chubby or skinny
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Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
Lol. I wasn't serious.0 -
LIke I tell the ladies...
"Once you go chunky, everything else is funky."0 -
I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?0 -
Triple, Nonfat, With Whip
ahhh, you get me!
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Both I guess, as long as it's not extreme either way and they are healthy!
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It would be nice if we could have a thread where some woman didn't feel the need to come in and insult other women's body types.
I guess that's too much to ask.
I was thinking the same thing. It gets a little old, doesn't it? Imagine the outrage if there were body shaming directed at the overweight in every thread.
Meh, I've been heavy most of my life and the people who've always done the teasing are skinny. I say let the skinny people have it. They deserve to feel what it's like. Maybe they'll actually develop a little empathy from it.
That's a very sad generalization. So because a few thin people teased you, all thin people should be teased now? I can tell you it doesn't feel very good to be told you need to eat a cheeseburger for being too thin. Especially when you can't eat one because you have a bowel disorder. Everyone has his or her own story sweetheart. Don't judge us all based on a couple of cruel people you came into contact with.
To say it's only a couple shows the blindness skinny people have to the issue. So a few people told you to eat a cheese burger. Probably friends, maybe some family. Did total strangers ever do it? Every kid at school? People on the street every point? Doubt it.
Holy bitterness!
Do you let that kind of vitriol roll off the tongue in public, too?
If you are constantly coming in contact with cruel people, maybe take a look at how you treat others. You probably have a knack at bringing out the worst in others, and weight probably has very little to do with it.
You seriously aren't getting it. If strangers point at you and laugh it has zero to do with how you treat people? Your arguement makes no sense. And why does your advice not apply to the skinny girl who's friends make fun of her for being skinny? She she examine herself aswell? Or does this advice only apply to a fat person being made fun of? Again, like I said. The rules are different. If you're fat and you get made fun of it's your fault. You're doing something wrong. If you get teased for being too skinny you're the victim.
Oh, I get it. I've been on this earth a long time. Saying that one body type deserves it and one doesn't is your train of thought, not mine.0 -
At first I would say skinny, because the chubbier guys I've dated had some serious insecurity and self-esteem issues associated with being a little bigger, but I guess skinny guys can have their esteem issues with being smaller.. I would prefer to date a guy who is comfortable with who they are as a person, chubby or skinny.
That's because the women the chubby guys have met have generally not been at all accepting of it LOL. Seriously, try to talk to a girl at a bar as a 300lb guy. It's not exactly a positive experience. Are all women flat out rude? Of course not. Do most dismiss you almost immediately. Yes. It's 10,000 times more harder than if you're skinny.
A few points-
300 pounds is not chubby
Bars are meat markets where people make judgments based on looks.
Are you accepting of yourself at 300 lbs?
-If not, then why would you expect someone else to be accepting of it?
-If you do accept that weight for yourself, do you accept it for the girl as well?
Is life easier for a fit person than a morbidly obese person? Yes, it is, in general.
Life is also easier for an able-bodied person, than for someone in a wheelchair.
I learned a long time ago that life is not fair.
I can either be bitter about it, or I can do what I can to change what I can, and accept what can't be changed and make the best of it.
It is all about your attitude.0 -
I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!0 -
Neither was I, but see how quickly people got worked up.
Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
Lol. I wasn't serious.0 -
Lucky guy, sexy mama. :smokin:
Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
so, no one else is being honest? The picture of the guy I'm dating is in my album.0 -
Ha!I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!
Yeah ... I have some really good genes as far as aging goes. I live in a college town and I get asked all the time what my major is.
I was running with friends at a park a couple years ago and we were talking about my daughter. I mentioned her age (I think 17 at the time) and a guy running past actually stopped to tell me how shocked he was because he thought I was only 16 ... I wear my hair in a bun when I workout and I think that makes me look even younger.
But women can just be so mean.0 -
Lucky guy, sexy mama. :smokin:
Finally, a women that's honest instead of politically correct.The one with the highest credit score and deepest wallet.
so, no one else is being honest? The picture of the guy I'm dating is in my album.
thank ya, kindly. :blushing: I feel lucky, too. He's pretty great. :happy:0 -
Ha!I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!
Yeah ... I have some really good genes as far as aging goes. I live in a college town and I get asked all the time what my major is.
I was running with friends at a park a couple years ago and we were talking about my daughter. I mentioned her age (I think 17 at the time) and a guy running past actually stopped to tell me how shocked he was because he thought I was only 16 ... I wear my hair in a bun when I workout and I think that makes me look even younger.
But women can just be so mean.
It does seem to be primarily women who are the mean ones. I had my children young (I was 17 with the first and just turned 19 with the second). So having my children that young, and living in a very small town, it was a lot of fun going to their school activities. The other mothers were typically 10-20 years older than I was.
Even at work I've had issues, especially when it comes to weight -one time when I was cold, a coworker told me, "maybe you wouldn't be so cold all the time if you'd just put some meat on your bones". And when treats were brought and I didn't eat them (I'm gluten-intolerant, and they were always baked goods) I was made fun of for starving myself.0 -
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I've been really lucky -- though I think it's more about being able to judge character than luck -- within my circle of friends to have strong, positive women who lift each other up rather than tear each other down. Even in high school, my friends were wonderful and we didn't have the ridiculous drama. The older I get and the more people I meet, the more I realize what a problem this is for a lot of women.
Ha!I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!
Yeah ... I have some really good genes as far as aging goes. I live in a college town and I get asked all the time what my major is.
I was running with friends at a park a couple years ago and we were talking about my daughter. I mentioned her age (I think 17 at the time) and a guy running past actually stopped to tell me how shocked he was because he thought I was only 16 ... I wear my hair in a bun when I workout and I think that makes me look even younger.
But women can just be so mean.
It does seem to be primarily women who are the mean ones. I had my children young (I was 17 with the first and just turned 19 with the second). So having my children that young, and living in a very small town, it was a lot of fun going to their school activities. The other mothers were typically 10-20 years older than I was.
Even at work I've had issues, especially when it comes to weight -one time when I was cold, a coworker told me, "maybe you wouldn't be so cold all the time if you'd just put some meat on your bones". And when treats were brought and I didn't eat them (I'm gluten-intolerant, and they were always baked goods) I was made fun of for starving myself.
I will never understand it.0 -
Ha!I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!
Yeah ... I have some really good genes as far as aging goes. I live in a college town and I get asked all the time what my major is.
I was running with friends at a park a couple years ago and we were talking about my daughter. I mentioned her age (I think 17 at the time) and a guy running past actually stopped to tell me how shocked he was because he thought I was only 16 ... I wear my hair in a bun when I workout and I think that makes me look even younger.
But women can just be so mean.
It does seem to be primarily women who are the mean ones. I had my children young (I was 17 with the first and just turned 19 with the second). So having my children that young, and living in a very small town, it was a lot of fun going to their school activities. The other mothers were typically 10-20 years older than I was.
Even at work I've had issues, especially when it comes to weight -one time when I was cold, a coworker told me, "maybe you wouldn't be so cold all the time if you'd just put some meat on your bones". And when treats were brought and I didn't eat them (I'm gluten-intolerant, and they were always baked goods) I was made fun of for starving myself.
LOL women seem to hate all the wrong things. If women were stopping to compliment me and other guys hated me because I was so ripped that'd be awesome. Like I said, skinny body shaming isn't nearly the same.0 -
Ha!I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is totally the right word. Complete with nasty comments, dirty looks, whispering behind hands and outright attacks.
Try being in your early 20s, thin and pretty in the suburbs with a kid in elementary school. 90% of the mothers wouldn't even look at me. And the ONLY ones who were nice were the ones who were thinner and prettier. I guess they weren't threatened?
My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I wouldn't consider 30 a child!
Yeah ... I have some really good genes as far as aging goes. I live in a college town and I get asked all the time what my major is.
I was running with friends at a park a couple years ago and we were talking about my daughter. I mentioned her age (I think 17 at the time) and a guy running past actually stopped to tell me how shocked he was because he thought I was only 16 ... I wear my hair in a bun when I workout and I think that makes me look even younger.
But women can just be so mean.
It does seem to be primarily women who are the mean ones. I had my children young (I was 17 with the first and just turned 19 with the second). So having my children that young, and living in a very small town, it was a lot of fun going to their school activities. The other mothers were typically 10-20 years older than I was.
Even at work I've had issues, especially when it comes to weight -one time when I was cold, a coworker told me, "maybe you wouldn't be so cold all the time if you'd just put some meat on your bones". And when treats were brought and I didn't eat them (I'm gluten-intolerant, and they were always baked goods) I was made fun of for starving myself.
LOL women seem to hate all the wrong things. If women were stopping to compliment me and other guys hated me because I was so ripped that'd be awesome. Like I said, skinny body shaming isn't nearly the same.
You obviously don't get it.0 -
You obviously don't get it.
Guys like you and women want to look like you. What's so bad about that? How is that some sort of life struggle? Get to some point where men are grossed out by you. Then you'll have real problems.0 -
LOL women seem to hate all the wrong things. If women were stopping to compliment me and other guys hated me because I was so ripped that'd be awesome. Like I said, skinny body shaming isn't nearly the same.
Yes, losing your job for looking good and being bullied for being thin is SO WONDEFUL.0 -
You obviously don't get it.
Guys like you and women want to look like you. What's so bad about that? How is that some sort of life struggle? Get to some point where men are grossed out by you. Then you'll have real problems.
How about you get to a point where you DON'T feel that way, instead? Do something about it, rather than bash others?0 -
You obviously don't get it.
Guys like you and women want to look like you. What's so bad about that? How is that some sort of life struggle? Get to some point where men are grossed out by you. Then you'll have real problems.
Losing promotions for my looks, losing friends for them, having people on the street say mean things to me for being "too thin"? Not being accepted in social groups like the mothers of all the children in my kids' school based solely on my looks? I brought books and sat and read by myself, every day, while my kids practiced, and when they were at meets and competitions. It was pretty lonely. I've had to work pretty hard to earn my way career-wise as well.
It's also not much fun not being able to eat so many foods and being told how lucky you are for that because you 'get to be thin'. Ignoring the pain that you get to feel instead.0 -
See, the skinny ones rub it in. Look at me.. see what a burden being pretty is. Oh, I cant get a promotion because I'm too pretty. People hate me because I'm skinny. Whatever......0
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Whose faces is she rubbing anything in?oh poor baby. You lost a promotion on your looks. You can eat anything you want. Oh poor poor skinny girl. Maybe if you didnt rub it in the fat ones faces they might like you a little more. Im sure your poop smells like roses and it offends the toliet as well0 -
Guys like you and women want to look like you. What's so bad about that? How is that some sort of life struggle? Get to some point where men are grossed out by you. Then you'll have real problems.
Amen. I agree.0 -
See, the skinny ones rub it in. Look at me.. see what a burden being pretty is. Oh, I cant get a promotion because I'm too pretty. People hate me because I'm skinny. Whatever......
Are you serious? I didn't lose the promotion because I was too pretty, I lost the promotion because my boss wanted me to sleep with him and I refused. I wanted the job based on my own merit.0 -
The only reason this is being discussed at all is that a bunch of women came into this thread and threw nasty insults at anyone who isn't overweight.See, the skinny ones rub it in. Look at me.. see what a burden being pretty is. Oh, I cant get a promotion because I'm too pretty. People hate me because I'm skinny. Whatever......0 -
That's what you keep bragging about. Look at Sarah Palin for an example of looks. The woman was bat**** crazy but people wanted her as vice president because she was hot. Hillary...not hot. Smart but frumpy and fat. Wont be president0
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See, the skinny ones rub it in. Look at me.. see what a burden being pretty is. Oh, I cant get a promotion because I'm too pretty. People hate me because I'm skinny. Whatever......
:huh:
You need help.
If you don't like when people bash your looks, why is it okay for it to happen to others?
Because you have personal issues. Love yourself and stop forcing your self loathing on others.
It is a burden to be human. It is made even more difficult when people go around trying to tear others down.0 -
Guys like you and women want to look like you. What's so bad about that? How is that some sort of life struggle? Get to some point where men are grossed out by you. Then you'll have real problems.
Amen. I agree.
Honestly? If anything, I would have to assume, based on both of your responses in this thread alone, that if anyone is "grossed" out by the 2 of you, its your ugly, hateful attitude, not your looks.0 -
Direct quote from McCindy.....Losing promotions for my looks0
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