chubby or skinny

HanamiDango

Define Skinny or Chubby? I like defining things. :laugh: Putting the medical definition aside, when it comes to one's personal taste, one person's skinny is another chubby. Asking someone if they date girls or guys is not to far off from this. Look, if you do fit into the person you like personal preference, move on. It just is not going to work out. Do not change for anyone else but yourself. Only true way most of us stick with the change. Also, I can not answer your question, as I do not date nor look at the opposite sex subjectively. I do not look at the my gender subjectively either. Just be happy with who you are and above all, be healthy. (No I do not practice what I preach! :drinker: )

fitfreakymom

:huh:

Seriously?

Why can't people just be attracted to what they like without having to be mocked/shamed for it? "lolz you like skinny chicks, bet you just can't handle a woman with curves!!" Really?

What about skinny chicks with curves? ;-)

They're a myth. You can only have curves if you're overweight, so that way you can say "that person just can't handle all these curves."

Oh yes! And Marilyn Monroe at 5'5" and 118 pounds was a modern-day size 16, too, right? :laugh:

actually pant sizes have grown allot to accommodate people and make them feel good, if I put on a size 14 made 10 to 12 yrs ago it just fits where as if I put that same size on now it is a bit to big, allot of store vanity size but there are a few out there that still stay true to size though. So yes back then Marilyn may have been a 14/16 at roughly that weight but I think she weighed a bit more than that, not by much though.

Please see the bolded.

just noticed lol

lilac3609

Hmmm.
Chubby or skinny?
It sorta depends.
By all means, I think it matters more how he takes care for himself.
Anybody could exercise, everyday someone's exercising!
I kinda don't care.
Guys can do little as doing 60 sit-ups a day and get away with looking like Antonio Banderas of his 20's.
Some guys exercise like Shaun T in his fitness workouts but don't quite look "buff."

Elsie_Brownraisin

Could not give one toss.

As long as they they don't speak or look me in the eye afterwards. The ability to make a decent cup of the tea on the way out is a bonus.

FlaxMilk

Please don't let this thread go from being skinny-shaming to anti-skinny-shaming to anti-women. It's not only women who judge others for their looks, and a boss not promoting you for not sleeping with him is not skinny prejudice, it's sexual discrimination or harassment. Unless a group of women is directly telling you that you are too pretty and skinny to be friends with, you might be projecting.

I know some really truly thin and beautiful women, and those with great personalities shine. Being thin and beautiful doesn't stop them from having jobs, female friends, or social acceptance. On the contrary, people gravitate to them. You will meet jerks who are mean because you are thin or mean because you are fat, but on average, you'll be ok.

Most people (not all) over the age of 20 or so stop letting people join social groups based on how heavy they are or how pretty they are.

Thin people don't deserve to be shamed any more than overweight people. Both women and men can be cruel.

I apologize for the lack of coherence in my post. :blushing:

rml_16

Most people (not all) over the age of 20 or so stop letting people join social groups based on how heavy they are or how pretty they are.

Just because you never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

When my daughter was in elementary school, other mothers wouldn't even look at me. I tried to volunteer at the school (parents -- usually SAHMs) were in charge of that stuff and they NEVER allowed me to participate. When my daughter was in a school play when she was in third grade I went to pick her up and was trying to find out where she was. I would ask someone and the person would literally ignore me as though I wasn't even there. I got nasty looks at every school function from people I had never seen before.

I was in my early to mid-20s at the time. Most of the women were at least 10 years older than I was. They were MEAN.

mank32

I apologize for the lack of coherence in my post. :blushing:

are you kidding me? there was nothing but coherence there.

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mypersonalfitnessjourney

I prefer chubby guys to skinny guys, but I prefer skinny girls to chubby girls. In other words, I'd like to be a skinny girl dating a guy who's a bit on the chubby side.

JnK619

To all the women that said they prefer chubby...:flowerforyou:

FlaxMilk

Most people (not all) over the age of 20 or so stop letting people join social groups based on how heavy they are or how pretty they are.

Just because you never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

When my daughter was in elementary school, other mothers wouldn't even look at me. I tried to volunteer at the school (parents -- usually SAHMs) were in charge of that stuff and they NEVER allowed me to participate. When my daughter was in a school play when she was in third grade I went to pick her up and was trying to find out where she was. I would ask someone and the person would literally ignore me as though I wasn't even there. I got nasty looks at every school function from people I had never seen before.

I was in my early to mid-20s at the time. Most of the women were at least 10 years older than I was. They were MEAN.

That's why I said most, not all. But it's hard to believe that it was based only on your appearance. I'm shy and not great at meeting people. I also know that I probably don't look approachable at all most of the time.

Devil's advocate--if you walked around believing that the women around you were so threatened and jealous and insecure because of your looks that they were so mean as to literally ignore you, is there any chance you weren't the only one who knew what you were thinking? One or two people or a small group being mean and petty and catty I can imagine. Everyone being so threatened by your looks? That doesn't make sense.

FlaxMilk

I apologize for the lack of coherence in my post. :blushing:

are you kidding me? there was nothing but coherence there.

Thank you. :flowerforyou: I ramble when I can't sleep!

rml_16

Most people (not all) over the age of 20 or so stop letting people join social groups based on how heavy they are or how pretty they are.

Just because you never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

When my daughter was in elementary school, other mothers wouldn't even look at me. I tried to volunteer at the school (parents -- usually SAHMs) were in charge of that stuff and they NEVER allowed me to participate. When my daughter was in a school play when she was in third grade I went to pick her up and was trying to find out where she was. I would ask someone and the person would literally ignore me as though I wasn't even there. I got nasty looks at every school function from people I had never seen before.

I was in my early to mid-20s at the time. Most of the women were at least 10 years older than I was. They were MEAN.

That's why I said most, not all. But it's hard to believe that it was based only on your appearance. I'm shy and not great at meeting people. I also know that I probably don't look approachable at all most of the time.

Devil's advocate--if you walked around believing that the women around you were so threatened and jealous and insecure because of your looks that they were so mean as to literally ignore you, is there any chance you weren't the only one who knew what you were thinking? One or two people or a small group being mean and petty and catty I can imagine. Everyone being so threatened by your looks? That doesn't make sense.

That's the thing. It didn't even occur to me to think that until lnog after it happened. I never experienced that before, but I was mostly with my own peer group up until that point and as I said earlier, my circle of friends is just not like that and never has been.

And looking back I realized the more attractive the women were, the nicer they were to me.

I've always been the person to take a new person under my wing. Ever since I can remember, if there was a new person at school or work, I would immediately introduce myself and all my friends and invite that person to anything we had going on and try to include the person as much as possible. It's jarring to be that person and have people literally look through you in certain situations. Even more when it never happened before or since.

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

ashleyblossom1

Moral of today's story:

No one likes to be made fun of nor do they deserve it. No one has it better than anyone else. We all have to go through the ups and downs of life. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. There is no reason to justify cruelness. If someone feels the need to shame someone else its because they lack a moral center and its best not to get upset by these people. Just live your life the best you can and be kind to everyone. The End.

justadad

No, its just that you're so haught with that rocking fro hair. It obviously makes you think you have the super power of beauty.

FlaxMilk

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

Of course the person ignoring you is being rude. I'm just not buying that it's because you were too thin and pretty.

Yes, it happens, here and there. There are a couple of people justifying thin people getting mistreated. The thread as a group is not.

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

mccindy72

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

Of course the person ignoring you is being rude. I'm just not buying that it's because you were too thin and pretty.

Yes, it happens, here and there. There are a couple of people justifying thin people getting mistreated. The thread as a group is not.

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

I'm not shy and reserved, I'm quite outgoing. I've been told flat out to my face by women that I must be a "slut" or that I must be dumb because I'm pretty and skinny. I've been told "get out of the way, skinny *****" out in public by strangers. And I've been ostracized from social groups based on my looks by those who were in the groups who decided they not want me in and convinced the others to push me out. And I was told that my size and looks were the reason why.

DebbieLyn63

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

Of course the person ignoring you is being rude. I'm just not buying that it's because you were too thin and pretty.

Yes, it happens, here and there. There are a couple of people justifying thin people getting mistreated. The thread as a group is not.

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

I'm not shy and reserved, I'm quite outgoing. I've been told flat out to my face by women that I must be a "slut" or that I must be dumb because I'm pretty and skinny. I've been told "get out of the way, skinny *****" out in public by strangers. And I've been ostracized from social groups based on my looks by those who were in the groups who decided they not want me in and convinced the others to push me out. And I was told that my size and looks were the reason why.

Where do you live,and what type pf people do you hang around? Are you sure you aren't talking about High School, cuz that is just crazy and beyond belief. In 50 years, I have never known any woman who was treated like dirt, simply because she was 'thin and pretty'.
I take that back, there are plenty of women on The Bachelor that claim women hate them because they are pretty. No, women hate those women because of their personalities.

Do you ladies even realize how egotistical that makes you sound just saying that?

I am not bashing any size. There are nice people and jerks of all sizes. But come on, don't assume people are rude to you just because you are pretty and thin. Some people are rude to everyone. That is just who they are.

And if you ladies are having this problem often, like someone else suggested, you might want to check what vibe you are putting out there.

mccindy72

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

Of course the person ignoring you is being rude. I'm just not buying that it's because you were too thin and pretty.

Yes, it happens, here and there. There are a couple of people justifying thin people getting mistreated. The thread as a group is not.

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

I'm not shy and reserved, I'm quite outgoing. I've been told flat out to my face by women that I must be a "slut" or that I must be dumb because I'm pretty and skinny. I've been told "get out of the way, skinny *****" out in public by strangers. And I've been ostracized from social groups based on my looks by those who were in the groups who decided they not want me in and convinced the others to push me out. And I was told that my size and looks were the reason why.

Where do you live,and what type pf people do you hang around? Are you sure you aren't talking about High School, cuz that is just crazy and beyond belief. In 50 years, I have never known any woman who was treated like dirt, simply because she was 'thin and pretty'.
I take that back, there are plenty of women on The Bachelor that claim women hate them because they are pretty. No, women hate those women because of their personalities.

Do you ladies even realize how egotistical that makes you sound just saying that?

I am not bashing any size. There are nice people and jerks of all sizes. But come on, don't assume people are rude to you just because you are pretty and thin. Some people are rude to everyone. That is just who they are.

And if you ladies are having this problem often, like someone else suggested, you might want to check what vibe you are putting out there.

You know, I'm not saying this is something that happens to me all the time, I'm just giving some examples of treatment I've received ever. Just like overweight people don't get treatment badly every day by everyone. Typically I'd say the same rude people rml and I are running into who are treating us badly might be the ones treating the overweight ones badly simply because they are the rude to everyone people you are discussing. It goes both ways. It's happened a few times in my life. It's happened a few times in an overweight person's life. We all have problems or reasons or bad things that happen, we deal with them and learn to move on from it. None of us were whining about it. We started giving examples when we were getting attacked about how wonderful it must be to be thin and pretty and how we just couldn't possibly know how bad body shaming feels to an overweight person. It happens to everyone for different reasons, and we all feel pain when it happens. Hate is hate.

fitfreakymom

And, really, it isn't in our imaginations. Look at some of the comments in this thread. Not only do people admit to that behavior, they justify it.

I admit I can be shy, reserved and difficult to get to know. But when I'm standing in front of you asking a question and you pretend I'm not even there, it isn't ME who's the problem.

Of course the person ignoring you is being rude. I'm just not buying that it's because you were too thin and pretty.

Yes, it happens, here and there. There are a couple of people justifying thin people getting mistreated. The thread as a group is not.

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

I'm not shy and reserved, I'm quite outgoing. I've been told flat out to my face by women that I must be a "slut" or that I must be dumb because I'm pretty and skinny. I've been told "get out of the way, skinny *****" out in public by strangers. And I've been ostracized from social groups based on my looks by those who were in the groups who decided they not want me in and convinced the others to push me out. And I was told that my size and looks were the reason why.

Where do you live,and what type pf people do you hang around? Are you sure you aren't talking about High School, cuz that is just crazy and beyond belief. In 50 years, I have never known any woman who was treated like dirt, simply because she was 'thin and pretty'.
I take that back, there are plenty of women on The Bachelor that claim women hate them because they are pretty. No, women hate those women because of their personalities.

Do you ladies even realize how egotistical that makes you sound just saying that?

I am not bashing any size. There are nice people and jerks of all sizes. But come on, don't assume people are rude to you just because you are pretty and thin. Some people are rude to everyone. That is just who they are.

And if you ladies are having this problem often, like someone else suggested, you might want to check what vibe you are putting out there.

hell I am not skinny but I am not over weight and I have had people tell me to eat a cheese burger and gain weight, I have had people ask me if I am starving myself, if I had an eating disorder I have had bigger women get jealous of me around their men, I have been excluded from social settings, called the skinny ***** I have had the kind of snide remarks like someone scoffing at me then says what are you worried about you can eat anything then get the eye role or the oh please response when I say I cant cause I will gain weight. It has not happened in a long time that I have noticed but I has happened. Maybe what I have experienced is not body shaming but to know that someone feels this way about or around you is not a good feeling even if the way they treat you says more about them than you.

Redhead_23

Chubby guys, skinny girls. Not like bony skinny but fit looking.

lisalsd1

If I had to pick, I guess I would be pick a "skinny" man over a "chubby" man...neither description sounds hot though.

I know for a fact that my husband likes "chubby" ladies!

EverythingWeAre

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TX_Rhon

I saw the other chubby thread got locked. How long will it take for this one? Any bets?

WOW! Kinda surprised its still here.

tlcarolinagirl

I would date a chubby man. I am not one who focuses so much on the physical. Been there, done that, got the tshirt, and burned it. I would take a chubby man who is funny, smart, witty, and has a beautiful soul anyday. As long as he's treating me like a princess, I'm good.

celesteoglesby

Definitely someone with some meat on them.

SouthGaPeach

I personally like somebody with a little meat on their bones. if you're gonna cuddle up, there's gotta be something to hold on to! but to me, its not so much about that as it is about their personality and the way they treat others.

RayF24

guy whose buff and broad

rml_16

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

How does one get that kind of impression about someone she has never even seen before? These were women who had never SEEN ME before. They had never been in the same room before. They would have no way of developing any kind of impression of me. It was based ENTIRELY on what I looked like. There was no other context.

I make eye contact, I shake hands, I introduce myself. I'm standing in front of someone (more than one), asking a question or tryin to make a suggestion and being ignored. You weren't there.

This HAPPENS and it happens based on looks alone. Not every woman does it and not every group of women does it. BUT IT HAPPENS.

moosegt35

I believe you were ostracized, and I believe it was a misunderstanding that went awry in group pack behavior. Sometimes groups do turn on someone to build themselves up and form solidarity. But it's not as simple as thin/pretty. Other factors play into it too. (Like being shy and reserved. People misinterpret that as arrogance and then enjoy "putting you in your place" even if it's unfair.)

How does one get that kind of impression about someone she has never even seen before? These were women who had never SEEN ME before. They had never been in the same room before. They would have no way of developing any kind of impression of me. It was based ENTIRELY on what I looked like. There was no other context.

I make eye contact, I shake hands, I introduce myself. I'm standing in front of someone (more than one), asking a question or tryin to make a suggestion and being ignored. You weren't there.

This HAPPENS and it happens based on looks alone. Not every woman does it and not every group of women does it. BUT IT HAPPENS.

Do you think it may have had something to di wtih you being so young also? I'm not meaning that in a derogatory way, just that you were 10-15 years younger than them also and some people are quick to judge people who have children at a young age. Just a thought.