fairly dry.
Lanette
SW WA State
He’s not staying with mom right now, he’s at my sisters house. Mom is a different bird, it’s not in her dna to “ease up”, sad but true, she’s pushed us all away7 -
Barbie, belated thanks for a new month!
Rebecca, Eli, Athena andTucker too! And for the pics!
Heather, hope you feel better soon.
Rori and Lanette, so sorry to hear of your respective losses. Hugs for both of you.
Debbie, so glad you stood up to your mil. Has your hubby ever tried just leaving when she starts getting pissy? That approach may work, or not, she’s got some pretty well entrenched issues and behaviours.
Pip, congrats to your pin up boy!! Great pics of Yogi.
Tracey, love your paintings and the ceramic hot tub Santa!
Barbara, your two dogs cuddled up and sleeping is such a sweet pic!
Lisa, the sunroom is looking great! I remember the shirtless Corey pic, it was a goodie!
I know I missed folks, but my brain just can’t come up with anything else! Please know that I’m thinking of all of you!
I’m feeling not great today, tested negative for Covid this morning, so I guess it’s just a cold. I will test again, possibly as soon as tonight, definitely tomorrow morning. Hopefully it will continue to be negative…. I got my younger son’s Christmas package in the mail today which means he will actually get it before Christmas, yay!!! lol
That’s all I’ve got for now. Hugs for those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to any new gals!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island6 -
Evening ladies off to bed,nothing great on the telly.and I need some sleep.1
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Annie Thanks for the heads up about the flours. It appears you use less and add more moisture with eggs or added liquid. A friend at church uses them for her gluten free husband I will ask her for some tips too!
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Well, the elf didn’t eat too many holiday cookies! The only thing I had to do was reinforce the bell on one of the shoes. It was holding on by just one thread.
I would like to get another wide patent leather belt for the costume. I would like the one I have to be bigger. If anyone has one (and I know they are hard to come by), please let me know. I will certainly pay you for it.
In a way I wish we didn’t have the ceramics party tomorrow. It’s supposed to be nice weather and we could do outdoor decorating. They’re calling for rain on Sunday.
Michele NC4 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Rori and Machka - I know about therapeutic lies, but I am resisting that. Often I have to correct my mom so that medical personnel have accurate info. But if it doesn't hurt anything I let it go. I want them to trust me, so I hesitate to lie outright, but I'm pretty clever at picking elements of the truth. With mom, we talk about her decline, but I don't mention cancer. We let her believe she might get better, even though that's a fantasy.
Annie in Delaware
My most used therapeutic lies were along the lines of ...
To: We need to do this now! I respond: "Don't worry, I will look into that", or "It's on my list, I just need to do a couple other things first", "I'm in the process of investigating our options". (Not going to happen!)
To: I'm going to go back to work on Monday (a common comment) I respond: "It might not happen on Monday, but we'll see about one day later in the week." (Not going to happen for a long time if ever!)
To: Bring the bicycles in and we'll ride to the end of the cycleway! I respond: I can't bring the bicycles in right now, but how about we go for a walk in the park this weekend instead." (Not going to happen for a few months at least!)
Essentially I pushed things out into the near future (and hoped he would forget about it) or indicated that I'm on it - investigating, taking steps to make it happen (and hoped he would forget about it).
M in Oz
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He’s not staying with mom right now, he’s at my sisters house. Mom is a different bird, it’s not in her dna to “ease up”, sad but true, she’s pushed us all away[/quote]
Sounds so much like MIL-She was back at it this evening. Just because he didn't go over early to put her garbage can in. We have told her to leave it out there and he will put it away. It can stay out a few hours. She went out and pulled it in. Last time she did it she fell, hit her head and a lady driving by called 911. Dh got over there when the ambulance etc was there. She was fine.
He came so upset/mad- after about 20 min of going off, he went in and laid down and slept a few hours. Just got up to eat before going back to bed-working at 2AM tomorrow.
Guess my talk with her didn't do anything.
I will call the garbage company. I heard that if you call and say you need help with putting the cans out or putting them away to just let them know and the garbage guy will do it for her.
I will be calling Monday.
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dlfk202000 wrote: »
Sounds so much like MIL-She was back at it this evening. Just because he didn't go over early to put her garbage can in. We have told her to leave it out there and he will put it away. It can stay out a few hours. She went out and pulled it in. Last time she did it she fell, hit her head and a lady driving by called 911. Dh got over there when the ambulance etc was there. She was fine.
He came so upset/mad- after about 20 min of going off, he went in and laid down and slept a few hours. Just got up to eat before going back to bed-working at 2AM tomorrow.
Guess my talk with her didn't do anything.
I will call the garbage company. I heard that if you call and say you need help with putting the cans out or putting them away to just let them know and the garbage guy will do it for her.
I will be calling Monday.
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Keep doing it anyway!
It's not going to work miracles the very first time. You've got to be consistent.
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Good evening Everyone. I have just read about 12 pages but didn't take notes.
Machka: I love your Christmas letter! And Christmas tree!
Debbie: I hope your MIL eases up over the next couple of weeks so you can have a good holiday season.
Allie: I am not sure who suggested Smiles as Miles is nick name, but I certainly agree.
Heather: My husband was the same about finances. He did give me a power of attorney if he became incapictated. One night I couldn't sleep. He was sleeping downstairs by this time. I got up went downstairs, woke him up and said in the morning you are going to transfer X amount of funds to the joint account. Then I went back upstairs and fell asleep. He transferred the funds in the morning. He knew I was right.
Annie: We did have a stair lift for at least a year maybe longer. I can see that it may not be used very long or be safe for your Mom. The stairs aren't so safe either because she could cause you or your Dad to fall if she loses her balance. Any chance of putting the hospital bed to the side and setting up your
parents bed downstairs. If your Dad slept downstairs maybe your Mom would sleep downstairs. Your doing a great job caring for your parents!
I hope to take some notes tomorrow and post more.
I have been decluttering and have made strides with this. My weight is up and I have found a December challenge where there is a walking video every day. I believe these videos are better than regular walking because they incorporate other exercises. I feel better after I do them. Went downtown with some friends to see the Christmas lights. I still haven't heard from my son when he is coming home for Christmas. Sigh...I am still getting use to having a married adult child!
My son was scanning the Internet and found the website where he went to summer camp in 2005. Apparently the camp posts pictures by year on the website. They had pictures going back before 2005. There were 12 pictures of my son on the website. What a delight to find! I wish my husband could have seen the pictures! I am working on getting them printed out!
I have eye strain and went for an eye exam. I need new lenses and they are very strong lenses for farsighted people and would be very thick if I didn't pay for the thinner lenses. So I will re-use the frames I have and I purchased vision insurance. Between the 2 I am saving $400 over what I paid last time I needed glasses. I am pleased!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia8 -
First raspberry harvest ...
Machka in Oz
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Good morning ladies!
Rosemarie last time my mom slept downstairs in a chair was when she broke her shoulder. Dad slept on the couch with her. So I imagine he would do the same if she was in the hospital bed. I can't think how we could get their bed downstairs or where it could go, but I will think on it. Good idea!
They spend a fair amount of daytime sleeping on the couch, Mom upright in her spot, and Dad stretched out. They could do that all night. But no, Mom insists on climbing the stairs. You are right, it is dangerous.
It has been sad watching Dad this season. He forgot how the decorations go. He forgot the advent wreath until late, then he forgot the little verse for lighting the candles. Things he did my whole life.
Machka I do say things like that. Lovely berries!
Deadenddiva welcome!
Evelyn hope you feel better!
Tina sorry to hear about the mister's job.
Pip hope your brother fares well. Families are a blessing and a scourge.
That reminds me, I sent an email to my cousin maybe two weeks ago about my mom. He hasn't responded. Either he is mad at me or he never got the email. Hmmm. It's time for my dad to inform the whole family with his group email. That will be a challenge to get done.
Have a great day ladies!
Annie in Delaware
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Had an awful, wakeful, night with aches and nausea. This morning I decided to go back to bed. Managed to find a painkiller combo that worked and fell blissfully, heavily, asleep. 90 minutes later I surfaced.
While I was fast asleep, Edie had asked if she could come over this afternoon. John had put her off. He's right, but I still feel sad.
I managed to eat lunch! Gradually feeling better.
Haven't had anything quite like that before. No fever, but really fluey and nauseous.
On the mend I think.
I will try to finish the Christmas cards later today, otherwise taking it easy in my pj's, and waiting for Amazon. Must clean my teeth!!!
Love Heather UK xxxxxx5 -
Heather- Gee sure do hope you feel better
And Annie,like I said try some of the old time music it works wonders.
Im awake ,but still.snuggled in bed with Alfie..2 -
Welcomes!
Hugs!
We had a wonderful day yesterday. The weather was pleasant. We shopped one side of the town. Today we will shop the other side. They are calling for rain around 1, but we brought rain gear and umbrella. I won't get as many steps as we will drive into town instead of walking. Oh well, better that carrying packages in the rain.
My DH wishes I was a better drinker.....I had two, then got the hiccups. He drank my 3rd in addition to his beer. My tummy just doesn't handle it well. Not a hateful thing to not be good at. Lol! He snoozed away at 9 pm. Unfortunately, I was up til 1 am. Ladies came into room next door and were loud! He is still asleep.
We ate breakfast and dinner yesterday. After breakfast, in spite of 10k steps, I really wasn't hungry again. The joints hurt today due to the salt. DH requires food, though he has to start walking more. His belly is too big for a pre-diabetic. Let's see if I can make that happen. Drinks and snacks too much. I can encourage, but can't do it for him. The thought of buying larger shirts might be his encouragement.....
Machka Love the raspberries!
Kylia not in Ohio temporarily
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