Not tonight honey, a Friends re-run is on....

cowbellsandcoffee · July 2014

Wow. There is a story out there about a husband who kept a spreadsheet for a month with all the reasons his wife turned him down for intimacy. He then sent it to her as she was going on a ten day business trip saying as "he won't miss her while she's gone". She then turns around and posts it on the net. While the couple did have intimacy three times in roughly six weeks, some of the reasons...

Anyways...Was the husband right for keeping / sending the spreadsheet, was the wife wrong for putting on the net?

Read it here-

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2699651/Not-tonight-dear-I-m-tried-gross-sick-drunk-Frustrated-husband-creates-spreadsheet-detailing-different-reasons-wife-not-sex-him.html

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PurringMyrrh · July 2014

I hate to be the one to say it (not really), but it's seriously no wonder guys cheat. Withholding sex from your man for that long while just making lame excuses is no better. Personally I don't believe his actions were wrong if he had previously tried to discuss things before many times to no avail. And if she put it on the net, so be it. In my eyes, she's the jerk and it only validates that.

cklbrown · July 2014

Why would she make that public knowledge? It makes her look foolish and immature.

MelaniLight · July 2014

I have no issues with his actions. She, however, should not have made the situation public. Ridiculous.

TiffieLand · July 2014

It's actually pretty cool how he did the spreadsheet. Haha! I don't think it's wrong for him to do that. In a way, he's actually communicating to her. Why would she posted it online though? I find it quite weird.

CleanUpWhatIMessedUp · July 2014

Yes, the guy was wrong for making a spreadsheet and sending it to his wife. In a marriage, he needs to learn to communicate better. These actions are incredibly childish and petty. It makes me kind of mad. The husband is so wrong for doing this.

At the same time, the wife is wrong for withholding sex from her husband for that long, seemingly without reason. This is her husband. She should want to have sex with him sometimes. If you're in a marriage and you no longer want to be physically intimate with your spouse at all, then something is wrong with your marriage and you need to work on it. Physical intimacy is a very important part of a marriage.

MyChocolateDiet · July 2014

Just wondering...

...if I know this person?

:devil:

MyChocolateDiet · July 2014

Also he should have let her watch the whole episode and THEN asked her b/c

yesterdayusaid2morrow · July 2014

Wha? Just get a divorce already. Lol. Totally ridiculous and pathetic that he kept a spreadsheet, wtf, use your words like a big boy. Also, entitlement attitude much? Also absurd and rude of her to share it, unless it was the final straw and she's divorcing him. If your wife turns you down for sex all the time it is very likely because you suck at it, jes saying. Many men (not all or course and thank god) don't get that intimacy for women starts long before we're in the bedroom, with the little things, hand holding, the sweet compliment, the spontaneous date or flowers, helping out with a few chores or the kids if you have them, and then making sure you aren't the only one who finishes once your there. Reading about stuff like this overwhelms me with gratitude for my man, and I make damn sure he knows it. You're partner doesn't owe you sex, but if you communicate and learn what gets them wanting it, you'll have a lot more of it than this dbag.

daw0518 · July 2014

Being passive-aggressive is never the answer. How did he think this was going to help the situation in the first place?

It's called C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-I-O-N. & this isn't it.

ValerieMartini2Olives · July 2014

Sad. I try to do whatever I can to make my man feel like a man. If I don't, someone else will.

FaylinaMeir · July 2014

I might be the minority here that says sex isn't all the happiness in life. Honestly, there was one year where I could have counted the times we hand sex on my hands. No one ever cheated and this year is our 10th anniversary. We're far happier than most people we know.

(and yes I have more sex now before you ask -_-)

hbrittingham · July 2014

I don't necessarily think he was wrong by putting it all out on a spreadsheet. Maybe she didn't think she was turning him down all that often and seeing it all in writing might have made her realize how much she was. I'm not sure why he waited until she was leaving on a 10 day business trip to present it to her, maybe he was afraid of her reaction?

I have no clue why should would make that information public! I would be pretty embarrassed (not that I ever turn my husband down), and sure wouldn't air marriage problems like that. Of course, I don't post the kind of things on FB that I see people posting all the time.

Either way, I don't think lack of intimacy gives license to either partner to look for it somewhere else, while they are still married. If you are that miserable, get out of the marriage and then have at it. Intimacy is a huge part of a successful, long marriage. If you don't have it, there are likely underlying issues that need to be addressed, or you should consider going your separate ways.

tmanfromtexas · July 2014

Either way, in her own words, she is pretty gross lol.

patrickblo13 · July 2014

I don't think he is wrong for keeping a spreadsheet. When he does decide to discuss it with her at least he has proof to back up his claim. It is wrong and rather embarrassing on her part for posting to the internet.

KarenJanine · July 2014

From the article: 'Our lives have been crazy busy,' she wrote. 'We spent all spring renovating our new house. At my job I was given nearly double my usual workload after some of my colleagues were laid off. I gained some weight in the winter and have been busting my a** at the gym to get rid of it.'

The guy was a douche for creating the spreadsheet. There are times in everyone's lives when intimacy gets pushed on the back burner when there's a lot of other cr@p going on. Rather than behave in this immature fashion there could have been much better communication, understanding and sensitivity. The constant pressure from him probably made it worse for her.

sixout · July 2014

I do love a good spreadsheet.

Monkey_Business · July 2014

Either way, in her own words, she is pretty gross lol.

HAHA ! This was the part I pick-up on also.

vismundcygnus27 · July 2014

They both seem childish. He's childish for making the spreadsheet and then being passive-aggressive about it and making his wife feel absolutely terrible. She's childish for putting this up online instead of trying to resolve her marital problems. There's clearly a breakdown of communication here. I t looks like the husband had been upset about the sex situation for a while, and she was also feeling burdened with responsibility in their home. This situation could have been easily avoided if they sat down and actually TALKED to each other and tried to work this out.