Why all the negativity???Where is the Motivation?

gabbygirl78
Posts: 936 Member
I'm seriously considering staying out of the message board. I read to see how other's may be dealing with certain situations or for some helpful hints with things but I have decided that people are just mean!!! Talk about cyber bullying. Making people feel completely stupid with the stuff they post is form of bullying~:" "indirect bullying", at least in some instances, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.". Most of the people on here probably have or have had problems with self esteem and are looking for support and encouragement. They don't need people with their negative arrogant thoughts knocking them in the dirt with every little post. They get enough of that with the society as a whole. I am completely sick at the way people treat other people, especially on a site that is suppose to be for motivational purposes.... Sorry for the total rant... i'm climbing down off my soapbox now and bracing myself for the expected negativity this may draw.:yawn:
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I am here for mutual support and ther will never be any negativity from me.....if you want a positive friend I am here just add me0
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I am here for mutual support and ther will never be any negativity from me.....if you want a positive friend I am here just add me
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Well said. Good for you.
I find this to be the truth on many message boards. I guess the anonymity brings out the not so nice side in a lot of people?
Some of us are nice and positive.0 -
Have noticed the same here. Seems to have got worse in the few months I have been on this.0
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Well said. Good for you.
I find this to be the truth on many message boards. I guess the anonymity brings out the not so nice side in a lot of people?
Some of us are nice and positive.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels this way! I need positive in my journey not negative. thank you so much!0 -
I deal with all of this with humour. When there's no bad reaction, they quit and then we laugh.
If you get upset it will make them try harder to wound you. Take it in your stride.0 -
i am happy to be friends with nice modivating people with no negavity....add me if u want0
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Just in case you weren't aware of this feature, when you go to the message boards section, there is a button called search and you can type in a keyword/phrase (ex: rude/mean/butthurt) and you can see the threads that have already been created on the topic. Good luck! :flowerforyou:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/992167-some-of-you-are-just-plain-rude?hl=rude
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1033717-rant-why-is-everyone-so-mean?hl=mean+people&page=3#posts-15856061
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/976527-when-people-offer-advice-stop-being-rude-and-degrading?hl=rude
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/920791-mfp-not-helping-or-showing-support-just-being-rude?hl=rude&page=15#posts-13981890
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/900646-being-rude-is-not-giving-support?hl=rude&page=3#posts-13625845
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/855369-seeing-a-lot-of-rude-comments-about-1200-cal?hl=rude#posts-12874305
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=rude&page=16#posts-12297324
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/799446-rudeness-on-forums?hl=rude&page=2#posts-11939451
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/774191-what-s-up-with-all-the-rude-sarcastic-people-here?hl=rude&page=4#posts-11507301
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=mean+people
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1092526-bullies-meanies-and-police-oh-my?hl=bully
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/789026-mean-people?hl=mean+people&page=2#posts-11759423
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/883246-mean-people-waste-the-internet?hl=mean+people#posts-13325677
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp?hl=mean+people0 -
So when someone disagrees with you, they are being negative? :huh:
Ok :laugh:
ETA: Good luck. :flowerforyou:0 -
Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"
I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.0 -
I've never noticed huge negativity, or at least larger than you'd find on any other forum. A lot of the time it comes from frustration with people who ask for advice but only listens to the advice they want to hear. It gets very annoying.0
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Just in case you weren't aware of this feature, when you go to the message boards section, there is a button called search and you can type in a keyword/phrase (ex: rude/mean/butthurt) and you can see the threads that have already been created on the topic. Good luck! :flowerforyou:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/992167-some-of-you-are-just-plain-rude?hl=rude
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1033717-rant-why-is-everyone-so-mean?hl=mean+people&page=3#posts-15856061
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/976527-when-people-offer-advice-stop-being-rude-and-degrading?hl=rude
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/920791-mfp-not-helping-or-showing-support-just-being-rude?hl=rude&page=15#posts-13981890
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/900646-being-rude-is-not-giving-support?hl=rude&page=3#posts-13625845
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/855369-seeing-a-lot-of-rude-comments-about-1200-cal?hl=rude#posts-12874305
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=rude&page=16#posts-12297324
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/799446-rudeness-on-forums?hl=rude&page=2#posts-11939451
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/774191-what-s-up-with-all-the-rude-sarcastic-people-here?hl=rude&page=4#posts-11507301
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=mean+people
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1092526-bullies-meanies-and-police-oh-my?hl=bully
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/789026-mean-people?hl=mean+people&page=2#posts-11759423
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/883246-mean-people-waste-the-internet?hl=mean+people#posts-13325677
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp?hl=mean+people0 -
Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"
I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.
Having just come from a topic where the OP complained about negativity, you would be correct.0 -
I want the "bullies" to stick around. This place is far more entertaining because of it.0
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I've got a serious question. if you are thinking that an internet forum is not for you, then why post that you are thinking of staying away from the boards? Seems a bit dramatic and unnecessary, in my opinion.
Also, I recommend that if these forums are too much for you to handle that 1) it may be you needing to not focus so much on the supposed tone of said disagreement/post and 2) don't go on other forums, like for gaming. They make MFP look so tame.
And finally...disagreeing =/= negativity.
For anyone wondering why this particular 'mean person thread' was created:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1099829-learn-what-it-means-to-eat-clean?page=30 -
example?0
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:yawn:0
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This thread is just plain awesome and I think everyone should read it.
People are going to disagree. It happens. It's the internet there are a lot of opinions and false information out there. Sometimes though the posts that are seen as "negative" are usually the ones filled with the most helpful information.0 -
:huh:
The silent treatment?0 -
Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"
I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.
First whether it be the person on simply the idea... it should never be called stupid. That is what I am talking about. Why must it be "stupid " because you don't agree with it?0
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