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"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
Hey. You were wrong. It wasn't embarrassed it was 'nervous'. I've got the inside line.0 -
OP, I'll stick with the general consensus that it's hard to distinguish empathetic people who are good at observing body language from what you describe. Often victims of trauma are hypersensitive to the moods and behaviors of others, often without being aware of how or why.
A doctor told me that they can measure the brain chemicals involved in empathy, finding this chemical to be lower in people with antisocial traits and also show it to deplete after long days of using your emotions, causing compassion fatigue and even inability to concentrate. I don't know more than this, no primary source, doc could be FOS.
I wish I could manage my reactions to the emotions of others better. I find my eyes welling up embarrassingly easily the older I get.0 -
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I had posted in the thread before you popped up to play the shame game, but it was more a commentary on the childish claim of "insecurity" than something relating to you specifically. You, after all, are just some person parroting the same junk mommies tell their kids when other kids are mean to them. "You're special and unique and those kids are just insecure!"
It's not about You (I imagine very few things are ever actually about you) it's about that flawed concept and the thick skulled special snowflakes it creates.
But uh. Thanks for coming back and responding and allowing me to elaborate on my commentary. I appreciate your dutiful desire to defend the OP and such. Great vehicle for discussion.
:yawn:
... I'm sensing some trolling on a reincarnated account.
Not trolling. Just returning and finding that the people who used to be my friends and fell over themselves sucking up to me when they thought I was "cool" now are equally as happy to tear me down because they think they're superior to other people because they've spent more time on an internet calorie counting forum. Ooh you guys are awesome!
Yeah, you know me. We were friends. I remember when you were new and scared and just hoped someone could help you and be nice to you. Now you've been here awhile, gained some confidence, and you use it to what? Mock other people.
I'm not trolling. Just deeply disappointed.
Boy, do you have me confused for someone else... and if I was friends with someone who couldn't understand the relevance of posting an innocuous Deanna Troi .gif, then I'm sure we would have parted ways at one point...
Wait... unless this is still part of your act. Hmm...0 -
I had posted in the thread before you popped up to play the shame game, but it was more a commentary on the childish claim of "insecurity" than something relating to you specifically. You, after all, are just some person parroting the same junk mommies tell their kids when other kids are mean to them. "You're special and unique and those kids are just insecure!"
It's not about You (I imagine very few things are ever actually about you) it's about that flawed concept and the thick skulled special snowflakes it creates.
But uh. Thanks for coming back and responding and allowing me to elaborate on my commentary. I appreciate your dutiful desire to defend the OP and such. Great vehicle for discussion.
:yawn:
... I'm sensing some trolling on a reincarnated account.
Not trolling. Just returning and finding that the people who used to be my friends and fell over themselves sucking up to me when they thought I was "cool" now are equally as happy to tear me down because they think they're superior to other people because they've spent more time on an internet calorie counting forum. Ooh you guys are awesome!
Yeah, you know me. We were friends. I remember when you were new and scared and just hoped someone could help you and be nice to you. Now you've been here awhile, gained some confidence, and you use it to what? Mock other people.
I'm not trolling. Just deeply disappointed.
It's a mothereffing mystery! I love mysteries! It says so in my profile that no one can see because I don't want new scared people thinking we can be friends.
Shelby, who is it? Sherlock Holmes time girl!0 -
I had posted in the thread before you popped up to play the shame game, but it was more a commentary on the childish claim of "insecurity" than something relating to you specifically. You, after all, are just some person parroting the same junk mommies tell their kids when other kids are mean to them. "You're special and unique and those kids are just insecure!"
It's not about You (I imagine very few things are ever actually about you) it's about that flawed concept and the thick skulled special snowflakes it creates.
But uh. Thanks for coming back and responding and allowing me to elaborate on my commentary. I appreciate your dutiful desire to defend the OP and such. Great vehicle for discussion.
:yawn:
... I'm sensing some trolling on a reincarnated account.
Not trolling. Just returning and finding that the people who used to be my friends and fell over themselves sucking up to me when they thought I was "cool" now are equally as happy to tear me down because they think they're superior to other people because they've spent more time on an internet calorie counting forum. Ooh you guys are awesome!
Yeah, you know me. We were friends. I remember when you were new and scared and just hoped someone could help you and be nice to you. Now you've been here awhile, gained some confidence, and you use it to what? Mock other people.
I'm not trolling. Just deeply disappointed.
Well, this just got uncomfortably personal.0 -
I had posted in the thread before you popped up to play the shame game, but it was more a commentary on the childish claim of "insecurity" than something relating to you specifically. You, after all, are just some person parroting the same junk mommies tell their kids when other kids are mean to them. "You're special and unique and those kids are just insecure!"
It's not about You (I imagine very few things are ever actually about you) it's about that flawed concept and the thick skulled special snowflakes it creates.
But uh. Thanks for coming back and responding and allowing me to elaborate on my commentary. I appreciate your dutiful desire to defend the OP and such. Great vehicle for discussion.
:yawn:
... I'm sensing some trolling on a reincarnated account.
Not trolling. Just returning and finding that the people who used to be my friends and fell over themselves sucking up to me when they thought I was "cool" now are equally as happy to tear me down because they think they're superior to other people because they've spent more time on an internet calorie counting forum. Ooh you guys are awesome!
Yeah, you know me. We were friends. I remember when you were new and scared and just hoped someone could help you and be nice to you. Now you've been here awhile, gained some confidence, and you use it to what? Mock other people.
I'm not trolling. Just deeply disappointed.
Well, this just got uncomfortably personal.
I think you meant "this just got even FUNNIER"
Empathy fail!0 -
Yes, I am highly empathic. It sucks sometimes.
Do you pick up on other people's emotions, before they even convey what's wrong with them?
Hell - I dont even pick up on it when they *tell* me ...0 -
I had posted in the thread before you popped up to play the shame game, but it was more a commentary on the childish claim of "insecurity" than something relating to you specifically. You, after all, are just some person parroting the same junk mommies tell their kids when other kids are mean to them. "You're special and unique and those kids are just insecure!"
It's not about You (I imagine very few things are ever actually about you) it's about that flawed concept and the thick skulled special snowflakes it creates.
But uh. Thanks for coming back and responding and allowing me to elaborate on my commentary. I appreciate your dutiful desire to defend the OP and such. Great vehicle for discussion.
:yawn:
... I'm sensing some trolling on a reincarnated account.
Not trolling. Just returning and finding that the people who used to be my friends and fell over themselves sucking up to me when they thought I was "cool" now are equally as happy to tear me down because they think they're superior to other people because they've spent more time on an internet calorie counting forum. Ooh you guys are awesome!
Yeah, you know me. We were friends. I remember when you were new and scared and just hoped someone could help you and be nice to you. Now you've been here awhile, gained some confidence, and you use it to what? Mock other people.
I'm not trolling. Just deeply disappointed.
Well, this just got uncomfortably personal.
I think you meant "this just got even FUNNIER"
Empathy fail!
Or that.
Whatevs.0 -
"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!0 -
"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!
I antagonize you because I know, empathetically , that it's your favorite.
ETA: YAY SPELL CHECK0 -
"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!
I antagonize you because I know, empathetically , that it's your favorite.
ETA: YAY SPELL CHECK
This cat reads minds!0 -
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!
Gem from my 4 year-old (13 years ago): But he hit me back first!!!0 -
But. But. Mystery!0
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Also, this thread took and interesting turn.
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"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!
I antagonize you because I know, empathetically , that it's your favorite.
ETA: YAY SPELL CHECK
This cat reads minds!
But doesn't resize images.
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"No it's ok that we tease her, she spelled something wrong or said something the wrong way, so we're allowed. Plus at one point she tried to stick up for herself, and we hate that most of all."
Know what's cool about being empathic? You realize that most of the teasing comes from people's deep insecurities. So I hope the OP knows that and isn't quite so bothered by it.
I'm not insecure, I'm an *kitten*. I mock because it amuses me. It doesn't make me feel better about myself (my ego is already fairly large) but it does make me chuckle.
I'll thank you to not pin such mundane motivations as "Insecurity" (a term often used by the weak and angry to try and bring down those they feel are 'mean' to their level) upon me.
I'm sensing insecurity.
Embarrassment
You is a terrible empath.
You're terrible.
Don't call her names!
But...but...you started it!
I antagonize you because I know, empathetically , that it's your favorite.
ETA: YAY SPELL CHECK
This cat reads minds!
But doesn't resize images.0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
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Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.
Apology accepted. Don't let it happen again.0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
I love the age old, "You've posted frequently on a forum; you must have no life." Working at a desk job, being on a forum for 2+ years, and being a member of private groups where you'll have extended conversations with people will certainly make a post count go up
I love giving people help and advice! I didn't realize you were in the market for that. Guess you could say I'm... not very empathic.
P.S. Have you ever WATCHED Star Trek: The Next Generation?
(HelWithThis... Are you Greggie? WHO IS GREGGIE?)0 -
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Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
Firstsips averages seven posts a day.
Is that a lot in your opinion? Enough that you feel it's worthy of scorn? Or are you just bad at math? Curious.0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
If it makes you feel any better, when I make serious threads, "they" do it to me even worse (or more and with greater gusto).
And if it *doesn't* make you feel any better, well, it's still true.
If anything, the increased activity made your thread more visible to the entire MFP community. Otherwise, you would be complaining about how your thread only got a response or two before it fell off the RFT list. Yeah, that happens...often.
Meh. Best of luck with all your health and fitness goals. :flowerforyou:0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.
Apology accepted. Don't let it happen again.
Imagine I'm an attractive woman, because I wasn't speaking to you.
But now you are.
And there were no rails in the first place.0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.
Apology accepted. Don't let it happen again.
Imagine I'm an attractive woman, because I wasn't speaking to you.
But now you are.
And there were no rails in the first place.
If anything you all gave this thread the purpose the OP failed to give it. You have this thread life! You are it's parents!0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
What did our ages and number of posts tell you exactly?
There are a handful of people on my FL know me in real life and a couple I talk to on here every single day. All of them will tell you I have talked to them about being an empath at one point or another. I understand your desire for connection for those like us. As somebody who carries the emotional weight of the people I love and unfortunately, the people I merely encounter - I get how devastating it can feel to express a need or desire of your own and feel it's being mocked. After all, wouldn't it be nice if somebody give us, what we give?
What I have come to learn is that sometimes I can be so emotionally frayed from others, that I see slights to me, were none were actually meant.0 -
No apologies need, it's all good! Thanks again!Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.
Apology accepted. Don't let it happen again.
Imagine I'm an attractive woman, because I wasn't speaking to you.
But now you are.
And there were no rails in the first place.
If anything you all gave this thread the purpose the OP failed to give it. You have this thread life! You are it's parents!
All the credit for what this thread became should go to Firstsip!!!!0 -
Fascinating how one question turned into this. Then I looked up the ages of some of the "picture" posters, and the number of times they have posted on the forums,.....that explained alot. I hope one day when you all need advice, or are just looking for someone to relate to, that you get treated exactly the same way as you treat others. To those who posted sincere comments, thanks, I appreciate it. I'll be looking at them again later on. Have a good weekend folks
You have a good attitude about things. And I very much apologize for the derail.
Apology accepted. Don't let it happen again.
Imagine I'm an attractive woman, because I wasn't speaking to you.
But now you are.
And there were no rails in the first place.
If anything you all gave this thread the purpose the OP failed to give it. You have this thread life! You are it's parents!
All the credit for what this thread became should go to Firstsip!!!!
Indeed. This is her baby.
Congrats Firstsip!0
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