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    my hubby paying me to lose weight

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    • Posts: 34,415 Member
      In...

      ...to catch up later...

      ...and to post a link to an article on the husband who had a schedule of payments for "other services" (assuming it hasn't already been done).
    • Posts: 459 Member
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      So say your husband buys you a birthday or anniversary gift - do you not appreciate it because you two share all your money?

      Good point! Because we share our money and I like to travel we don't buy each other gifts for our anniversary, xmas, valentines day etc. What we usually do is just go out for a nice dinner or treat ourselves with sex toys...whooops TMI. I just had a bday and I didn't get a gift from my husband because we were on vacation at the time in New Orleans. What he did instead was get up really early in the morning and ran out for beignets, something he knew I would love to have. So for us the focus isn't on the money spent but on gestures of love and appreciation.

      Now to your point, my husband surprised me with an ipad mini a few months ago (no particular reason other than I had said I wanted one) and yes I'm aware that it's "our" money, but once again it was the gesture. I'm a tightwad and won't spend money on myself so my husband took matters into his own hands and went out and bought it.
    • Posts: 786 Member
      Are you usually on an allowance? I find this offensive. If I want money, I withdraw it.

      The same.

      My husband treating me to a new pair of tits perhaps more so.
    • Posts: 38 Member
      Yay, StarEKnight! You go, Girl! :smile:
    • Posts: 3,927 Member
      This is not creepy if in the right context. Even though my husband and I share our money, we each get a set amount each month for our personal money to do whatever we want with it. It is not my "allowance" - we decided on a spending limit together so that we can meet financial goals (pay extra on our mortgage, student loans etc) and I get more than him each month. Its called budgeting. I don't see how this is much different than when my husband and I decided that we would temporarily change our budget to allow for me to have personal training sessions to motivate me to get back in the gym.

      I'm really not getting how people don't see that this is what's going on here. I don't know anyone who doesn't live on a budget. This is just an elaborate way of him giving her his share of the spending money, so she gets more and he gets less.

      Money doesn't flow from the ATM like manna from heaven. There's a limit and bills, etc. He's giving her his portion of the leftovers. How is that creepy?
    • Posts: 440 Member
      Now that's the kind of motivation I could use.
    • Posts: 858 Member
      I would so love that! I know it would help push me along! Good luck OP!!
    • Posts: 712 Member
      Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

      Nope...I agree. It doesn't seem like support to me but if it works...go girl go!
    • Posts: 6,833 Member
      Just divorce him and you'll get half of everything he has without having to lose weight.
    • Posts: 2,270 Member
      Although getting paid to lose weight would be a fun incentive it wouldn't have worked for me, my husband and I share all our money so it would be like paying myself!

      Yeah, this. I'd rather have a baby for my efforts. :cry:
    • Posts: 215 Member
      Wouldn't work for me. I work full time and I handle all of the money anyway. But if it works for you OP then by all means use it to motivate yourself.

      Like others said if the money was coming from somewhere else I'd love that because then it truly would be extra money.

      Same here, I make 3x more than my SO. We have a house joint account and then our own personal accounts. Allowance? really? I'll buy my own damn wardrobe, thank you very much.
    • Posts: 1,801 Member
      Awesome! You'll want that money to buy clothes and stuff as you lose weight =)
    • Posts: 91 Member
      That sounds like my kind of place!! Although for my job, I'll be running around and lifting huge animals and all that stuff. It's like a mini workout of my own :D
    • Posts: 3,669 Member
      By the way....congratulations on quitting smoking! :flowerforyou:
    • Posts: 86 Member
      Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?


      I totally agree. This reminds me of when my grandparents used to try to bribe me into losing weight as a kid. I think it's the totally wrong way to go. I mean, I guess if the OP is already on her weight loss journey and it's just an added bonus? Sure. But... something just rubs me the wrong way about this.
    • Posts: 145 Member
      I asked my husband if I could get a massage if I made it to my goal, he said "Sure, whatever sweetie."
      He is supportive, but doesn't give a *kitten* what I look like. It is OUR money, but not our money to go do what we please with. We both consult each other for big purchases because isn't that what you are supposed to do? I am pretty sure OP just means her husband is going to let her do whatever she wants with this money. I could be wrong though.

      However, I would be offended if my husband was offering monetary incentives for me to lose weight. It would make me feel like he cared solely about what I looked like and I would be hurt by that. But I am also fairly sensitive and not all women are like that. Until I know more details I can't for sure say it is "creepy" though.

      My husband brews beer, and it can get costly. So anytime he is making a big purchase we talk about it first. I love skin care and make up products. Every time I make a big purchase, I talk about it first. There is nothing wrong with that :)
    • Posts: 4,899 Member
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      I'm really not getting how people don't see that this is what's going on here. I don't know anyone who doesn't live on a budget. This is just an elaborate way of him giving her his share of the spending money, so she gets more and he gets less.

      Money doesn't flow from the ATM like manna from heaven. There's a limit and bills, etc. He's giving her his portion of the leftovers. How is that creepy?

      But isn't everything about marriage a political act? I mean, god forbid anyone live differently than I do. Heathens
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      Nice strawman

      What??
    • Posts: 1,541 Member
      Just divorce him and you'll get half of everything he has without having to lose weight.

      +1
    • Posts: 3,927 Member
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      Not really at all. When your grandparents did it to you, were you committed to losing weight already? I bet not. OP is committed to losing the weight and the money is just a nice incentive to help push her along.

      It's not at all like he's putting her down or saying if she doesn't lose weight she won't get any money. He's just making it fun for her.
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    • Posts: 14 Member
      Oh wow !!! I hadnt been on here since I made my post.. thanks for all those who had encouraging words to say. So far I have made $40 ( I chose not to collect till I am at my goal weight) and for those who asked if I gain it back what then ??? Yes I have to pay him back. But I dont plan on gaining it back,. We both turned 50 last year and we are striving to get healthier . My hubby is buff he just needs to eat healthier ( that would be my fault) Not going to let any negatives get to me...I am a optimist Thanks Peeps !! :smile:
    • Posts: 10 Member
      Congratulations on quitting smoking kymvia! And congrats on your progress so far! I think it's a great idea and wish you much more success. =)
    • Posts: 17,857 Member
      My hubby gave me a great incentive to lose weight. He said he would pay me for every pound i lost. 1-10 pounds $10 a pound. 11-20 pounds $15 a pound..21-30 pounds $20 a pound. Anything over 30 pounds $25 a pound. I need to lose 42 pounds. Gained the majority of the weight when i quit smoking. I can do this !!!'
      And if you don't, is he going to cut off your allowance?
    • Posts: 5,413 Member
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      I'm really not getting how people don't see that this is what's going on here. I don't know anyone who doesn't live on a budget. This is just an elaborate way of him giving her his share of the spending money, so she gets more and he gets less.

      Money doesn't flow from the ATM like manna from heaven. There's a limit and bills, etc. He's giving her his portion of the leftovers. How is that creepy?

      I'm divided actually. Kind of speaks to more of a daddy daughter relationship, rather than husband and wife. TO ME.
    • Posts: 22,281 Member
      Okay due to the mass confusion on this thread I now want to change my position.

      I am now FOR paying me for my weight loss by the husbands with the condition that I am moving to a polygamy for women state.

      *kicksbackinlazyboywithMFPsettosedentaryand1200calstowatchalltehchecksrollingIN*:smokin:



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      ETA a gif that actually goes with the post. :devil: :smokin:
    • Posts: 22,281 Member
      I really just came back here to say that it occurs to me if regular dieter's face so much sabotage IMAGINE if the person stands to lose a monetary bet everytime you succeed? Sabotage city!
    • Posts: 1,541 Member
      I really just came back here to say that it occurs to me if regular dieter's face so much sabotage IMAGINE if the person stands to lose a monetary bet everytime you succeed? Sabotage city!

      im sorry, do you even know what sabotage is?

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    • Posts: 786 Member
      I spend all my pin money on steak and kidney pies.
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