Deleting YourFitnessPals

kdeaux1959

I've deleted very few. One instance was a newsfeed that blatantly used any excuse possible to use the "F" word about every other sentence... I've no time for that. A few bleepers? Fine.. No problem... If one's entire command of the English Language is nothing but "4 letter words" then that just is not my thing.

Booksandbeaches

OP, this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't take it personally.

Some people or just doing their own little thing in their own little world, and that's okay.

Best of luck to them on their journey.

I agree.

Just last week I deleted a man who had been on my friend list after he called a woman who deleted him " a *kitten*, a c*nt..." Talk about taking it too personally.

bethlaf

personally, i look through my list at least once a month ,- if person has been inactive for more than 3 days i send a hey , we miss you when youre gone thing, kind of reminding them why they joined sort of thing - VERY VERY cult leader like i know :blushing:

then in a couple weeks if you still havent logged, you get another one, hey i hope things are going well, and youre still on track , noticed youre not logging, etc.. again , come back to the fold my wandering sheep...

if after 2-3 of those, then i will generally remove from friends list- but often times, i dont bother - non logger does not clog my feeds, as op said ...

i do at least once a month send out a follow the leader messages if its been more than say 2 months, then i figure - well ive tried, not much else i can do , im not nice enough to keep a packet of friends, and people who do follow are generally in the same boat , and its a longer process, so i have more patience.

AsaThorsWoman

OP, this is EXACTLY why you shouldn't take it personally.

Some people or just doing their own little thing in their own little world, and that's okay.

Best of luck to them on their journey.

I agree.

Just last week I deleted a man who had been on my friend list after he called a woman who deleted him " a *kitten*, a c*nt..." Talk about taking it too personally.

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YAYJules

I deleted two people:

One was too pushy with her faith, and it came out in every thing she posted. If your version of God floats your boat, fine, but pushing it my way as a source of motivation just doesn't do it for me.

The other was on a VERY low calorie diet for her starting weight, and then would cycle to bingeing at the end of the week because her body couldn't handle it. Despite being given advice to raise her calories, she would not budge, and kept at the low calorie / binge unhealthy cycle for weeks. She refused to do anything about it, so she also had to go.

That's it. The others I have kept, even if they haven't been on in a while. I know that when they return to their journey, they are going to need support, and I'm willing to give it.

NataBost

I delete them if there's a month or more of no activity.

This

This post has reminded me I haven't checked through and had a clear out lately so I will now go do so....

HAH! I just did the same thing. The only 'inactives' I am keeping are my local friends in case they decide to reactivate. Otherwise, keep it movin'.

disneygallagirl

JG762

I delete due to inactivity, I haven't had to remove anyone for any other reason so far. I have changed some of my "rules" on accepting friend requests, if you don't have at least one real pic of yourself and something about yourself on your profile I won't accept. That really seems to piss some people off...

OMGeeeHorses

I delete when its been 1 month. Only because I don't feel like checking my friend list constantly lol

AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT...

DebbieLyn63

Stop being butt hurt.

Butt hurt aka butthurt.

What a vulgar callous term to describe anyone or how anyone feels. I'm no longer surprised to see this term popping up all over this site as it's so prevalent. It's disgusting to me. But please, to those of you who feel compelled to use this ugly term when typing out your words of wisdom, keep doing it. You reveal your character and mark yourself as someone to be avoided by anyone who knows better.

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I delete people who get butthurt about the word butthurt.

And THIS is why I would never delete you! :drinker:

lasombrs

I have deleted people who added me from another website and then never ever logged back in months later. I deleted the people trying to sell me their program, and one lady who claims she burns #k calories while sleeping 22+ hours a day and other random stuff like that. I want people who are in it to do it.

I had one person delete me who i thought i got along well with was always nice to etc. i asked her why and never heard a response. it hurt even if it shouldn't. I spent my time and energy worrying about her and thinking about her everyday and to not be given a reason was a slap in the face but oh well. I'll do better in my journey surrounded by others who want those around them so succeed as well. And she can go pound sand at this point lol

JG762

Butt hurt aka butthurt.

What a vulgar callous term to describe anyone or how anyone feels. I'm no longer surprised to see this term popping up all over this site as it's so prevalent. It's disgusting to me. But please, to those of you who feel compelled to use this ugly term when typing out your words of wisdom, keep doing it. You reveal your character and mark yourself as someone to be avoided by anyone who knows better.

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I can't tell if you're serious about being butthurt or if you're joking about being butthurt.
One thing for sure, there's a lot of butthurt going on here...

leggup

I delete people who are inactive for 25-30 days if I don't know them in real life. If all we have in common is MFP, and they're not on MFP, what do we have left?

I delete people who talk about their kids because I don't care about that shiz.

I delete people who talk about god because I am responsible for my own accomplishments and failures. I don't want to hear about people praying away the fat.

I delete people who cleanse, detox, and otherwise try to fad their way to fitness.

I have no idea if anyone has ever deleted me. Nor would I care if someone did.

brower47

I have never deleted anyone. Why? I just can't think of how my life would be negatively or positively affected by the deletion of anyone currently on my FL.

I reserve the right to do so in the future if I encounter someone I find annoying. I just haven't come across one of those yet.

paulawatkins1974

Yep I deleted my hubby who signed up and that was it. I'm about to delete my Aunt for the same reason LOL Not that having inactive friends is bothersome per say, I just like to keep my list small. When I check my friends, I have 3 pages. That's more than enough. I love the ones I have.

KetosisTina

Oh nooooo. i just got back from an 11 day vacation with no internet access. I wonder who deleted me. I did post I was leaving for a bit.

However I certainly understand if someone did delete me. I mean I was not here to support them. I would not take it personally.

paulawatkins1974

To be fair to that poster, most of my Facebook friends are indeed my real life friends. But I guess some people just add anyone on there.

Yep. mine as well. I don't add anyone I don't know. Fb for me is great for staying in touch with family who are living a way from me. Yes there's the phone, but I can't call every single one every day, but I can check in on Fb for a few mins every day.

NiCu02

I just found out I was deleted by two friends that I thought I made a connection with, so even though it's MFP, I'm a little hurt. I try to keep a low number of friends to keep track of people and try to be supportive of what others do. My guess is I could have been deleted because I've been going over my calorie goal more often than I should? I don't know, but it's kind of discouraging. I've logged in over 100 days in a row now.

paulawatkins1974

I deleted someone just yesterday. I can not support someone who refuses to eat and take care of themselves. I was shocked to see this individual get so many "likes for eating @ 600 calories. I asked her a few days ago if she was logging correctly and warned her that I could not support her if she refused to eat. Many others did too and as of yesterday there was no response so I used the delete option.

I deleted the same person. I am on a journey to better my health and am looking for others with the same intention. I got the impression that this one was looking more for sympathy and attention than anything else. I also noticed that she rarely, if ever, replied to comments from her buddies regarding her eating habits and or questions.

I'm thinking this friend you speak of just recently added me. Not sure what to do because I actually feel bad for her and am not sure if she's eating so low by a doctors reccomendations. Should I ask?

jwooley13

Stop being butt hurt.

Butt hurt aka butthurt.

What a vulgar callous term to describe anyone or how anyone feels. I'm no longer surprised to see this term popping up all over this site as it's so prevalent. It's disgusting to me. But please, to those of you who feel compelled to use this ugly term when typing out your words of wisdom, keep doing it. You reveal your character and mark yourself as someone to be avoided by anyone who knows better.

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tedrickp

Regarding people deleting for light cleaning/walking:

I can't fathom why anyone would delete for either of those reasons.

earthsember

The only time I've deleted is if I've noticed extremely unhealthy mindset/behaviors with no want to change them on behalf of the person (example, pointing out they've consistently been eating under 1,000 or so calories (unless they're directed to do so by a medical professional) and they are not willing to even hear that this could be a bad idea, or I've noticed they're riding the message boards on the back of a drama llama. Otherwise, not even lack of use would cause me to delete, because how awesome would it be for the person to return to the site and receive immediate encouragement?? We're all here for some sort of support, so why not encourage everyone?

AsaThorsWoman

Regarding people deleting for light cleaning/walking:

I can't fathom why anyone would delete for either of those reasons.

I heard a lot of people say this. Honestly I think it's annoying when I see someone "cleaned for 20 mintues" because, like, don't you do that everyday?

But I am about to log a 4 hour effort! Even two hours really, if I was moving fast and getting at it.

tedrickp

Yeah I knew you didn't mean you did - and I guess the cleaning thing wouldn't bother me if they were still losing weight. If they complained about a plateau then maybe I'd understand.

Sabine_Stroehm

Ok, one more. Yes, I deleted someone once for logging their sex calories over and over and over. Logging sex once, out of curiosity, I can handle. But logging it PUBLICLY over and over? Yeah, not so much.:laugh:

skinnysushicat

Regarding people deleting for light cleaning/walking:

I can't fathom why anyone would delete for either of those reasons.

I heard a lot of people say this. Honestly I think it's annoying when I see someone "cleaned for 20 mintues" because, like, don't you do that everyday?

But I am about to log a 4 hour effort! Even two hours really, if I was moving fast and getting at it.

According to my fitbit I climbed 25 flights and walked 14000 steps today. All I did was the school run and cleaning / tidying / laundry - I have 3 kids under 6. It really annoys me when people dismiss housework as excercise - with small children I can't work out much, but I can make sure I keep moving while I'm at home with them.

Booksandbeaches

Ok, one more. Yes, I deleted someone once for logging their sex calories over and over and over. Logging sex once, out of curiosity, I can handle. But logging it PUBLICLY over and over? Yeah, not so much.:laugh:

They didn't use a euphemism like "walking the, dog moderate pace" like the rest of us do? :laugh:

sympha01

I delete people specifically for being "friend collectors," i.e., people who seem to be just trying to get the number on their friend count high and who aren't interacting with ME. I don't need self-promoting updates from strangers who don't interact with me in my feed.

I delete people for being boring.

I delete people for just having a substantially different / incompatible fitness philosophy from mine.

I delete people for whininess.

I delete people for creepiness.

I delete people because I don't owe them anything, bro. I get deleted too sometimes. NBD, get over it.

Sabine_Stroehm

Ok, one more. Yes, I deleted someone once for logging their sex calories over and over and over. Logging sex once, out of curiosity, I can handle. But logging it PUBLICLY over and over? Yeah, not so much.:laugh:

They didn't use a euphemism like "walking the, dog moderate pace" like the rest of us do? :laugh:

NO! If only! Or walking the dog briskly even.

Penfoldsplace

It didn't work for me having pals on here so I don't have any now. Probably because I am an anti social loser . I also took it too personally when people deleted me, which is ridiculous. I would spend time being supportive and then when I was going through a difficult time I was deleted by the people I had previously supported for not being "dedicated enough". Whatever, I ain't got time for that. I've lost 60 pounds and maintained it in the past couple of years so I am pretty darn dedicated to my new lifestyle.

Plus as a grown women I didn't appreciate being told off by strangers when I ate fast food, skipped breakfast or drank alcohol :drinker: