Why all the negativity???Where is the Motivation?

gabbygirl78

I'm seriously considering staying out of the message board. I read to see how other's may be dealing with certain situations or for some helpful hints with things but I have decided that people are just mean!!! Talk about cyber bullying. Making people feel completely stupid with the stuff they post is form of bullying~:" "indirect bullying", at least in some instances, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.". Most of the people on here probably have or have had problems with self esteem and are looking for support and encouragement. They don't need people with their negative arrogant thoughts knocking them in the dirt with every little post. They get enough of that with the society as a whole. I am completely sick at the way people treat other people, especially on a site that is suppose to be for motivational purposes.... Sorry for the total rant... i'm climbing down off my soapbox now and bracing myself for the expected negativity this may draw.:yawn:

VoicelessRide

I am here for mutual support and ther will never be any negativity from me.....if you want a positive friend I am here just add me

gabbygirl78

I am here for mutual support and ther will never be any negativity from me.....if you want a positive friend I am here just add me

Thanks

Alisontheice

Well said. Good for you.
I find this to be the truth on many message boards. I guess the anonymity brings out the not so nice side in a lot of people?
Some of us are nice and positive.

FlabFighter86

Have noticed the same here. Seems to have got worse in the few months I have been on this.

gabbygirl78

Well said. Good for you.
I find this to be the truth on many message boards. I guess the anonymity brings out the not so nice side in a lot of people?
Some of us are nice and positive.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels this way! I need positive in my journey not negative. thank you so much!

LumpySpacePrincess1

I deal with all of this with humour. When there's no bad reaction, they quit and then we laugh.
If you get upset it will make them try harder to wound you. Take it in your stride.

VoicelessRide

i am happy to be friends with nice modivating people with no negavity....add me if u want

pastryari

Just in case you weren't aware of this feature, when you go to the message boards section, there is a button called search and you can type in a keyword/phrase (ex: rude/mean/butthurt) and you can see the threads that have already been created on the topic. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/992167-some-of-you-are-just-plain-rude?hl=rude

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1033717-rant-why-is-everyone-so-mean?hl=mean+people&page=3#posts-15856061

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/976527-when-people-offer-advice-stop-being-rude-and-degrading?hl=rude

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/920791-mfp-not-helping-or-showing-support-just-being-rude?hl=rude&page=15#posts-13981890

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/900646-being-rude-is-not-giving-support?hl=rude&page=3#posts-13625845

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/855369-seeing-a-lot-of-rude-comments-about-1200-cal?hl=rude#posts-12874305

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=rude&page=16#posts-12297324

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/799446-rudeness-on-forums?hl=rude&page=2#posts-11939451

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/774191-what-s-up-with-all-the-rude-sarcastic-people-here?hl=rude&page=4#posts-11507301

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=mean+people

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1092526-bullies-meanies-and-police-oh-my?hl=bully

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/789026-mean-people?hl=mean+people&page=2#posts-11759423

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/883246-mean-people-waste-the-internet?hl=mean+people#posts-13325677

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp?hl=mean+people

Serah87

So when someone disagrees with you, they are being negative? :huh:

Ok :laugh:

ETA: Good luck. :flowerforyou:

Kamikazeflutterby

Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"

I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.

snazzyjazzy21

I've never noticed huge negativity, or at least larger than you'd find on any other forum. A lot of the time it comes from frustration with people who ask for advice but only listens to the advice they want to hear. It gets very annoying.

RuleFive

Just in case you weren't aware of this feature, when you go to the message boards section, there is a button called search and you can type in a keyword/phrase (ex: rude/mean/butthurt) and you can see the threads that have already been created on the topic. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/992167-some-of-you-are-just-plain-rude?hl=rude

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1033717-rant-why-is-everyone-so-mean?hl=mean+people&page=3#posts-15856061

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/976527-when-people-offer-advice-stop-being-rude-and-degrading?hl=rude

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/920791-mfp-not-helping-or-showing-support-just-being-rude?hl=rude&page=15#posts-13981890

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/900646-being-rude-is-not-giving-support?hl=rude&page=3#posts-13625845

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/855369-seeing-a-lot-of-rude-comments-about-1200-cal?hl=rude#posts-12874305

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=rude&page=16#posts-12297324

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/799446-rudeness-on-forums?hl=rude&page=2#posts-11939451

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/774191-what-s-up-with-all-the-rude-sarcastic-people-here?hl=rude&page=4#posts-11507301

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819763-rude-mean-people-on-here?hl=mean+people

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1092526-bullies-meanies-and-police-oh-my?hl=bully

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/789026-mean-people?hl=mean+people&page=2#posts-11759423

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/883246-mean-people-waste-the-internet?hl=mean+people#posts-13325677

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp?hl=mean+people

thesupremeforce

Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"

I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.

Having just come from a topic where the OP complained about negativity, you would be correct.

da_bears10089

I want the "bullies" to stick around. This place is far more entertaining because of it.

PikaKnight

I've got a serious question. if you are thinking that an internet forum is not for you, then why post that you are thinking of staying away from the boards? Seems a bit dramatic and unnecessary, in my opinion.

Also, I recommend that if these forums are too much for you to handle that 1) it may be you needing to not focus so much on the supposed tone of said disagreement/post and 2) don't go on other forums, like for gaming. They make MFP look so tame.

And finally...disagreeing =/= negativity.


For anyone wondering why this particular 'mean person thread' was created:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1099829-learn-what-it-means-to-eat-clean?page=3

Cranquistador

example?

Mia_RagazzaTosta

:yawn:

shadow2soul

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp?hl=mean+people

This thread is just plain awesome and I think everyone should read it.

People are going to disagree. It happens. It's the internet there are a lot of opinions and false information out there. Sometimes though the posts that are seen as "negative" are usually the ones filled with the most helpful information.

RGv2

:huh:

The silent treatment?

gabbygirl78

Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"

I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.

First whether it be the person on simply the idea... it should never be called stupid. That is what I am talking about. Why must it be "stupid " because you don't agree with it?

LumpySpacePrincess1

Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"

I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.

Ah totes. A guy on another thread tried to get another dude banned for laughing at OP for being delusional.
Even saying it makes me feel like I'm in high school.

Contrarian

How can you tell when someone is giving you "the silent treatment" on a message board?

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

I get so much support on my wall. Lots and lots of support. My friends are the greatest.

As for the forums, there's a lot of derp. The people who call the derp what it is are the unsung heroes of MFP, even if they tick people off and get called "meanies."

Without debate, there would be no critical thinking. I LOVE debate. I love critical thinking.



and gifs.

ryry_

the silent treatment,

Ok...I'm probably cyber bullying you..but...how does one give someone the silent treament on an internet forum?

I'm just imagining somebody not posting on a topic and saying "That'll show em'" I don't know why but it makes me laugh.

ETA: Apparently I'm not the only inquiring mind that wants to know.

cwolfman13

Much of what is often perceived as "rude" or whatever is actually people who know what they're talking about correcting someone who is just slinging around a bunch of diet and fitness myths and broscience. It's actually far more rude to just go along with missinformation.

Of course, noobs don't see it that way...Dr. Oz told them that raspberry ketones were the miracle fat burning cure, so it must be true and everyone must support them...with rainbows and daisies flying out of their *kitten*.

1PatientBear

Much of what is often perceived as "rude" or whatever is actually people who know what they're talking about correcting someone who is just slinging around a bunch of diet and fitness myths and broscience. It's actually far more rude to just go along with missinformation.

Of course, noobs don't see it that way...Dr. Oz told them that raspberry ketones were the miracle fat burning cure, so it must be true and everyone must support them...with rainbows and daisies flying out of their *kitten*.

Yup. Blunt is not the same as rude. Sometimes people may not always say things the way you would like to hear them, but that doesn't make it rude, it doesn't make it bullying and it sure as heck doesn't make it wrong. And, what I have found is that the more someone gets upset about a comment, generally the truer it is to their situation. In other words, the truth hurts.

osothefinn

First whether it be the person on simply the idea... it should never be called stupid. That is what I am talking about. Why must it be "stupid " because you don't agree with it?

So if I say everyone should eat pennies because copper is good for you no one should call me stupid? Alrighty.

This whole "never ever possibly do or say anything that might cause other people to be offended" crap is the worst idea in the history of bad ideas.

Kamikazeflutterby

Honestly? People get called "bullies" for calling bogus diet trends bogus diet trends. It gets freaking old. "Oh no, how dare you say Fat Flush Water/Detox #112/My 21 Day Water Fast is a load of crap? BULLY!"

I do not know what prompted your particular rant, and I honestly don't care enough to browse through your posting history or try and read your mind. I've just quit taking these "everyone's sooo mean" threads seriously because as a whole they are posted when someone cannot tell the difference between calling an idea stupid and calling a person stupid.

First whether it be the person on simply the idea... it should never be called stupid. That is what I am talking about. Why must it be "stupid " because you don't agree with it?

Because some things are stupid. The 21 day water fast? Real example. Someone wanted input on doing a 21 day fast, and anyone who did anything other than blow rainbows up her butt was being "negative." She was trying to get justification for starving herself for three weeks. She wanted support in this, and the scary part was she was actually getting it from some very vocal people.

The detoxes--those too are pretty stupid, and some are actively harmful as well as a waste of money. I'm not going to tell someone that it's a smart idea to poop for two weeks to remove nonexistent "toxins" precisely because I think that would be a mean thing to encourage. But go ahead, encourage someone's butt water blowout and pat yourself on the back for supporting them. I guess that makes you a nicer person than me.

Contrarian

*gives everyone the silent treatment*

ThickMcRunFast

I too experienced the meanies of MFP. I wrote a thread about it

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp