What's the purpose of marriage?

MM_1982

For the life of me, I can't find any advantages of being married. I understand the religious aspect of it (even though I'm about as non-religious as they come), but that doesn't outweigh the cons.

My good friend recently got divorced from his wife of 4 years and he had to pay alimony. He agreed to pays $2,000/month for 1 year. Thankfully, they had no kids together. It always seems that a well educated man (or woman) who makes a decent amount of money always has a lot to lose if the marriage goes south.

So what's the real purpose of being married? Before the age of modern religion, men and women existed in harmony for tens of thousands of years. Can someone red pill me on the advantages, besides joint filing on your taxes?

And where did this silly idea of buying a woman a diamond ring ever come from?

Sinisterly

Eww, jewelry.
Diamond is my birthstone, but I've never wanted one. Just going to get myself a ruby (bc red ftw) and implant it somewhere only I'd know it is

As for marriage.. I think some people just do it to abuse it. Some out of love and some out of stupidity.

Momf3boys

My ex got away with a huge chunk from my 401k and will receive a check every single month after I retire....the phrase in my case should be "cheaper to keep HIM".... When you find out a purpose of marriage, let me know because I'm wondering too...

jenifr818

In, because I'd like to know too

(currently married, for what it's worth, but my partner comes from a deeply religious family that would've disowned him had we simply lived together for longer than we did)

eric_sg61

Before the age of modern religion, men and women existed in harmony for tens of thousands of years.

Marriages have existed long before modern religion.

Mia_RagazzaTosta

I suspect you don't actually want to know and are just starting a flame war.

arghbowl

To create more God-fearing, Christ-loving, good-doing wonders of the world.



Duh.

Jtorres326

I was never the girl who imagined her wedding day or planned on getting married. I met my husband and marriage meant more to him than being unmarried meant to me. I knew, deep in my heart, that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and didnt feel I needed the validation of marriage. I never thought being married would change our dynamic but it did (for the better). When two people come together and get married and both honor being married, it's amazing. For most people being married is the end all be all and they stop trying while failing to realize that's when the real work begins. Marriage is losing it's strength and meaning because so many people marry for trivial reasons and divorce for trivial reasons. We live in a society now, where love has become disposable and so marriage seems pointless. I can't convince anyone for supporting marriage, but to me it's a very beautiful thing that we need to learn to value again.

Myhaloslipped

I used to feel this way until I had my first long relationship with someone whom I couldn't imagine being without. Marriage isn't for everyone. I am looking forward to it, as long as it is with someone who is my lover and my best friend.

Whyareyoumad

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

DeltaZero

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

DaWayne360

It's not for everyone. The main purpose is making a commitment to stand by a partner no matter what comes along. That is a dying attitude in every aspect of life. Whether it is marriage, a job, a parent, working out, a religion... It seems we have evolved to an attitude I only have to do what feels good/right to me right now at this moment. So yes marriage is an obsolete tradition. Personally I love it and 23+ years partnered up with the right person has been great. But, like I said it’s not for everyone.

MM_1982

Before the age of modern religion, men and women existed in harmony for tens of thousands of years.

Marriages have existed long before modern religion.

I don't think so. Humans have been in our current form for nearly 100,000 years (according to scientist). Modern religions like Buddhism, Hinduism, and Christianity date back about 8,000 years, though Christianity is the "new kid on block" and hasn't been around that long.

Regardless, men and women have been having kids and spending time together for well over 90,000 years before modern religion.

Note: not starting a religious/evolution/whatever debate. I only care about finding a couple decent reasons why someone should marry.

arghbowl

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

What about our married homosexual relationship? Are you saying we're the exception?! HOW DARE YOU

ps - you're sleeping on the couch tonight. The kangaroo got into the chocolate frosting you left out,.

minimalistmom

The ring comes from cavemen days when they would tie a string around the woman's finger to claim her as his.

As for marriage, my husband and I said the same thing. The only logical reason for the two of us to get married was to start a family and that's what we did. But before kids, we lived like a married couple without the documentation. We preferred it that way, on the off chance one of us wanted to walk away from the relationship we could, no strings attached.

MM_1982

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

jenifr818

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

What about our married homosexual relationship? Are you saying we're the exception?! HOW DARE YOU

ps - you're sleeping on the couch tonight. The kangaroo got into the chocolate frosting you left out,.

:laugh: :laugh:

DeltaZero

Wait. Wait. I found it.


Since you obviously come not expecting any type of reasonable conversation.

Myhaloslipped

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

This is hilarious and made my morning. Thank you for that. :laugh:

Mia_RagazzaTosta

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

Besides yourself?

arghbowl

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

Besides yourself?

I named my right hand Jill. She puts out any time I want. She's great.

DeltaZero

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

What about our married homosexual relationship? Are you saying we're the exception?! HOW DARE YOU

ps - you're sleeping on the couch tonight. The kangaroo got into the chocolate frosting you left out,.

Why are you always such a huge....... oh yeah...... Well maybe I'll move out so you can move in with Mike?

arghbowl

It's ok Bro. Some of us will support you in your choice of a non-marriage homosexual relationship if that is what you desire.

What about our married homosexual relationship? Are you saying we're the exception?! HOW DARE YOU

ps - you're sleeping on the couch tonight. The kangaroo got into the chocolate frosting you left out,.

Why are you always such a huge....... oh yeah...... Well maybe I'll move out so you can move in with Mike?

I WILL FIND YOU AND HAUNT YOUR DREAMS.

lisaanne1369

I believe God likes it when you are married, sex is also better.

fbmandy55

I blame society. I've waited 6 years to have a second child because of what society says, not because I wanted to wait. I know I could if I wanted but there is such a stigma on unwed mothers, it make waiting for marriage seem like the appropriate thing to do. Although my fiance and I live together and plan on spending the rest of our lives that way.

Also, insurance. I work for a 2 employee company. We can't get a group rate so I have a basic medical plan and no dental or vision. My fiance on the other hand has everything through fedex but my son and I cannot be on his plan unless we are married, regardless of how long we've lived under the same roof.

We are getting married because we like the idea of a ceremony to celebrate the commitment we are making to each other. :happy: ETA: the rest is just perks.

JJordon

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

Half?

Half?!

Ha. ha. ha.

You think you get to keep half your stuff when it all goes south?

That's a nice dream you have there.

BrainyBurro

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

you and that other guy that always posts on all of your misogynistic threads seem to hit it off ... perhaps you should pursue a relationship with him. i'm guessing you share more than just a mutual contempt for women.

PennyM140

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

The fact that your possessions mean more to you than the person you would be married to means you just should not get married. Or be in a relationship for that matter. If you get more joy from "things" than from people, maybe you should just be alone with your things.

janetay01

I was never the girl who imagined her wedding day or planned on getting married. I met my husband and marriage meant more to him than being unmarried meant to me. I knew, deep in my heart, that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and didnt feel I needed the validation of marriage. I never thought being married would change our dynamic but it did (for the better). When two people come together and get married and both honor being married, it's amazing. For most people being married is the end all be all and they stop trying while failing to realize that's when the real work begins. Marriage is losing it's strength and meaning because so many people marry for trivial reasons and divorce for trivial reasons. We live in a society now, where love has become disposable and so marriage seems pointless. I can't convince anyone for supporting marriage, but to me it's a very beautiful thing that we need to learn to value again.

This sums up my view perfectly. If you meet the right person, you will then see the point of marriage. No one can tell you what a 'good marriage' should look like - it will be subtly different for all of us. But don't ever assume it is easy - it is far more than a big party after the ceremony - it takes patience and compromise and regular effort to ensure that it continues to be good. But with the right person (and I count myself of one of the lucky ones who has found that person) then it is worth all the effort.

ArroganceInStep

For the life of me, I can't find any advantages of being married. I understand the religious aspect of it (even though I'm about as non-religious as they come), but that doesn't outweigh the cons.

My good friend recently got divorced from his wife of 4 years and he had to pay alimony. He agreed to pays $2,000/month for 1 year. Thankfully, they had no kids together. It always seems that a well educated man (or woman) who makes a decent amount of money always has a lot to lose if the marriage goes south.

So what's the real purpose of being married? Before the age of modern religion, men and women existed in harmony for tens of thousands of years. Can someone red pill me on the advantages, besides joint filing on your taxes?

And where did this silly idea of buying a woman a diamond ring ever come from?

You must be the first guy ever to think of this.

Myhaloslipped

Sorry, but I have to say if you are asking these questions you are not with or met the right person yet.

Maybe you're right. I haven't found someone I like more than half of all my possessions!

What a truly deep and attractive quality for a human.