Question for the ladies

Carissa145
Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
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How do you subtly let a guy know that you are interested without outright asking him, and without looking like a tramp?
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  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    If women would stop thinking they had to be subtle about it and just ask men what they think all the worlds problems would be instantly solved.
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
    If women would stop thinking they had to be subtle about it and just ask men what they think all the worlds problems would be instantly solved.

    But I don't know what he thinks of me and I don't want to make our friendship really awkward, you know?
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    Just say "hey, I like you. Let's do the sex"

    Works everytime.
  • FrauHaas2013
    FrauHaas2013 Posts: 615 Member
    How do you know this guy? Coworker? Friend? Friend-of-a-friend?
  • callmenikita
    callmenikita Posts: 118 Member
    most guys are oblivious to flirting, or just idiots in general! unfortunately most women are also "unapproachable"
    if suble flirting doesnt work just grow a lady pair and ask him out... the only way you will look like a tramp is is you say "hey wanna go out then later go up to my bedroom and have fun" <- dont do that!
    "Hey are you busy later, wanna grab a bit to eat at (insert resturant here)" <- not trampish but gets the point across
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    Hey.

    I just met you.

    And this is crazy.

    Here's my number.

    Cal me maybe?

    :laugh:
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
    How do you know this guy? Coworker? Friend? Friend-of-a-friend?

    He's been a good friend for about a year
  • callmenikita
    callmenikita Posts: 118 Member
    Just say "hey, I like you. Let's do the sex"

    Works everytime.

    forget what i said... go with this one! straight & direct! I LOVE IT :laugh:
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    Just say "hey, I like you. Let's do the sex"

    Works everytime.

    I don't think you can go wrong with this approach
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
    most guys are oblivious to flirting, or just idiots in general! unfortunately most women are also "unapproachable"
    if suble flirting doesnt work just grow a lady pair and ask him out... the only way you will look like a tramp is is you say "hey wanna go out then later go up to my bedroom and have fun" <- dont do that!
    "Hey are you busy later, wanna grab a bit to eat at (insert resturant here)" <- not trampish but gets the point across

    Thanks!
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    What do you mean by "looking like a tramp"? The only thing that will make you look like a tramp is if you go up to him, grab his balls and drag him to your room. Otherwise just flirt, do you know how?
  • WhatAnAss
    WhatAnAss Posts: 1,598 Member
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  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
    How do you subtly let a guy know that you are interested without outright asking him, and without looking like a tramp?
    What do you mean by "looking like a tramp"? The only thing that will make you look like a tramp is if you go up to him, grab his balls and drag him to your room. Otherwise just flirt, do you know how?

    skip the flirting and go with the "tramp" way.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Just send him this

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  • capnrus789
    capnrus789 Posts: 2,736 Member
    Just say "hey, I like you. Let's do the sex"

    Works everytime.

    I don't think you can go wrong with this approach

    Jimmy Buffet knows everything. "Why don't we get drunk, and screw?"
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
    What do you mean by "looking like a tramp"? The only thing that will make you look like a tramp is if you go up to him, grab his balls and drag him to your room. Otherwise just flirt, do you know how?

    the thing is, we are pretty good friends, and if he doesn't like me, then I'm butting a big awkward sigma on the relationship.
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    lotta tramps up in here
  • horrorstory
    horrorstory Posts: 125 Member
    Just send him this

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    ^^this.
  • Carissa145
    Carissa145 Posts: 604 Member
    lotta tramps up in here

    LOL seriously
  • samammay
    samammay Posts: 468
    Have you tried making a sign and hitting him in the head?

    Seriously though... just tell him straight up "listen... Im into you. Lets see what happens".

    As for you being pretty good friends... unless you have known him since you were 9, he's into you. Guys fill up their quota of female friends that they arent sleeping with before high school. The rest fall into "maybe someday" categories.*


    *exceptions are made for significant others of their guy friends.
  • wjstoj
    wjstoj Posts: 884 Member
    soooo....what you're saying is you have a crush on me?
  • Fat2Fit4Life
    Fat2Fit4Life Posts: 599 Member
    Just tell him you are in the market for a new *kitten* buddy and ask if he knows any good applicants...
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    lotta tramps up in here
    Why thank you. :) I've worked hard at this.
  • simplycorey
    simplycorey Posts: 721 Member
    Have you ever gone somewhere by yourselves? Do you flirt with him at all now? I would start being more flirtatious and ask him out to dinner or something. Take it slow and see how he responds. I wouldn't want to ruin the friendship either.
  • A_nonymous2
    A_nonymous2 Posts: 366 Member
    most guys are oblivious to flirting, or just idiots in general! unfortunately most women are also "unapproachable"
    if suble flirting doesnt work just grow a lady pair and ask him out... the only way you will look like a tramp is is you say "hey wanna go out then later go up to my bedroom and have fun" <- dont do that!
    "Hey are you busy later, wanna grab a bit to eat at (insert resturant here)" <- not trampish but gets the point across

    Sadly, this is the only honest answer you've gotten. I find nothing wrong with being direct. If he doesn't feel the same way, he'll probably just think you're asking as friends.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    How do you subtly let a guy know that you are interested without outright asking him, and without looking like a tramp?

    Bring him a sammich and a beer. :love:
  • callmenikita
    callmenikita Posts: 118 Member
    Just tell him you are in the market for a new *kitten* buddy and ask if he knows any good applicants...

    if this doesnt make her sound like a tramp i'd be shocked!
  • sheenarama
    sheenarama Posts: 733 Member
    Well.. since you've been friends for a while, he already probably knows you're not a slut. So... just go a head and tell him. If he's not interested, he'll be flattered. If he is interested then that's awesome.
  • Howdoyoufeeltoday
    Howdoyoufeeltoday Posts: 481 Member
    Hey.

    I just met you.

    And this is crazy.

    Here's my number.

    Cal me maybe?

    :laugh:

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    even in written word I hate that song. lol. Ask him to hang out just the two of you and get your flirt on. subtle touching works, so does complimenting him like "I like your shirt, it looks good on you". Then you can always just say you're really sweet and I'm kinda getting a crush on you and see what he says. There's no "easy" way, just gotta go for it. You go girl!! :D
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    I may need to be the one to say it but if he has not made a move in a year he just might not be into you.

    that is where the honestly thing comes in. I have a female friend and we have been friends for YEARS, she told me she found me very attractive and we talked about what we wanted in a relationship. We found out we didnt meet one anothers needs and we remain very good friends to this day.

    so maybe try that?

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