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Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
No place.
I'm sorry but physical attraction most certainly IS important in a relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is lying to themselves. If my husband gained a ton of weight and was seriously fat you bet I would no longer be physically attracted to him and vice versa. Yes, I love him. Yes, I think he's awesome, has a great personality and is my world but I also have to be attracted to him. If I'm not then that means we're not having sex any longer and he might as well just be a really good friend and there's no reason why we should be together any longer. He feels the same way about me.0 -
Hmm after losing 70 pounds my chest- remained the same but it went from 38 C to 36 C so the inches where getting slim but the size remained the same. I can wear sports bra, regular bra and push up bra fine.
Now I must say being 26 I feel it has sagged a bit but it keeps my posture on point and I am rewarding myself with VS items when I reach my goals and holidays instead of eating out on processed foods so it's a win win for me and my man. And yes, I do notice that I have sagged because this is my body but he worships them and that's all that matters. One humble lesson learned: We only have one body but there are plenty of people to love your body AS IS if you aren't getting that now from your significant other.
If you actually went from a 38C to a 36C, your breast inches would also have gone down and your volume actually changed. A bra size is determined by the difference in inches from the band to the cup. You probably lost weight evenly with your bust/underbust then.
Of course, I urge EVERYONE to stay away from VS and get properly fitted, since you and half the people in this thread are probably in the wrong size bra
Help me understand more about this breast volume and proper sizing......for science and stuff.0 -
I dont understand why people use the example what if a husband got fat.
The women we are talking about are LOSING weight and taking care of themselves.
whatever.
either way they we be what they will be...no sense worrying.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
No place.
I'm sorry but physical attraction most certainly IS important in a relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is lying to themselves. If my husband gained a ton of weight and was seriously fat you bet I would no longer be physically attracted to him and vice versa. Yes, I love him. Yes, I think he's awesome, has a great personality and is my world but I also have to be attracted to him. If I'm not then that means we're not having sex any longer and he might as well just be a really good friend and there's no reason why we should be together any longer. He feels the same way about me.
I so agree with this statement...reality can be harsh...0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?0 -
I guess my attraction to the man I love and have a life with is based on a lot more than whether he's fat.Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?0 -
Okay, ladies. I was all excited to get back on track this month with my workouts and healthy eating. I've lost 25 pounds since mid-June of 2013 with a few months of maintaining (not intentionally, but thank God I wasn't gaining!) & I still want to lose at least 30 to 40 more pounds. My boyfriend is around 6'2 and weighs 135. I'm 5'4 and weigh 180. Needless to say, he's quite a bit thinner than I am. I've noticed though that a lot of the things I'm insecure about he likes. He touches my stomach all the time too, which shows that he isn't repulsed by it. I'm unhappy with my body, so I assumed he would dislike my figure too. When I told him about me wanting to lose weight again (he's always been extremely supportive, even back when we were best friends) his biggest issue was that he didn't want me to lose my chest! He told me he'd be behind me no matter what I do. I know I have to lose weight so that I can be happy in my own body but I also would really love for my chest to stay around a size C. I've read that chest exercises can strengthen the pectoral muscles, making your breasts look perkier and more uplifted. I know there really isn't any way to tell how much fat I will lose in my chest, but I'm curious. So ladies, what has happened to your chest size after you lost weight? Any tips or advice?
Sounds like he could bulk up a bit and if he doesnt want to then, no problem but he can't expect you to be perfect either. As far as boobs go you have no control over what you lose or don't so don't sweat it. Just focus on being healthy. I personally lost 45 pounds and at the same time went up cup sizes. From a 44DDD to a 40H. Probably the exception to the rule but it can happen. Best of luck!0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?0 -
I dont understand why people use the example what if a husband got fat.
The women we are talking about are LOSING weight and taking care of themselves.
whatever.
either way they we be what they will be...no sense worrying.
Yes, we seem to have lost the distinction between someone developing one part of thier body in a healthy way that might not tickle another's fancy and someone engaging in prolonged unhealthy behavior that also has the effect of changing appearance.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
No place.
I'm sorry but physical attraction most certainly IS important in a relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is lying to themselves. If my husband gained a ton of weight and was seriously fat you bet I would no longer be physically attracted to him and vice versa. Yes, I love him. Yes, I think he's awesome, has a great personality and is my world but I also have to be attracted to him. If I'm not then that means we're not having sex any longer and he might as well just be a really good friend and there's no reason why we should be together any longer. He feels the same way about me.
I so agree with this statement...reality can be harsh...
my hubs is overweight, and I'm still attracted to him. We still have sex. We've been together for nearly 26 years and there is a hell of a lot more to our relationship than what he looks like. He's still everything I fell in love with and has grown to be much more. We raised two boys together, and have been through many life experiences together. No one knows me better. Yes, he may be overweight, but he certainly knows all the right buttons to push to get me going, and there is more to being sexy than just some tight abs. How incredibly shallow a person would have to be to decide that the person they pledged to love forever isn't worth their time anymore simply because of some weight gain or some stretched out skin. Time and reality will slap some people in the face some day. Pretty hair turns gray, skin wrinkles and sags, and if you haven't found someone who loves you for more than just what you look like by the time that happens, you'll be pretty lonely.0 -
We were enemies as teenagers, friends during highschool,
I know not the point of your post, but I don't know anyone who was not a teenager in high school ...
Sheldon Cooper and Doogie Howser.
well doogie howser went straight to med school so he does not count...
The events were over a 3 year period and seemed as though they needed distinction. I though splitting them up was the best way to best avoid redundancy.0 -
No, it is the opposite of conditions.Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?
No, vowing to stay with someone regardless of their health is not putting a condition on it. It is the very definition of unconditional love.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?
No, vowing to stay with someone regardless of their health is not putting a condition on it. It is the very definition of unconditional love.
I don't see vowing to stay with someone regardless of medical health is a reflection on unconditional love. There are those in arranged marriages of sorts that stay married and care for each other to a point because it is expected...not because they love each other unconditionally. There are those that due to religious circumstances get married due to an accidental pregnancy and stay together not because they love each other, but because they fear retaliation and judgement from family and such.
But the rest of the line follows with - until death do you part. So isn't that making it a condition?0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?
No, vowing to stay with someone regardless of their health is not putting a condition on it. It is the very definition of unconditional love.
I don't see vowing to stay with someone regardless of medical health is a reflection on unconditional love. There are those in arranged marriages of sorts that stay married and care for each other to a point because it is expected...not because they love each other unconditionally. There are those that due to religious circumstances get married due to an accidental pregnancy and stay together not because they love each other, but because they fear retaliation and judgement from family and such.
But the rest of the line follows with - until death do you part. So isn't that making it a condition?
the unconditionalilty of the love is the statement that (I love you so much, I am vowing to stay with you no matter what, even if you get sick ,or fat, or ugly, or *****y, or we have 12 kids or get really poor). No matter what means DESPITE the conditions we find ourselves in, I'll stay, because I love you.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
The conversation kind of moved on to that when someone basically said that would be perfectly understandable and she'd leave her SO (whom she claims she loves) if he got fat.
So?
I'd leave my husband if he got fat and he'd leave me for the same reason. We both know this and agreed that it's acceptable. Once one is no longer physically attracted to their SO then it doesn't matter how much you love them. Would it be better if, in that situation, the couple stayed together and the non-fat one decided to cheat because they were aroused by someone else who met their physical needs?
My vows stated in sickness and in health, for better or worse. I don't understand people who get married but have conditions.
Sure, there are things I would leave my husband for, abuse of myself or my child for example. But he is an amazing person. He is currently 60 pounds over weight and I am 40. What is the cut off point? At what point should I say, oh you're too fat, I can't be with you anymore?
Technically, isn't vowing to stay in sickness or in health and such...conditions?
No, vowing to stay with someone regardless of their health is not putting a condition on it. It is the very definition of unconditional love.
I don't see vowing to stay with someone regardless of medical health is a reflection on unconditional love. There are those in arranged marriages of sorts that stay married and care for each other to a point because it is expected...not because they love each other unconditionally. There are those that due to religious circumstances get married due to an accidental pregnancy and stay together not because they love each other, but because they fear retaliation and judgement from family and such.
But the rest of the line follows with - until death do you part. So isn't that making it a condition?
and the 'til death do you part? is because that is the only thing that can separate us, we have no control over it.0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
No place.
I'm sorry but physical attraction most certainly IS important in a relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is lying to themselves. If my husband gained a ton of weight and was seriously fat you bet I would no longer be physically attracted to him and vice versa. Yes, I love him. Yes, I think he's awesome, has a great personality and is my world but I also have to be attracted to him. If I'm not then that means we're not having sex any longer and he might as well just be a really good friend and there's no reason why we should be together any longer. He feels the same way about me.
I so agree with this statement...reality can be harsh...
my hubs is overweight, and I'm still attracted to him. We still have sex. We've been together for nearly 26 years and there is a hell of a lot more to our relationship than what he looks like. He's still everything I fell in love with and has grown to be much more. We raised two boys together, and have been through many life experiences together. No one knows me better. Yes, he may be overweight, but he certainly knows all the right buttons to push to get me going, and there is more to being sexy than just some tight abs. How incredibly shallow a person would have to be to decide that the person they pledged to love forever isn't worth their time anymore simply because of some weight gain or some stretched out skin. Time and reality will slap some people in the face some day. Pretty hair turns gray, skin wrinkles and sags, and if you haven't found someone who loves you for more than just what you look like by the time that happens, you'll be pretty lonely.
I've been married for 8 years and together for a total of 18. When I am no longer physically attracted to my husband, when I can't even muster up the pretense that I'm attracted to him enough to have sex than why stay together? Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship and if it's to the point where you're no longer having it because you are no longer attracted to the person you're with then why stay together?0 -
Why would it make him shallow if he's sad that her boobs shrank? I didn't see any place where the OP said that he'd be so upset that he'd leave her over it.
No place.
I'm sorry but physical attraction most certainly IS important in a relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is lying to themselves. If my husband gained a ton of weight and was seriously fat you bet I would no longer be physically attracted to him and vice versa. Yes, I love him. Yes, I think he's awesome, has a great personality and is my world but I also have to be attracted to him. If I'm not then that means we're not having sex any longer and he might as well just be a really good friend and there's no reason why we should be together any longer. He feels the same way about me.
I so agree with this statement...reality can be harsh...
my hubs is overweight, and I'm still attracted to him. We still have sex. We've been together for nearly 26 years and there is a hell of a lot more to our relationship than what he looks like. He's still everything I fell in love with and has grown to be much more. We raised two boys together, and have been through many life experiences together. No one knows me better. Yes, he may be overweight, but he certainly knows all the right buttons to push to get me going, and there is more to being sexy than just some tight abs. How incredibly shallow a person would have to be to decide that the person they pledged to love forever isn't worth their time anymore simply because of some weight gain or some stretched out skin. Time and reality will slap some people in the face some day. Pretty hair turns gray, skin wrinkles and sags, and if you haven't found someone who loves you for more than just what you look like by the time that happens, you'll be pretty lonely.
I've been married for 8 years and together for a total of 18. When I am no longer physically attracted to my husband, when I can't even muster up the pretense that I'm attracted to him enough to have sex than why stay together? Sex is an extremely important part of a relationship and if it's to the point where you're no longer having it because you are no longer attracted to the person you're with then why stay together?
then you aren't really in love. If my husband became disabled and we could no longer have sex at all, I'd stay with him. No matter what.0
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