Strip clubs for married men?

AshjMusik

Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all

BigDaddyBRC

If youre hausband has to waste money to watch other women...make it cheaper and bring one home for him...wither that, or learn to strip...the latter being the preference

mandeiko

Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all

Ohhhh here we go This is a good one.

My personal opinion... sure it's FINE... guys watch porn all the time. BUT personal lap dances are not okay, especially behind closed doors (the dirty strip clubs.) Club is fine.. Hotel room I'm iffy about though.

albinogorilla

My wife doesn't like it, but doesn't forbid it. Forbidden fruit is far to sweet to resist.
We don't forbid each other from doing things.

Bob_Sugar

Yes sure why not? Hell sometimes my wife and go for the fun of it. in fact we're going this Sat.

Picklepower

I think it depends....If my guy wants to go out once in a while with his buddies to a strip club I'm fine with that. If I didn't trust him to hang out with his friends I wouldn't marry him. However, if he goes all the time or by himself that's a different story and there might be a problem there.

melizerd

My husband and I both enjoy a strip club occasionally (together and apart). We don't care where we get the appetite as long as we eat at home. It's a fun evening for a bachelor(ette) party or an occasional wild hair type fun. No touching allowed on our parts (our rule even if the club allows it).

Just not a big deal IMO. We've been married 10 years, have an almost 5 year old son.

Every relationship has rules, knowing them up front and what is non-negotiable is what's important, for us this just isn't a big deal.

kyrstensmom

Absolutely not ok, unless of course BOTH people think its ok. It's all about respect, and if you go to a strip club to watch some other woman dance nude, then you aren't respecting your partner.

Rae6503

Not on a regular basis, but for a friend's bachelor party or whatever, find. And yeah, clubs are WAY better than hotel rooms, or personal in-home strippers.

juliecat1

I see nothing wrong with clubs.... you can only look.

Why doesnt she go along? Could be fun

Deathwithab

i think its pretty lame to have to do, you could spend that money on better things and if he really wanted to see someone strip he could buy a pole to instal and some fun outfits for you and watch you shake it lol :P would have a much happyer ending

Kara52217

I say if he is out with friends and decide to go I don't care, as long as it isn't all the time and he comes home to me no big deal.
If he is going all the time and "working" more then we got problems but going on 9 years and no issues yet

slickracer

At the end of the day you either trust them or you don't. You don't need strip clubs to cheat.

bloodbank

My husband & I (& a number of friends) like to go. Who doesn't like to get sloshed while buck naked ladies shake it to bad music?

_beachgirl_

I've been to strip clubs with my ex-hubby, he's been with out me, I think it becomes an issue when it starts to be a regular thing.

Bob_Sugar

I heart (.) (.)

AZTrailRunner

If you believe your fella shouldn't be allowed to go get a lap dance from a woman at a club (who could care less about him anyways), you better not be burying your nose in love novels! That would be hypocritical.

If he wants to go, he WILL go, with or without your knowledge. May as well make peace with the idea and consider going with him. If he has a habit about going, then you may wish to re-evaluate your relationship.

Personally, I lost interest in going after a mere 20 or 30 visits.

glockster972

Once in awhile, sure. Every weekend, not so much.

mandeiko

Awh man, this topic is getting more hits than my toilet paper debate. :grumble:

1myfit

Watching people dance naked??? Waste of time.

husker_gal

Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all

Ohhhh here we go This is a good one.

My personal opinion... sure it's FINE... guys watch porn all the time. BUT personal lap dances are not okay, especially behind closed doors (the dirty strip clubs.) Club is fine.. Hotel room I'm iffy about though.

Agree

MFPAddict

My wife doesn't have a problem with it, but I have only gone maybe 2 or 3 times in 10 years. I enjoy seeing hot naked women as much as the next guy, but there are much better uses for my money.

If it is an obsession, it is a problem.

If the couple is struggling financially, it is a problem.

DannyMussels

I don't think it's a problem if you only go once or twice a night.

kb455

I think the club is a better idea than a private party in a hotel room. I heard too many stories about what the strippers do to/with the guys at the private parties. That "no touch" policy doesn't work both ways...

BRISAjustAltered

I honestly think its normal. I actually go to strip clubs with my fiance. But my fiance is not the first male I've gone to strip clubs with. I've also gone with my ex boyfriend, and two close male friends. Its really all in good fun. Or at least with me, its always been in good fun. Honestly, my fiance and my ex both have said that strips clubs are fun with me because I interact with the strippers. And get them free lap dances. ;-)

ShortayBaybay

Personally, my husband and I will only go together, and that's not because I won't allow him to go alone, or because he won't allow me to go alone, just because we think it's fun to do that type of stuff together. I don't see a problem with it. As long as both people are "okay" with it, then go for it. It's always fun to get out and have some fun. Now of course there will be no touching, lap dances, or anything like that.

Like someone else said in a reply, guys watch porn all the time, and guys will look at whatever girls they want, no matter if it's at a club, or at walmart, LOL.

It's all about trust!! =]

megz4987

Nope.
Yea, I'm the crazy ***** that dragged my fiance (then boyfriend) out of a strip club. and he's never been again. His friends (and their wives) adore me and tell me anything and everything. He's never been to another strip club since. It was a topless only club and all the strippers were young moms with the FUPA, c-section scars and saggy boobs. It's still a strip club to me, no matter how you paint it.

Everyone has their own opinion on the matter but it makes me uncomfortable. Not that he would touch the strippers, even when he was single I don't know that he ever had a lap dance, it just makes me uncomfortabl. This was made clear before we even started seeing each other so he knew exactly how strongly I felt about it. I expect the same respect I give to you.

MuffinMan25

Vegas BABY, VEGAS!!!!!

livnlite

Let me tell ya girls .. A strip club is much 'safer' for a married man than a regular bar. There are rules of conduct in a strip bar .. Patrons are there to look, enjoy the show and socialize amongst themselves. A bar, on the otherhand .. many more predators on the loose.

Now having said that .. there is a level of trust that 'should' be enjoyed between two married or even commited people .. It shouldn't matter if they are in a grocery store in a room full of nekid women .. A little self control can preserve a marriage for .. well .. for ever!

BondBomb

Those strippers don't want your men. It's the tramps at the bar you have to worry about.

Bob1062

First off, think of the industry they are in. They are just doing their "job' The girls have no interest in hooking up the the guys. I go maybe once a year and even then its with my wife. We have both had private dances and are fine with it. Would I go alone? Yes, but I would let my wife know and have absolutely no doubt it would be ok.