what is it with my wife?!

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  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    Going back to the initial question: What is it with my wife?

    Your wife is lazy. There I said it. LAZY.

    Your wife is acting entitled and self-centered.

    Your wife probably didn't have the proper upbringing/teachings of what it means to be a woman. Our homes are our castles, whether we're single or married. You keep them clean and you KNOW how to do it and adapt ways to do it well and quicker. Those basics should already be laid out way before you get married. Therefore, once you're married, cleaning isn't even a topic of discussion, it's just your job as a woman (not necessarily just a wife.)

    Your wife is young. See above. She probably didn't realize what it took to be a GOOD wife before getting pregnant and then having to rush to be a mother, as well. Now, because of outside influence, she is using that as a scape goat for why she "needs help". She's playing a victim and I think it's childish and pathetic.

    The fact that she asked you to clean the kitchen is enraging to me. I actually get mad when people (especially a bf) tries cleaning or helping me...that's MY JOB. We're all tired and need breaks from our jobs, but HER LACK OF WORK doesn't constitute your OBLIGATION TO DO MORE WORK.

    LOL.

    I'm pretty sure cleaning the house doesn't make me more or less of a woman. I'm also sure that just because I like to keep a clean house for myself doesn't mean that I'm automatically going to pick up after just anyone. I certainly wouldn't pick up after someone who wasn't my husband or my child. That doesn't make me less of woman - it makes me not a doormat.

    Also, if I'm working full time, which I will probably always do, it's going to have to be a joint effort or a cleaning crew. Period.
  • MrsATrotta
    MrsATrotta Posts: 278 Member
    My brother basically has the same problem, he bought a house for the gf, he works 4 10 hour days and she doesn't do anything. And in the past year she has been doing day care and still not keeping the house. He has spoken to her about it numerous times and she still doesn't do anything,, not even fold laundry so now she is getting a job. I think your wife and my brother's gf are lazy *****es. Not gonna lie.
  • JonnyMacAwesome
    JonnyMacAwesome Posts: 770 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Disposable diapers cost a lot more to maintain than reusable cloth diapers. Believe me, I only agreed to use them based on cost effectiveness, I couldn't care less about throwing poop in the trash and walking away.

    We plan to start potty training soon, or at least attempting to start it soon. I yearn for the day diapers are no longer required...she's just starting to learn to walk, and we want her to be doing that fully before introducing something like potty training.
  • MrsATrotta
    MrsATrotta Posts: 278 Member
    And for the people telling you to hire a house keeper that's bull **** why should YOU pay someone when you have a wife at home who should be cleaning...
  • sdereski
    sdereski Posts: 3,406 Member
    I'm not going to be a favorite in this thread...but here's my opinion:

    She's a stay-at-home mom...that involves all that it entails. Tell her to clean the damn house or get the steppin' (or a 9-5 job).

    To elaborate: I get that raising kids is hard while trying to make sure they don't suffocate on a bouncy ball and keep the dog from sharting on your couch all while trying to feed said animals (kids included) and go pee at the same time.

    However, I think that that sacrifice includes house keeping, as well. I was a nanny through college and I did it. It's not fair to tell the sole bread winner to clean the house that you've been at all day -- it's the job you chose so you can raise your own kid. That's my opinion.

    This. Totally. Want to be a stay at home mom? to me that includes the housework, including the kitchen, and the laundry.
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.
  • mommyrunning
    mommyrunning Posts: 495 Member
    Going back to the initial question: What is it with my wife?

    Your wife is lazy. There I said it. LAZY.

    Your wife is acting entitled and self-centered.

    Your wife probably didn't have the proper upbringing/teachings of what it means to be a woman. Our homes are our castles, whether we're single or married. You keep them clean and you KNOW how to do it and adapt ways to do it well and quicker. Those basics should already be laid out way before you get married. Therefore, once you're married, cleaning isn't even a topic of discussion, it's just your job as a woman (not necessarily just a wife.)

    Your wife is young. See above. She probably didn't realize what it took to be a GOOD wife before getting pregnant and then having to rush to be a mother, as well. Now, because of outside influence, she is using that as a scape goat for why she "needs help". She's playing a victim and I think it's childish and pathetic.

    The fact that she asked you to clean the kitchen is enraging to me. I actually get mad when people (especially a bf) tries cleaning or helping me...that's MY JOB. We're all tired and need breaks from our jobs, but HER LACK OF WORK doesn't constitute your OBLIGATION TO DO MORE WORK.

    I think it's great if as a wife you are able to do it all. However, that is not reality for everyone and not always best for every family. I think it is extremely unfair for you to suggest someone is a "bad wife" because they aren't super woman.

    I am a fantastic wife and mother and do the majority of the work but not all of it. My husband helps, as he should since he contributes to the mess. We are also teaching our kids (6 and 1) to pick up after themselves and help. When everyone as a family pitches in then the family as a whole can spend more quality time together.
  • zilkah
    zilkah Posts: 207 Member
    make a to-do list together that she can check off every day while she's at home so you can have raw data that she's not doing enough etc and it won't be a personal attack
  • AsaThorsWoman
    AsaThorsWoman Posts: 2,303 Member
    Going back to the initial question: What is it with my wife?

    Your wife is lazy. There I said it. LAZY.

    Your wife is acting entitled and self-centered.

    Your wife probably didn't have the proper upbringing/teachings of what it means to be a woman. Our homes are our castles, whether we're single or married. You keep them clean and you KNOW how to do it and adapt ways to do it well and quicker. Those basics should already be laid out way before you get married. Therefore, once you're married, cleaning isn't even a topic of discussion, it's just your job as a woman (not necessarily just a wife.)

    Your wife is young. See above. She probably didn't realize what it took to be a GOOD wife before getting pregnant and then having to rush to be a mother, as well. Now, because of outside influence, she is using that as a scape goat for why she "needs help". She's playing a victim and I think it's childish and pathetic.

    The fact that she asked you to clean the kitchen is enraging to me. I actually get mad when people (especially a bf) tries cleaning or helping me...that's MY JOB. We're all tired and need breaks from our jobs, but HER LACK OF WORK doesn't constitute your OBLIGATION TO DO MORE WORK.

    While I agree she's lazy, it's certainly not my job to clean because I have a vagina. That's asinine.

    I can't believe I actually read something that said, without a hint of irony "that's her job as a woman". You don't get to define what being a woman means for anyone other than yourself.

    Human beings should learn how to clean. Regardless of possession of female bits.

    Not because of her anatomy, because she accepted the role, she accepted the job.

    She could have said "No, I want to be independent and single and work my fingers to the bone alone." and never married or had kids or quit her part time job.

    But she accepted this role. Gender has nothing to do with it outside that she is clearly wanting and reaping the benefit of traditional gender roles.

    If their roles were reversed, he'd be needing to get off his rear too.
  • mommyrunning
    mommyrunning Posts: 495 Member
    Last year I left the Air Force and became a stay at home mom for 9 months (in addition to full time student in the evening) I had these ideas in my head of how I would keep the house really clean and cook great meals for my family each night. Well I was naïve. The baby would let me get about 5 minutes into cleaning before she decided she needed me. Sometimes when she would nap I could get a few things done but honestly most of the time I was too exhausted and just wanted to nap or at least have some quiet time to myself. It is really easy to underestimate how much work it takes to be stay at home parent. I am not saying that you don’t value her but this link has a great post from a dad who became the stay at home parent and learned that there was a lot he didn’t know about what his wife did all day.

    http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/10/09/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-what-do-you-do-all-day/

    Of course I would love to have a perfectly clean house at all times but I had to adjust my expectations and accept that sometimes there will be laundry piled up and dishes in the sink but it’s worth it to have the quality time as a family. The best answer is probably have a conversation with your wife and redefine who will do what.
  • jakedner
    jakedner Posts: 186 Member
    Jumping in to be able to find and read more of this thread later...
  • apexgtp
    apexgtp Posts: 64 Member
    Negative reinforcement doesn't work. She's either willing, or she's not. There is no compromise. If she wont do it now, she never will.
  • jakedner
    jakedner Posts: 186 Member
    Last year I left the Air Force and became a stay at home mom for 9 months (in addition to full time student in the evening) I had these ideas in my head of how I would keep the house really clean and cook great meals for my family each night. Well I was naïve. The baby would let me get about 5 minutes into cleaning before she decided she needed me. Sometimes when she would nap I could get a few things done but honestly most of the time I was too exhausted and just wanted to nap or at least have some quiet time to myself. It is really easy to underestimate how much work it takes to be stay at home parent. I am not saying that you don’t value her but this link has a great post from a dad who became the stay at home parent and learned that there was a lot he didn’t know about what his wife did all day.

    http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/10/09/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-what-do-you-do-all-day/

    Of course I would love to have a perfectly clean house at all times but I had to adjust my expectations and accept that sometimes there will be laundry piled up and dishes in the sink but it’s worth it to have the quality time as a family. The best answer is probably have a conversation with your wife and redefine who will do what.

    THIS!

    You both may need to adjust your expectations around how clean the house has to be, especially while your daughter is young.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    I'm not going to be a favorite in this thread...but here's my opinion:

    She's a stay-at-home mom...that involves all that it entails. Tell her to clean the damn house or get the steppin' (or a 9-5 job).

    To elaborate: I get that raising kids is hard while trying to make sure they don't suffocate on a bouncy ball and keep the dog from sharting on your couch all while trying to feed said animals (kids included) and go pee at the same time.

    However, I think that that sacrifice includes house keeping, as well. I was a nanny through college and I did it. It's not fair to tell the sole bread winner to clean the house that you've been at all day -- it's the job you chose so you can raise your own kid. That's my opinion.

    *****THIS****
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
    If she was a SAHM that was also doing childcare for other kids... I can give her a pass. One kid is work, but not that much work. My hubby is at home with our 2 year old, and I'm pretty sure the house will be spotless by the time I get home.

    She decided to forego on bringing in a 2nd income, she can take care of the responsibilities of the house.
  • fullersun35
    fullersun35 Posts: 162 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.
  • TheirEllie82
    TheirEllie82 Posts: 162 Member
    I will start off by being completely honest that I read none of the other responses.

    My two cents:

    I tend to be home more than my fiance (we both have full time jobs but he has a lot of OT) but I have found that I have stopped doing more housework than him. My problem is that he tends to notice when I don't do housework and brings it to my attention but doesn't bring it up when I have cleaned. I know this sounds childish but I became incredibly frustrated when I felt like he was quick to point out I didn't make the bed in the morning but didn't take notice that I had done all of our laundry and put it away... sometimes people stop doing things because the person they are doing it for don't seem to notice
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    And even then, all bodies are different. If the kid isn't ready, she'll have tons of "accidents" which aren't accidents at all. Her body just can't hold it. Wait until they are ready. That can be at 2 years-3 years of age. I taught preschool many years. Some kids were potty trained early on. I did most of the potty training between ages 2 and 3 though. And some kids just weren't ready.

    But this isn't about potty training. It's about his wife not doing anything around the house other than take care of their child while he works all day.
  • JonnyMacAwesome
    JonnyMacAwesome Posts: 770 Member
    I will start off by being completely honest that I read none of the other responses.

    My two cents:

    I tend to be home more than my fiance (we both have full time jobs but he has a lot of OT) but I have found that I have stopped doing more housework than him. My problem is that he tends to notice when I don't do housework and brings it to my attention but doesn't bring it up when I have cleaned. I know this sounds childish but I became incredibly frustrated when I felt like he was quick to point out I didn't make the bed in the morning but didn't take notice that I had done all of our laundry and put it away... sometimes people stop doing things because the person they are doing it for don't seem to notice

    I've made it quite a point to commend her on an excellent job each day when I notice something has been done, If she tells me she cleaned the window sill - chances are I'm not going to notice that myself because I don't really look at the windows much.

    I can probably get better at it still, but I acknowledge and give her lots of praise whenever I see something has been taken care of.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    My oldest started potty training at a year old and was completely potty trained BY 18 months.

    My youngest started potty training at 2 years and still wasn't completely potty trained until 4 years.

    But whatever... two half grown daughters taught me absolutely nothing about parenting. Really! I have no idea what I'm talking about. *roll eyes as bowing out of stupid thread*
  • LFDBabs
    LFDBabs Posts: 297 Member
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    It's cheaper than a divorce my friend
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    That "D" word isn't in either of our vocabulary.

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    The "D" word wasn't in mine or my ex-husbands vocabulary ......things change. What does she do when the child is sleeping? Is she hiring a babysitter to go shopping at the mall or getting a pedi? Then, my friend, you would have a leg to stand on.

    Please don't be one of those men that think she is not "working" for those 11 hours you are at your job. When I was at home with an 11 month old, I took a nap while the baby napped. Not for four hours, but rarely some times, it was Trying to keep up with a crawling, learning to walk baby is exhausting all while trying to do laundry, feed the baby, play with the baby, plan and make dinner, clean up around the house the best I could, pay bills, etc.

    My advice?
    1. Don't have another child anytime soon. The work load doubles.
    2. Don't approach your wife playing the victim. Tell her you value the time with her and your child. ASK HER how you can be a better husband and father all while trying to keep up with your honey-do list. Ask HER to help you figure out a system that works for BOTH of you.
    3. DATE NIGHT. This is probably the best thing you can do for your marriage, seriously. Set aside one night a week. Every Tuesday, for example. Hire a babysitter, recruit and aunt, uncle or grandparent and GET OUT OF THE HOUSE TOGETHER! A movie, dinner, a walk, an ice cream cone....something that gets you out of the house and away from the baby, the chores, etc for AT LEAST an hour EVERY WEEK. You can change the nights if you need to but plan SOMETHING once a week!
    4. If you don't listen to 1 and 2......plan on doing #3. THIS will be what saves you from the "D" word.

    A cranky wife is NOT going to be a happy wife. I loved staying home with my babies. I had a job that allowed me to take a year off with each pregnancy. I took the whole year, both times, but I was also very happy to go back to my job after each maternity leave. Working a 40 hour per week job was less "work" than being a full-time, stay-at-home mommy.
  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Potty training at 11 months? Really? :huh:
  • JenniferAutumn
    JenniferAutumn Posts: 228 Member
    This thread has nothing to do with potty training. However with that being said, I am sure the OP will be doing the one training as it seems his wife doesn't do much at all.
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    My oldest started potty training at a year old and was completely potty trained BY 18 months.

    My youngest started potty training at 2 years and still wasn't completely potty trained until 4 years.

    But whatever... two half grown daughters taught me absolutely nothing about parenting. Really! I have no idea what I'm talking about. *roll eyes as bowing out of stupid thread*

    If it took your youngest TWO YEARS to potty train, you were pushing it on her way too young.
  • JonnyMacAwesome
    JonnyMacAwesome Posts: 770 Member
    @LFDBabs

    1: She wants another child, I'm totally content with just her, period.
    2: This is not about me being a better husband, and I am not playing the victim. I do not believe you have read enough of this thread to gain a good grasp on my point at all.
    3: I stated earlier, we just started doing date night again, and it hasn't happened every week, but we are both hopeful to get it back up to that frequency.

    I understand a cranky wife is not a happy wife... same goes for the husband...who wants to be at a job busting their @$$ day in and day out, getting *kitten* on by the higher ups, putting in extra hours, only to go home and get *kitten* on some more for housework...
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    My oldest started potty training at a year old and was completely potty trained BY 18 months.

    My youngest started potty training at 2 years and still wasn't completely potty trained until 4 years.

    But whatever... two half grown daughters taught me absolutely nothing about parenting. Really! I have no idea what I'm talking about. *roll eyes as bowing out of stupid thread*

    Glad we sorted that out.
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member


    I understand a cranky wife is not a happy wife... same goes for the husband...who wants to be at a job busting their @$$ day in and day out, getting *kitten* on by the higher ups, putting in extra hours, only to go home and get *kitten* on some more for housework...

    :drinker: I agree with this. There needs to be some mutual respect between you two.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    My oldest started potty training at a year old and was completely potty trained BY 18 months.

    My youngest started potty training at 2 years and still wasn't completely potty trained until 4 years.

    But whatever... two half grown daughters taught me absolutely nothing about parenting. Really! I have no idea what I'm talking about. *roll eyes as bowing out of stupid thread*

    If it took your youngest TWO YEARS to potty train, you were pushing it on her way too young.

    It's a long story... but I didn't start her potty training. Again, she didn't start UNTIL 2 years...
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
    Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it.

    She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

    A: We use cloth diapers, they only get the crap(literally) sprayed out of them...and I do that when I get home...

    I don't get an hour for lunch, I often have mandatory meetings or other work engagements. I get 5 minutes of peace eating at my desk while I do additional work.

    Ah... okay... I change my recommendations.

    Get off of your ecological high horse, and buy disposable diapers!

    Or... since little bit is 11 months old... start potty training ASAP! She is old enough.

    Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just doesn't want to do anything.

    I've read that children are not biologically ready until 18 months at the earliest to potty train.

    My oldest started potty training at a year old and was completely potty trained BY 18 months.

    My youngest started potty training at 2 years and still wasn't completely potty trained until 4 years.

    But whatever... two half grown daughters taught me absolutely nothing about parenting. Really! I have no idea what I'm talking about. *roll eyes as bowing out of stupid thread*

    If it took your youngest TWO YEARS to potty train, you were pushing it on her way too young.

    It's a long story... but I didn't start her potty training. Again, she didn't start UNTIL 2 years...

    yes, didn't start utnil 2, but wasn't done until 4... that, my dear, equals 2 years
  • JonnyMacAwesome
    JonnyMacAwesome Posts: 770 Member
    I'm not sure how all this potty training talk started...