Women in relationships aren't allowed to have male friends?

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I can't believe this post is still going! LOL!
    Well, we've moved past the orginal topic a bit.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member

    My sex life is pretty awesome, actually. The sex scenes in that book were stomach-churningly awful. And repetitive. And there was not one "shocking" thing about any of it.
    I dont think the book was suppose to shock......I think it was geared toward getting that type of play accepted without going overboard......

    I mean we aren't spinning people on wheels here.......well not all of us.
    Well, many, many, many women were shocked by it and they happen to be the women in the target audience, so I think it was meant to shock.

    Also, the characters in the book did go overboard. Ana safeworded in a scene and Christian got angry with her and stopped speaking to her because of it.
    50 shades is like entry level.......
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
    I'm just in for the unicorns and rainbows. And for the read when I get bored today :drinker:

    Carry on............
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!

    That book be cray.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.
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  • Collier78
    Collier78 Posts: 811 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.

    I read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy and it had some pretty brutal stuff in it too...the Dutch versions of the films were much more graphic than the American version of the first installment.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.
    handling and enjoying it is too different things LOL

    'one' of my professions is that I work in a prison ....so its nothing new to me......hard to really surprise me anymore.
    Ah. My father worked on a prison for most of my life. I know some stories ... And he was a teacher, not a guard!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.

    I read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy and it had some pretty brutal stuff in it too...the Dutch versions of the films were much more graphic than the American version of the first installment.
    Aren't those about hunting a serial killer, though? I went into the Beauty book thinking it was just a bit of porn.
  • Collier78
    Collier78 Posts: 811 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.
    handling and enjoying it is too different things LOL

    'one' of my professions is that I work in a prison ....so its nothing new to me......hard to really surprise me anymore.

    Same here...I formerly worked as the Chief Deputy for a local county's Coroner's office...I've pretty much seen it all..
  • Collier78
    Collier78 Posts: 811 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.

    I read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy and it had some pretty brutal stuff in it too...the Dutch versions of the films were much more graphic than the American version of the first installment.
    Aren't those about hunting a serial killer, though? I went into the Beauty book thinking it was just a bit of porn.

    The first one has a serial killer in it, but the book is basically about Lisbeth's history and how she came to be how she is...and what she does to get even..if you have only seen the first one I recommend reading the whole series...very well written and you would never guess how it all ties together until the very end. I thought the same thing about the first book...How in the world did they get the title, because it didn't seem to be about her at all..but it lays the groundwork for the other two.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member

    Ah. My father worked on a prison for most of my life. I know some stories ... And he was a teacher, not a guard!
    they dont like to be called guard lol

    and I'm not a guard or correctional officer, I get more insight than any in the prison system. . haha
    Hmmm. That must be new. I grew up in a prison town (we had two -- one maximum and one super max security) so almost everyone worked at the prison and I have a good friend who is a guard? correctional officer? in Massachusetts and they never seemed to mind being called guards. But I'll be more careful in the future.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.

    I read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy and it had some pretty brutal stuff in it too...the Dutch versions of the films were much more graphic than the American version of the first installment.
    Aren't those about hunting a serial killer, though? I went into the Beauty book thinking it was just a bit of porn.

    The first one has a serial killer in it, but the book is basically about Lisbeth's history and how she came to be how she is...and what she does to get even..if you have only seen the first one I recommend reading the whole series...very well written and you would never guess how it all ties together until the very end. I thought the same thing about the first book...How in the world did they get the title, because it didn't seem to be about her at all..but it lays the groundwork for the other two.
    I have neither read any of the books nor seen any of the movies. I picked thebooks up a few times and skimmed through, but they just didn't grab me. Maybe one day.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member

    Ah. My father worked on a prison for most of my life. I know some stories ... And he was a teacher, not a guard!
    they dont like to be called guard lol

    and I'm not a guard or correctional officer, I get more insight than any in the prison system. . haha
    Hmmm. That must be new. I grew up in a prison town (we had two -- one maximum and one super max security) so almost everyone worked at the prison and I have a good friend who is a guard? correctional officer? in Massachusetts and they never seemed to mind being called guards. But I'll be more careful in the future.
    yeah I think things have changed......for some type of recognition of being more than just someone that stands guard.....I learned my first couple of days about the term lol .....that was several yrs ago.
    I moved away from there about 14 years ago and never really thought about it.

    Even if I call them guards, I know enough to realize they have a TOUGH job! Total respect.

    Little trivia, but the prisons from my hometown get mentioned on Law & Order quite frequently. :-) And once there was a scene that was supposed to be outside of one of them, but it most definitely was not filmed on location!
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
    ive-had-it-up-to-here-with-those-wait-what-were-we-talking-about_zpsb85badbc.jpg

    Sugar is the devil :devil: :devil: :devil:
    Oh. My bad......wrong thread.............

    :flowerforyou:
  • Collier78
    Collier78 Posts: 811 Member
    ive-had-it-up-to-here-with-those-wait-what-were-we-talking-about_zpsb85badbc.jpg

    Sugar is the devil :devil: :devil: :devil:
    Oh. My bad......wrong thread.............

    :flowerforyou:

    HA HA HA...I was just reading about the immorality of being a pastry chef...I think the trolls are forming an army!
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member

    My sex life is pretty awesome, actually. The sex scenes in that book were stomach-churningly awful. And repetitive. And there was not one "shocking" thing about any of it.
    I dont think the book was suppose to shock......I think it was geared toward getting that type of play accepted without going overboard......

    I mean we aren't spinning people on wheels here.......well not all of us.

    And thanks to that crappy book, all my vanilla friends now think they live the fetish lifestyle because they NOW want their husbands to spank them and talk dirty. :noway:
  • Yodifer
    Yodifer Posts: 87
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    First, I developed self esteem - being in any relationship without it is not a good idea.

    Then, I decided that I could only control my own choices in the relationship. I am going to trust the other person and I cannot control what the other person decides to do with my trust.

    I think you are right. It does begin with self esteem. Thank you =)
  • Yodifer
    Yodifer Posts: 87
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    By doing this?

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    According to all the 50 Shaders, that kind of behavior is not only romantic, but desirable, so go for it.

    And that is the start to a whole other thread...Grrr...that book was dissapointing...
    was it really intended to be a book to read? or act out?
    If you acted it out in real life, someone would get arrested fro stalking and hostage-taking.

    And the sex stuff? Eh. Dull. Made me never want to have sex again.

    But the real crime was the terrible, awful, horrible, shameful writing.

    I agree the sex stuff was dull....booorrrriiinngggg.... the chick reminded me of Bella from Twilight, weak and vulnerable and clumsy as hell.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    By doing this?

    jealousy_zps229dda63.jpg
    According to all the 50 Shaders, that kind of behavior is not only romantic, but desirable, so go for it.

    And that is the start to a whole other thread...Grrr...that book was dissapointing...
    was it really intended to be a book to read? or act out?
    If you acted it out in real life, someone would get arrested fro stalking and hostage-taking.

    And the sex stuff? Eh. Dull. Made me never want to have sex again.

    But the real crime was the terrible, awful, horrible, shameful writing.

    I agree the sex stuff was dull....booorrrriiinngggg.... the chick reminded me of Bella from Twilight, weak and vulnerable and clumsy as hell.
    That's because she was bella from Twilight. 50 Shades is Twilight fan fiction.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    By doing this?

    jealousy_zps229dda63.jpg
    According to all the 50 Shaders, that kind of behavior is not only romantic, but desirable, so go for it.

    And that is the start to a whole other thread...Grrr...that book was dissapointing...
    was it really intended to be a book to read? or act out?
    If you acted it out in real life, someone would get arrested fro stalking and hostage-taking.

    And the sex stuff? Eh. Dull. Made me never want to have sex again.

    But the real crime was the terrible, awful, horrible, shameful writing.

    But, but, my inner goddess is saying something important now!
  • ash8184
    ash8184 Posts: 701 Member
    In for round two of awesome and bringing my rainbows and unicorns with me!

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    Dear god, I had one exactly like that growing up lol.

    *Reads thread*

    I was always very proud of my Lisa Frank trapper keeper and folder set ;-)

    I haven't seen Lisa Frank in years - I forgot how hideously rainbowlicious it is!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    But, but, my inner goddess is saying something important now!
    I can't talk to you right now. My subconscious is raising an eyebrow from behind her spectacles as she lounges reading The Wind in the Willows.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    But, but, my inner goddess is saying something important now!
    I can't talk to you right now. My subconscious is raising an eyebrow from behind her spectacles as she lounges reading The Wind in the Willows.
    HAHAHA
  • tiggerhammon
    tiggerhammon Posts: 2,211 Member
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    I have been cheated on by every single one of my exes (3 of them.)
    It took time to totally trust again.
    I am not the least bit concerned about my husband cheating on me, because I honestly feel that I can completely trust him. I think a good part of it though is the fact that I know my husband wouldn't be able to pull that off if he wanted to. Trying to even flirt with another woman would go against every grain of his very nature. He rarely talks to much of anyone, too inverted.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    If I found out that my wife was friends with a man, I would freak the heck out. What is this, Gommorrah?

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    Stop stealing my baby pictures...that's creepy:angry:

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    heh.:flowerforyou:
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Wow, I just quickly glanced through the thread. I can't believe the direction it took. Wow, people have some issues. Lol. Funny how some people have taken it so deeply personal if other people that they don't know have had friends of the opposite sex. And then saying only unattractive women can have friends of the other gender. Newsflash, women also get to decide who they do and don't have sex with, it doesn't just happen because the man wants it, it is mutual for both people, not just one person's decision. I'm not interested in or attracted to my male friends. And I would not cheat on my husband.

    I was immediately attracted to my husband when I met him (almost18 years ago). But, I was friends with him for two years before we fell in love and started dating. This was by my choice at the time. Anyway, now we have been together for going on 16 years. We've never cheated. He still has female friends from before me. I am not worried in the least. And we share friends. And as I said, I dance and occasionally there are men that dance, and I may travel home on the train, we may see each other during classes or performances, we may go out with a group of friends for some food or drinks. Sometimes they call me on the phone to make plans, though not so much anymore. I don't text. I don't get very close to male friends. But, I still interact with men in life and in this world. Oh, no!
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    Date someone you trust.

    I have never once in my life feared being cheated on because I have always dated men who had standards for how they wanted to be in the world. It wasn't "oh i'm so in love with corvus corax, I would never cheat!" It was "I am a man of my word and I would never treat any human being like that." This is how.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    I know that. But it's also total crap, through and through. I found nothing redeeming about those books. At all.

    Now, The Taking of Sleeping Beauty did shock me a bit. I had to stop reading at a very specific scene and will not pick it up again. However, at least Anne Rice can write!
    that she can, I need to pick that up and check it out.

    People here kept talking about it, so I got it from Amazon. The scene that got me was basically a guy raping another guy -- very brutally.

    That kind of thing isn't really a turn-on to me, so yeah, I couldn't go any further. lol But if you can handle that, you might enjoy it.

    I read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy and it had some pretty brutal stuff in it too...the Dutch versions of the films were much more graphic than the American version of the first installment.
    Aren't those about hunting a serial killer, though? I went into the Beauty book thinking it was just a bit of porn.

    The first one has a serial killer in it, but the book is basically about Lisbeth's history and how she came to be how she is...and what she does to get even..if you have only seen the first one I recommend reading the whole series...very well written and you would never guess how it all ties together until the very end. I thought the same thing about the first book...How in the world did they get the title, because it didn't seem to be about her at all..but it lays the groundwork for the other two.

    I was told the original title was "Men who hate women".... the #1 reason I have no interest in reading that book.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Question for those that have had trust issues and no longer do, or jealousy issues - how do you get over them?

    Date someone you trust.

    I have never once in my life feared being cheated on because I have always dated men who had standards for how they wanted to be in the world. It wasn't "oh i'm so in love with corvus corax, I would never cheat!" It was "I am a man of my word and I would never treat any human being like that." This is how.
    I've never had jealousy issues, even though I've been cheated on.

    Mainly because I don't feel like having a man in my life is the be all and end all. Being single is OK. If a guy wants to be with someone else, he shouldn't let the door hit him on the way out. I'll be good alone or find someone else. So I guess my thing is, I don't get jealous because I don't want to have to be on the alert all the time. If another woman talks to my SO, he's either going to cheat or he's not. I assume he won't and if he does, then bye bye. It isn't worth the energy.

    Why would you want to be like that? Why do you want to be in a relationship with someone you don't feel you can trust? Why do you want to be in any relationship if you can't handle that men and women both live in the world and talk to each other? If he lies to you, you're going to know. Then you have a choice to make.

    Be happy and secure with who you are and the life you have that is your own and it won't matter so much.

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