Boyfriend & Boobies

Greytfish

I don't lose my chest as I lose weight. It depends on what kind of tissue is dominant -- fat or mammary. Exe cises can help perk them up, but nothing you do can top you from losing them if that's your body type.

This

Yes they are her's
and Yes she has to do what's right.

But that doesn't mean he is or has to be okay with it. He is entitled to his opinion and tastes.

I can tell you right now if my boyfriend got fat like- seriously fat- it would be over. I'm just completely not attracted to that type of life style behavior and body type.

If her boyfriend is disrespectful to her or leaves her because she loses her boobs as she loses weight, she probably is better off without him, anyway.

And this.

There's a world of difference between someone whose overall unhealthy lifestyle is a source of conflict and a healthy lifestyle causing a reduction of one particular feature over wheich she doesn't have any control.

And yes, OP, you can do targeted chest and pectoral exercises as you lose that will both make what you have "perkier" and probably make you more comfortable.

And, yes, men will touch areas of our bodies we're not entirely happy about at present. He's a man and he gets the provilege of touching a woman, he's just going to enjoy it, especially if he already likes a whole lot of other things. Who knows, if you lose a bit up top, he might like it better.

JaniePapageorgio

Agreed, he sounds like a good guy in that he will support you in whatever you do. Don't worry too much! If your boobs get smaller, guess what? Your waist is getting smaller, too! Proportionally you're most likely not going to have tiny boobs if yu didn't start out that way....although this is coming from a girl who used to wear a "barely B" when they still made that size in my brand- my husband always says I he'll support no matter what, but he'll be sad if my butt disappears.

Good luck with your weight loss and I'm sure your BF will love the added confidence and continue loving you and your boobs.

mccindy72

Eh, boobies are overrated.

As a man, I have to strongly disagree with that statement...but I will add that boobs do not make the relationship unless that is what the relationship was based on...I know a few people who dated others strictly based on boob size.
My wife has a nice boobs...and I like 'em but they do not define our relationship.

THIS. He loves you, not your boobs. He just likes them. Even if they get smaller, he still loves you.

Mine were 34 DD before I lost 10 lbs, now they are 32 D-DD. (irritating that they are stuck between cup sizes). Everyone loses fat differently, so there's no way to know. Just lose your weight. He loves you and supports you, so don't worry about it.

mccindy72

We were enemies as teenagers, friends during highschool,

I know not the point of your post, but I don't know anyone who was not a teenager in high school ...

Sheldon Cooper and Doogie Howser.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

This is a big fear my wife has. She down plays it and I tease her about it, but I can tell it really bothers her. Her insecurity not my teasing (before I get blasted)! With that said, it is my hope that she knows I love her, in and out. We were enemies as teenagers, friends during highschool, and then I married her while she was in college (she still finished). She started at 180 and has gained a lot of weight since then due to her lifestyle, children, and lifestyle. While I do appreciate breasts in all their beauty, I love my wife more. When her mother was diagnosed with cancer, the inevitable conversation came up, if she has breast cancer would I still find her attractive. Yes. A million times, yes. If he said, he is behind you no matter what, then believe it. Love is a by product of faith and trust. Invest it in him and get back your return.

I'd advise you to stop teasing her about it if you know it really bothers her. :huh:

I know. It's my natural reaction to dramatic situations to try and alleviate with humor. It seems to be a hit and miss philosophy.

Redirect it. Start making jokes about how nice her *kitten* is instead.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

This thread makes me glad I married a man who doesn't have overly specific ideas of what is and is not physically attractive.

QuietBloom

I don't lose my chest as I lose weight. It depends on what kind of tissue is dominant -- fat or mammary. Exe cises can help perk them up, but nothing you do can top you from losing them if that's your body type.

This

Yes they are her's
and Yes she has to do what's right.

But that doesn't mean he is or has to be okay with it. He is entitled to his opinion and tastes.

I can tell you right now if my boyfriend got fat like- seriously fat- it would be over. I'm just completely not attracted to that type of life style behavior and body type.

If her boyfriend is disrespectful to her or leaves her because she loses her boobs as she loses weight, she probably is better off without him, anyway.

And this.

There's a world of difference between someone whose overall unhealthy lifestyle is a source of conflict and a healthy lifestyle causing a reduction of one particular feature over wheich she doesn't have any control.

And yes, OP, you can do targeted chest and pectoral exercises as you lose that will both make what you have "perkier" and probably make you more comfortable.

And, yes, men will touch areas of our bodies we're not entirely happy about at present. He's a man and he gets the provilege of touching a woman, he's just going to enjoy it, especially if he already likes a whole lot of other things. Who knows, if you lose a bit up top, he might like it better.

Um, no. The breasts are suspended by the Cooper's ligaments, no muscles involved in breast support (unfortunately). If you can build up your pecs, they might appear slightly larger in shirts.

ironanimal

Buy some when you're all done with your weightloss. The magic of modern science.

Slim_strategy

I lost 44lbs and I went from a C to a B, but my boyfriend says he likes them because they're perky and ''a handful is enough'' xD

SakuraRose13

Well after my children was a 34 D , at 150 lbs now at 116 size 32 D, lost 4 sizes in pants and 5 in dresses , before kids was a B not sure why more boobs are still bigger oh well , my husband likes me no matter what the size he wasn't a boob man to begin with anyway , he liked my posterior and legs more , luckily I got both am 4ft 10 for reference turning 30 on Sunday yay i seem to be the only one happy to be getting older anymore but that could be because in person I look younger than I'm lol

nicmax88

Dropped weight and went from a full C to a small B. Gained weight, boobs stayed a B. Now trying to lose again and may end up with nothing!!

Myhaloslipped

Just break up! :drinker:

BattleTaxi

If he is true to his word about being behind you no matter what, then don't worry about the boobs!

Mine don't get bigger/smaller from weight. Any bigger and I'm getting a reduction, honestly. If who ever I am romantically with at the time has a problem with that, they can get steppin'!

Losing weight may bring confidence for you. But to be honest, if you are that uncomfortable with your body, I'm not sure simply losing weight and altering your breast size is going to bring you confidence. You need to learn to love yourself for who you are inside and out or you will never be satisfied with YOU.

19TaraLynn84

My fear is that I WON'T lose my boobs! I have always been big-chested, but these DDDs gotta go! I think they will shrink some. I have already noticed that my cups no longer run over, if you know what I mean.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

lockedcj7

I'll probably get flamed for this but here goes:

He sounds like a good guy who'll love you no matter what but your perception of how he likes your new body may vary.

I had a friend in H.S. who had one boob that was an A and one that was closer to a C. She was extremely self conscious about it and it messed with her happiness. For her 18th birthday, her mother took her to see a plastic surgeon. The difference in her attitude after that was amazing. She smiled, laughed and felt great for the first time in her life.

The same people who criticized her for having surgery were the same ones who had just gotten their braces off! What I'm saying is this: If your boobs get smaller and/or sag and it messes with your self-esteem, there is a way to fix it.

explorationerin

I was a 36G when i started, i've lost 24lbs and im still a 36G, ive lost 15.5 inches off my body and not 1 inch off my boobs. Think they are here to stay!

rml_16

I'll probably get flamed for this but here goes:

He sounds like a good guy who'll love you no matter what but your perception of how he likes your new body may vary.

I had a friend in H.S. who had one boob that was an A and one that was closer to a C. She was extremely self conscious about it and it messed with her happiness. For her 18th birthday, her mother took her to see a plastic surgeon. The difference in her attitude after that was amazing. She smiled, laughed and felt great for the first time in her life.

The same people who criticized her for having surgery were the same ones who had just gotten their braces off! What I'm saying is this: If your boobs get smaller and/or sag and it messes with your self-esteem, there is a way to fix it.

You're equating a malformation with someone losing a little boobage with weight loss? The difference between an A cup and a C cup is major. Any woman would be self-conscious about that.

I'm not flaming you, but your response doesn't address the OP's issue. At all.

sargessexyone

Yes they are her's
and Yes she has to do what's right.

But that doesn't mean he is or has to be okay with it. He is entitled to his opinion and tastes.

I can tell you right now if my boyfriend got fat like- seriously fat- it would be over. I'm just completely not attracted to that type of life style behavior and body type.

If her boyfriend is disrespectful to her or leaves her because she loses her boobs as she loses weight, she probably is better off without him, anyway.

This 100%

kgeyser

I've gone from a 34GG to a 34G (I think) so far. I married a guy who likes big breasts, but even he is on board with them getting back down to the point where they wouldn't put him at risk for carpal tunnel or a sprained wrist.

CountryGirl8542

mine are gone and look terrible..... but I have always wanted fake titties so that's my plan after maintaining my goal weight for a year! Lol

JaniePapageorgio

This thread makes me glad I married a man who doesn't have overly specific ideas of what is and is not physically attractive.

Yup. My hubs always says "My favorite kind of boobs are the ones I'm allowed to touch".

johnsonb0921

I went from a 42DD (at 240lbs) to 38D (at 185lbs), and damn happy for it! I can finally buy the cute, cheap bras off the clearance rack! But the saggage...oh boy. That warrants a big-ol' sad face for me --->

SpecialSundae

My husband's forever touching and cuddling my stomach because for some weird reason he loves it (and loved it even more when it was bigger).

Anyway, don't worry about your boobs. You have no control over whether they grow, shrink or stay the same so there's no point in stressing over it. Mine have shrunk a little 36E/34F to 32E/30F but they actually look bigger sometimes because the rest of me has shrunk a lot more.

JoRocka

Yes they are her's
and Yes she has to do what's right.

But that doesn't mean he is or has to be okay with it. He is entitled to his opinion and tastes.

I can tell you right now if my boyfriend got fat like- seriously fat- it would be over. I'm just completely not attracted to that type of life style behavior and body type.

If her boyfriend is disrespectful to her or leaves her because she loses her boobs as she loses weight, she probably is better off without him, anyway.

This 100%

and yet if a woman takes issues with a man's small penis it's okay for her to walk away from that instead of just love him anyway?

Way to much jump on the "love covers everything" band wagon. The reality is it doesn't.

If you don't find a certain thing attractive- it doesn't make you shallow- it makes you know what you like. No this is not a hard line- there is without a doubt a wide gray swath of what is acceptable on each side and what someone is willing to accept- but everyone has a point where they would no longer be attractive things wouldn't be so hot to trot.

That's a reality. I'm at least adult enough to admit that I could never be attracted to certain things. That isn't shallow- it's reality.

Lake_Po

when i lost weight the first time, i was only 19 so my bra size actually went up (which was a magical power i wish i could bottle), but this time I'm less lucky.

for me, as i'm losing weight, i feel more confident being naked and my boob man is less worried about the fact that the girls are shrinking and more excited about the fact that they make appearances more often. i do plan on getting a boob job one day and that's a choice i am making for myself and it's always an option if you feel like it's the right one for you.

MrsG31

his biggest issue was that he didn't want me to lose my chest!

He told me he'd be behind me no matter what I do.

Contradict much? I'm sorry, but if my husband said that to me, I think I would done a "Back the effin' truck up! YOUR issue with MY losing weight and getting healthy is having smaller boobs? Whatever happens to my boobs is gonna happen whether you like or not."

Having 2 children and breast-feeding DESTROYED my boobs and we both knew it was a possibility, but my husband never, ever told me he was worried about that. If he had, well, he may have slept on the couch that night. If anything, I am the one now that misses my old boobs. But here I go trying to work on my fitness, bb's be damned.

steampunk_pilot

I'll probably get flamed for this but here goes:

He sounds like a good guy who'll love you no matter what but your perception of how he likes your new body may vary.

I had a friend in H.S. who had one boob that was an A and one that was closer to a C. She was extremely self conscious about it and it messed with her happiness. For her 18th birthday, her mother took her to see a plastic surgeon. The difference in her attitude after that was amazing. She smiled, laughed and felt great for the first time in her life.

The same people who criticized her for having surgery were the same ones who had just gotten their braces off! What I'm saying is this: If your boobs get smaller and/or sag and it messes with your self-esteem, there is a way to fix it.

You're equating a malformation with someone losing a little boobage with weight loss? The difference between an A cup and a C cup is major. Any woman would be self-conscious about that.

I'm not flaming you, but your response doesn't address the OP's issue. At all.

You are always so harsh on the forums. It's as though, if someone doesnt give the advice that you would give, you deem them irrelevant. It portrays close-mindedness.

I think that what he had to say was excellent and right on topic.

If the OP works really hard and reaches a level of fitness that makes her very very happy, but the lost size at the bust makes her feel sad or self-conscious - she does have the option for plastic surgery, which can give many people a happy ending they deserve. You shouldnt have to choose between health and boobs. You can get healthy and buy some new ones.

Many people have this as a reward for meeting their biggest goals and should not be poo-pooed on.

rml_16

Yes they are her's
and Yes she has to do what's right.

But that doesn't mean he is or has to be okay with it. He is entitled to his opinion and tastes.

I can tell you right now if my boyfriend got fat like- seriously fat- it would be over. I'm just completely not attracted to that type of life style behavior and body type.

If her boyfriend is disrespectful to her or leaves her because she loses her boobs as she loses weight, she probably is better off without him, anyway.

This 100%

and yet if a woman takes issues with a man's small penis it's okay for her to walk away from that instead of just love him anyway?

Way to much jump on the "love covers everything" band wagon. The reality is it doesn't.

If you don't find a certain thing attractive- it doesn't make you shallow- it makes you know what you like. No this is not a hard line- there is without a doubt a wide gray swath of what is acceptable on each side and what someone is willing to accept- but everyone has a point where they would no longer be attractive things wouldn't be so hot to trot.

That's a reality. I'm at least adult enough to admit that I could never be attracted to certain things. That isn't shallow- it's reality.

You are introducing a sentiment that no one here has expressed, so I'm not sure why you think it's relevent.

Where did I say it was OK for a woman to ridicule or leave a man she claims she loves over something like that? Where did I say I would do so or have done so?

If you can find that quote from me, I might take this last post seriously.

mccindy72

his biggest issue was that he didn't want me to lose my chest!

He told me he'd be behind me no matter what I do.

Contradict much? I'm sorry, but if my husband said that to me, I think I would done a "Back the effin' truck up! YOUR issue with MY losing weight and getting healthy is having smaller boobs? Whatever happens to my boobs is gonna happen whether you like or not."

Having 2 children and breast-feeding DESTROYED my boobs and we both knew it was a possibility, but my husband never, ever told me he was worried about that. If he had, well, he may have slept on the couch that night. If anything, I am the one now that misses my old boobs. But here I go trying to work on my fitness, bb's be damned.

So if your husband was honest and told you he had some concern that you might have some change to your breasts due to childbirth and you got angry, you'd make him sleep on the couch? I've never understood this concept. Jeez, if you get mad at him, maybe you should go sleep on the couch, you're the one with the issue. Or perhaps you should just sit down and have an adult discussion about your concerns and fears? What happened to communication?