Why are people so hateful??

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  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Is this the thread that sparked this post
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1375442-are-you-supposed-to-eat-your-bmr

    Hmm, I think I must not understand the meaning of "hateful". I see none of that in that thread, just some misinformation quoted as "truth", bad advice from "trainers", and a few people linking actual, useful information. Which ones are the hateful ones?

    The ones who disagreed with her.

    This thread gets me much closer to having a MFP Blackout Bingo.
  • royaldrea
    royaldrea Posts: 259 Member
    Someone disagreeing with you and your choices doesn't make him hateful. It means he thinks his opinion is better than yours. Just like you think your opinion is better than his - if you didn't, you wouldn't have a problem with him disagreeing with you, would you?
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Anyone else come in line with some down right hostile threads going on here.....This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will for someone else and vice versa. Am I alone on this? :grumble:

    COWARDS who are afraid to stand up to people face to face where they could easily get their A** kicked are capable of coming online and saying what they please as they hide behind the computer screen in their mommy's basement where they live.
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    For your record, how I type online is how I speak IRL.
  • CA_Underdog
    CA_Underdog Posts: 733 Member
    If you want this place to be more inclusive and unifying, then be more inclusive and unifying yourself. A thread accusing other members of being hateful hardly exemplifies that. If you don't like the diversity of opinions in an open lightly-moderated forum, keep your posts to your blog or profile where you can control access.

    PS - I don't see any "hate" in the direct replies to you in the other thread. You were wrong--"If your goal is to lose weight, you need to keep your overall calories under that number"--and others corrected you. I'm certain one doesn't generally *need* to eat below their BMR because I don't and I 've lost 73lbs this year. I'm glad you say that approach is working well for you. Please try to ensure you hit all your nutrient targets.
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    I saw no hate in the referenced thread. I call shenanigans.
  • lmann72
    lmann72 Posts: 82 Member
    Is this third-person butthurt about the shiritaki noodle "mac and cheese" thread?

    Oh the funnies...
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    Anyone else come in line with some down right hostile threads going on here.....This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will for someone else and vice versa. Am I alone on this? :grumble:

    COWARDS who are afraid to stand up to people face to face where they could easily get their A** kicked are capable of coming online and saying what they please as they hide behind the computer screen in their mommy's basement where they live.

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    Did you actually read the BMR thread? There was no hate on there, people were just correcting wrong information.
  • QueenBishOTUniverse
    QueenBishOTUniverse Posts: 14,121 Member
    I learned at my seminar this summer that heated disagreement within a professional learning community is a GOOD thing and should be encouraged. It causes people to experience dissonance which in turn triggers the learning process. So they're not being mean to you, they're just trying to cause dissonance so that you can grow and learn as a person. :flowerforyou:
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    Anyone else come in line with some down right hostile threads going on here.....This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will for someone else and vice versa. Am I alone on this? :grumble:

    COWARDS who are afraid to stand up to people face to face where they could easily get their A** kicked are capable of coming online and saying what they please as they hide behind the computer screen in their mommy's basement where they live.
    ironic post is ironic. calling people cowards from the safety of your own computer chair
  • leggup
    leggup Posts: 2,942 Member
    Is this the thread that sparked this post
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1375442-are-you-supposed-to-eat-your-bmr
    No one on that thread was mean to you! The most hurtful thing people said to you was that you were wrong (and you were). The most hateful things I can find in that thread are one person posting "Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ! " and another posting "Wrong!!" followed by an explanation.

    Yes, I have seen people get nasty on the forums. I have seen people get called names, insult each other very directly, and tell each other to shut the bleep up. Those threads get shut down/removed. What happened to you is that you posted advice and everyone disagreed.

    As for this thread, it will be deleted shortly anyway. This is what is commonly known as a Mean People Thread. It is typically started by someone who feels wronged, usually not in any way against the Community Guidelines, which you can find here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines
  • kimnsc
    kimnsc Posts: 560 Member
    I didn't see any hate in that thread....bad advice maybe but no hate.

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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    It's because of SCIENCE!
    and I am out of Gelato.

    Saddest thing I've heard all day. :frown:
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Cause I'm hungry from my 1200 calorie diet... and I want a cupcake dammit!!!

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  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    It's because of SCIENCE!
    and I am out of Gelato.

    Saddest thing I've heard all day. :frown:

    I love your Rogue Avi.
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  • The_Hungry_Atheist
    The_Hungry_Atheist Posts: 55
    Is this third-person butthurt about the shiritaki noodle "mac and cheese" thread?

    ^^^^^ :laugh: :sad: :laugh: :love: :laugh: I saw that thread and decided to just walk away...which is what I suggest for all who run into one of "THOSE" ppl on a thread. Click block/ignore and go about your day. If they are not helping you out or up, then put them out they are dead weight....we do not want dead weight.....we lose dead weight here we do not add to it. If it really makes you that upset take it out on some exercise or buy a punching bag. Before you block them print out their profile pic and tape it to it and have at it!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Cause I'm hungry from my 1200 calorie diet... and I want a cupcake dammit!!!

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    I need to add cupcakes to my list of things I have to eat in the next couple weeks just in case. *sigh*
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    :flowerforyou: hope that helps
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    It's because of SCIENCE!
    and I am out of Gelato.

    Saddest thing I've heard all day. :frown:

    I love your Rogue Avi.

    :heart:
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    Anyone else come in line with some down right hostile threads going on here.....This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will for someone else and vice versa. Am I alone on this? :grumble:

    COWARDS who are afraid to stand up to people face to face where they could easily get their A** kicked are capable of coming online and saying what they please as they hide behind the computer screen in their mommy's basement where they live.

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  • trinatrina1984
    trinatrina1984 Posts: 1,018 Member
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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    People can be mean or hateful or whatever here, OP. But not in the thread to which you're referring. If you post incorrect information you're going to get corrected, and I know that stings but it is a good thing for the community. We're supporting the newbies and OPs of questions by making sure that the info they get is correct.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    You were simply corrected. You are 26 years old. I find it difficult to believe you have never been corrected before. How do you handle being corrected face to face? Perhaps you are assigning a tone and attitude to the person that corrected you that isn't accurate.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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  • runner475
    runner475 Posts: 1,236 Member

    No this not a place of help and support.
    Its a calorie counting website. That's all it's "supposed to be"

    Wait what? We are sitting in "Motivation and Support" category of the Community Forum.

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    She's got a point, Frank.

    I KNEW IT. I KNEW IT.:smokin:
  • smash820
    smash820 Posts: 22
    That is actually not what I am referring to but I appreciate everyone assuming that is was...:drinker:
  • asdowe13
    asdowe13 Posts: 1,951 Member
    That is actually not what I am referring to but I appreciate everyone assuming that is was...:drinker:

    Thanks for clarifying that...............
  • Shalaurise
    Shalaurise Posts: 707 Member
    This is the internet.... anymore questions?
  • HannahLynn91
    HannahLynn91 Posts: 238 Member
    I thought that this was just covered a couple days ago.... I believe the word was... Snarky instead of hateful... but same premise.

    I've come to notice on this forum...

    When OP is open minded and accepting of advice... forums are nice.
    When OP is close minded and just looking for confirmation and not actual advice.. forums get rowdy.
    Forums always know who is looking for what.

    I've never had a problem with the forums. People can come off rude, sure, but that comes with the medium we are using. Tone and facial expression help a lot with communication.

    I don't believe people are hateful. Just fed up with the same crap being posted over and over, like people don't know how to use the search box. :indifferent:
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Cause I'm hungry from my 1200 calorie diet... and I want a cupcake dammit!!!

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    I need to add cupcakes to my list of things I have to eat in the next couple weeks just in case. *sigh*

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