In love with a guy who is engaged!

Seajolly

Looking for a little advice. I met a guy while at work, and we really hit it off. We are very close friends, and seem to have everything in common. We get along better than anyone I've ever met in my life, and quickly became good friends. We talk a lot outside of work, and even text each other on the weekends and nights and holidays. I now consider him one of my best friends. Only problem is, he is engaged. And to my defense, we flirted and I fell for him before he ever told me he was engaged.

I flirt quite a lot with this guy, and he flirts right back to me. He also confides things in me that he says he can't tell his fiance because she won't understand, or she just doesn't "get it" like I do. He invited me to the movies one night when his fiance was staying late at work. He hasn't tried anything, and I haven't either, but there is a ton of flirting going on here and also deep conversations. I honestly feel like if I had met this guy and he was single, we would be together in a heartbeat and I feel like this is the guy I should marry. But he is engaged!

This job is coming to an end, and I feel like it's now or never. I feel like if I don't say something to him, I will live with regret for the rest of my life and always wonder "what if?". I feel that the worst thing that could happen is he never talks to me again and marries his fiance. And then the best thing that could happen is that he doesn't.

Thoughts? Opinions? Advice for me?

heylookitsval

Seriously? You know he's engaged, don't be a home wrecker.

There are other guys in this world, I promise.

summertime_girl

Back off. A decent person would.

zacksnana

If you end up engaged to him he will just find a "new best friend" and will tell her you "just don't get him".

Move on and be glad he is someone elses problem.

WeepingAngel81

This isn't your decision to make for him. He asked her to marry him for a reason. If he wanted to be with you, he had a chance before he was engaged. You're young, you're cute, someone else will come along.

_John_

hello beautiful

My0WNinspiration

Move on.

KenziesFrenzies

Seriously? You know he's engaged, don't be a home wrecker.

There are other guys in this world, I promise.

What? He's not married, she wouldn't BE a freaking "home wrecker."

People get out of engagements ALL THE TIME. Get engaged to someone, then they meet someone else, etc. etc.

The way I see it, there isn't a ring on his finger, anything could happen still.
Tell him how you feel, be completely honest about it, and if he feels the same way, he'll have some serious thinking to do. If he keeps playing you along, while remaining engaged to be married, he's a d-bag playing around with your feelings and you need to get away.

And if he marries his fiance... Do not pursue!

dlashawn5

My mama always told me "you get back what you give out" Don't mess with that man, he made his decision. Let it go and move on!

salembambi

hmmm honestly tell him how you feel and then leave it at that



if its meant to be it will be

lsorci919

Seriously? You know he's engaged, don't be a home wrecker.

There are other guys in this world, I promise.

SmileCozYouCan

I agree about backing off. Its only being respectful.

dirty_dirty_eater

Go for it.
You're pretty cute and that's all that really matters in the end anyway, right?

Right?

WhiskyMania

He's engaged, which part of that don't you understand. Stop being such a naive little girl, he's probably trying to shag numerous other girls too, he's a snake.

sklarbodds

Posts like these are usually trolls...but I'll answer anyway.

GTFO.

There, that was easy. If he feels the same way about you he would do the right thing and break off the engagement and be with you. (Important note, I said he would break off the engagement BEFORE asking you out).

If he asks you out or makes a move before he's broken it off, he will do the same to you.

If he goes through with the marriage, then he doesn't really feel the same way about you.

Either way, your job here is to back the ____ off and let what will happen to happen.

thatonegirlwiththestuff

Walk away.
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obsidianwings

You really have to ask?
And to the person who said it's ok if he's not married yet wow! Would hate to be your partner

molonlabe762

Dont be a home wrecker...move on. How would you feel if you were the fiance in this situation?

fallenoaks50

He sounds like a douche. I would never hook up with someone who treated women like that. Even if he dumps his fiance, he was still a douche to her and would likely do the same to you at some point.

thesupremeforce

If you end up engaged to him he will just find a "new best friend" and will tell her you "just don't get him".

Move on and be glad he is someone elses problem.

This one sounds like good advice.

TheGymGypsy

If he'll flirt around with you while he's engaged to someone else, do you really want to be involved with him? Sounds like someone with commitment issues to me.