In love with a guy who is engaged!

pawnstarNate

If it don't work out.....let's talk. I married but, seriously...what harm can come from it?

abickford82

He may not belong to someone yet, but let them be happy. Find someone else to crush on, easy peasy.

yelliezx

He is a complete loser for doing this to his poor fiancee and this... girl is completely wrong for encouraging an engaged man. I'll rephrase that. PEOPLE like that make me sick.

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

WOW. Calling this rude would be an understatement.

Not rude. FACT.

Not really, she is not doing anything wrong here. He is the one engaged, not her. It is not girls like this that should make anyone sick, it is guys like him that give the rest of the men out there a bad name.

TheGymGypsy

This guys is obviously not ready to be in a serious monogamous relationship.

eugovogue

Why would you elect to be with a guy who is clearly emotionally cheating on his fiancé? People show you who they are and if you don't believe them then tread carefully. What he's doing to her he could do to you.

Also--if you were the finance, how would you feel to know your man had a lady friend he hasn't told you about who he confides in. Don't do this to a fellow woman. What you do is already done to you. Karma.

WeepingAngel81

Thanks for all of the responses. Some are a little harsh, but totally expected.

For the record: I haven't tried anything with him out of respect for his fiance.

Also, to the person who said he made his choice by asking her to marry him, not me, well I met him after he was engaged so how does that work? Do people not think that you can be engaged and realize that you made the wrong choice about who to ask to marry, because maybe you hadn't met that right person yet? Yes, no, maybe?

That was me and I apologize. From the sound of your OP it seemed as though he was recently engaged. And yes, people can realize they made the wrong choice, but influencing that decision isn't a good idea.

mmm_drop

Posts like these are usually trolls...but I'll answer anyway.

GTFO.

There, that was easy. If he feels the same way about you he would do the right thing and break off the engagement and be with you. (Important note, I said he would break off the engagement BEFORE asking you out).

If he asks you out or makes a move before he's broken it off, he will do the same to you.

If he goes through with the marriage, then he doesn't really feel the same way about you.

Either way, your job here is to back the ____ off and let what will happen to happen.

All of this.

heylookitsval

How would you feel if somebody were doing this kind of thing with your fiancee behind your back? Girls like you make me sick. There are billions of other men out there and you go for one that is taken. Shame on you! He sounds like an absolute loser too. Maybe you two deserve each other. Pathetic.

Edited to say: If you do get your way and you two are together, I hope he does exactly the same thing to you.

WOW. Calling this rude would be an understatement.

Not rude. FACT.

Not really, she is not doing anything wrong here. He is the one engaged, not her. It is not girls like this that should make anyone sick, it is guys like him that give the rest of the men out there a bad name.

I think they're both in the wrong...he is definitely a douche for flirting with her while he's engaged, but she steps into the wrong by knowing he's engaged and still flirting and texting him back...

It needs to be like "Hey ____ I like you and feel like we click, but you're engaged and I'm not one to break up a relationship. If you find yourself completely single and available then call me up and we'll see where it goes from there" and then she needs to stop the contact until he calls her telling her he ended his engagement.

Seajolly

I feel like you throw the word love around pretty loosely.

How's that? I didn't lay out the details about how I feel about him. Didn't elaborate. So how can you judge this?

MissSaturday

if he still didn't break off his engagement , means that he wants to use you like a disposable glass. leave the f@cker alone..

Blacklance36

Seriously? You know he's engaged, don't be a home wrecker.

There are other guys in this world, I promise.

What? He's not married, she wouldn't BE a freaking "home wrecker."

People get out of engagements ALL THE TIME. Get engaged to someone, then they meet someone else, etc. etc.

The way I see it, there isn't a ring on his finger, anything could happen still.
Tell him how you feel, be completely honest about it, and if he feels the same way, he'll have some serious thinking to do. If he keeps playing you along, while remaining engaged to be married, he's a d-bag playing around with your feelings and you need to get away.

And if he marries his fiance... Do not pursue!

Good advice. The other thing I'm thinking about is that if you don't try will you regret it for years to come? What's the harm in letting him know how you feel and listening to what he has to say. Maybe he is" the one". Have they set a date? How serious an engagement is this?
Some ladies on here are also giving you a few warnings. Be cautious as you don't want to be played either. Some guys are very good at the game, and to them the game is sXX.

fallenoaks50

Thanks for all of the responses. Some are a little harsh, but totally expected.

For the record: I haven't tried anything with him out of respect for his fiance.

Also, to the person who said he made his choice by asking her to marry him, not me, well I met him after he was engaged so how does that work? Do people not think that you can be engaged and realize that you made the wrong choice about who to ask to marry, because maybe you hadn't met that right person yet? Yes, no, maybe?

Sure, but wouldn't he have dumped her by now if that was the case?

MinMin97

He's dishonest.
Run.

dumb_blondes_rock

Not to be rude, if he wanted you, he would have told you and would have broken up his engagement. I don't think you are a home-wrecker perse, but you are definitely setting yourself up to be the "other woman" and he could potentially just string you along until either he finds another mistress, or you get tired of being used

Plus, if he does break up with her and go for you, who is to say he can't fall in love with another woman while you two are together?

smelius22

Move along, trollop.

DeadliftAddict

They are not married yet. You could be saving him from a big mistake. Then again you might not be. I say tell him how you feel. Then the ball is in his court. If he feels the same way and breaks it off with her for you great. If he says he doesn't feel the same and stops talking to you that's great too. You will know that he knows how you feel and not have to wonder anymore about this later on in life. Be warned though. If he doesn't feel the same way after telling him. Back the hell off and leave him alone or you will be more hurt in the end.

loubidy

Thanks for all of the responses. Some are a little harsh, but totally expected.

For the record: I haven't tried anything with him out of respect for his fiance.

Also, to the person who said he made his choice by asking her to marry him, not me, well I met him after he was engaged so how does that work? Do people not think that you can be engaged and realize that you made the wrong choice about who to ask to marry, because maybe you hadn't met that right person yet? Yes, no, maybe?

I think they can, yes. HOWEVER he's had long enough now to act if he did. Boy best friends are the best friends so if you really get on well with him just leave it and keep your friend.

sarainiowa

If they do it with you, they will do it to you. Think about how you would feel if he was best friends and flirting with someone else, while with you. Chances are that you're not his only "best friend".

You need to move on from this guy and quickly. Good men are out there.

nohaynicknamesdisponibles

rachelamber_x

Next time he starts flirting with you tell him to stop and say it feels wrong because he is engaged. That would make him think about whether it is harmless flirting or whether he actually has feelings for you.
Then its up to him what to do about it.