chubby or skinny
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It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
That's a very sad generalization. So because a few thin people teased you, all thin people should be teased now? I can tell you it doesn't feel very good to be told you need to eat a cheeseburger for being too thin. Especially when you can't eat one because you have a bowel disorder. Everyone has his or her own story sweetheart. Don't judge us all based on a couple of cruel people you came into contact with.
To say it's only a couple shows the blindness skinny people have to the issue. So a few people told you to eat a cheese burger. Probably friends, maybe some family. Did total strangers ever do it? Every kid at school? People on the street every point? Doubt it.
Holy bitterness!
Do you let that kind of vitriol roll off the tongue in public, too?
If you are constantly coming in contact with cruel people, maybe take a look at how you treat others. You probably have a knack at bringing out the worst in others, and weight probably has very little to do with it.0 -
Well my cousin has been hospitalized and gone through treatment for anorexia twice, cannot walk through a mall in the greater los angeles area without getting phone numbers from men, offers to model, her gas pumped, her groceries carried to her apartment, offers to go on a yacht for the weekend..etc. She'll tell you personally that after she hits the 110 pound mark the offers stop drifting off, but they pour in at 95 pounds....
You need help.0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
So very sad. The guy I'm dating? He's just over 300 pounds and one of the most amazing men I know. Confident and sweet. Smart and sexy. Handsome and fun. Don't judge a book by its cover.0 -
starting to realize this thread was a gateway to skinny bashing and body shaming.
See, av.
that is one of my favorite sayings. :happy:
I saw it on facebook and reposted it there... and with the advent of what this thread turned into thought it would be a good thing for people to see here to.... I have not seen shaming of fat people from skinny (though I do and have seen it the other way around... and for those that don't know me or don't remember what I look like, I am currently 50 pounds overweight (with fat) and and am on the cusp of overweight and obese according to the BMI chart) but then I know some of the strongest women... and not just in the weight room.
Strong women have no need to tear down others to lift themselves up. And strength isn't just measured in the weight room either.0 -
Someone who cares about their health (I don't care if they are average, chubby, skinny, etc but give a damn about what you are eating and how you are exercising). After health, personality, confidence and similar interests are pretty important as well as hygiene.0
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It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
That's a very sad generalization. So because a few thin people teased you, all thin people should be teased now? I can tell you it doesn't feel very good to be told you need to eat a cheeseburger for being too thin. Especially when you can't eat one because you have a bowel disorder. Everyone has his or her own story sweetheart. Don't judge us all based on a couple of cruel people you came into contact with.
To say it's only a couple shows the blindness skinny people have to the issue. So a few people told you to eat a cheese burger. Probably friends, maybe some family. Did total strangers ever do it? Every kid at school? People on the street every point? Doubt it.
Holy bitterness!
Do you let that kind of vitriol roll off the tongue in public, too?
If you are constantly coming in contact with cruel people, maybe take a look at how you treat others. You probably have a knack at bringing out the worst in others, and weight probably has very little to do with it.
You seriously aren't getting it. If strangers point at you and laugh it has zero to do with how you treat people? Your arguement makes no sense. And why does your advice not apply to the skinny girl who's friends make fun of her for being skinny? She she examine herself aswell? Or does this advice only apply to a fat person being made fun of? Again, like I said. The rules are different. If you're fat and you get made fun of it's your fault. You're doing something wrong. If you get teased for being too skinny you're the victim.0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
So very sad. The guy I'm dating? He's just over 300 pounds and one of the most amazing men I know. Confident and sweet. Smart and sexy. Handsome and fun. Don't judge a book by its cover.
I agree it is sad... my DH is probably around that right now (I don't know for sure, just guessing) and he is the smartest and most generous person I know.0 -
Well my cousin has been hospitalized and gone through treatment for anorexia twice, cannot walk through a mall in the greater los angeles area without getting phone numbers from men, offers to model, her gas pumped, her groceries carried to her apartment, offers to go on a yacht for the weekend..etc. She'll tell you personally that after she hits the 110 pound mark the offers stop drifting off, but they pour in at 95 pounds....
What are things that don't happen in reality, Alex?0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
So very sad. The guy I'm dating? He's just over 300 pounds and one of the most amazing men I know. Confident and sweet. Smart and sexy. Handsome and fun. Don't judge a book by its cover.
My husband weighs in at 275 (he's down to that from 295). I've been married to him for nearly 24 years. The most wonderful guy I've ever known in my life.0 -
It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
That's a very sad generalization. So because a few thin people teased you, all thin people should be teased now? I can tell you it doesn't feel very good to be told you need to eat a cheeseburger for being too thin. Especially when you can't eat one because you have a bowel disorder. Everyone has his or her own story sweetheart. Don't judge us all based on a couple of cruel people you came into contact with.
To say it's only a couple shows the blindness skinny people have to the issue. So a few people told you to eat a cheese burger. Probably friends, maybe some family. Did total strangers ever do it? Every kid at school? People on the street every point? Doubt it.
Holy bitterness!
Do you let that kind of vitriol roll off the tongue in public, too?
If you are constantly coming in contact with cruel people, maybe take a look at how you treat others. You probably have a knack at bringing out the worst in others, and weight probably has very little to do with it.
You seriously aren't getting it. If strangers point at you and laugh it has zero to do with how you treat people? Your arguement makes no sense. And why does your advice not apply to the skinny girl who's friends make fun of her for being skinny? She she examine herself aswell? Or does this advice only apply to a fat person being made fun of? Again, like I said. The rules are different. If you're fat and you get made fun of it's your fault. You're doing something wrong. If you get teased for being too skinny you're the victim.
No one here has ever said anyone being made fun of for anything bears any of the fault for it. You're the only one who said that. all we're saying is there's no difference between an overweight person or a thin person being ridiculed for his or her weight.0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
So very sad. The guy I'm dating? He's just over 300 pounds and one of the most amazing men I know. Confident and sweet. Smart and sexy. Handsome and fun. Don't judge a book by its cover.
My husband weighs in at 275 (he's down to that from 295). I've been married to him for nearly 24 years. The most wonderful guy I've ever known in my life.
first of all, holy hotness! I would not have guessed you could have been married that long and second, your response made me smile. See, people? Its not about the weight.0 -
It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
That's a very sad generalization. So because a few thin people teased you, all thin people should be teased now? I can tell you it doesn't feel very good to be told you need to eat a cheeseburger for being too thin. Especially when you can't eat one because you have a bowel disorder. Everyone has his or her own story sweetheart. Don't judge us all based on a couple of cruel people you came into contact with.
To say it's only a couple shows the blindness skinny people have to the issue. So a few people told you to eat a cheese burger. Probably friends, maybe some family. Did total strangers ever do it? Every kid at school? People on the street every point? Doubt it.
Holy bitterness!
Do you let that kind of vitriol roll off the tongue in public, too?
If you are constantly coming in contact with cruel people, maybe take a look at how you treat others. You probably have a knack at bringing out the worst in others, and weight probably has very little to do with it.
You seriously aren't getting it. If strangers point at you and laugh it has zero to do with how you treat people? Your arguement makes no sense. And why does your advice not apply to the skinny girl who's friends make fun of her for being skinny? She she examine herself aswell? Or does this advice only apply to a fat person being made fun of? Again, like I said. The rules are different. If you're fat and you get made fun of it's your fault. You're doing something wrong. If you get teased for being too skinny you're the victim.
so because someone was nasty to you that means it's ok to be nasty to someone else? Tell me, how is that world view working out for you (you being all those that think the same way because you (personal) aren't the only one).... I would hate to live in your (again personal) world. It must be a sad and lonely existance...0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
So very sad. The guy I'm dating? He's just over 300 pounds and one of the most amazing men I know. Confident and sweet. Smart and sexy. Handsome and fun. Don't judge a book by its cover.
My husband weighs in at 275 (he's down to that from 295). I've been married to him for nearly 24 years. The most wonderful guy I've ever known in my life.
first of all, holy hotness! I would not have guessed you could have been married that long and second, your response made me smile. See, people? Its not about the weight.
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Well my cousin has been hospitalized and gone through treatment for anorexia twice, cannot walk through a mall in the greater los angeles area without getting phone numbers from men, offers to model, her gas pumped, her groceries carried to her apartment, offers to go on a yacht for the weekend..etc. She'll tell you personally that after she hits the 110 pound mark the offers stop drifting off, but they pour in at 95 pounds....
What are things that don't happen in reality, Alex?
Seriously, I just dress right and I get men whistling at me while driving down the street... true story.0 -
i like thick women....0
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doesn't matter!!0
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Seriously?Hey.. Im fat. I know that no one wants fat people... and I personally know that cute and chubby is an insult. Skinny people get everything in life. Fat people get nothing.0 -
I prefer chubby over skinny men0
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Hey.. Im fat. I know that no one wants fat people... and I personally know that cute and chubby is an insult. Skinny people get everything in life. Fat people get nothing.
Perhaps your weight has nothing at all to do with the reason that no one wants you. Mind blown.0 -
I prefer someone who is fit! May have a little extra here and there, but honestly too much weight is a turn off, and not enough is a turn off. Height is more important then weight, me being 6ft an all...
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A woman who has been a close friend of my mom's for 30 years is thin, blond, well-dressed and beautiful.
Ah, no. I've gotten some pretty hateful treatment from women based solely on my size. Comments like "slut" and "*kitten*" based entirely on the fact that I'm thin and being told right to my face that I should just stop starving myself so I can be thin and steal everyone else's man. Being ostrasized from a group of "friends" because they were all bigger than me and thought I'd make them look bad. Being called "skeleton girl". When a group of women look at you and laugh blatantly and whisper comments to each other and you know it's about your size. It's not any different.
It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
Wow, really?!? You don't think we got it, too?!? You don't think that people told me I should eat a cheeseburger or forced to eat a sammich?? Screw that! No ONE should be tortured for their weight. No one!
Yeah but when people tease skinny people it's usually coming from a different place. It's usually more a "you should fatten up so you don't make look so bad." When people tease fat people it's literally to punish them for being fat and to make themselves feel good. It's not balanced at all. You see this in so many areas. You can even look at extremes like eating disorders that cause you to be too skinny. Those are diseases right? That's accepted as such. But when someone says obesity is a disease people laugh and say "get some self control!"
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She is one of the most wonderful human beings I have ever known and she gets treated like crap by women all the time. She's smart, funny, generous and caring. But they see thin and blond and turn catty. She's lost jobs because of her appearance.0 -
I prefer someone who is fit! May have a little extra here and there, but honestly too much weight is a turn off, and not enough is a turn off. Height is more important then weight, me being 6ft an all...
this only I am 5'7
Yuck. You ruined the feel-goodsy string of "My boyfriend is 300lbs and I only care about personality" posts.0 -
This thread is beyond annoying! one of the reason's me and others are so insecure is because of the crap some of you are saying.0
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Finally, a woman that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.0 -
Not too far down on either end of the spectrum, I would say. With nice hips. Gotta have some nice hips.0
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Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
Personally, I couldn't care less what a guy's credit score is or how much money he has. I have my own job and make my own money.0 -
i know guys that can't date or have sex with skinny they choose chubby every time0
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Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
so, no one else is being honest? The picture of the guy I'm dating is in my album.0 -
Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
Personally, I couldn't care less what a guy's credit score is or how much money he has. I have my own job and make my own money.
exactly. I pay my own bills. I don't think that those questions have ever even come up.0 -
A woman who has been a close friend of my mom's for 30 years is thin, blond, well-dressed and beautiful.
Ah, no. I've gotten some pretty hateful treatment from women based solely on my size. Comments like "slut" and "*kitten*" based entirely on the fact that I'm thin and being told right to my face that I should just stop starving myself so I can be thin and steal everyone else's man. Being ostrasized from a group of "friends" because they were all bigger than me and thought I'd make them look bad. Being called "skeleton girl". When a group of women look at you and laugh blatantly and whisper comments to each other and you know it's about your size. It's not any different.
It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
Wow, really?!? You don't think we got it, too?!? You don't think that people told me I should eat a cheeseburger or forced to eat a sammich?? Screw that! No ONE should be tortured for their weight. No one!
Yeah but when people tease skinny people it's usually coming from a different place. It's usually more a "you should fatten up so you don't make look so bad." When people tease fat people it's literally to punish them for being fat and to make themselves feel good. It's not balanced at all. You see this in so many areas. You can even look at extremes like eating disorders that cause you to be too skinny. Those are diseases right? That's accepted as such. But when someone says obesity is a disease people laugh and say "get some self control!"
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She is one of the most wonderful human beings I have ever known and she gets treated like crap by women all the time. She's smart, funny, generous and caring. But they see thin and blond and turn catty. She's lost jobs because of her appearance.
I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.0
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