Harming children to make yourself feel good?
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this thread should be the poster child for "sugar over reaction syndrome"0
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Backpedaling is a great calorie burner, isn't it?I don't believe she is implying that the children will be harmed by the treats - which is where A LOT of people misunderstood her - she is simply saying to not give the child a treat just to make yourself fell better.
Yes, the title is misleading and probably not the one she intended or the one she thought would cause such a slew of misunderstanding.
Directly from the OP:If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.
By going behind the parents back, you could potentially kill the child due to severe allergies (some are unknown at the time, like the earlier post of the 6 month old who was fed a peanut butter cup and suffered a severe allergy attack, causing the parents to spend the night in the ER). There can also be the adverse effect of the extreme sugar rush in some children, or terrible stomach aches. What about the religious or cultural restrictions that do not allow certain foods to be consumed? Are you aware of all the medication or dietary restrictions the child has, certain foods/ingredients may not be allowed due to their effect on the medication or the child's doctor has stated that the child cannot consume anything with that product in it.
You may very well be harming the child just to make yourself feel better that you had given them something to eat.0 -
But it's people food. People food is bad for dogs. They must only eat dog food.
True. A piece of steak is TERRIBLE for a dog. I mean, why would you feed a dog meat? It's not as though that's what they're built to eat or anything.We never allow our dogs people food, it is not good for them
That doesn't make sense, dogs are carnivores!
Dogs are not carnivores. They are omnivores. Cats are carnivores.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.0 -
Pics or it didn't happen! Eat up, kids
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Have some marzipan babies
Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?
They are too adorable though!
There is something just sort of... Wrong? About the fact that those babies are edible? And they look so life like? I need my teddy bear! :sad:0 -
I don't believe she is implying that the children will be harmed by the treats - which is where A LOT of people misunderstood her - she is simply saying to not give the child a treat just to make yourself fell better.
Yes, the title is misleading and probably not the one she intended or the one she thought would cause such a slew of misunderstanding.
Directly from the OP:If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.
By going behind the parents back, you could potentially kill the child due to severe allergies (some are unknown at the time, like the earlier post of the 6 month old who was fed a peanut butter cup and suffered a severe allergy attack, causing the parents to spend the night in the ER). There can also be the adverse effect of the extreme sugar rush in some children, or terrible stomach aches. What about the religious or cultural restrictions that do not allow certain foods to be consumed? Are you aware of all the medication or dietary restrictions the child has, certain foods/ingredients may not be allowed due to their effect on the medication or the child's doctor has stated that the child cannot consume anything with that product in it.
You may very well be harming the child just to make yourself feel better that you had given them something to eat.
The OP targeted her post at family members. Family members would be aware of food allergies and religious/dietary restrictions. Most everyone in this thread agreed that if they didn't know the child well, then they would ask before giving a child food. So this woman is just generally pissed off that her family gave her kids food that she didn't want them to have. Not food that would truly be harmful. It's undermining parental authority. But that isn't harmful to the child.0 -
No of course not, but myself and a very select few seem to be able to read between the lines and understand the meaning of the post without going off on a tangent and becoming trolls or attacking the post and the poster.
So most of us read what she actually wrote (see excerpts above) and a few others "read between the lines," and the rest of us don't actually understand the OP? But the people who read what she didn't actually write understand the OP?
I got ya.
Shame on me for, you know, reading what she wrote and assuming she meant it. You're just so much smarter than the rest of us. :flowerforyou:
Hmmm, then sarcasm must be literal for you.....that's unfortunate.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?0 -
No. I get sarcasm. The OP was not being sarcastic.No of course not, but myself and a very select few seem to be able to read between the lines and understand the meaning of the post without going off on a tangent and becoming trolls or attacking the post and the poster.
So most of us read what she actually wrote (see excerpts above) and a few others "read between the lines," and the rest of us don't actually understand the OP? But the people who read what she didn't actually write understand the OP?
I got ya.
Shame on me for, you know, reading what she wrote and assuming she meant it. You're just so much smarter than the rest of us. :flowerforyou:
Hmmm, then sarcasm must be literal for you.....that's unfortunate.
Perhaps you don't understand what sarcasm is?0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Trolling...0 -
Backpedaling is a great calorie burner, isn't it?I don't believe she is implying that the children will be harmed by the treats - which is where A LOT of people misunderstood her - she is simply saying to not give the child a treat just to make yourself fell better.
Yes, the title is misleading and probably not the one she intended or the one she thought would cause such a slew of misunderstanding.
Directly from the OP:If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.
By going behind the parents back, you could potentially kill the child due to severe allergies (some are unknown at the time, like the earlier post of the 6 month old who was fed a peanut butter cup and suffered a severe allergy attack, causing the parents to spend the night in the ER). There can also be the adverse effect of the extreme sugar rush in some children, or terrible stomach aches. What about the religious or cultural restrictions that do not allow certain foods to be consumed? Are you aware of all the medication or dietary restrictions the child has, certain foods/ingredients may not be allowed due to their effect on the medication or the child's doctor has stated that the child cannot consume anything with that product in it.
You may very well be harming the child just to make yourself feel better that you had given them something to eat.
Nope, just clarifying for those who don't understand.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
I totally hear you there m'am. The next time someone tries to wash my windows with that blue spray stuff, I'm going to send them a photograph of my mother eating a piece of fruitcake with the caption "Listen big poppa, how about you roll on up in my crib and clap on dem cheeks".
Kidding aside, what sort of connection are you making between 1 cookie and your kid losing a wrestling match?0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
The sentence at the end of this post just made the whole thing even more disturbing!0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
I totally hear you there m'am. The next time someone tries to wash my windows with that blue spray stuff, I'm going to send them a photograph of my mother eating a piece of fruitcake with the caption "Listen big poppa, how about you roll on up in my crib and clap on dem cheeks".
Kidding aside, what sort of connection are you making between 1 cookie and your kid losing a wrestling match?
Sounds to me like Mom and Dad need to teach their kid about sportsmanship more than they need to worry about Grandma handing him a cookie.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
I totally hear you there m'am. The next time someone tries to wash my windows with that blue spray stuff, I'm going to send them a photograph of my mother eating a piece of fruitcake with the caption "Listen big poppa, how about you roll on up in my crib and clap on dem cheeks".
Kidding aside, what sort of connection are you making between 1 cookie and your kid losing a wrestling match?
Sugar makes you fat and fat kids can't wrestle? I don't have kids so I don't know.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Hmmmm - I officially apologize to everyone! I am now in the category of misunderstanding what was written based SOLELY on this comment!
I do however stand behind my comments, especially about the one of Asking the Parents First before giving the child a treat. You just never know what is truly happening with the child or in the home and it is common courtesy and common sense to just ask first. You may save a child's life in the process (read my other comments about severe or potentially life threatening allergies, medication, etc).0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
This answer is strongly worded on purpose - nothing fun in mind. If your 5 year old is crying when getting defeated in a wrestling tournament - there are more serious issues to be worried about than cookies.0 -
I come back from working only to find that you guys have let this thread go back to its original topic and away from both art and dogs. I'm disappointed in all of you. :indifferent:0
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This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
This answer is strongly worded on purpose - nothing fun in mind. If your 5 year old is crying when getting defeated in a wrestling tournament - there are more serious issues to be worried about than cookies.
I couldn't agree more. Definately issues here, not food related.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
You may want to learn the Serenity Prayer. Control is a terrible thing to think you have...
And to be honest, it may not be too early for your five year old to start learning about winning and losing. Even though I have no earthly idea of why a cookie results in getting one's backside handed to them. And please, don't explain.
I was going to add though, on a cheerier note, I was eating at a resto on Saturday and the waitperson kindly mouthed the question of soda refills to me. While I do allow one refill (even on the huge monster glasses), it was nice to be asked. It usually happens before I know it (sneaky little devil - and yes, it isn't too late for my little one to learn he only gets one refill and one only).0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.
I'm sorry... I just can't.
Isn't he kind of young for that kind of pressure?0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
This answer is strongly worded on purpose - nothing fun in mind. If your 5 year old is crying when getting defeated in a wrestling tournament - there are more serious issues to be worried about than cookies.
Have you ever been to grade school wrestling tournaments? Unfortunately, there's a lot of crying . . .0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.
Are you managing your child's weight for competitive purposes as a 5 year old?0 -
Not what I thought this was going to be about. So I should tell Grandma to stop allowing my son to have ice cream? Yeah, that'll happen. Grandparents house is where all the treats happen, it is the privilege of being a grandparent. I plan on doing the same when it is my turn (unless there is a MEDICAL reason why I should not). I agree with whoever said you sound fun. :noway:0
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This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.
You said 'sneaks a cookie.' As in ONE.
Worrying about cut-off weights for a 5 year old? Speechless.0 -
This was not what I expected after reading that title.
My only concern with sweets for my kids is when they are very sugary (and stick to the teeth), I do need to make sure they brush their teeth to prevent cavities. But, they are going to floss and brush anyway, so it's not that big of an issue. They are going to eat stuff when I'm not around, that's just normal. So, they brush their teeth in the morning, come home/have a snack/brush teeth, and floss and brush before bed.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.
You said 'sneaks a cookie.' As in ONE.
Worrying about cut-off weights for a 5 year old? Speechless.
yeah, me too. mind officially blown.0 -
This topic is strongly worded on purpose - partly for fun, and also because I'm tired of having to run interference with food pushers.
My kids are allowed sweets and treats in moderation - but the next person to sneak one of my kids a cookie behind my back may be force fed a full length video of my five year old crying after he gets his backside handed to him at his next wrestling tournament.
Because eating a cookie will make him lose the tournament?
One cookie? No. Too many cookies? Yes, especially if he misses a weight cut off and has to wrestle up a class.
You said 'sneaks a cookie.' As in ONE.
Worrying about cut-off weights for a 5 year old? Speechless.
Just when you think it couldn't be worse. The use of "force fed" was enough. There was a reason I didn't want an explanation...0
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