Why all the negativity???Where is the Motivation?

RGv2

I got noth'n....



boop..

sullus

If you're going to use energy to reply to a post, don't waste it with negativity or sarcasm.

... Amuses me

Be kind!

... Does not amuses me

neandermagnon

arguing others into submission is normal primate behaviour. Humans do this verbally, while other primates beat their chests, make a lot of noise and stamp on things. Humans are inclined to do that too, if the argument escalates sufficiently.

Bonobos actually do this by having sex with each other.

they use sex for conflict resolution and appeasement... arguing/displaying is conflict. they don't have sex as part of actual conflicts, it's more like the bonobo equivalent of "hey, lets agree to disagree"

This was the point.

I was talking about displaying and actual conflict though (chest beating, arguing) conflict resolution is kind of the opposite... sorry to be pedantic!!! lets agree to disagree :flowerforyou:

BeachIron

I've only read the first page of this topic, but all I know is this(well, it's not all I know :P):

There are ways to treat people, and there are ways not to treat people.

Sarcasm, even though everyone 'speaks' it(a ton of friends on Facebook have 'Sarcasm' as a language), is literally used to try to make a person feel stupid and then makes the person using sarcasm feel all giddy on the inside. Basically, the person using sarcasm is getting pleasure from someone else's pain. I don't know about you, but that sounds like sadism, to me. Of course, sadism without physical pain and -sexual- pleasure. But to me, it's very sadistic-like.

I'm Pagan, and the thing I've learned in life, and the thing that most of the books I've read say:

If it doesn't help you or someone else positively, don't waste the energy.

If someone posts a fad diet, instead of saying things like 'Oh yeah that'll work! Good luck' (sarcasm) or just saying 'fad diets are dumb', you could instead be telling them points as to why this wouldn't work, in a kind manner that actually makes it look like you care about this person's health, even if you could care less. Why use your energy to type up a message that is unkind and sarcastic, when you could fill it with actual information and tips?

If you're going to use energy to reply to a post, don't waste it with negativity or sarcasm.

Be kind!

So . . . . you're Pagan?

firstsip

arguing others into submission is normal primate behaviour. Humans do this verbally, while other primates beat their chests, make a lot of noise and stamp on things. Humans are inclined to do that too, if the argument escalates sufficiently.

Bonobos actually do this by having sex with each other.

they use sex for conflict resolution and appeasement... arguing/displaying is conflict. they don't have sex as part of actual conflicts, it's more like the bonobo equivalent of "hey, lets agree to disagree"

This was the point.

I was talking about displaying and actual conflict though (chest beating, arguing) conflict resolution is kind of the opposite... sorry to be pedantic!!! lets agree to disagree :flowerforyou:

I don't think you're getting what I'm laying down. Emphasis on "lay."

burlingtongrl

I'm sending some encouragement your way! You are doing great; keep it up.

redladywitch

I see a lot of joking around on the forums. I think you're way too sensitive. Lighten up and let it roll off your back. It's all good!

TeresaMarie46

i am happy to be friends with nice modivating people with no negavity....add me if u want

^^THIS^^

Contrarian

*gives everyone the silent treatment*

*insert silent treatment here*

There. My cyber-bullying is done for today.

*stares at you*

Why you bully me, Contrarian?!?! :sad:

*more silent treatment*

Rays_Wife

delicious_cocktail

I don't think you're getting what I'm laying down. Emphasis on "lay."

Uhm. Can I argue with you? Because I frikkin get it. We are in conflict about how much I get it, and that conflict needs to be resolved. Also bonobo is my favorite U2.

lilacs211

When a message is negative it could be you are taking it too personal you have the option not to read and move on

firstsip

I don't think you're getting what I'm laying down. Emphasis on "lay."

Uhm. Can I argue with you? Because I frikkin get it. We are in conflict about how much I get it, and that conflict needs to be resolved. Also bonobo is my favorite U2.

Well, I guess I'll just beat my chest at you. Things could have gone so differently.

zyxst

arguing others into submission is normal primate behaviour. Humans do this verbally, while other primates beat their chests, make a lot of noise and stamp on things. Humans are inclined to do that too, if the argument escalates sufficiently.

And to my silent treatment givers:

JenniferH81

I've noticed this too. But the bigger problem is the fact that it completely strays from the main subject. Arguing, sarcasm and gif filled threads make it really hard to try to research and Learn. Which is why I'm here, not to watch people rip apart the OP for asking a question.

deksgrl

delicious_cocktail

I've noticed this too. But the bigger problem is the fact that it completely strays from the main subject. Arguing, sarcasm and gif filled threads make it really hard to try to research and Learn. Which is why I'm here, not to watch people rip apart the OP for asking a question.

Do you have a question? What would you like to learn?

People get ripped apart on threads like this, on threads about how good "cleanses" are and how someone's aunt nellie really got great results with green tea extract.

I've never seen someone get anything other than support for simply asking a question.

Give me an example if you have one. Oh and welcome.

LumpySpacePrincess1

I've noticed this too. But the bigger problem is the fact that it completely strays from the main subject. Arguing, sarcasm and gif filled threads make it really hard to try to research and Learn. Which is why I'm here, not to watch people rip apart the OP for asking a question.

Do you have a question? What would you like to learn?

People get ripped apart on threads like this, on threads about how good "cleanses" are and how someone's aunt nellie really got great results with green tea extract.

I've never seen someone get anything other than support for simply asking a question.

Give me an example if you have one. Oh and welcome.

Example: "Ma por que??? POR QUE????!!!"
"No worry, Carlo, we fix you more taco."

jofjltncb6

QUICK!

EVERYBODY HIDE!!!

THE MODS ARE COMING!!!!

redladywitch

QUICK!

EVERYBODY HIDE!!!

THE MODS ARE COMING!!!!

Noooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ldrosophila

It's public, free, and open.

The best things to do are either approach it with humor, approach it with a civilized argument response (this often can defuse an idiot), or ignore it.

Continue to be your fun humorous self and motivate your friends and the nice ones.

midnight_storm

Here are my responses in random orders.

1) Yes, I am Pagan, or better yet, Neo-Pagan.

2) Of all the things I could be arrogant about, I'm glad that it's about how people should be nice and kind. So, I will wear the title 'Arrogant' proudly.

3) If you use sarcasm in response to my posts, expect no reply.

BeachIron

Here are my responses in random orders.

1) Yes, I am Pagan, or better yet, Neo-Pagan.

2) Of all the things I could be arrogant about, I'm glad that it's about how people should be nice and kind. So, I will wear the title 'Arrogant' proudly.

3) If you use sarcasm in response to my posts, expect no reply.

Too late . . .

QueenBishOTUniverse

Here are my responses in random orders.

1) Yes, I am Pagan, or better yet, Neo-Pagan.

2) Of all the things I could be arrogant about, I'm glad that it's about how people should be nice and kind. So, I will wear the title 'Arrogant' proudly.

3) If you use sarcasm in response to my posts, expect no reply.

I'm having flashbacks of the parent who tried to get my AP english teacher fired for teaching satanism to students because she was having us read "A Modest Proposal". Sarcasm and satire are literary styles used to express irony and point out contradiction.

P.S. You're being mean and judgemental about people who choose to employ sarcasm, ohh the irony.

Sandytoes71

do what u want to do,
what do you care what others think?

If we didn't care what others think, then we wouldn't post questions on the forums. You know, to find out what others think maybe??

It's crazy that most of you know what the op is saying along with what others are saying when they post this type of topic. You guys know because some of you are the very ones being rude sometimes. You know good and well, that rudeness is a problem but yet you defend it. You love the fight. These people aren't speaking of just when people disagree, they are speaking of out and out rudeness. And you guys KNOW it!

There is never an excuse to be mean. And saying this is the Internet, expect it, is a copout. Yes it is a reality, but not an excuse like so many of you use it as. Grow a heart, people!

PikaKnight

P.S. You're being mean and judgemental about people who choose to employ sarcasm, ohh the irony.

You just blew my mind

delicious_cocktail

do what u want to do,
what do you care what others think?

If we didn't care what others think, then we wouldn't post questions on the forums. You know, to find out what others think maybe??

It's crazy that most of you know what the op is saying along with what others are saying when they post this type of topic. You guys know because some of you are the very ones being rude sometimes. You know good and well, that rudeness is a problem but yet you defend it. You love the fight. These people aren't speaking of just when people disagree, they are speaking of out and out rudeness. And you guys KNOW it!

There is never an excuse to be mean. And saying this is the Internet, expect it, is a copout. Yes it is a reality, but not an excuse like so many of you use it as. Grow a heart, people!

This thread was not at all a question.

Do you have a question?

ashleyisgreat

I've only skimmed this thread, but it seems wildly entertaining, so I am jumping on board so I can read it later.

Paganism? Primates? Jonathan Swift? Yeah...reading this later.

kordell70

I agree with the OP, while I have only been here a short time I have seen many postings where users try and act cool by answering in a very snide and obnoxious manner thinking they are funny. Then when you call them out on it the will say you have no sense of humor and defend themselves as having a "dark" sense of humor or being sarcastic. If you do not like their sense of humor rather than running away from the board and the many people who are willing to help you without the negative remarks just click on the drop down arrow next to the offending persons profile and click "Ignore." Then these individuals will be free to feel superior with their bs comment and you will not have to see them. However, also understand some people are coming from a place of goodness. It is just they use humor in their responses without knowing the person they are talking to. As such their attempt to answer your question with humor becomes muted as the offense you take does not allow you to look past the jokey response toward the answer. Also, you are not going to like everyone you meet (even on a message board). If the person offends you "ignore" them.

Alluminati

This thread gave me Ebola.