WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2025

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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,608 Member

    we saw them when we went down to take care of MIL's paperwork last year. Never rode in one. Was very strange to see.

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,311 Member

    Debbie - My thoughts are with you and your husband. As you have rightly said, there is a lot of healing to do. 💗

    Yes, Lisa, he is very fortunate, and he knows it. He has also gained two stepchildren, one of which is a bit of a worry, and one of which is delightful. Unfortunately, he is not remotely self-sufficient financially, so, if she got fed up with him, it would be a big problem. No sign of that, thankfully.

    Our heatwave hasn't arrived here just yet, though the rest of the country is baking. We are always cooler here, but this is cloud cover. John is off to cricket today. Haven't yet decided on my funny lunch. It partly depends on what happens to the temperature. I will do cold salmon salad for dinner, with some kind of tinned bean, and asparagus.

    Flea - My nephew is coeliac. Yes, a great deal of trouble, with separate everything. He was a teenager when they discovered it.

    Kim - Just, my every sympathy. And hopes for improvement. :-) xxxxxxxx

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,311 Member

    I've just tackled a job I've been putting off; cleaning the washing machine filter. I've been having to put bicarb in every wash, to avoid a mould smell, so I suspected the filter. It was pretty clean! Just a tiny corner of residue. Washed it, cleaned out the cavity,and put it back. The mould is most likely from the utility room's enclosed space. I hang dry everything in there, no tumbler dryer. Fortunately, the bicarb seems to be working. The hardest part of the job was getting down on to the floor and up again! 😅 I have hinted to John that I would appreciate him looking at the dishwasher filter. He is the washer-upper, so it is his responsibility. I don't think he has ever done it. (I had never done the washing machine either)

    So, I'm feeling virtuous. I also did half an hour of exercises this morning, and blanched the asparagus for the salad. All by eight o'clock! I'm going to use flageolet beans for the salad.

    I've asked my son for a list of things they can't/won't eat, and of the things they love. People have such strong likes/dislikes. I have a feeling that they don't like seafood. I know it's not until the end of August, but my mind starts playing with possibilities. I intend to have one meal out if possible, to save decision fatigue.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,319 Member

    There will likely be a whole range of emotions to work through … don't be surprised if it takes a year or more to sort things out.

    And yes, fatigue will most likely be a large part of it.

    Do a little reading on PTSD, trauma recovery.

    Your husband taking over your son's previous room to sleep and watch movies does not surprise me at all and that may continue for a while.

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,319 Member

    😀 Reading about the lengths that Flea goes to in order to avoid gluten got me thinking about how so many people have to be equally careful about nuts, shellfish, alcohol, strawberries, and various other allergens. I have to avoid avocados. I found out about this about 40 years ago and am careful to ask about them when someone else is preparing my food. People who "keep Kosher",(not mixing meat and dairy in the same meal or cooking one in a pot that's been used for the other), generally don't eat in restaurants or other people's homes. People looking to change their eating habits for health or weight loss could learn a lot from them. It's too easy for the weight loss person to make exceptions and eat whatever is easy rather than sticking to the plan they've made for themselves.

    😀 The first time I decided to not eat at a potluck because of the likelihood that there would be too many foods that didn't fit my plan, I was amazed at how many people besides me didn't eat, either. There were a lot of reasons—-allergies, special eating plans, health concerns of all kinds. Along with that, there were too many people urging us to try something, or take just a bite, or being pushy in other ways.

    I think the reason people are pushy at potlucks and similar sorts of things is because their identity is tied up with making food. If others reject the food, it's like they, themselves, are being rejected. They think about themselves rather than other people.

    And I agree … I have to avoid certain foods because of a negative reaction to them. Although I love peanuts and nuts, they are (mostly) easy to avoid .. and interestingly people don't push those items on me. I think people are used to the idea (or are getting used to the idea) that many people have to avoid certain foods.

    With the upsurge in people who are on a keto/high protein diet or a "no sugar" diet etc. etc., I have found that fewer people push food.

    This is great for me because I can choose to eat the raw fruit and veggies at a morning tea … rather than the sausage rolls and party-sized meat pies … and no one makes a comment.

    I also feel a lot more comfortable ordering vegetarian meals.

    BTW - gluten-free desserts are fantastic! On the occasions we eat out, I'll usually choose the gluten-free dessert choice.

    Machka in Oz

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,311 Member

    Good thinking Barbie. Think of it as the dogs having a holiday!

    When I lived in Mexico City, on my Gulbenkian scholarship, I used to get up early in the morning a few times a week to get to the park to do indigenous dancing. On my way home, coming out of the Metro, there was a woman cooking tamales in the street, and the smell was irresistible. I always bought one for breakfast. I liked a little meat in the middle.

    I'm wondering if anyone stocks those frozen tamales here. :-)

    Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,311 Member

    No, they don't. Boo!

    Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,311 Member
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    Yeah! The reason why we bought our house here. Our deli, butcher, cafe, hairdressers, general store, plant shop etc etc.

    Heather, proudly Hovarian. UK.

  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,992 Member

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 18,060 Member

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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,769 Member

    Did a Firm DVD. The one I was planning to do didn’t work in my DVDplayer. That’s what I get for buying them at a thrift store….lol Then I did the warrior Yoga DVD. Boy, do I need more yoga

    Lisa – good thoughts for your son that the separation goes well

    Okie – I would guess, with the land under the power lines (we just have to keep it mowed, as long as it’s green – even green weeds –I’m happy) we have about 1-1/2 acres

    Went to NY Hibachi last night. I don’t know what it was, but something didn’t agree with me. I was up all night. I even had a cup of tea along with some saltines hoping that that would settle my stomach. One of them must have worked because I was able to eat an egg this morning.

    Debbie – My sympathies to you and yours

    M – great weight loss

    I’m going to go outside to see if it’s dry enough to start mowing.

    Michele NC

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,668 Member

    "So I'm heading back on the no added sugar, no white carbs for a week or two and will see what happens. It's pretty much the way I was eating last summer and it was super easy.

    Lanette 😎"

    That is the best way to eat all the time. You remove sugar and white carbs and eat everything else, you automatically get rid of all junk food (what I call them) and your body heals by itself. Great idea. I'm trying that as well, but with DH cooking, it makes it hard.

    Thought for Today:

    I'm such a good navigator, a self-driving car once asked me for directions.

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    RVRita in Roswell 👽️

  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,833 Member

    Lisa — thanks for the tip. It looks like one of the Safeways in the town next to us has them, so I might need to check them out!

    Flea

    Willamette Valley, OR

  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 4,574 Member

    I have really been mindful of not eating a lot of sugar or sodium in my diet. I notice my skin is clearer, my gums happier, and my joints less achy.

    There is one day when I was off the chart, but otherwise under!😂

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    Rebecca Whidbey Wa